Monday, 15 August 2011
I know I'll probably take some flack for this, so as a disclaimer: Stereotypes. We all know they aren't universally true, and yet they must contain some element of truth to become widespread. I want to be clear that I know racial/ethnic stereotypes are not all exclusive claims.
With that out of the way; my roommate and I were talking the other day about how guys on the street shape our eating and exercise habits.
Let me rewind one second. My roommate and I both tend to have somewhat fluctuating weight--nothing major, within maybe 10 pounds. But we're both petite, so we easily go from skinny to curvy without much weight gain, and vice versa.
Back to the story. The other day I heard myself say "I think it's time to cut some butter out of our cooking--Latino guys are hitting on me a lot."
I realized immediately how totally racist that sounds--so in my defense: I like Latinos--them hitting on me is really no problem. But she laughed because, well, we've both noticed that Latino and Black guys will only hit on us when we're putting on weight.
On the flip side of that, she said "yeah, when exclusively white men are hitting on me, I generally give myself room for extra dessert--I don't want to be skin and bones!"
Upon further discussion, we realized that we both tend to notice our weight gains and losses (subconsciously) based on who is paying us attention on the street. When I was first pregnant (heavier but not "showing"), I got asked out by Latino guys several times--which had NEVER happened before. Postpartum I got attention from black guys. Then back at my slimmer pre-pregnancy weight, it was just white guys again.
Now, we're both in relationships. And we're both secure girls. It's not like we're gaining and dropping pounds to get attention from guys. But it is funny that the ethnicities of guys who hit on us seems to be a real indicator of how we much we weigh.
But I hate to be a perpetrator of stereotypes, I really do. So I'm leaving it up to you all: have you experienced this? Is weight/body type in women indicative of what ethnicity of men pay them most attention? Why would this even be the case?