Writing my last post I was laughing at one of the main songs me and my ex shared, "Write This Down" by George Strait. This song is a breakup song and really describes our relationship/breakup PERFECTLY! I initiated the breakup and he really didn't have much notice about it. In our relationship he would focus mainly on the chorus and skip over the parts about the girl leaving. But after the breakup I read over the lyrics and was amazed at how perfectly all the lyrics fit from his point of view.

"I never saw the end in sight; fools are kind of blind.
Thought everything was going alright, but I was running out of time.
'Cause you had one foot out the door, I swear I didn't see
But if you're really going away, here's some final words from me.

Baby, write this down, take a little note to remind you in case you didn't know,
Tell yourself I love you and I don't want you to go, write this down.
Take my words, read 'em every day, keep 'em close by, don't you let 'em fade away,
So you'll remember what I forgot to say, write this down.

I'll sign it at the bottom of the page, I'll swear under oath
'Cause every single word is true, and I think you need to know,
So use it as a bookmark, stick it on your 'frigerator door,
Hang it in a picture frame up above the mantel where you'll see it for sure.

Baby, write this down, take a little note to remind you in case you didn't know,
Tell yourself I love you and I don't want you to go, write this down.
Take my words, read 'em every day, keep 'em close by, don't you let 'em fade away,
So you'll remember what I forgot to say, write this down.

You can find a chisel, I can find a stone.
Folks will be reading these words, long after we're gone.

Baby, write this down, take a little note to remind you in case you didn't know,
Tell yourself I love you and I don't want you to go, write this down.
Take my words, read 'em every day, keep 'em close by, don't you let 'em fade away,
So you'll remember what I forgot to say, write this down.

Oh I love you and I don't want you to go, baby write this down."

Looking at other relationships/friendships I see songs that fit perfectly there too. "Soulmate" by Josh Turner, "God Bless The Broken Road" by Rascal Flatts, "Come Cryin To Me" by Lonestar, "I Never Needed You" by Lonestar, etc... (In case you can't tell, yes I am a country music fan. Love me or hate me for it, I really don't care. ) Have you ever had a song like that? Where everything just "fit" perfectly as if it was written for you and another person?

Xanga's new mini-blog, Lovelyish has made me think of fashion a bit more than it usually crosses my mind (which isn't terribly often.) My sense of style (or lack thereof) is whatever is modest, goes with denim or black, won't rip or stain easily during the day and is something I can comfortably move around in and minimal accessories. I'm the extreme opposite of a high maintenance girl. Which I've also found plays into my relationship life. I've only (knowingly) attracted guys that were laid-back, non-fussy, and either country or music-nerdy. (And nerdy isn't a bad thing either! ) Also by my appearance it's usually obvious I'm a christian and go to church and again all the guys I knew that were attracted to me were all went to church. Connection? I think so.

As much as we can say appearance isn't the most important thing, appearances DO play a major part in relationships. It's usually the first thing we take note of about a person and help us make the quick decision of whether we'd be interested in talking to them more or not. So our sense of "fashion" and "style" can affect which types of people we attract. If you want someone country, you'll dress like that. Goth, eclectic, etc... it all applies. Ultimately though, we want that person to make the decision to be with us for US and our personality. So shouldn't our sense of "fashion" and "style" reflect that?

Does your fashion reflect your personality?

Do find you attract guys/girls that reflect your own sense of style?

"A friend tells you how much better you are without him. A best friend calls him up at 1am making chicken noises."

Ok so we've talked about how long it takes to get over a break up and the differences between guys and girls getting over it, etc... But what about how the friends treat their friend's ex?

Out of loyalty we tend to echo how our friend is reacting to the breakup and we want to be there for them. But doesn't there come a point when it's time to get over it? You weren't the one who was in the relationship and broke it off. You didn't suffer hurt feelings yourself. You're empathizing with your friend. But isn't there a time (ex: 6 months later) it's time to stop the child, middle school play? It's time to stop calling the ex at 1am making chicken noises, it's time to stop calling them a jerk, it's time to stop "warning" other people about them and trying to sabotage their other relationships.

When is that point where it's time as a friend to "get over it?"

How do you react to and treat your friend's ex?