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You Vs. Your SO: Who Has Better Hair?
He got his cut wayyyyy too short recently, so it's still growing out and I will award myself the Better Hair As of Late April award for right now. Who has better hair in your relationship? What's your favorite hair colo… -
WYD: Would You Date Someone with A Mullet?
Ironically worn or not, mullets get an "ehhhhhh, no thanks" in my book. I don't think I would date anyone who could wake up, look in the mirror and say "you know what, this looks good atop my head". I also don't think I… -
Listen Up, Ladies!
Listen up ladies. I am about to jump on my soap box for a second. I am getting sick and tired of hearing about relationship problems here on Xanga - I swear, some people just live to bitch. I see women left and right wh… -
I Hate How Naive I Was about Sex
Miss Alligator I've had sex(ual intercourse) with three people. The only person that I don't regret having sex with is my current boyfriend. I lost my virginity in a friends with benefits sort of situation. To make ma… -
My Speed-Dating Experience
Speed-dating has always fascinated me. The concept seems fun. You meet 10 or so people in one evening, and if they're weirdos, the bell rings and you've moved on. Plus, out of those ten people, one or two have to be to… -
I Didn't Ignore Him While I Was "Going Through A Lot"
There's this guy I met at work last year. At first we were just friends. After I left that job, we started hanging out, and last January, we started having sex together. It was really good...that is, until I realized t… -
The Inappropriate Guy "Friend" Your BF Doesn't Like
Miss Toucan There always seems to be that one guy that makes your BF nervous - the guy that is always around you, fake flirting with you, perhaps even making joking advances, and your BF does not like him. At all.In m… -
Not In A Relationship? You Must Be Sleeping Around!
In the last two weeks, I've had two completely unconnected people, of different sexes, declare to me that they think I'm the kind of guy who has one-night stands. Now, honestly, I don't have the greatest of memories, but… -
Is It Silly to be a Hopeless Romantic?
I made a post on Xanga a couple days ago about how I was really going to concentrate on searching for love and searching for a mate. I decided that was more important to me than my search for religious answers, at least… -
WYD: Would You Date Someone Who'd Been Around (or Hadn't)?
Miss Alligator and I were chatting today and she mentioned this guy she goes to school with - he's been with 20 girls since the school year started. Oy. She brought up the question of whether he'd get over his ways and… -
How Can You Console Your SO When Family Problems Arise?
My boyfriend's father left when he was nine, and just recently he started to come back into his life. Every time they make plans, his father cancels or changes them. His dad calls my boyfriend's brother more often; while… -
Why Girls Stay In Abusive Relationships
Miss Penguin In a comment on my last post about how girls actually like nice guys but they have to be confident, musterion99 asked what my explanation was for girls who stay in abusive relationships. Well, this is a… -
When Do You Expect Your SO to Stand Up for You?
Say you've got a problem with your boss, your friend or one of your SO's friends. Do you expect him or her to stick up for you? I understand that when something you've done is immoral or something you said might contradi… -
When Your Gay Friend Says He's Always Crushed on You
Miss Toucan My first year of college was over as of this past Thursday (yessssssssss *happy dance*), and the weekend before that, I got together with some of my friends from high school. My friends Joey and Reba and I h… -
Who Initiates Sex/Kissing In Your Relationship?
Miss AlligatorIn the beginning of our sexual relationship, I initiated sex because I thought my boyfriend wanted me to. Now, he initiates the sex. I think this actually has to do with a fear of rejection on my part. I… -
How Do You Get Over The Fear of Rejection?
Often, I find it happens that people who you don't want show interest in you while the people YOU want don't want anything to do with you.Well here's my story. I've secretly liked this guy for nearly ten years - secretl… -
My BF Wants Me To Be "More Controlling" - What?
I've never been a relationship before, so I'm in need of a little help. My SO wants me to be more "controlling" in our relationship; he feels "more in place that way".He isn't so great at explaining things, so I'm still… -
I'm Juggling More Than One Guy
Miss Reindeer For the first time I am voyaging into the world of dating multiple people at one time. I used to be one of the girls that put all her eggs in one basket - even if I was casually seeing a guy, I wouldn't… -
Sound Off On Virginity
It seems like everyone's having sex nowadays, and they're starting at younger and younger ages. I find it hard to believe that 13-year-olds are doing it, but some are! I'm almost 20 years old, and I'm still a virgin.… -
You Vs. Your SO: Who's More Laid Back?
