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Sex and Menstruation
For almost a week out of every month, my wife and I do not have sex. And really, short of pregnancy or menopause, that's not likely to change anytime soon. You see, we don't have sex during my wife's period. I tho… -
A Virgin Feeling Superior?
As a virgin, I always seem to notice how virgins are considered losers, and once in a while I’ll tend to hear about how someone is such a slut. Both terms are used so negatively but being as I’m a virgin I don’t seem… -
What I Know of Love
I just read one of the most infuriating pieces of writing ever, unfortunately written by someone extremely close to me. A statement declaring that all high school relationships are shit and won't ever last. Basically… -
The Xanga Crush
Yes, I am aware that Datingish has already had a post about this topic over a year ago. But I'm bringing it back up again! And don't give me "Psh, Xanga crush..." attitude that was in many of the comments for the prev… -
Advice: Valentine's Gifts for a New Relationship
Valentine's Day is undeniably a romantic holiday. But what happens if the romance is still new? Perhaps you've only been dating for a week or two before the big day. Talk about awkward. What are some gift ideas for an… -
Tall Women, Short Men...
What if the lady was taller than her man? How would you feel? Personally, I find it a bit awkward. Maybe because I'm use to having taller men around me. And I'm not that tall either, I'm 5'4. But lately, I've be… -
Scandalish: Does Something Smell Fishy to You?
Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Now for an unpleasant, but necessary topic... The aroma of love can be defined by many scents, some more pleasant than others. -
"I Need Some Space"
How exactly are you supposed to react when your boyfriend/girlfriend tells you that they need some space? We've been dating for a little more than 6 months and everything has been wonderful. Today, he was a little h… -
On Security
Yeah, I'm not perfect. I don't have clear skin, I have a pouch like a kangaroo, and my legs are a bit chubby. But hey, I'm secure and I can deal with that. However my ex-boyfriend could not. He always told me I shoul… -
Dreaming With a Questioning Heart?
So, last night I had a dream about the boyfriend. Dreams are supposed to help you work through the problems your subconscious deems important (that you might not want to think about while you're awake), right? Well this… -
Falling for the Wrong People
Help me. I have this problem. I always fall for the wrong people. I'm beginning to suspect it a neurological disorder which only adversely affect my love life. Exhibit A: She was a girl. Not a ten pointer on the hot… -
Finding "The One" at the Clubs
So the other day, I was literally cornered by an ex-follower of Christ (which a story in itself) where she basically attacked me and told me that my way of life was "out-of-control" and that I should not be taking my… -
Bi-Curious or Homophobic?
A group of friends of mine were discussing how we girls thought a certain girl was very attractive, and a statement popped up: "Girls tend to be bi-curious, and guys tend to be homophobic." I think I'd tend to agree.… -
Advice: Have You Tried Any Online Dating Sites?
A good friend of mine wants to try either match.com or eharmony.com. Have any of you tried it and found success? I've heard mostly not so great stuff about their sites but would love to hear your opinions. Share you… -
Sometimes a Banana is Just a Banana
Do you know someone who can turn anything you say into a sexual innuendo? Well I certainly do and,...oh wait...I'm one of them. But even for me, I know that's just what it is. Flirty words with no actions behind it.… -
The Politics of Relationships: Stuck in the Middle
To what extent do you support the relationship of a friend that causes another friend emotional distress? More specifically, when one of your good friends breaks up with his/her significant other, and another friend… -
I Think I've Lost Interest in My 4 Year Relationship
So, I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years now [on and off]. We have gone through a lot, and he has cheated on me, but I still can't come to forgive him or seem to forget. But I still am with him, and lately… -
Lame Yet Funny Pick-Up Lines: You Know You Love Them
I love being a part of the 21+ crowd. Why? Because of the men I meet at bars. They are HILARIOUS with their pick-up lines. Granted, I'm sure that they realize that what they're saying is completely ridiculous. But hey… -
"The Ex-Boyfriend Blockage"
Aright ladies, I have a bit of a bone to pick with y'all. Now this does not have to do solely with you women. But I'm sorry, I see this case happening with you guys the most. So check it...Why is it that 90% of the la… -
Full-time Boyfriend, Part-time Dr. Phil?
My friend could use a little advice right now, and after giving her my own two cents, I knew just who else I would turn to for some fresh perspectives--you guys! Basically, my friend is going through a bit of a tough tim… -
Advice: How Do You Pursue a Crush?
How do you pursue a crush that, at the moment, doesn't like you? I've never actually done this before, but I really like this guy and I want to try. Any advice? Share your advice at Datingish Advice: How do you purs… -
Cheating: Who's to Blame?
Recently, a blog was published discussing whether or not it's appropriate to request that a SO not hang out with a friend of the opposite sex. There were many interesting comments and opposing viewpoints, but ultimat… -
Don't Go to the Strip Club With Your BF
I thought I was being SUCH a cool girlfriend when I agreed to go to a strip club with my boyfriend and his friends. He said I didn't have to, that he "didn't even want to go," but I figured it would be fun! I knew he… -
How Did Your SO First Tell You That They Loved You?
I'm just curious to know: How did your significant other tell you that they'd fallen in love with you? Or if you were the first to drop the L bomb, how did you do it? Did you make a point to sit them down and tell the… -
FML Friday!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Who Are You Today?
I have a guy in my class who's hilarious, attractive, and very sweet, though he tries to hide it. Rick is in all my classes save one, so we've become pretty good friends. He's been acting like he's interested in me, a… -
Something Drew Me to Him
The fact that me and my boyfriend ever got together was something unimaginable to anyone who knew us, including us. We knew each other for years and for some reason I decided to start talking to him a lot last year.… -
Wouldn't Know It if It Hit Me in the Face
At 24, I have a couple of friends that are engaged. Now, I know that it is very young for marriage and engagements but... That's not really my point here. Sometimes I sit back and think, yo, I'm 24 and I have never fe… -
Jealously Isn't Always a Bad Thing
The first thing that people associate with the word "jealously" is always something bad.. TOO much jealously is bad; and in the cases of many, ends a relationship. But a just a little bit can keep one going. -
How Would You Feel If...
How would you feel if your significant other goes out with the same girl everyday and night? Is it even wrong to smell something fishy? To feel like something is not right? Are you not entitled the right to feel what… -
Duh Yer Purdy
DISCLAIMER: For the sake of argument, I have done this before and am so guilty on both ends, this is not a run at chicks it is a run at...well I will let you decide.She walks in and she is in tears, and even when she… -
Happily Never After: Domestic Violence and Partner Rape
It's not easy to write this, but since the past will always catch up to the present and I don't know what to think anymore, I decided that I will post this entry. My relationship with my man is not as awesome as most… -
Because We All Need Advice Sometimes...
How do I break up with him? Does she like me? I'm having impure thoughts about my boyfriend's older brother, what should I do? We all have these burning questions, and who better to turn to than our friends at Datin… -
My Love is Not in Vain
Throughout my years of "romantic awareness," I have liked a fair number of people. Though I often stressed over them a good deal, nothing ever came of most of these crushes. I have never had a crush intentionally pla… -
Would You Rather...
