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Dirty Sex Talk: A Turn On or a Turn Off?
One week ago I went out on a date with a guy whom I knew very… let us say "lightly" or as you wish: "barely." We spoke on the phone, we wrote on the Internet and I thought to myself, "Hell, why not? He is pretty… -
Boys Don't Like Me
For years I've been "the girl without a boyfriend." I've managed to slide through high school without even the prospect of a potential mate. I've fallen for guys, but nothing ever came of it. Either they were way too ol… -
Gender Bashing
I've been keeping this thought to myself for a while, but after reading Girls Who Always Fall for the Awful Guy, I figure I should write it out now. I've heard and seen a lot of people go through rough patches in thei… -
What Color are Your Nipples?
I decided to hang out with a friend today that I hadn't seen in a while. We met up at a Starbucks and sat down to our delicious, perhaps overpriced, coffee. She is a wonderful Brit, who is spontaneous, and maybe on the… -
20 Great Love Songs to Show Your SO
I wanted to do a post on the greatest love songs of 2011, but after some research I'm finding that, at least in my opinion, there aren't enough to which I would really pay homage. A while back, I did a post on my person… -
Guy Loses Less Than 50 Pounds, Gets Girl
In July, I wrote a post called Sorry, You Need to Lose 50 Pounds about L's friend, Emma, who was having some relationship troubles. To brief you, she liked one of her friends, Jesse, who was madly in love with her. Jess… -
Starry Surprise
One of my closest guy friends got me a jar of stars for Christmas a few days ago. Attached to the jar was a small card that said, "There's more to the present that meets the eye." The jar had a sticker on it that said "… -
Girls Who Always Fall for the Awful Guy
Ladies: You know the type. The guy who pretends like he wants to be in a relationship with you by constantly texting you flirty messages and then out of the blue ignores you. The guy who only contacts you late at night… -
You Make Me Sick
It's so weird how something that happened nearly 8 months ago, affects me just as if it were fresh. I play WoW as well, to be honest, so it's very difficult to even log in right now. After all, we were together, but he… -
Best Advice Ever?
I've been married for 9 years. I've known my husband for 11 years. When we started dating and got married, we heard all sorts of advice from all sorts of people. Most of it was good advice, some of it was bad. We were t… -
Your Eyes Scream Sex!
So I've started dating again, and the people I've met have been... well, interesting. (Sometimes friends aren't the best judge of characters.) I believe I have been doing this dating thing properly. I talk with them via… -
What Determines a Blind Person's Attraction to a Specific Gender?
Living in a society that constantly assaults our visual sensory system with depictions of scantily clad men and women in various forms of media, it's easy to conjecture that as a species, we're sexually driven by visual… -
For Guys: A Guide to Buying Jewelery
This post was inspired by a recent gift I received. I know he put a lot of thought into it, but it doesn't quite cut it. I wasn't mad, just a little disappointed. But it kind of made me laugh. 1. Quality vs Quantity… -
Break-up Excuses
My sister's boyfriend just broke up with her last night (night of 25th December that is) and the reason was that he wanted to concentrate on studying and that they'll be together when he's financially stable and has th… -
Refusing Oral Sex: A Dealbreaker?
You cannot imagine how distraught I am whenever I hear that I will not find a man as long as I refuse to perform oral sex on him. It is something that I really, truly cannot handle. SO, I looked around on the internet… -
This One's for the Boys!
Boys! I pose you a very serious question. As the stereotype states, girls are generally more emotional get attached easily. They also enjoy hearing cute phrases like "I love you," "I miss you," and "You're my everythin… -
Your Friends Vs. My Friends
When you go out with your friends you call it a "girls night out." You get all dressed up, presumably go to a fancy restaurant, drink wine, gossip about other people, and take pictures of food. "Guys night out"? It j… -
Meet The Parents
I despise meeting the parents of any girl I date. More specifically, I despise meeting the parents of any Korean girl I date. Even though I am Korean myself, I have learned to prepare for meeting Korean parents to a d… -
Torn Between Mine and His
I absolutely adore and am in love with the man I am with, but I have a lot of guilt because his kids live in the same city as we do, and we live in the in-law suite to be near to and care for his elderly parents. One wo… -
Birthday Troubles
It's the month of December in which the holiday cheer is all around. It's also the month in which my boyfriend's and my birthday occurs! Mine on the 21st and his on Christmas day. We decided to share my birthday sinc… -
90 Days of Lust
Researchers say it takes 90 days for lust to wear off. If you still have feelings after that, then it's most likely love. As a newlywed Air Force wife as of March of this year, I am no expert on marriage or relationship… -
Romance is Crap
Romance, such a simple word; but such a difficult subject. The same with love. How does one really know if anything was ever real? All the lies and the games that people play nowadays; how does anybody know? Every time… -
Is My Ex Playing Cupid?
