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Friday, August 22, 2008
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High School Teacher Drama
I went to a very small high school with a graduating class of barely 160 people. So, inevitably, everyone was in everyone's business.
Obviously, there was student drama. The usual, he cheated on her, she passed out in someone's driveway, the high school lovers of 4 years broke up (GASP!). Basically, growing up in a place that wasn't even big enough to be called a town and had to be referred to as a "The Village of Briarcliff Manor" meant absolutely no privacy. We all grew pretty accustomed to it.
What was out of the ordinary though, was when there was teacher drama. When I was in 6th grade our new English teacher started dating her classroom neighbor, our Global History teacher. This was the scandal of the middle school! We would see them walking to their cars together, getting lunch, even a smooch once in a while. The English teacher eventually ended up getting fired for throwing a book at a student who was just being annoying (I know!). Soon after she left, the Global History teacher, who had been there for almost 5 years and was up for tenure, left as well. Rumor has it they got married are living very happily now.
Senior year in High School, we had a new Economics teacher. All the boys loved her because she was gorgeous, and all the girls loved her because she was very down to earth, young, and understanding. She attempted to keep her personal life to herself, but in a town like that it was nearly impossible. We found out almost weeks into her first semester that she had been dating our rival school, Pleasantville High School's football coach. (Yes, I know. Pleasantville was our rival town and everything was in black and white, and we also lived right next to Sleepy Hallow with the Headless Horseman.)
This caused chaos! When our football games came she didn't know which side to sit on; with her boyfriend of 3 years or the school she taught for. They ended up breaking up towards the end of the year and she made that VERY public. She was in a bitter post-break up mode for a while. She hated seeing young couples holding hands and on Valentine's day she didn't even show up. Rumor has it that they broke up because she was ready for the "next step" and he wasn't.
I went and visited this teacher early this summer. It just so happened that she and her football coach got engaged and married after 3 months of being broken up. I was very happy for her!
I always thought it was weird that the entire student body knew about our teacher's lives. I tried to stay out of it, but when the news came my way I couldn't avoid it.
What do you think about students knowing intimate events of their teacher's lives?
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Hidden Intentions Guy and His Porn Obsession
So remember my friend who had hidden intentions? Well you guys were right, he did. However, I didn't give into them and I had a great time showing him around New York City.
While he was here we went to the usual, touristy locations. Times Square, Statue of Liberty, Ground Zero, and I showed him my favorite rock in Central Park. We went to the MoMA and... the MoSex.
Yes, we went to the Museum of Sex. And yes, this such thing does actually exist.
No, I'm not one of those perverted girls who are absolutely infatuated by everything involving sex, despite the fact that I did get dragged to a sleazy strip club for my 18th birthday and my friends payed for me to get a lap dance. I'm just not shy about sex.
We had a great time going through the history of sex and the ins and outs of the Kama Sutra (no pun intended). We got a good laugh out of most of it, but some parts (the video clips to be exact) were a little awkward to see while standing next to an old flame. Overall, a definite good experience.
So, now he's just IMed me telling me he's coming back into the city for Exxxotica, which is a porn convention. He asked me to go with him and even told me he would buy me a VIP ticket so we can go to the after parties together.
Usually, I'm all about trying new things, but with this guy it seems like everything we do is based around sex. Not us actually having sex, because I am absolutely not interested, but us looking at sex.
Is this weird? Should I go to the convention with him?
Thursday, August 21, 2008
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Listen To Me Already!
Okay, so after reading SleepyHead's last post on forgetting to remember, I had to rebuttal.
I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT WHEN MEN DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT I AM SAYING.
Men, the intriguing creatures that they are, can manage to remember a basketball game from 1967, including the exact number of points Kareem Abdul-Jabbar scored in his last game, but can't remember my favorite color?
Now, I can understand forgetting an anniversary. I've forgotten them too. That's just a date on the calender. But when it comes to a point when he can't remember basic information about you, that you've told him over and over again, it's disappointing!
For example, my ex boyfriend was a DJ who played mainly house music. He memorized every single Daft Punk and Girl Talk song ever released and even some that weren't released. But three months into our relationship when I asked him if he knew when my birthday was he was running to facebook to find out. My birthday's September 11th. It's pretty significant date.
One day I got so upset that I asked "Do you even listen to me when I talk!?"
and he responded, "What was that, babe?"
UGH.
Do men who listen to you bother you as much as they bother me?
What can we do to change this or do we just have to cope?
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A Marriage License That Expires
I'm not one to keep up on my news and politics (unless it has to do with the election), but as I was browsing through some news a German Politician by the name of Gabriele Pauli shocked me.
Last year she suggested that marriage licenses should expire after seven years, at which point the couple would choose if they wanted to renew their license or dissolve it.
This makes life easier for the couples who want to get divorced, the wouldn't have to deal with lawyers, fees, and all the battle that comes with divorce.
But, doesn't this take the meaning of marriage out of it? Isn't marriage supposed to be a lifetime commitment, through sickness and health, till death do you part? It's not a "hey let's get married for the next seven years and see if we want to make it to fourteen!"
What's the point of marriage then?
What do you think of this expiring marriage license?
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My Gaydar Steared Me in The Wrong Direction!
Today, as I was walking through the Fashion District to get to work, I passed Parsons and noticed an extremely well-dressed, attractive man walking behind me. I immediately wanted to grab his attention so I started thinking - what can I do!?