Receive a sexy love note from your SO or a sexy photo? My friend sent a sexy photo of herself to her SO who's currently at a conference and he said "great, now I have to jerk off by myself with my boss in the next ro… -
A Question for the Boys
So this is a question for the boys. One that I’m sure many woman have asked during the space of their dating life. One that most woman could related to and one that still baffles most woman. So here’s the typical sc… -
Men, Here's How to Curve The Urge to Masturbate
Men, imagine the one day, out of nowhere, that your penis rises like a loaf of bread in the oven. You don't know how it got hard and/or why it has to come at this time. You just know that right now, you are turning ri… -
On Cynicism
I suppose... that behind every cynical person is someone who made them that way - someone they cared deeply about and who therefore possessed the power to hurt them in the most profound way, whether intentionally or… -
He Needs His Girlfriend's "Permission"?
One of my guy friends and I have been friends for about five years. We've always hung out in the past and always had a good time without feeling like we wanted to be more than friends. He's had his share of girlfriend… -
What Am I To You?
Right now, I miss you. I don't know what it is, but you attract me so much. We don't share many that similar tastes, yet we get along so well. I love the time we spend together; maybe I'm being too clingy or too ob… -
I'm Talking about Profile Pic Deception
Yeah, you know what I'm talking about. The photo that prompts random strangers to click on your profile like a hook with a tasty bait. The photo that gets them interested enough to strike a conversation. I'm referrin… -
Summer Love and Closure
Have you ever fallen in love with someone while on vacation on the other side of the world? It wasn't supposed to happen. You were only supposed to have fun, party, maybe mingle a little here, flirt a little there...… -
Happy Humping!
Happy Hump Day to you and yours! Remember to keep submitting your dating stories, complications and romances here! -
God's Gift to Women We Are Not
Guys, have you ever gotten so sick of girls giving up on men that you just want to step in and be their friends or dates, just so they can see what a good man is?Face it. All of us men are sick to death of having to h… -
The "Pet Name" Problem
So, I've found myself running into very few roadblocks in my relationship with my boyfriend thus far----8 months into the relationship, to be more precise. However, one that we just can't seem to get over is the "Pet… -
80/20 - Almost But Never Perfect
If you're dating someone for a while and it's become serious, I'd say you know a good amount about them. But in the words of my mother; "No matter what you tell a person, NEVER tell them everything. Keep at least 10%… -
Does Sex Always Have To be Spontaneous?
In my last post on Datingish, about finding the time for sex, several people seemed bothered by the idea of "scheduling" sex. Several people said things like "You can't schedule sex, it has to be spontaneous" or "It… -
If He Had Anything He Would Have Told Me
Recently a friend of mine told me that she had oral sex for the first time. She seemed really happy about it and told me she loved it so naturally I was happy for her. However, as she told me the details of what went… -
What To Do When Your Professor is Sexy
Imagine: It's the first day of the semester. You've finally found your 10 a.m. classroom and take a seat. As the time to begin approaches, you hear a throat clear from the front of the room. The professor faces the cl… -
Why Won't He Just Leave?
One of my girl friend just asked me for a favor. She wants me to help get her husband served. Let me explain. It's been almost a year since she found out he's been cheating. When she confronted him the first time, h… -
Why Are You Monogamous?
I'm watching The View, and they're talking about this guy who writes this column about sex. He says that men are incapable of being monogamous and that they only do it because they absolutely have to. This doesn't ma… -
Society's Relationship Expectations
I think our society places too much emphasis on relationships, both romantic and platonic. Among my peers, it often seems that romantic relationships are essential to happiness. Not only are they touted in media such a… -
Privacy in a Relationship
A friend and I were talking the other day and the topic of privacy in a relationship came up. We started discussing the issue of sharing passwords. My friend has been in a relationship for over 2 years and knows all o… -
Question of the Day: Female Blue-Ball?
Now, many people know about the extreme pain guys feel when blue-balled. We can sometimes describe it as: being kicked in the balls by the population of China, throbbing, aching, or the feeling that we have to pee the… -
The Boobs Debate
Take a long good look at the picture above because if my boyfriend was able to have it his way it would be the last time I was photographed or even walked out the house with that much cleavage. Now let me give you so… -
Faking a Deadly Disease?
My boyfriend’s crazy ex-girlfriend has not moved on. They broke up in 2007 but have continued to stayed friends with him. I started dating him in January 2009, and we have just celebrated our one year anniversary on… -
Virginity and the Loss of Innocence
I lost what most people consider to be my "virginity" about two years ago. That date (which yes, I still remember), is not the day I feel I lost my virginity. -
Scheduling Sex
With the busy schedules of modern people, sometimes it seems hard to find time for sex. I imagine back when we were all farmers and hunters, things were a lot simpler in that regard, but nowadays we work late, come… -
No One's Perfect
I think most people realize that their spouse is not going to be able to meet all of their needs all of the time. I think we understand that it's extremely unrealistic of us to think that they can and will, and outrigh… -
Closure: Yes or No?
I have a question. Is closure really necessary when saying goodbye to someone in a “relationship”? Recently, a close friend of mine decided to close the door on our friendship. He realized that his feelings for me surp… -
Question of the Day: What Have You Learned?
I, for one, have had my share of run-ins with the opposite sex. And they've all taught me different things. Ranging from how to cook a new meal to changing my perspective on life. So I ask a simple question, Datingi… -
What Do You Expect From Valentine's Day?
source Candy and romantic restaurants are synonymous with Valentine's Day. But, remember how it used to be back in elementary school? You would go out and buy a box of Snoopy Valentines and would place them in everyo… -
Should I Click the "Friend" Button?
A few days ago, I discovered that my ex-girlfriend recently created a Facebook account. Now, before I get to my main point, it is important that I give some background on our relationship. -
Flirtations of a Taken Woman
So here's a question: what do you do when your best seems to be inadvertently but persistently throwing her relationship down a toilet? Here's the scenario. My best friend and roommate is beautiful, both inside and o… -
Gone in 60 Seconds
Get this. A relationship that is perfect. I mean it. No fights, total understanding, fun and love in every area that's important or insignificant, constant communication in a good way, laughing, loving, happiness. Th… -
Love is Selfish
I believe that humanity as a whole is selfish underneath all acts of compassion. Humans are essentially just civilized animals that can control their urges to varying extents. This being said, it can be assumed that… -
I Don't Want To Be Jealous, But....
I didn't want to be jealous. But at that moment - when I saw his hand on her thigh, my heart skipped a beat. I didn't want to be jealous. It wasn't right. Don't I have a boyfriend after all? Don't I love my boyfriend?… -
Scandalish Poll: What's Going on Down There?
Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Care to guess her muff? No, I don't either. For some odd reason, when it comes to her lady parts, I don't think Britney keeps up with her groo… -
Girls in Trucks
I just finished reading this book called Girls in Trucks by Katie Crouch. I received this book for Christmas after seeing it on the New York Times Bestseller list. Has anyone else read it?Long story short, I devoured… -
"Men Deserve a Direct Response"
In my life, I have had more guy friends than girlfriends. This is due to mostly to what seems like a better connection and desire for less emotional drama in my life, but it has definitely had its repercussions and t… -
I'm Trying Not to Let Personal Tragedy Affect my Relationship
Recently, (and by recently I mean just over a week ago) I had a terrible tragedy in my family - my nana (grandmother) passed away extremely unexpectedly. I am still unable to make myself believe that it actually happe… -
What a Tangled Web We Weave!
She met him over the summer while they both worked at a shoe store in the mall. She is very pretty. He is nice, smart, and charismatic. They started to see each other outside of work. Fall rolled around and he had to g… -
Who's Leading This Dance?
"I love peace and quiet, I hate politics and turmoil. We women are not made for governing, and if we are good women, we must dislike these masculine occupations." - Queen Victoria"I myself have never been able to find… -
Buttsecks?
I will admit that I was raised in a conservative, catholic, republican household. However, I would consider myself a rather liberal person now, open to new ideas and experiences, and whatnot. One thing that I simply c… -
Shhhhhh...
Should you tell your friend their mate is playing them or cheating on them? Well I always thought the answer to this was a simple one. Yes, of course! If it were me I'd want to know! The friend will respect your hone… -
Five Rounds of Sex in the Morning? Who Does That?!
Okay, maybe I'm just a pansy, but I can't keep up with my man's sex drive. He can literally go five rounds in the morning alone. And I'm not talking about one loonnnggg session with five little breaks in between. I mea… -
Question of the Day: Taking a Break
To everyone out there is, do you think taking a short break in a relationship is good to evaluate things and make your relationship stronger? I don’t mean a break-up. I mean two people are still together, not dating… -
Balls of Steel: The Bunny Boiler
There's a post on Datingish from a girl who is (understandably) pissed about somebody hitting on her boyfriend in front of her. It reminded me of the "Bunny Boiler" episodes from the TV show, Balls of Steel. I don'… -
Are We Too Quick To Jump Ship?
After the "Oh no you didn't" post, my girlfriend saw the comments and was a little horrified that a good number of females told her to dump her boyfriend because of that incident. Let me explain: In her twenties, s… -
Ex Girlfriends and Friendship?!?!
As a recent University graduate, it has been many years since High School, yet I return to the same city and have begun hanging out with the same people from my youth: including ex-girlfriends. I personally have two… -
I Don't Believe in Relationships
1. "I swear, I'm gonna break up with him, he doesn't do anything for me, he's always going out with his friends, I'm like so sick of him" But she stays with him, because she doesn't want to feel loneliness. 2. "Sh… -
Slow and Steady Wins the Race?
About three weeks ago, my ex-boyfriend got in contact with me. (We dated our whole freshman year of college and have been apart for about 2 1/2 years.) I don't feel that it pertains to this post to talk about why we b… -
"Maybe I Should Invest in a Van"
My wife and I had a moment of passionate kissing while I was pulling up into the crowded grocery story parking lot. I glanced toward the back of my car and muttered, "I wish we had more room back there." She laughe… -
FML Friday!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Independence: Do Males Resent It?
I have a few questions for the males on this site:Do you prefer a woman who's able to support herself financially without any of your help? Would it bother you if she made more money than you did?And what about emotion… -
January Blues
My boyfriend and I have been dating since the end of junior year of high school--we're college seniors now. It was a tough transition into a long distance relationship, but we've made it through. (We plan on going… -
Does This Make Me Look Fat?
For the life of me, I will never be able to be one of those girls that thinks highly of herself. I've always had self worth issues, and I've been in one too many abusive relationships. I have a terrible time being abl… -
First Love, Second Chance
So I was flipping through the channels and caught a preview for this show on TV Land called "First Love, Second Chance" They spend a week or two reconnecting with their first love, spending time at each others houses… -
These Boots are Gonna Walk All Over You
Okay Datingish. I have a confession to make. I have a foot fetish but it's more abnormal than that. It's called trampling and it means that I have the hots for women walking on me in high heels.Pretty weird. Believe… -
So My Boyfriend Wants to Be a Marine
The title says it all. I've been best friends with this guy for a couple years now and I've always known his plans of being in the military. We've recently started dating, which I was thrilled about, because I've alwa… -
Settling
Lately, I've been thinking about settling, and how it means different things to different people. And then thinking about that leads to all sorts of questions. If you tell me you're settling, I'd immediately transla… -
Stuff My White Boyfriend Says: On Rice
I'm sure every relationship has it's own trials, but coming to a compromise in an interracial relationship is no easy task. My parents are from Hong Kong but having lived in rain-city Vancouver all my life, I often feel… -
I'm Frustrated With You
I don't usually ask for advice from others, I tend to figure things out on my own. What do you do when you feel like you're no longer dating the person you fell in love with? -
Married Men Looking to Cheat
So I have started to notice a recent trend online dating sites... granted these aren't the Match.com, eHarmony sites, but still. It seems to me that many of these guys are married men looking to cheat. What the hell?… -
Blonde or Exotic Looking?
..... Red-heads need not apply? I stumbled upon this and had to laugh. The shallowness of this Girlfriend Application is only balanced out by it's unfortunate honesty. They seem to cover all the bases. What kind of… -
Actual or False Modesty
I have a couple of questions for Datingish readers. While it is obviously true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, have you ever met someone who is apparently attractive but: 1) Makes out that they really aren… -
Men vs. Women = Relationship Confusion
Alright, so not every relationship disaster can be traced back to this. However, a lot of them can. Our society seems to have this idea that instead of being individuals, people are grouped into two categories: male… -
I Don't Want to Ruin Our Friendship... Unless I'm the One Dating Him
Early in this school year, I happened to mention to a friend I like a certain guy. She froze, and mumbled "I like him too... But... I don't want to ruin our friendship." So, I decided the same and I did not flirt wi… -
Oh No You Didn't!
Everyone knows first impressions on first dates are super important and nerve wrecking. But what's even more important and nerve wrecking is meeting the parents for the first time. My older girl friend finally met t… -
Listen Up: I LIKE YOU!
"Hello. I know that we don't know each other that well (or perhaps we do), but I just want to tell you something. I like you. I don't know if it is your cute voice, the things you like and stand for, or your interesti… -
How To Have Sex In The Fitting Room
Recently, my wife and I took advantage of the privacy of a department store fitting room for a quickie, while we were buying clothing. Let me get one thing out there: I'm no exhibitionist. I have no desire to be ca… -
“Sex Chip” Could Stimulate Pleasure in the Brain
This is a guest post from Just A Guy Thing. Forget Viagra. Scientists are working on an electronic “sex chip” that could be placed in humans to stimulate sexual pleasure. The chip sends tiny shocks to electrodes tha… -
Giving Your Best-Self
My grandma always told me that you owe the person you are with your best-self. Meaning your best-self on every level. This includes, being the healthiest person you can be, always looking your best, being clean, doing… -
Self-Righteous Indignation pt. 2: Men
The other day I was talking about women and how they can be so self-righteous sometimes that men are put off from even trying to talk to them, or show any real interest, in hopes that they will come out with the egos… -
Ladies Being Chased By The Wrong Guy?