I feel like both the boyf and I are very laid back people, but I think I might even be more relaxed than he is. Most of the time, I'm a very go-with-the-flow type of person and I don't have a preference on most little ma… -
Guys Translate "I'm Not Interested in Dating" As "Let's Sleep Together!"
Last June I ended a long, difficult relationship. We were together two years, engaged for one year, very messy. I made it a goal not to have any new relationships/dates/sleep with anyone, until I feel I can do so witho… -
What Would You Rather Have in a Man: Passion or Contentment?
Say you had to choose a future between two very opposite men:Would you stay with a guy who has low self esteem, anger management issues, constant family crisis, is very pessimistic and constantly worries about money… -
Getting (Really) Dirty As a Couple
Miss Ostrich Last week, I asked my boyfriend if he'd like me to come home from school to see him for the weekend. He said, "Sure, but I really have to get started on the garden in the backyard." His mother's been talkin… -
His Mom Forbids Him to See Me So We're Secretly Dating
I've been dating Jay for about a year now and I'm madly in love with him. Despite the fact that he tells me that he loves me, I never feel like he truly does and it bothers me. I think it has to deal with the fact that w… -
Nitpicky Things That Are Complete Turnoffs
Miss Reindeer So as you know I've been talking to this guy, H. I like a lot of things about him, but there's one thing that is irking me a little bit. He's a horrific speller. I know that's really stupid and it is… -
When Should You Blame Yourself for the Failure of a Relationship?
I have a friend who parted ways with a guy she was really into, whom she was with for just a month. It took her a while for her to get over him even after the breakup, something I never understood because it was a fairly… -
Guy's Unfaithful Under The Influence of Ambien - Is This Cheating?
Seriously. Check out this story from Slate: I did something recently that concerns me on many levels. I am under a large amount of stress because I'm in an unhappy marriage (which we're trying to work out) and because m… -
I Found Out The Guy I Crushed On Was An A-Hole
I used to like this boy, "Duck," in 10th grade and pretty much liked him for a year straight. I thought he was so perfect: He was good-looking, played a guitar, seemed nice. I couldn't imagine how big a jerk he actually… -
Helping Younger Siblings Through Breakups
Through bleary eyes a faint light flashes. It buzzes softly in rhythm with the glow. Who on Earth would be calling at this time of night? I only hit the sack an hour or so ago, just long enough to fall into a mild dept… -
You Vs. Your SO: You Just Hit A Cone, Bud.
Which one of you is the better driver? How long have you been driving? Neither of us drives regularly, but I think he's probably a better driver than I am. I like to speed and have a pretty poor sense of direction. My b… -
A Flirting Politician - Does He Want You or Your Vote?
Miss Zebra For weeks I've walked around campus seeing various flyers for the candidates running for positions in student government. President, Vice President, Representative, Andrew, Nathaniel, Catherine, etc... Even… -
I'm Tired of Being a Wheel
So, I continually find myself being alone. I hang out with my friends, and I'm alone...they all have their partners there with them...or even talking about their partners. Me? I haven't had a boyfriend in 4 years. Seriou… -
Video: Learn The Guitar = Get Laid
College Humor has it right (best part is at the very end, imo): I taught my BF enough guitar to pick out a handful of songs . . . I think anytime you can teach someone something new, it's always a good bonding session… -
How Do I Get Over The Father of My Child?
To start, I just became a mother at the beginning of this year. I've been single since the father "AK" broke up with me at the end of spring semester last year - next year, it will have been a year ago. At the time, he d… -
He Dumped Her Because She Had Weird Thumbs
In an almost Seinfeldian move, a friend of a friend recently dumped a girl because, in his words, she was boring and had weird thumbs. I can understand the problem with being boring, but appendages?! I am told that the… -
Musical Mondays: Wedding Songs
This is weird, but for the past couple years, I've wanted to have Midnight Train to Georgia in my wedding somehow. This is dorky, but in my mental movie moment, I picture me and my husband-to-be (funnily enough, his face… -
Is She Bi Because of Her Own Choices or Outside Influences?
Normally when someone brings up the subject of a kid being pressured into a specific lifestyle, it is the other way around, but I have severe concerns for my friend's 14 year old daughter and her choice in her sexuality.… -
What is the Importance of Beauty?
Have you ever done something you normally wouldn't do because of the presence of the opposing gender? I know I'm plenty guilty and shallow to the above statement. If somebody were to ask me if I wanted to go eat at a pl… -
The 8 Phases of Dating
These were created and illustrated by Matthew Inman of Mingle2. Awesome! (click to enlarge) -
Does a Gay Man Have a Shot with a Straight Man?
