He says we are “soul mates” and that he wants us to spend the rest of our lives together; it’s been almost 2 years. I live with him, pay my share of the rent, he has his bills and I have my financial r…

Arguing sucks. But if you deal with the aftermath in the right way (i.e., don't act like Ronnie and Sammi), conflicts can make your relationship even stronger. Seriously. A study found that couples who received a dose o…

I think it's safe to say that if it weren't for a certain girl, my sexual interests wouldn't have expanded further than vanilla love. (Since anal is pretty common now, it counts as vanilla.) Do any of you remember @ste…

One of the most amazing things about our culture in the United States is how incredibly convenient so many things are for us. We can change the temperature in many homes with the simplest of motions or the press of a f…

I'm not sure if anyone else feels this way, so I thought I'd ask you, the Xanga community. Does anyone else feel like the person you are, and the person other people see are totally different? I do not try to put forwar…

Ladies, we need to talk. Just so we can be clear about this, I'm talking about the ladies who have a habit of pretending that their men are better in bed than they really are. Now, today, I read about the token woman…

This post was submitted anonymously. Let me start off by saying I have always despised cheaters, and believed there was no lower person than someone who cheated on their partner in a committed, loving relationship. I…

This post was submitted anonymously. I need to preface this post with a few statements. First, and most importantly, this is not an argument for or against abortion. I do not judge the choices made by any person, be th…

Last night I went over to my boyfriend's house like I do every Wednesday. We watched The Walking Dead together, walked his dog, you know... the usual. Later on he went to the restroom and I followed because we were talk…

I'm growing bald; I've been growing bald since I was 15. Because I have genetic baldness, it's something that I don't have much control over. People have always told me that I have no reason to be upset about it; after…

Before recent events, I had only witnessed one occurrence of "emotional cheating" in my life and that was several years ago when my aunt was carrying on what my mom called an "emotional affair" with her kids' little lea…

I'm writing this in hopes for some tips to fix my sex life with my boyfriend. It's not something I usually do since we talk everything out with each other, but I think it's time for some outside help. Our sex life has b…

I'm 18 and there's this guy I work with who is 25. He's absolutely amazing, but I fear our age difference is a little to far. It's a 7 year age gap between us. I know if I were to be 25 and he was 32 it wouldn't seem li…

I started dating my boyfriend mid October 2011. That is simply four months with him! But we always joke about how in "our" time, it's been many months more. That the days apart amount to weeks and we mean it. Pretty che…

Virginia's poised to enact ‘State-Sponsored Rape’ law forcing women to be vaginally probed before abortions. Legislator suggests that women who consent to sex also consent to vaginal probing. And I say... wh…

I've been seeing lots of heartbreak this month. Naturally, since it's Valentine's month, why wouldn't there be? Georgia's a good friend of mine and a fellow colleague in the music department. She's the kind of girl that…

Before entering the class, it's normal for girls to spend some 'quality time' chit-chatting, talking about their daily lives, hairstyle and even love life! Recently, one of my girl friends got her hair permed. That's ni…

All my life I've just had bad luck with dating. I've been on very few actual dates before, and the ones I have been on have ended up going nowhere. I know the problem isn't that I'm not attractive or confident enough…

My, oh my, was I surprised last night. I saw my boyfriend through the window and he was in front of the stove cooking dinner. I thought to myself, "I knew it!" He opens the door and I see the table set up for two wit…

It seems to me that we are often presented with this idea of loss. We lose loved ones. Such is life, quite literally. But, is it worse to lose someone unexpectedly than it is to lose someone expectedly? What I mean is,…

Hey, men. come here for a second. We got to talk about something that's very important. Now, I hear tell from your girls that you guys aren't treating your women right. Either that or you haven't been what you used to…

Should it be any different from everywhere else in the world? Well, I don't know if it should but thanks to commercialism, it is. In this part of the world, the "sacred" Vday is not only for couples but for everyone.…

It’s no secret that the more technology evolves, the more chaos we bring into our own personal dating lives. Knowing this fact early on, I have avoided the hurdles of texting and contacting any attractive acquain…

This post was submitted anonymously. I have been in a relationship for just over two years. I was 23 when I met him, he was 28. At the beginning I wasn't that interested, but as time went by I realized how good we were…

This post was submitted anonymously. My ex and I broke up after dating for 2 months because he was too busy and I wanted more time with him. Now he says he wants to get back together with me eventually (because he has t…

If you want to take a break from dating, that's totally fine. If you genuinely want to live your life without a long term partner, or any partner at all, and you're happy, fucking go for it. But if that's the case, shut…

My fiancé and I have ended our relationship. We had a baby girl together (yes out of wedlock). Sad, but true. What's even more sad is that it is my second child out of wedlock. I was very ashamed of it and I've h…

This Tuesday will be my first Valentine's Day in 12 years that I have not had a Valentine. 12 years of cards, dinner, flowers, kisses. I can't say that I'll miss it either. Last Valentine's Day taught me that if you a…

This post was submitted anonymously. My fiance's ex contacted him recently out of the blue, after nearly 2 years of having no contact after their breakup. Their relationship was about five to six months long and even th…

There have been a number of posts recently about the idea of "Standards" in dating... combined with the usual percentage of posts where a dater talks about a specific "problem" with their partner/wanna-be partner, and a…

I have been seeing a guy for about 5 months now. He is still married to his wife of 5 years but has been separated for nearly a year now. I came out of a relationship with my ex a few months before I started seeing this…

The "hot topic" that seems to be buzzing around Xanga is men's rights to an unborn fetus (I call it a fetus because in the time frame that you can have an abortion, the fetus has no more cells than a plant). I've seen n…

I got this idea from what @TheTheologiansCafe has been doing lately and I thought it would be fun. Sally's advice to women concerning women. 1. Make sure they're not homeless, AWOL, just kicked out of their parents hou…

This post was submitted anonymously. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and almost 4 months. Lets call him C. I've noticed since we've first started dating, that his OCD is getting worse. I've tried to help…

With Valentine's Day quickly creeping up on us, it's hard to walk through a store without feeling a little bit of loneliness if your status is single. Suddenly boxed chocolates, flowers and everything red becomes unattra…

When I was younger, I used to really really look down on girls that would dig gold. I felt that it was "mean" and "immoral." I thought oh so highly of myself and felt that I was too moral to even think about doing suc…

Infidelity is disastrous for any relationship and is a leading cause of separation, but nagging has the potential to be just as damaging according to a recent article posted on The Wall Street Journal. Common sense dict…

I get drunk despite the hangover. I eat ice cream despite the stomachache. I put my heart on the line despite the emotional fallout. There is many an action with a less than fruitful outcome. And yet, we choose thes…

This post was submitted anonymously. Oh Lord no, not another abortion post on Datingish! Seriously, we just want to talk about our love lives... why do we have to read another post on abortion? My own personal reasons f…

In the last month I have heard from 3 different people that my views on gender are weird. This has been bothering me a lot. When pressed, my friends had a wide range of answers on what they meant. Some conflicting. I wil…