Let's take a look at a couple of scenarios, shall we? In both cases, imagine yourself as a single individual who is going through a dry spell of dating but is not quite at the point of utter desperation and/or using… -
THAT Couple
You know which couple I'm talking about: the one where both people clearly don't like each other anymore, but insist on punishing themselves by staying anyway? That couple who makes you increasingly embarrassed in their… -
Loneliness vs. Sex
My friends Carla and John have been together for 2 years until recently, they officially broke up. Now when Carla had told me the details, I was kinda surprised by what Carla had told me. She told me that John was wi… -
Searching for Love? We Got You Covered.
You may have noticed the new search option at the upper right-hand side of the front page. So now, when you're dying to reread all the old Scandalish topics, you are only a mere click away from juicy sex talk and more.… -
Are you "The Reacher" or "The Settler"
I just finished watching How I Met Your Mother and they had an interesting topic/sub-plot. For the two people who make up every relationship, Ladies and Gentlemen, let me introduce to you "The Reacher" or "The Settler… -
Dating for Keeps
If the essential goal of dating is to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, what is the point of wasting your time on someone you know you don’t want to marry?Let me give you some background: I… -
Ladies, I Need Some Advice
Here's the deal - I'm currently dating an awesome girl. She's well-cultured, extremely nice, cute as a button, and just the right amount of quirky. She likes a lot of the nerdy things I enjoy doing, which was always… -
Self-Rigteous Indignation pt. 1: Women
Someone wrote a post to Datingish titled: "He's Just Not That Into You": I Highly, Highly Disagree about how there seems to be a mentality among women these days that says that if a guy is into you he will bend over… -
Cottage Cheese and Low Self Esteem
I'm eating cottage cheese while watching South Park. It's all because I'm trying to lose weight. I'm unhappy, this stupid stupid stupid weight makes me unhappy. I make myself unhappy. I've recognized that I have littl… -
The Model Vs. Librarian
I was reading ''Mediocre Dating", and it said something about the woman wanting someone to date, but found out the one who gives her what she wants on a deeper level are the ones she doesn't really want. Right then… -
Is Finding Love Enough?
With all the people out there sacrificing time energy, money for simple things. jobs, houses, some of them trying to right a wrong or stop a wrongdoer, some fighting to forget a wrong and move on, with constant oppres… -
"Don't Poop Where You Eat"
You know the saying "don't poop where you eat" so who agrees with it? I know in certain industry, there's a memo included in your welcome kit stating no interoffice romance allowed. I myself have tried it before an… -
Dating a Detatched Individual
I am an INTJ, a phlegmatic, and a rational individual. If you aren't up to date with popular sources of personality types, then the term "ice queen" could probably give you a good idea of where I am coming from. Some… -
"Finding a Guy is Like Looking for Underwear"
I have noticed that looking for that one man who is a bad boy, yet a nice boy, a type-A personality, but yet sweet and caring, a well-built guy, yet one that's soft to cuddle with is often like looking for underwear… -
Would You Believe Me if I Said, "I Cheated?"
I was sitting and watching tv with my complicated when a commercial came on. I don't recall the show it was for, but there was a man who kissed a woman outside of his relationship, and when he came clean to his SO, s… -
Thanks for the Memories
"I will never regret you or say that I wish I'd never met you,because once upon a time you were exactly what I needed."I'm 21 years old. My relationship status has been and still remains single. But I've had my fair s… -
Sex in Today's Society
I recently read a blog entry that really got my fire burning and made me wonder...What is society coming to? In today's time, less virgin teens are arising and they are becoming younger and younger. I believe that se… -
Pheromones
Last night I had a very interesting conversation with my friends. We all could relate to each other because we have all had a handful of people in our lives that we had an unexplainable physical attraction to. We all… -
I'm Abstinent; Is He Still Interested?
So this one guy and I have been talking for a few weeks now. He found me on one of those social networking sites and is a friend of a friend of mine. We hung out for a few times and it was him who initiated asking.… -
The Old Boring Couple
The boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time now -- it will be 4 and 1/2 years this week. We moved into our own apartment back in June and we love living together. As a couple, we have been through a lot… -
Women's Sex Drive Plummets During Secure Relationship?
Oh boy. Yet another reason for men to be afraid of getting married. While looking up random stuff on Wikipedia again, I happened upon an article on BBC news that declared that a woman's sex drive tends to lower, once s… -
Scandalish: A Taboo Topic
Editor's Note: While this isn't the usual caliber of Scandalish topic, the option for anonymity in answering this question might come in handy... Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them.… -
Question of the Day: Is Trust to be Given, or Earned?
Simple question, which of the following two statements do you believe, and why?1) "Trust someone until they give you a reason not to." 2) "Trust no one unless they have earned your trust."Being the daughter of an alco… -
Mediocre Dating
Since I first started dating 8 years ago the longest I have been single was approximately one month, until now. I've decided to be more selective in who I choose to be with. I'll pick them rather than they picking me.… -
"He Insists That She Isn't Pregnant"
So...maybe I can get a few opinions on this situation. My roommate, who is 23, just found out last week that she's pregnant with her "friend with benefits's" baby, which she's decided to keep. They have a history toget… -
Who Knew? Time Really IS The Best Cure
Firstly, I would like to express my embarrassment after reading all of my former entries, because apparently, I was a meltdown-having, emotional mess of a basket case. My break-up definitely felt like the end of the w… -
The Bonds that Binds or Blinds?
I’ve been thinking about my friendships and relationships lately. Currently, I don’t have many of either but I seem to be very selective. I think the bond I have with the person correlates with the degree of critici… -
"Big Love" & Plural Marriage
The show about Mormon Polygamists, living in modern, Utah, suburbia. There is Bill and his three wives. A lot of people I talk to happen to not like this show, think it’s ridiculous, or they are regular, modern LDS (… -
Guys Have Less Emotion? More?
My friend just texted me, talking about her boyfriend. "He won't pick his phone up! urgh! I ALWAYS answer the phone when he calls! Now he just texted me and said he doesn't feel like talking. That's a bad sign, right?… -
Are We Conditioned to be Insecure?
My friend and I were talking the other night.She had called me extremely upset because her boyfriend of over a year was going to a bachelor party. Not just any old bachelor party, but one in Las Vegas! ( Re: The Hango… -
The Lovely In-Laws
When you enter into a serious relationship, at some point you will have to meet the creators of the object of your affection; the in-laws, the parents, the family, etc. This process can be either painful or surprisin… -
Please, Don't Use Me!
Well, so much for my excitement. Lets start from the beginning shall we? I'm at work talking to one of my coworkers. (in a non-flirtatious way) He's cute and funny guy, don't get me wrong. But at this time, I think… -
In Marriage, Sexual Compatibility is Irrelevant
If you want a lifelong marriage sexual compatibility is irrelevant... -
Friends After It's Over? Hell No!