A couple of months ago I met a guy I will call Dan. We had so much in common. I thought I had met the one, but I find out he is my ex's friend. I will call my ex John. Apparently John said wonderful things about me. Aft… -
When Love Becomes Routine
Girls always get mad at us guys because we never remember the date of our first kiss or the date of some other strange obscure event. Not to say that the first kiss is not important, but I mean, come on, the date? Oka… -
Should We Move In Together Before Marriage?
My boyfriend and I have been dating a few months and things moved along very quickly for us. While some of my friends tell me that it's been a little too fast, my boyfriend and I are completely fine at the rate things a… -
How He Treats His Mother is How He Will Treat You
Mama's boy, caretaker, liar, gentleman, or sweetheart—These traits may be transferred from one relationship to another. Should you be paying more attention to how he treats his mother? -
Living Together Killed Our Relationship: A Response
I was recently reading a post on Datingish about how living together killed the person's relationship. While I felt that there were many other factors that killed his relationship (moving to fast, not knowing the person… -
Stuck in an Abusive Relationship
I just got off the phone with a girl who was distraught after what can only be described as a traumatic altercation with her boyfriend. The things she described were eerily similar to what another friend of mine went t… -
The Honeymoon Phase Doesn't Last Forever
When we first start dating someone, the beginning is always bliss. They don't call it the "honeymoon phase" for nothing. You want to spend all your time with that person. You (hopefully) rarely fight, if ever at all. Ev… -
Three's a Crowd?
A very close longtime friend of mine approached me about a very interesting predicament she's currently in. She has been with her significant other for a long period of time and, according to her, over the past few mont… -
Men are More Likely to Leave Their Sick Wives?
A 2009 study of more than 500 married U.S. couples conducted at Washington University, Seattle, found that men are seven times more likely to leave a relationship because of their partner’s serious illness than a… -
Do You Go to Bed Mad?
There has come a point in all of our relationships where we fight. Sometimes we get over these fights or arguments rather quickly and other times they go on longer than we would like or anticipate. There's always that o… -
Living Together Killed Our Relationship
When I was 21, I dated this girl a few years older than me and we had an amazing start to our relationship. Things moved rather quickly and we decided to move in together after only a few months. Unfortunately, this i… -
Why Did I Cheat?
As I got off that Greyhound bus and walked out of the bus terminal, I was on my way to to ruin a perfectly good relationship. I had just had that amazing, "I won't be able to see you again for another few months" sex b… -
Virgins are Just as Bad as Murderers?
I was having a conversation with an acquaintance of mine one day and for the sake of this story, let's call him Charlie. Charlie was in his late 20s, tall, handsome, socially-conscious, well-traveled, well-read and by m… -
Multilingual Sex
Recently, I have been obsessed with learning new languages. My Christmas wishlist is essentially a list of five foreign languages I want textbooks for. And this year I've traveled to something like eight different count… -
Nine-Year-Old on "How to Talk to Girls" (Video)
Alec Greven is a New York Times bestselling author of his self-help book, "How to Talk to Girls". In this promo-video of the book from 2008, Alec gives seven tips I wish I had known back when I was wasting my time on "… -
A Response to MikeyS' Post: Husband Loses Memory, Wife Fights to Win His Love
When MikeyS posted about Scott and Joan Bolzan, I was uninformed about the story. After I read his article, I followed his hyperlink to an article Joan Bolzan had written about her husband, Scott. 3 Years ago (on Decemb… -
Fear of Losing My Virginity
So this post is a response to "Does Sex Sell You?" A lot of people mentioned that they wish they had lost it to someone more significant or special, but don't regret having lost it in the first place. I haven't lost my… -
Husband Loses Memory, Wife Fights To Win His Love
What would you do if your husband had lost all memory of you, your marriage, and even your children? Joan Andrews went through this very ordeal when her husband, Scott, suffered severe memory loss after falling and suf… -
What's Stopping You from Doing -It-?
