Sunday, 24 July 2011
-
20 Reasons to Say "See Ya, Bye!"
Don't worry; not all of these happened to me.You should consider breaking up with someone if:
- they actually utter the phrase "it's not you, it's me."
- you take them to prom and on prom night they hook up with your best friend
- you date them for a year and they still don't know how you take your coffee
- you are constantly getting canceled on
- they cheat on you and then make you feel like it was your fault
- they drink all your favorite beer and don't replace it
- not only do they never pay for dinner, they also never offer
- they constantly make fun of your friends
- they are overly controlling/ pressure you
- they take their unresolved daddy issues out on you
- they use their money to make you feel stupid
- they make you feel guilty because you have money
- they don't speak your native tongue
- they rarely make you feel sexy
- they make fun of your style or music choices
- they are rude to your parents
- they contracted an incurable STD while you were dating
- they use sex as a weapon
- they are a gold digger
- they tell you that if you don't start working out, they're going to leave you
For what reasons have you broken up with someone?
RecommendRelated Posts
Post a Comment
- Back to datingish's Datingish Site!
- Note: your comment will appear in datingish's local time zone: GMT -05:00 (Eastern Standard - US, Canada)
About the Author
-
- From: TheDailyDane
- About Me: I'm Dane and I'm 21. Follow me on Twitter @danefeldman. I am a huge supporter of long-term relationships. What's the fun in knowing something will end in a week? Stick around for some long-term bloggin'.
Stats: This Week All Time Posts: 0 88 Views: 0 295248 Comments: 0 2688 View all posts by TheDailyDane
Comments (53)
I must disagree with #13 unless they haven't put in the effort to learn your language. If they are learning, but aren't fluent yet, there still may be a chance. Maybe the individual who speaks English, or whatever language, could tutor the other? it'd be romantically sweet, cause you never know!
Key word: Consider
But yes, I agree with all of these. Many of them should be "strongly, STRONGLY consider" haha.
What struck a chord with me the most though was 14. I think it's so important for a good relationship to make your partner feel attractive and wanted (for their personality and brains as well as their body, obviously). Of course, I'm not saying you should lay the compliments on super thick, but if they do or wear something that turns you on, be sure to tell them, even if you think they did it by accident.
They'll appreciate it and will be likely to reciprocate :)
#13 can be worked on easily. Good list other than #13!
17. why does it have to be incurable?
20. i think most people wouldn't have even started to date the other if they weren't at least somewhat in shape, so i think this could be legit.
but most strongly, i disagree with 1. i've said this before and i genuinely meant it and explained why it was the case.
One reason to be a pansexual.
1. You don't get into this because you take your time with getting to know someone. Since inside is all that matters to those that are pan... They rarely get caught up in this type of pretentious crap.
Straight people confuse me.
Half of my friends do these things to me, in our friendships. Should I dump them too? lol
And even though "it's not you, it's me." sounds like a cop out, it really isn't. Only in Seinfeld terms.
If you dread time with them BEFORE you see them, it's time to go.
Let's see...
They lie too much. They use heroine. They're emotionally unavailable.
bad temper #4 cancels, full of excuses, doesn't even try to make up for it but blames me, little to no personal accountability, inconsiderate/selfish, doesn't treat me right. addicted to video games.
#13 - I tried learning my ex's native language.When first started dating, I took a mandarin class my senior year in high school. Then went on to college and I'm now getting a minor in Chinese. Sad part is we're not together anymore and I can speak it pretty well and understand a lot, but nowhere near fluent. I'm glad I finished all the language classes because I just don't have the motivation to learn it anymore. As long as you have some form of communication this isn't a big deal.
coffee is irrelevant, I think you mean "your significant other doesn't pay attention to the little things"
dude u were on a roll but #13? as long as you both can communicate with each other through a common language than it's all good.
17...so did YOU give it to them? cause then you'd be a jerk to break up with them over it... and if you didn't, doesn't that mean they cheated on you and duh you should break up with them?
I've never actually broken up with someone but I am considering breaking up with my current boyfriend. The reason is because I don't feel appreciated in our relationship; I feel that he takes me for granted and doesn't genuinely enjoy spending time with me.
Anyway, good list! #4 to some extent matches my situation. My boyfriend's never really cancelled plans with me before, just had times where he would suggest we do something but then never mention it again.
i like how you mentioned #20, considering the article you wrote a few days ago.
#9 :|. Plus he was a lying asshole.
All of them except thirteen.
#13 should not be on this list.
6 omg i have nearly murdered people over this.
idk, last year my bf and i were having some serious communication issues. he had a lot of trouble explaining to me what was in his head, just "something is wrong, idk what" you know that kinda bullshit is never good... and he used words similar to "its nothing to do with you, this is all me" and that made me assume we were over. i tried to end it a few days later but he made some drastic gestures to prove that he was still very much in love with me. our communication is back on track, its improved like 180 since then and we're doing much better than we were at this point last year.
Dare I say: The ability to communicate effectively and to be forthcoming with information that is pertinent to the health and continuity of the relationship?
IMO, both of these qualities are extremely important for long-term serious relationships and without them, I do not fare well.
@CaptSharkey@xanga - I agree! #13 is forgiveable if the individual in question is trying to learn your language. Also, guys should be more pro-active. I'm sick of walking around Seoul or Beijing and seeing a bunch of white guys relying on thier Asian girlfriends' English skills. Dudes! Learn some Mandarin or Korean! Stop making your gf do all the work. She deserves better and you know this.
#11 I don't get this. How can someone use money to make you look stupid? Like... does she pay for classes and then talk about what she's learning? You see this as insulting? I do not comprehend.
#3 This is just picky. Geez, lighten up. I've been married for years and my husband still doesn't know how I take my coffee... nor do I really know how he takes his. Soooo not a biggie!
Great list!
Personally I don't think #3 is too picky. I make perfect coffee for my man and he makes perfect, delicious coffee for me. How difficult is it to watch a person once when they add 3 big spoons of sugar, 2 half-n-half containers and chug the third half-n-half?...which is the way my guy likes it, :P It isn't so much about the coffee as it is the idea of understanding the quirks and subtleties of a person.
@phoebester@xanga - As for #13, the point that I have to make is in regards to the fact that there needs to be a proper form of communication. People have enough trouble as is communicating with each other-- having a severe language barrier doesn't make it any easier.
As for #11: People who are more wealthy than their SO's occasionally tend to flaunt their money. Sometimes, they are more cultured because of the accessibility that they have. This can lead to being condescending towards an SO: making your SO feel stupid, small, childish, unknowing is not right.
#3: This is not picky. It's a metaphor for all of the little things that a caring SO should take notice of. This is not specific to coffee. When a man says, "that is the coolest watch I've ever seen" and three weeks later he learns that his SO paid attention to this detail, and purchased the watch for him for his birthday, that's what I'm talking about. If you can't walk in a liquor store and pick out the wine or spirit your SO prefers, you may need to start paying closer attention to detail.