I used to think the answer to this question was an obvious no, but now I'm starting to rethink that. I know many guys who have experimented sexually with another guy. Maybe it was once during college. Maybe it happened d… -
I'm Not A Romantic...At All.
I've recently come to realize that I'm not a romantic. At all. Whenever boys do anything romantic for me, it just makes me dislike them even more. I'm not all that sentimental, either. I think I sometimes lack sensitivi… -
Reality Check: He Doesn't Love You When...
You know that girl who stays in a relationship, even when they're emotionally/verbally abusive or draining? The girl thinks it's love, but to the outsider, it just doesn't look right.So this girl is always asking, "Does… -
ABC Explores Stereotypes and Tolerance in A New Jersey Bar
ABC News ran a segment recently where they hired five actors to sit in a sports bar in New Jersey - two guys (a real life couple) portrayed a gay couple, a guy and a girl played a straight couple and one guy played a ver… -
Would You Use A Site to Track Your Sex Life?
And you thought you'd seen everything online - check out Bedpost, an app that lets you keep track of the frequency, dates and ratings of your rolls in the hay. The site keeps track of the dates, amount of time spent and… -
I Regret Breaking Up With Her For My Ex
I'm a sophomore in high school who just got out of a relationship. During the first month of our relationship, we took everything slow. I was her second boyfriend, and I treated her like a delicate flower. I kept re… -
He Wrote That About Me!...In 1873
Miss Ostrich I just finished Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy. Even though the story did not apply to me, there was one section featuring inner dialogue of the title character, Anna, that blew my mind. She was debating wit… -
Flirting with Magic - Watch Me Pull A Rabbit Outta My...
Some of those guys look serious. Oh man. How would you respond if someone tried to pick you up by showing you magic tricks? -
You Vs. Your SO: Bookworms
Do you guys have favorite authors? He loves Steinbeck and Vonnegut (I felt literarily dumb when I met him and I'm pretty well-read!) and I like Joan Didion and Richard Yates. If you're not book nerds, who are your favor… -
I Have to Beg Him to Care About a Big Part of My Life
Miss Ostrich With finals approaching, I've been pulling all-nighters all week and stressing out everyday about the stories I have due, and the readings I have to do in front of dozens of people at the end of the month.… -
WYD: Would You Date Someone Who Made Racist Remarks?
Let's say you meet someone incredible - this person is always kind to you, is polite and respectful and an incredible kisser . . . but every once in a while, he/she spouts off some incredibly racist remarks. Would you d… -
Cardboard Love: When All You Have Is Words And Cardboard
JH started writing love notes to his lady friend on cardboard and posting them online - and people got excited about it! "I never really intended for these little bits of cardboard to be a big deal, but the response has… -
I'm in Love with My Best Friend, But She's Dating a Wannabe
I'm in love with my best friend, but she is in a long distance relationship with another guy. I'm happy for her. I really am. I'm happy that she's happy. It's just hard for me because it's the first time I have felt… -
No One Will Accept Us Because He's Immature
There is this guy in school. He is 2 years and 3 months younger than me (he is now 20), but he acts and talks like a kid. That is his charm. He's really fun to hang out with, and we share the same interests. We are b… -
Do You Celebrate Every Monthaversary?
Miss Alligator Do you celebrate every month of your relationship that passes? If so, how do you celebrate? What about anniversaries? Also, after your first anniversary, do you think you'd still celebrate each month?… -
True Love At Last - Heidi And Spencer Are Getting Married Today
Ah, young love. Heidi Montag and Spencer Pratt will marry (for real this time, you guys!) in Pasadena, California today. The ceremony will take place in Westminster Presbyterian Church (just like Heidi wanted) and Hills… -
Seattle Couple Hears Gunshots, Keeps Making Out Anyway
via Seattle Times: A man and woman were sitting in a car on Beacon Avenue South early Sunday morning when they saw a group of kids throwing gang signs and then heard several gunshots. The couple considered calling 911, b… -
What Do Women Want? Ask One - Don't Generalize
Ever notice how conversations about "how to treat a woman" proceed? First, a man will say "I treat women with respect." Another man will pipe in with "Women really want us to lead." A third man will agree, saying "it's… -
You Vs. Your SO: What Are You Middle Namin' Me For?!
Mine's Alice (my great-grandma's name) and his is Justin (it just sounded good with his first name). What are your middle names? (five points if you got the Friends reference ) -
WYD: Would You Date A Celebrity?