I have been SO sex obsessed recently. I want to have sex, so I can enjoy sex for many years to come and so that I won't miss out now. (And yes we both know I've got M in particular in mind at the moment). But here are m… -
Wingman Problems
We all know the role of the wingman. He's there to entertain the less attractive/interesting/friendly girl that won't leave the more attractive/interesting/friendly girl's side. You take her away, buy her a drink, mak… -
Gifts That Make Me Want To Shank You, Not Say “Thank You”
This has happened to all of us. It’s Christmas (or any other holiday you celebrate) or our birthday or anniversary, and you see it: The box. The box that is pre-wrapped by a salesperson – and judging by the… -
Is Physical or Emotional Cheating Worse?
I have heard this being argued either way. Physical cheating is worse because it involves something that is supposed to only be shared between two committed people; Emotional cheating is worse because the other person… -
How Important is Financial Stability in Your Relationship?
Financial stability is something I think we all strive for. There's nothing better than making enough money to cover your expenses and have some left over to save or play or do what you want with. It's hard enough getti… -
How to Deal with Rejection
Rejection is probably one of the worst things that a human being has/needs to deal with at one point or another in his or her life. How we feel and react varies, but the feelings of emptiness and sadness probably accom… -
Double Dating Gone Wrong
Double dating with other couples like your own can be a fun new change. Sometimes you just want to do "couple stuff" that your single friends don't want to do. After one too many, "No thanks, I don't want to be the th… -
How and When Do You Get Out of an Unhealthy Relationship?
This may be a sticky subject but I want to talk about bad and unhealthy relationships. We've all had that one that we wish we would have gotten out of sooner or taken advice from our friends and family. I was in a relat… -
My Sexy, Surprising Break Up
I had not been seeing my girlfriend all that much lately, the Occupy movement was coming between us a lot. I'm in favor of it too, but she wanted to camp, and get kicked out, then camp, and get kicked out, and she wan… -
First Ever Datingish Giveaway: DVDs from New Video Group!
Happy Holidays everyone! We're thankful for the community of readers that are a part of Datingish and are so excited to be able to partner with New Video Group for our first giveaway on the site! We're giving away the… -
Does Sex Sell You?
We've all heard the phrase "sex sells" right? It's obviously and apparently true as far as marketing and advertising go. But does sex sell you? -
Which Couple are You?
We've all had to deal with these couples, or had to be a part of one of them at some point in our lives. They made us question why anyone would want to subject themselves to relationship torture and also reminded us of… -
The Art of Asking for a Girl's Number
My friend is a master ninja of this very delicate task. Some would call him a pathological liar, but I think he's a genius. The goal is, obviously, to ask the infamous question, "Can I get your number?" There are ple… -
What is the Protocol For Gift Giving in a New Relationship?
With the holidays right around the corner, you're probably reading this and feeling excited, stressed out or both with the holidays arriving. It's always hard to figure out what to get for your loved ones. It's even har… -
It's Not You, It's Me. Seriously.
I am fairly certain that I am one of a dying breed, a relationship dinosaur if you will. That’s because I still have not ever gone out with someone from online. This puts me in a category with the likes of old pe… -
When Will this New Girl Feeling End?!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months. He's known his friends for pretty much all his life. They've been dating their girlfriends for practically half of theirs. All of the girlfriends are close because t… -
The Box of Ex Memories
We all hold on to these things much longer than is logical, but we just can't get ourselves to throw them out. It's the box hidden away in some closet or under your bed that you look at only when you stumble upon it by… -
You Can Have My Heart, Just Don't Ask for My Password
In one of my earlier relationships there had come a point when my girlfriend had access to all of my online accounts. At the time, this was Xanga, AIM, Hotmail, Yahoo, and anything else I had used that one password for… -
How Close is Too Close for Comfort?
There was a point in my life where I was very single and looking for love in all the wrong places. Has anyone else been there? I wouldn't say I was desperate but I didn't want to be single anymore. I would have settled… -
Should Michelle Duggar Be Prosecuted?
So for those of you who have been in a hole for the last day or so, Michelle Duggar from the TV show "19 and Counting" has suffered a miscarriage. In the interest of full disclosure, when it comes to the issue of the Du… -
How Well Does Your Horoscope Apply to Your Life & Relationships?
Astrology has been around for ages. It all comes down to science. Depending on when the stars align predicts your fortune in love and life .. or something like that. I don't know about the rest of you but I used to read… -
Can Men and Women Be Friends? (Video)
A student at Utah State asked this very question to several of his peers on campus. Do you agree with his conclusion? -
Investment Banker's E-mail After 'HORRIFIC' First Date
As much as I am skeptical about the authenticity of this E-mail, I thought it deserved a mention on Datingish. The backstory as provided by redditor, "badarabdad", is that the recipient of this e-mail had a "friend who… -
Do We Want the Wedding More than the Marriage?