My cardigan was hanging over my bag. Then, it "accidentally" fell... oops. The extremely attractive man picked it up and we made brief conversation for probably less than a minute. I complimented him on his Sonic Youth teeshirt, because it was amazing and I happen to have the same one.
Then, just as I was indulging in his blue eyes as he lifted up his white Ray-Bans, I heard a name calling from behind him.
"Paul! You're still here! Great!" He ran up to my eye candy and gave him a kiss on the lips.
I was disappointed, to say the least. My Gaydar is usually right on point, since I've been trained by my gay best friend, however, this time I was completely off!
The perfectly groomed hair at 930AM should have thrown me off, but I'm not one to follow stereotypes and he was just so cute!
Have you ever been attracted to someone who's homosexual and were completely blown away when you found out about it?
How's your Gaydar?
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
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Valentine's Day
Valentine's day, though a hallmark holiday, is a day filled with roses, kisses, and dark chocolate (yum).
Some people these days don't support Valentine's day. They say it's a "corporate holiday" created to make more money. Yes, it might be that, but it's also a day to express your affection to someone special in your life. Some people also say that you should express your devotion to your SO everyday, not just one day. I agree with that, but Valentine's day is a day that just makes you feel special.
I've had some great Valentines and I've had my horrible ones.
One of my best was about three years ago. My boyfriend of the time and I didn't do anything spectacular, just rented a movie and went to watch the sunset at our spot in a local park on the Hudson River. However, that night the sunset wasn't just your average orange sunset. It was a fiery reddish-pink painted onto the sky. It was so romantic!
My worst Valentines was this last year. My boyfriend had a "DJ gig" that he failed to mention to me. He also, apparently, "lost his phone" so he couldn't call me. I spent all day for him to surprise me, show up at my door, or even send flowers. I had convinced myself that it was a joke that he had completely neglected Valentine's day. Well, that day I got no flowers, no chocolate, no surprises, nor did I receive one phone call. Him, on the other hand got a huge gift basket mailed to him filled with his favorite munchies. Sigh.
What about you? What were your worst and best Valentine's day?
What is your opinion on Valentine's day, is it a corporate creation or a lovable holiday?
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I Stayed Friends With All My Exes!
A Datingish blogger recently posted on how she didn't know how to be friends with an ex, even when she wanted to. She was wondering if it was possible to stay friends with an ex. Well, I am living proof it is!
I've been in three serious (as serious as they can get at 19) relationships and have managed to stay friends with all three of them.
The first, M, broke up with me for my own well-being. He didn't hurt me in anyway whatsoever, he just wanted to save me from the harm I was putting myself through. I wasn't at any state to be in a relationship. It's been years since our relationship - and we've had some rekindling - but he still remains one of my closest and dearest friends.
The second, T, was probably my greatest romance thus far. What made it easy for us to stay friends, even through a devastating breakup that neither of us wanted but both needed, was that we were best friends before were in a relationship. We always said "we were best friends first, nothing will change that" and luckily, nothing has. My situation with him is probably the most similar to LaBellaMorena's post. We had an extremely intense relationship and loved (still love) each other immensely. It's been about a year and half since we broke up and I'd be lying if I said that every time I see him those feelings don't reemerge from the depths of my hidden hopeless romantic soul. Some of our mutual friends say we are meant to be, but who knows? We control ourselves as much as possible and remain best friends. I don't know what I'd do without him!
The third, D, was potentially the most ridiculous of all relationships. Yes, he's the one in the angry e-mail post. I know all of you told me to get rid of him but I'm a bigger (or more vulnerable) person than that and didn't want to lose a friend, despite him being horrible. I think our friendship has maintained because I'm one of the only people who know how manipulative he actually is - and I don't care. I can see right through all his lies and want nothing to do with him. I don't stay emotionally attached but he knows he can act himself around me and enjoys it.
I take friendship very seriously, if you haven't noticed. I believe that when someone (even an ex) has changed me and affected my life so drastically, I should maintain some sort of relationship with them.
What do you think about staying friends with an ex?
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
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I've Got a Crush
Okay, I'll admit it... I've got a crush.
From the moment he walked into those doors my eyes immediately turned towards him. He has this presence that is just so intriguing. I'd like to get to know him better but I'm too nervous.
He seems like the person I could potentially get along fantastically with. I know exactly what you're thinking "suck it up and go for it... you'll regret it if you don't".
Well, it's not that simple. I don't know much about him, besides that he's amusing, and he seems very much out of my league. I'm usually a very confident person but I've always been frightened of getting rejected. He also seems older and I can't help but wonder that he would want nothing to do with a college student.
Since my ex and I broke up three months ago, I decided to give dating a break and just be single. The truth is, nobody has caught my eye like this guy...
What should I do!?
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Who's Your TV Crush?
Today, at lunch, some of the Xanga girls were discussing a hot topic between most women - celebrity gossip.
The usuals: Lindsey, Britney, Nicole, Paris, and other Hollywood trouble makers came up. But, as we were discussing the latest scandals, the topic of prime time dramas came up. 90210 was one of my favorites growing up and definitely corrupted my childhood with all their scandalous partying. That being said, I couldn't be more excited for the new 90210 starting September 2nd!
I think every girl and guy had a childhood crush on some TV character. For the girls, it could be bad boy Dylan from 90210 (personally, my favorite), all American Zach from Saved by the Bell, or basketball star Lucas from One Tree Hill. As for the boys, we have bad girl Valerie from 90210 who used to be good girl Kelly on Saved by the Bell, and of course the One Tree Hill babes Peyton and Brooke. The list is never ending...
So, who was your TV crush growing up?
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