"Well since it didn't work out, can we still be friends?" Don't you hate that question? I do! Why would I go through all that work and effort to JUST be in the friend zone. Like I'm only good enough to be a friend. I'd… -
The Guys' "The One"
I recently ended a relationship that I considered to be the one. The first few months it felt normal, safe, happy, genuine, secure, honest, everything that told me, "this relationship is more than a relationship." So… -
Bisexuality: Insight, Please
Before I go off ranting and raving let me just say this, my opinion is young and for the most part I like hearing other people's opinions to reshape my own. A few months ago my mom called me in tears saying that my four… -
FML Friday!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
It is Okay to Make New Friends of The Opposite Sex When in a Relationship?
If you are dating a guy or a girl (depends on whatever floats your boat) and they tell you that they are going to hang out with a new friend who happens to be of the opposite sex would you be okay with it? So that… -
Have You Dated One of These?
I happened to come across this "checklist" and found it very intriguing. As I was reading down the list...I noticed that I was saying yes to nearly all of the items listed. I was thinking, "WTF?! How could I have b… -
It Wasn't Just Love
Lucas was tall, lean and had a wonderful sense of style. He had dark curly hair that framed his face just right. He was intelligent, quirky, and very sure of himself. I loved his confidence. -
Do You Regret How You Lost Your V-Card?
I don't even really like the term "v-card." I don't really like the word virginity either... shudder. On to what matters; Do you regret how you lost it?This post comes down to two things; do you wish you'd lost your vi… -
I'm Talking About Breast Size Deception
So here is an odd question that has been rattling around for a couple of days in my head. Sidebar first, how many times have you been successfully hooking up with a girl only to realize once the clothes are off you… -
Spontaneous Romanticism Blunder
My girl friend told me she's trying to be more spontaneous with her boyfriend ever since he bought up the whole "...it's getting too routine, same old shit..." blah blah mumble jumble. So during their weekend trip… -
The First After the First
Today was one of the those few days where my past and present collided. But to help better understand my situation, allow me to explain.... I have started to date a guy and, yes, he is handsome, talented, genuine, h… -
Question of the Day: "LOVE" Confusion
Now, to me, it seems like nowadays girls are getting more and more promiscuous. So guys take advantage of that. But hold up... not all girls who are supposedly "promiscuous" do that because they want to. Some do i… -
Jumping the Gun on Relationships
I met a seemingly nice guy a few days ago. We hung out practically the entire night.I have sort of given up on finding a man who won't try to get with me the first night, but I still didn't get with him, though.Anyway… -
Did I Break Girl Code?
Quite frankly I think the whole notion of "girl code" is complete crap, it's just drama.Well maybe not necessarily; I can see how it applies to close friends. However I've never had many girl friends so it never rea… -
Are You The Man in Your Relationship?
It started out as a joke amongst friends but now I feel the jokes getting old and it's time to move on. When I was younger and still in the dating scene, my mom use to ask me why I never dated a Chinese boy so s… -
When a Man Loves a Woman... Really?
I think this popular song would more aptly be called "When a Man is Involved in an Unhealthy and Co-Dependent Relationship With a Woman". It's not as catchy a title but I think it sums up the song a lot better than the… -
The Case of the "Down Low" Husband
One of my male besties is gay. The other day he told me about how he is currently talking to a guy who claims he is straight. This guy is married, and he has a three-year-old child. Now maybe I'm the confused one,… -
Am I Half of a Virgin?
I read the post on half-virgins, and what being a half-virgin means that was posted a while ago. Found it very interesting, but I had a new theory on half-virgins to add to it. -
Pick-Up Line Failures
Alright so I know that there are sites out there with pick up lines galore: the cheesy ones, the dirty ones and just plan stupid. Now these lines aren't the ones I'm talking about. I have had a bunch of guys pick me… -
On 'The One'
I don't believe in 'the one'. I don't buy the notion that there's only one person out there for each of us. I think there are at least several people who are potentially compatible with us, or who are compatible wit… -
"My #1 Adult Film Star!"
I recently read an article on TheDailyBeast.com called "Top 5 Reasons Porn-for-Profit is Dying." They say that one of the reasons the porn industry is floundering is because the taboo is gone. “People used to be ash… -
Question of the Day
Which celebrity would you sleep with if you ever got the chance? Personally, I think Channing Tatum should step right up to my bedroom. But if I were a guy, it's Olivia Wilde all the way. What about you? -
"Chivalry is Dead!" Because You're Killing It!
I've read my fair share of "Chivalry is dead!" and "I can open the door myself!" posts to warrant this rant. Here goes.... STOP WHINING! Now, why do I say this? Women, feminists most specifically, seem to love to thro… -
Foot Fetish
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months. We started out as best friends and he has been with me through everything. Before dating me, however, he was dating one of my best friends. However to the main topic.… -
Label-less Relationships
Everyone I talk to labels their romantic relationships. People in my generation judge a relationship based on a Facebook relationship status confirmation. When I got back with my boy, after a hellish 1 month separatio… -
Love and Drugs
Here's the situation. I met the love of my life just under two years ago. In the beginning things were great. Even though it was long distance (250 miles) it was still amazing. She eventually moved down here and w… -
1,2,3 Not Only You and Me...
My best friend and I talk about everything when we're together. We talk about the men we've dated, how good they look, how sweet they are, how good/bad they are in bed, our fantasies, their fantasies.. etc..We both ha… -
Forgiveness has Wings
When I was little I remember hearing a certain phrase very often "forgiveness will set you free". It took me a very long time to grasp this concept and, let's be honest, I still haven't completely grasped it. There… -
I Don't Think There are Any Magazines in THIS Waiting Room
Let's face it, waiting sucks. Waiting in long lines at the mall, grocery store, DMV, waiting to be called in to get a cavity, waiting to be picked up by someone who says they're almost there when they haven't left the… -
How to Get a Guy in Two Days
The other day, I read an old friend's blog about her new boyfriend. It was quite a long entry, but in short, she started talking to this guy through Facebook about a week ago, and interacted with him face-to-face for… -
Question of the Day
"Everybody says love hurts, but that isn't true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Envy hurts. Loosing someone hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing that covers… -
Friendship Between Ex-es
Dear ex boyfriend, Well, well, well, we meet again. You texted me about a week ago and it was nothing really. The conversation didn't carry on or anything. Then you texted me yesterday telling me that you could smel… -
Are We Going To Replaced
I just realized that our days as partners to the opposite sex are numbered. After reading a report from the Adult Video National Convention, on a news site not on a porn site so don't even. A sex doll with AI is on… -
Girls You Find on Dating Sites
Ok, I'll admit it, I've been on an online dating site before. I'll admit to that fact that I've been on there to sort of 'explore my options' and meet other people. Its been pretty interesting some of the folks that… -
Dating Preference or Dating Fetish?