People have many different views on weddings. A lot of people think that it's a waste of money to have a big to-do for one night. Because of that, they decide to go the City Hall route and spend the money on a house, ca… -
You're My First Asian Girl!
My friend recently expressed her disgust with guys who feel the need to point out the fact that she is an Asian girl while they are trying to hit on her. It's as if they don't realize that mentioning they have a "thing… -
My Lesbian Friend is in Love with Me
This post was submitted anonymously. When my boyfriend and I first started seeing each other, he introduced me to one of his female friends who happened to be a lesbian. This was never an issue and we actually became… -
Does Weight Gain Affect Your Relationship?
With the holidays coming up, it's inevitable that we are most likely going to gain weight. However, the upside to that is that it's more forgiven now than it would be at any other time of year. It really doesn't matter… -
What Does He Want?
So I broke off a relationship of 6 years with my husband. It's been about 2 months now and he insists on talking to me like we were the best of friends but he cheated on me constantly throughout our marriage, always ch… -
I Love Him, But I Would Never Marry Him
I have had several friends tell me recently, "I love my boyfriend, but I would never marry him." This was shocking because for most of these girls, they are in relationships that have been going on for at least a year… -
Australia's Fight for Same-Sex Marriage
I'm not really too clear on Australian politics, but I understood enough to get the gist of what's going on in Australia right now. A couple of days ago, there was a huge conscience vote to support same-sex marriage acr… -
Is it Over?
This post was submitted anonymously. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and three months now. We met 2 years ago at our college because we lived in the same dorm. In the beginning, as most relationships go,… -
Teenage Sexuality
I'm 16 years old. My girlfriend is just 15. We've been dating for two years on the 28th. Only recently, I have agreed to her suggestion of stopping our sexting. I've been very confused since she can't be intimate with m… -
He Just Cut Me Out of His Life
Recently I received a message from a guy (Evan) I like, on Facebook along the lines of this: "Everything is okay; sorry if I made you worry. To put it bluntly I don't think I can talk with you anymore. It was nothing yo… -
Things I Hate--Girls at the Gym
My boyfriend of five years is a personal trainer. He's been a trainer for about two and a half of those years and works at the flashy new gym near our hometown. I'm very happy for him. He loves what he does, and he is g… -
So What If He's Shorter Than You?
This post was submitted anonymously. I'm not exactly a tall girl, but at 5'7" I'm definitely not a short one either. I have dated guys taller than me, I have dated guys my height, and my current boyfriend of almost 2 ye… -
My Boyfriend Would Rather Sleep with His Xbox
My boyfriend has been getting more and more into his Xbox every day. Now I sound stupid complaining because he could be out cheating or doing other stupid things, but it's just getting ridiculous now. We live together a… -
Why Is He Mean to Me?
Okay, so I've liked this guy for a while now and we're friends, I guess you could say. You see, this guy is so mean to me; in a playful way but still. Normally a guy friend will strike up a conversation with you and say… -
Will the Cheaters of Yesterday Yield the Cheaters of Tomorrow?
I finally got on board with watching Mad Men just a few days ago and my mind has just been bursting with relationship stuff to discuss. The first season begins in 1960 and is largely set in the offices of Sterling Coope… -
Kentucky Church Bans Interracial Couples
A former pastor at a Kentucky church put forward a proposal that interracial couples be banned from the church "except for funerals." This proposal was passed by the Gulnare Freewill Baptist church community after the d… -
How Do I Get Over the Father of My Son?
I just broke off a 6 year relationship with my husband and the father of my son. Throughout the relationship, he continuously cheated on me and cared more about being out with his friends than his family. -
Shamed By Facebook
Ok guys, we’ve all been there—Every guy has, at one time or another, come off as a little creepy. The incident usually gets repressed into the deepest, darkest, inaccessible corners of human consciousness.… -
Best and Worst Movie Girlfriends
They have qualities we wish our real life girlfriends would have. Then there are those, ‘Movie Girlfriends’, that we are glad only exist in a fictitious universe. Take a stroll with me as I recount a brief… -
What Would You Say?
I have a friend who is repeatedly in a situation where she befriends a guy and starts to like him. They become really close, and it's not clear if he likes her or just sees her as a really close friend. After a while,… -
Even Though I'm Famous Now, Don't Worry, Fans, I'll Never Forget The Little People
Over the weekend, I contacted TJ the DJ from Elvis Duran and the Morning Show via Twitter. I tweeted at him, shooting him the link to my site, www.JenAndMen.com and told him that I think he'd enjoy reading my blog. He a…
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