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Friday, 27 January 2012

  • What You Are Actually Entitled To in a Relationship


    I have been thinking about this subject for a long time, but after reading Entitlement and Standards, I figured I might as well write out what has been going through my head. So, keep in mind, this is an opinion piece.

    When we were little, we always viewed a reward as an entitlement to our hard work. Whether it was money for getting A's on our report cards or having ice cream if we stay quiet throughout the day. It was the little things we looked forward to (though now, it seemed more so as a bribe rather than a reward).

    This sense of entitlement carries over into our relationships as we get older. A lot of people expect plenty of great qualities from their partners, as well as "following certain rules" either suggested or coerced onto them. I've seen people make it a point that they should receive gifts every month as an anniversary present, or they have to be taken out to the fanciest of restaurants or required to have sex as much as possible in a week. I mean, sure, these are all great things to receive, but are we necessarily entitled to them in every relationship? More Here...
  • Setting Myself Free

    The other day, my boyfriend got mad that his friend was texting me. It was overly flirtatious in his opinion, whereas all I saw was friendliness. And don't get me wrong, I'm not that skank kind of girl that thinks she's doing no wrong. There was nothing there at all, but he doesn't let me talk to any boys, so talking to his friend that is a boy was even a threat.

    But right now we are sitting in the same room, both studying for coming exams, separately. On the tv is his girl celebrity crush, and we have to watch that. And on his phone he is texting another girl whom I don't find a threat at all and am not jealous of in any way. But if you were to ask me, if I found their friendship annoying and obnoxious, I'd have a few words to say about that, but that's another story for another day. We just got back from watching a bunch of his girl friends playing basketball, as well.

    I'm not jealous, but my point is that I don't worry about that stuff and I just let it go even when he's attempted to cheat on me three times (all unsuccessful... pathetic) and yet he has the nerve to forbid me from texting who I want. I thought it'd be okay considering it was his friend, so he knew nothing was going to happen there. But not even that is allowed.More Here...

  • My Gut Tells Me Things are Not Adding Up

    I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months now and I just have the gut feeling that something is not adding up. This saturday she is going to a birthday party for a 3-year-old, and yes the party is at a friend's place. At one time, he wanted to date her. I have met the guy and he does have a girlfriend now but it just seems funny.

    My girlfriend and I have plans after, and I made it clear that I have nothing going on and just want to lock down a time that we can meet after. The party is from 2-5 and she says she doesn't know how long she is going to stay. It's all kinda' up in the air at this point. I know that an invite was sent out to over 35 people and this might be a big party. More Here...

Thursday, 26 January 2012

  • Stop Talking About Your Ex!

    I just got an interesting phone call from one of my best guy friends.  He was complaining that this new girl he has been seeing always talks about her ex's.  In his words, he said, "If something reminds her of something she did with one of her ex's, it's a story.  A memory becomes another story.  It's like she has had no life outside of her boyfriends!  It's driving me insane!  She got mad at me the other day because I DIDN'T tell her about one of my own ex's, but that was before her! Why does she even care? Then, when I told her that, she said, 'Because knowing where someone has been in their past is part of getting to know them.'  And now I'm confused...." More Here...

  • I Think I Was Just Friend Zoned By a Guy

    I like this kid. I was pretty sure he liked me. I don't know any guys who really go out of their way to hang out with a girl if they aren't interested, or so I thought. We hung out casually but I thought things were going pretty well! He's kind of an awkward dude, and I'm sort of awkward myself, so flirting and was weird but I was pretty sure it was there.

    Then he started talking to me about all these other girls he was into and all these other girls that rejected him and I was like, "Why are you telling me this?" I think it's because... I WAS FRIEND ZONED! More Here...

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