After some of my friends read my last post "Who loves Asians?" which has nothing to do with dating or screwing by the way, they somehow managed to turn it into a debate of whether or not it's actually a fetish and not… -
Quid Pro Quo?
So I've been going out with my boyfriend for a while now and I've known him a year before hand. We both have always talked about what we like sexually and we've gotten to that intimate stage. What's always been a prob… -
Pick-Up Lines in the Virtual World
Datingish recently posted happygolucky's post on the worst break up lines people have ever heard. After reading the comments I have to admit that some of the lines people used are so pathetic and cowardly that they'… -
A Good Guy's First Impression Update
Here is what happened... So we went out, and I suggested we go see "Princess and the Frog". For those who saw it, you know its kind of a tear-jerker, even for dudes. But anyway after the movie, (she really really li… -
Nice Guys? What about Nice Girls?!
So, I read this featured blog, talking about why nice guys never get the girl. I've heard a lot about nice guys, and I know there are a handful of nice, good guys out there. How about the other way around? When the g… -
Love is Abstract
My fellow Americans, since the world came into existence and a rise and fall of nations came to be, we have seen the world at both its highest and lowest points. While we have many more things to rejoice than things… -
The Electra Complex
So I've been binging on Dexter this past week and one of my favorite characters is Debra Morgan. She's actually quite charming with her crassness and her inappropriate choices in men. However, her latest (well, te… -
Question of the Day
What age do you consider too young for children? Marriage? I believe that it is a personal decision, as in if you know that you can afford it and can support the child you are old enough. And if you are with someo… -
Man Man's Explanation of Jerk and Nice Guy
If anyone ever needs a music video to communicate the idea between a nice guy and a jerk, pay attention to Man Man's "Rabbit Habits". And you will understand.Here are the things I have learned from that video. -
I'd Buy You A Drink, But I'd Be Jealous Of The Glass.
Okay, so last night me and Babooshka went to a bar, the Rack. Nothing nasty now, it's a popular place where you could shoot pool. We were looking for Danny - Babooshka's "draedal", he works at the bar as a bouncer. An… -
Say "Yes" to Long-term Relationships... Or Just Relationships in General
There was an article posted here about saying no to long-term relationships. Humanity decided it didn’t want to disappoint me for a day, and it quickly assembled to vocalize how ridiculous it thought the article was. But… -
Second Guesses
I was reading a blog on Yahoo, titled 10 Ways To Find A Relationship In The New Year . Although the author makes very good points on this list, only one really stood out to me. 5. Don't Second Guess Yourself I'v… -
Is It Still Cheating if We're Unofficial?
Earlier this week, I broke up with my almost-boyfriend of 4 months, because he cheated on me. Well, at least that's my version. My friend informed me of this news in school. She shares her first block class with him a… -
Is Our Own Complexity Turning the Simple Ones Bitter?
"But not all women worry, or are that complicated. Actually, sometimes we will meet a simple woman but project our past experiences onto her and EXPECT her to be complicated. And in turn, our own insecurity or scars ruin… -
Love at the Watercooler - Could it Work?
This is the third post on the topic of Dating. The first one had 5 tips on Dating in 2010, the second one had tips on Where to find dates. Both where featured on Datingish. The second post was inspired by comments… -
The Media Has Ruined Love
Love. What is it to you? In reality it's merely a certain amount of chemicals in the brain that cause you to feel lust, security and trust. In my opinion, love is a warped term. It use to be extremely simple. You find… -
Question of the Day
Ok so my friends and I always give the nitty gritty details of pretty much every guy we have been with even if we only make out. And I mean details: kissing style, touches, penis size, how good the guy looked naked, h… -
Keep Your Nose Out of My Sex Life
I don't appreciate being donned with unwarranted advice. I don't take kindly to anyone telling me what I should or should not be doing in the bedroom; I do not appreciate "hey you should try this!" tips, because quite… -
Were We Talking About The Same Guy?
Have you're friends ever told you about a sweet guy you'd like, but as it turns out, in person he's a little less than great? Ever wonder if your friends had either a) lied to you or b) told you the wrong info on the wr… -
Women Being Too Aggressive in Bed?
I have always been very strait forward with my boyfriend from the start when we were dating. When we were just friends we talked about things we both liked in bed. I flat out told him in intricate details what I liked.… -
The Independent Streak
One word has been spinning in my head today, and I couldn't tell you for the life of me why, independence. The older one gets the more opportunities they have to gain different levels of independence. Eventually (to… -
Marrying a Marine?
Q. So my boyfriend is in the Marines (active duty) and is stationed in North Carolina.We just got engaged and now he is getting deployed in January. He says that his shop told him that he couldn't get married so clos… -
Self-Acclaimed Bachelors
One of my guy friend told me he's a self-acclaimed "Bachelor" and he loves telling girls that because it's a better chic magnet than a guy with a dog. I asked him "how so?" His response is that girls LOVES guys who… -
Does Asexuality Exist?
There is a debate in the science world as to whether or not asexuality is a valid sexual orientation and should be recognized as such or is simply Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder? Neither side has been proven correct… -
What is a Good Guy's First Impression?
Do first impressions really make a difference? What is it that a guy can do to make a good first impression? Sometimes it seems like women don't even consider or care anymore.I, for one, like a woman and am going to h… -
But He's My Best Friend!!
I read a Datingish post about tips to find "The One." I had one to add, but I felt it was important enough to write about on its own. How many of you young ladies (or men, though I've not often heard of it the other w… -
Question of the Day
source A friend just forwarded me this hysterical posting on Nerve.com. Some poor girl's brother found her "hookup list" and posted it to Facebook, and then tagged all the guys on the list. Brutal, yet comical. But it… -
Does The World Know What Love Is?
In a recent conversation with my SO I brought up the topic of life changing accidents. I asked if he knew whether he would stay with me after a life changing accident? Example, what if my face fell off; would you s… -
The Mythical G-Spot?
Recently there has been a lot of controversy surrounding the g-spot. Between this post and this post, it seems the G-Spot has been on a lot of people's minds. For those of you who are not g-spot educated let me introdu… -
The "Nice Guy" Doesn't Get the Girl Because....
How many times does one hear of a girl choosing a jerk over a self-proclaimed “nice guy”? Personally, I hear of this more often than makes sense. If the guy is truly as nice as he claims, and the other guy really is… -
Say No To Long Term Relationships!
Seriously, what is the point of a long term relationship? I believe everything you need to know about a person can be found out within the span of a couple months, meaning 2-5 months. Relationships shouldn't be much… -
Learning From Past Relationships
I’ve went out with a delightful bunch of boys. They have had issues with anger, personal hygiene, their own sexuality, the truth and commitment. That wasn’t just one person! I went out with a thirty year old who… -
The Name Game
Okay I don't know if this is weird for anyone else but it feels strange for me. Tomorrow night I have a date with a cute writer... named Nick. For those of you who are not aware my ex boyfriend's name is Nick. I r… -
Games vs. No Games
I've thought about this a few times, but luckily - have never been in a serious relationship where I had to choose which I preferred.This is what I mean by GAMES (a few examples amongst many):1. Most Obviously - the Game… -
FML Friday!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Question of the Day
I've always imagined how I will get proposed to (that is IF I get proposed to, of course.) I always imagined something completely original and special and creative. Like being pulled on stage at my favorite band's concer… -
Girls, Be More Vocal in the Bedroom!!
