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Wednesday, 08 February 2012
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Standards and the Crazy
There have been a number of posts recently about the idea of "Standards" in dating... combined with the usual percentage of posts where a dater talks about a specific "problem" with their partner/wanna-be partner, and asks the community for a "fix" (Of the problem, ya know, not the other type of fix).
So, how do we get a handle on this standards thing? Don't we need some? After all... the person you are dating might just be CRAZY!
That's a word I see get thrown around a lot, with very little reliable connotation. What does it mean? Forget the DSM, we're talking about common usage and dating here. I have noticed one specific trend... exes are "crazy" a much higher percentage of the time than future dating prospects. Hmm, given that most people who are dating, or in the market to date, are also the ex of someone, the math there seems a bit suspicious. More Here... -
That Awkward Moment When...
You can't tell if it's a date or not.
What is the difference between 'Let's catch up' and 'Will you go out on a date with me'?I have had a few of these events recently, where I have been to the movies with friends, just caught up for coffee/hot chocolate, and where we meet up in a group but stay after everyone else has left.More Here...
Where is this mysterious explanation that defines a 'date'?
Tuesday, 07 February 2012
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I'm Seeing a Guy But I Slept with My Ex
I have been seeing a guy for about 5 months now. He is still married to his wife of 5 years but has been separated for nearly a year now. I came out of a relationship with my ex a few months before I started seeing this guy. It just didn't work out and I ended it. I am not exactly in a 'relationship' with this guy but I like him a lot. It's as though I cannot define our situation?
We have slept together but only a handful of times in the space of 5 months. Like I said, he is separated but still cohabits with his wife because of their 2-year-old son. He said the love between him and his wife had been lost a very long time ago. I genuinely believe him. He has intentions of moving out of his house but has stayed there for the sake of his son. I can understand it is complicated for him as things can not be resolved easily over night. More Here...
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Why You Shouldn't Pay For The Woman's Meal: The Numbers
This is sort of a follow-up to my post where I talked a bit about why I don't pick up the tab at dates, and why I insist on going dutch. Aside from the fact that women can work now and can support themselves, since I'm a mathematician by my former training I crunched the numbers myself, and let's just say they were gut wrenching!
For this calculation, I'm going to use an average estimate of $15 per date for the other person you're paying for. Let's assume you go on one date per month, and it takes you three years (a very, very conservative estimate) to find your match. So with that, we have an absolute low-ball estimate of you losing 15 X 12 X 3 = $540 over those three years, which you could have done other stuff with.
But it really doesn't work quite like that. Let's assume now you figure in lost interest you would have gained with those payments. Assuming you put those $15 you would be spending every month in an account that accrues 5% continuously compounded interest. In that case, we have the recursion formula of your amount as follows (where subscripts indicate months). More Here...
Monday, 06 February 2012
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Men's Rights
The "hot topic" that seems to be buzzing around Xanga is men's rights to an unborn fetus (I call it a fetus because in the time frame that you can have an abortion, the fetus has no more cells than a plant). I've seen numerous opinions about a variety of issues that come along with this subject and to save myself from going a little crazy, I feel like it's something that I need to get off of my chest.
The most popular reasoning that people is that it's unjust for a women to "murder" when the father wants to keep it and that the "women have to go through emotional and physical difficulties" argument is invalid. I can see how people could see it that way but let's remember that being pregnant is no walk in the park. It's easier for some and hard for others.
A bit of personal story, when my mom was pregnant with me she went through a lot of medical problems, which led to her almost dying while she was giving birth. I can say one thing, growing up without a mother and a father who wasn't in the picture would have been the worst thing in the entire world. So you see, being pregnant isn't always a "just suck it up and do it" concept, especially when it's an unwanted one. More Here...
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