So, following my post, "Lack of a Female G-Spot...", I realized (Thanks to Sunrie )that truthfully, women are often times at fault for not having the pleasure they could be having during sex. Whether it's becaus… -
I Know the Phone is Terrible, But at Least E-Mail Properly
What is a guy supposed to do? I understand the gravity of a phone call, it is so tedious, heck, I don't even like them but I try and I try to be clever and thoughtful but that usually gets messed up. Forget calling,… -
The Hottest Girls in History
In response to a recent datingish post "The Hottest Guys in History", I've decided to compile a list of female hotties among the rich and famous in today's media. Keep in mind, this is only a personal favorites list. As… -
Am I the Only Girl Who Hates It When Guys Are Chivalrous?
Considering the amount of people that have commented that I need to let the guy pay for me every once in awhile, and let him open doors, I figured I might as well explain the rest of why I hate letting the guy pay. It'… -
Is He Playing Mind Games?
Q. You could say my ex and I have a rocky history. Actually, an extremely rocky history is more accurate. It was a very messy break up, and the months after it have been even worse. The other night, he, out of nowhere… -
Have You Ever Hid Your Relationship?
Have you ever met a cute guy through say a club or something, seen him around several times, talked to him and frankly flirted with him, checked his Facebook status (single, yes!) and then found out from someone else l… -
Find Me a Date!
The other day I wrote a post with 5 hot tips about Dating. It got featured on Datingish (where else?) and got 2,300 views. Some of the commenters added their own tips, and some asked: this is all very well, but you… -
How Close is Too Close?
Recently, me and my girlfriend had a discussion about how close we should be to each others' friends. I told her that there should be a fine line and that I would feel uncomfortable if they became really great friends… -
The 3 Day Rule
I mentioned in my last post about how this new guy waited three days after we met at a party before asking me to hang out. We really hit it off at the party but afterward I was unsure about how I felt about him becaus… -
Question of the Day
At the risk of sounding incredibly dumb, I wanted to know if you guys could all give me your opinions on something? I am often told that even though I am not "girlfriend material" that I am "wife material." What does… -
Dreaming about a Former SO: Is it Normal?
In mid-December, I was broken up with for the first time. There was a span of two weeks between the last time I saw him and the day that he sent a text that said, "I really don't see us getting out of this without a br… -
The Man's G-Spot?
Women are well aware that there is nothing they like touching more on a man in bed than a man's ass. Right? You can smack it, squeeze it, or guide it, whenever he is doing what he is doing. But would any of you have g… -
The Hottest Guys in History
I was reading a post asking Xangians if they considered John Mayer hot or not. This post inspired me to find out which men (celebrities and well knows personas) are listed as being the "hottest men" in history. While… -
Girl Who Cried Wolf
Little white lies are unavoidable and harmless, but when you turn it into an outright lie that's hurtful and harmful, you have to think about the repercussions. A friend of mine counsels kids as a side job. She rec… -
Kissing is Overrated ...
Or so he says. Q. So I'm currently seeing this guy whom we shall call Jeremy. Jeremy is handsome, nice, sweet, good personality and everything you look for in a guy when you first meet them of course. Now, on our th… -
Confessions
I always envied the characters in the shoujo mangas for their courage when it came to confessing feelings for their handsome 先輩. They would ask them during class if they could meet somewhere, alone, and "talk." When… -
The Old Boyfriend Boxes
Yesterday, I was going through some of the things from my childhood and it brought back numerous memories I had forgot. It started off normal, putting away old children's books I had once loved (the ones that taught… -
Odd News of the Day: Sex Can End Terrorism
There seems to be a train of scholarly thought that believes that sex can be the end of terrorism in this country. Yes, you heard me. Coitus. The basic idea being that if a man is out getting laid, his desire to blow… -
How Much Does Marriage Change a Relationship?
I was talking to a couple of people the other day. They're both happily married (or at least it seems that way because they act very affectionate towards their SO in public) and have kids (one has two and the other ha… -
Who Else Has Trust Issues?
Trust issues has come to me as a major problem in my life. I have pathological liars to thank for that. I have been talking to my ex excessively these past few weeks and he's gotten to the point of telling me his lon… -
Lonely Isn't a Good Color on Me
The only butterflies that I like Are the kind I get when you Kiss me.At four in the morning, after spending two hours acting fifteen years old again. Touching, but not to much. Close, but not close enough. My nose mig… -
Wanton Sex Goddess... or Not
I'm sure you won't be surprised to know that when it comes to dating, I always think honesty is the best policy. So imagine my horror when my girlfriend, Kim, confessed that she had been keeping a secret from her new… -
I've Never Been the Pretty Girl
I've been friends with Lilly* since middle school. Over the last decade, we have been through a lot together, especially when it came to self confidence and relationships. Now, I've always considered Lilly beautiful.… -
That Looks Great, But Not in Public Please
J. Lo is hot, but if she can't make this work, what chances do us regular folks have? When I first saw this on TV during the NYE count down, I thought I had one too many glasses of champagne and my eyes were playing… -
Stud Before Buds
I remember you as a human, but over the past few months, you morphed. When I first met you, you were the freckled kid with an awkward tan and mousy brown hair. You had hazel eyes that were eaten up by your smile. It… -
Datingish Book Club: Committed
Well, perhaps not a book club, we aren't Oprah. But we can still throw out a recommendation every now and again, right? There was a time not too long ago when everywhere I turned I saw a young woman holding a copy of… -
Is Chivalry Dead?
Earlier today I saw a comment that said "Personally I would consider it an explicit insult if someone called me a manly man." While that would be understandable if the poster was female, this was an 18 year old guy. So i… -
When Does Bashfulness Become Ridiculous?
Okay, so I’ve liked this guy for about six months now. And I know for a fact that he likes (or at least at some point liked) me back. Not to mention we would be practically perfect together. It’s all there. Except for… -
Another Life Lost
We're only 5 days into January and we already have another staggering death. Johnson & Johnson heiress Casey Johnson was pronounced dead Monday, January 4, 2010 at the age of 30. Doctors said she died of natural… -
Giving on Your Day
source TOMS Shoes has come out with a wedding line. The idea I think is brilliant and super symbolic, I think. For those who don't know what Toms shoes are, this is a short video on their mission: *IF YOU DON'T KNO… -
Odd News of the Day: BeautifulPeople.com
The first time I heard about the dating website BeautifulPeople.com, I immediately thought it to be odd. It's a dating website based primarily on looks and appearance. I thought: "Wow, that's sending out the wrong mes… -
I've Been a Naught Buddhist
Meeting your soulmate is only the beginning. I have a bad habit of putting all my happiness in my man. It’s natural and understandable in a way but it’s destructive to the health of your relationship. It’s perfectl… -
How Could He Be So Heartless?
I’ve been seeing this one guy since mid-October, and he is attractive, funny, a great listener, and we share the same passion for hip hop and r&b music. However (could you not smell that “however” coming from a… -
Good Enough For Sex, But Not A Relationship
Ever since the age of 16, I constantly get hit on. Now I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but when it's a guy I might possibly be into and I find out all he wants is sex, it's kind of disappointing. By now I've learn… -
I Deactivated My Facebook and I'm Still Alive
After a breakup, I deactivated my Facebook. I thought it would be hard to stay away, but I knew it would be even harder to fight the urge to stalk my ex on some level. The breakup was mutual, so de-friending wasn't ne… -
You May Be Hot, But You Suck in Bed
A little birdie once told me that hot guys or pretty looking guys rely too much on their good looks to get girls, therefore, they tend to suck in bed. They're use to girls chasing them and they know they're good look… -
A Little [Self] R.E.S.P.E.C.T.
I would just like to say that if a guy doesn’t return your feelings, it absolutely does NOT mean that there is anything whatsoever even remotely wrong with you. I can not stress enough how utterly incorrect this assumpti… -
Break Up Lines
Ok, so you have those cheesy pick up lines that we love sharing with our friends... but what about worst break up lines. The ones that make you think that there is a website and that your significant other sat down,… -
Loving Someone Wholly and Completely
There have been several posts in Xangaland lately about the importance of appearance, and it got me thinking. I did at one time hold the belief that appearance shouldn't matter. This was until I fell completely, and… -
Maybe You're Right; You Don't Deserve Me
Have you ever told someone, "You're better off without me"? In the sense that you're too good for me, and I can't be that person that you deserve. I hear it often and honestly, it's not cute. It's not as chivalric as… -
What's Your Favorite LOVE Song?
It's a known fact - everybody wants to be loved, don't they? But what exactly is LOVE? In the musical world, the concept of love has been the basis of many a song. The feelings love evokes have been compared to man… -
Why I Chose Marriage: A Response
My friend mathematicalbagpiper recently wrote an entry entitled, "Why I Choose to be Single," with very compelling reasons as to why he would prefer to not be in a relationship. It was an excellent post, and I can r… -
Romantic Relationships and Friendship
Today, I feel blessed. I have the best friends...and they complete me. Some people touch you in a way you could never imagine and stay forever. Sure, they make mistakes, but so do I. Being friends isn't about being t… -
What Do You Like to Call Your Loved One?
I personally call my boyfriend a smorgasbord of gross cutesy names; sweetheart, honey, baby, Cammens (haha his name is Cameron), teddy bear, panda bear and most recent edition- moobear. (Because pandas are black and w… -
What Makes For A 'Good Girlfriend'?
I've had countless guys tell me that I don't have the right qualities to be their girlfriend, and that relationships with me 'just won't work'. I'm the girl that doesn't like letting the guy pay for my movie, dinn… -
Scandalish: Liquid Dreams... for Girls?
Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Boys and their wet dreams make me laugh. I mean seriously? Have they no control? I always figured that with sex on the brain 24/7 it was only… -
Question of the Day
Let's take a poll on this lovely Sunday morning. Here's the scenario: You are on a first date with a new person. While at the restaurant, you notice that your date has an unfortunate chunk of food stuck in their… -
So, Am I Asking For Too Much?
In a person (relationship or whatever), there are certain things I ask, but I really don't think they're too hard:I ask for you to be honest, even if it will piss me off (I'll get over it)Be sincere, do something beca… -
Fight Fair!
I'm reading some books right now on relationships and healthy communication. Predominantly I'm learning how to handle conflict in a healthier way. I figured I should document the key points of these books. The first… -
Why I Choose To Remain Single
It seems like hardly a day goes by without reading about one of my friends entering into a relationship, a friend breaking up, or hearing about a friend's relationship problems. Relationships just seem to cause nothi… -
Is This Right?
Q. I was in a huge relationship with this guy named John. It was a good relationship at first, but then he got on pills really bad, and he started beating me really bad. He did that for a good year. His friend, Jimmy,… -
Cute, Pretty, Hot, Sexy or Beautiful?
It's interesting to note how words we used to describe people's physical appearances have changed over time and space. For instance, in Victorian times (and much later that for the matter), it was unheard of to use… -
Are You a Whore if You're Materialistic?
If someone loves materialistic things and their main goal is to get married and be a Lady who lunches, does that make them a whore? A group of my friends got together and there's this one girl who is currently in he… -
It's Complicated
I just saw the movie "It's Complicated" starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin (definitely recommend this. It was hysterical). For those of you who don't know the plot basically two divorcees begin having an affair… -
Dating in 2010: 5 Tips to Get You "The One"
Made your fresh start to 2010? Great! Christmas has come and gone, good memories -and a few gifts I hope- have remained. New Year's Eve has come and gone, too. We have hidden the scales away and won't look at them… -
Relationship Advice from a Bisexual
I have read any number of posts on Xanga and elsewhere complaining about the opposite sex. Recently it was men are mean. Many responded in kind with women are bitches. Some men can't stand getting turned down in a bar… -
Talk to Your Significant Other Much?
Question: How often do you talk to your significant other? By "talk" I mean actually talking. Not texting, not IM-ing, not Facebook-ing, like actual voice-to-voice conversation. Notice I didn't say 'face-to-face' be… -
Would You Like Your Own 'Sir Philip Sidney'?
Let me clarify. He was quite the gentleman. Brave, noble, poetic, etc.. etc.. All of which can be seen in his sonet sequence Astrophel and Stella. He fell in love with her (Penelope Devereux, who was married off to… -
Mister 4 A.M.
Q. He and I both work in a bar, so when we see each other it tends to be pretty late at night. Because of this I've never been sure if he comes over to see me because he likes me or because he views our situation as… -
They're Probably Not Worth It, You Should Probably Move On.
I'm not trying to dismiss the complexity of human relationships. But I cannot be the only person who knows that one couple... I feel like everyone has one. They've been dating for like 8 billion years, they fight const… -
Confused, Betrayed, Lost
Whenever I log into Facebook, sometimes I would see status updates from one of my exes, Cody. His latest updates on his status were talking about how he's in so much pain because of his dad dying. I've seen one of h… -
Why Does Everyone Think I'm Too Young to Want to Settle Down?
When girls are younger, we make lists of the perfect guy. Well, my friends & I did anyway. I'm pretty sure my list was more detailed than my friends'. He had to be tall, blue or green eyes, caring, funny, and l… -
FML Friday!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML". H… -
WYD a Smoker?
I have always been someone who is against smoking, and the thought of dating someone who smoked repulsed me. I am a non-smoker but my mother has been a smoker for most of my life that I have been aware of, so I have… -
Happy New Year from Datingish!
Happy New Year! Kiss the one you love or at least the person standing next to you. It's a new decade! Let's enjoy it!
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