I would. I think it would be stressful but interesting - and you'd get to see the person for who he or she actually was, not what movies/TV/whatever said he/she was supposed to be like. Would you date a celebrity? -
My BF Wants to Get Me A Promise Ring - I Don't Want One!
So my BF of almost a year is thinking of getting me a promise ring for our one year anniversary. I told him that I don't want him to, not because I don't love him; it's just that it's so expensive, and I don't need anyth… -
Would You Wear This Shirt?
The Passion for Christ Movement is selling shirts that let you proclaim your victory over hypocrisy, masturbation and porn addiction, among other topics. You can read more about the store's launch and hear the story b… -
Russian Hairdresser Forced Robber into Being Her Sex Slave
Miss Ostrich I found this article a few days ago. It's too ridiculous not to share: A hairdresser from the small Russian town of Meshchovsk has subdued a man who tried to rob her shop, and then raped him for three day… -
Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Sex?
Miss Alligator When I told my best friend from home that my boyfriend and I had sex every other day or so, she told me she thought that was too much. However, now that she and her boyfriend are having sex, she's singin… -
6 Things That Are Fine to Ask a Woman (Not A Girl)
(in response to this post) 1) Are you okay? Please, please men, don't stop asking this question. It shows that you do sincerely care about our feelings and if we're upset. I don't understand why so many women agreed… -
FML FRIDAY!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Friday Fun: How Similar Are Your Exes' Personalities and Looks?
I haven't dated very many guys, but the ones I either crushed on or dated casually were actually pretty similar. I guess have a type - I tend to gravitate toward tall, lanky guys who are shy and a little bit dorky. They… -
Are You Okay with Your Number of Partners?
Miss Reindeer Mine is 4. I have had sex with 4 men. At the age of 23, that's not too bad I don't think. But I'll be honest with you, I pretty much thought I was going to cap it off at 4. Well that is no longer the… -
You Vs. Your SO: Current Obsessions
He discovered "I'm On A Boat" this week after he heard his coworkers talking about it (I was, like, "hi, have you been on the internet since February?") . . . and is in love with it. His rapping face is pretty cute. I… -
How Soon Is Too Soon to Say "I Love You"?
So I've been official with my boyfriend for almost two months now, although we have been friends for a few months longer than that. Though I was seeing somebody else when we first met, I have never been as happy as I am… -
WYD: Would You Date Someone Who Was Blind or Deaf?
I would definitely date a deaf person. I know a little bit of American Sign Language and I feel like we'd be able to communicate pretty well as long as we both made an effort. It wouldn't be easy, but I think it's defin… -
We're Not Serious, So Is This A Rebound Relationship?
Miss Reindeer The "rebound relationship" has a lot of negative connotations. People wonder if it's too soon, if you're confusing lust with love, if you're going to hurt the reboundee, etc. But I think if both people… -
He'll Wait For Me To Love Him - But Will I Ever? I Don't Know...
So I have this best friend. Let's call him Bob. Sweet, smart, (can be) funny, and a total gentleman. He graduated uni last year, but came back to town shortly after his uncle died in some time in February. Then he never… -
Nothing Compares to Your First Love
photo source At 14, as a freshman, I only thought of what love was; in middle school people just say, "I love you" to their boy/girlfriends and mutual friends. Then there was the common, "I said that I love you; I'm ju… -
Letting Go of Anger from Past Relationships
I once dated "Chris" for three months over one summer, then again the next January for one and a half year. During the first time, I treated him decently but wasn't 100% into it but he kept getting pushy, wanting me to b… -
Postal Worker Allegedly Steals Breakup Book
Via Yahoo!: A Pittsburgh postal worker faces up to 10 years in prison if she's convicted of stealing two items of dubious value from the mail: $25, and a book on a woman's perspective of breaking up with men.... Pos… -
How Will We Love?
Well worth the time if you have an hour or so of free time on your hands. Here's the trailer - the link to the entire video is here. Do you think the perception of love and marriage has changed for the better or worse?(… -
You Vs. Your SO: Who's More Environmentally Conscious?
Okay, it's Earth Day and I couldn't ask if you would date the earth or something (answer: I would date Jupiter) so I thought this would be just as well. Which one of you is more environmentally conscious? I was in Env… -
If Your Parents Are No Longer Together, How Did You Deal with It?
I was babysitting yesterday, and the girls and I were reading a magazine toward young/teen girls together. One girl wrote in asking for advice, and her predicament was an interesting one. Her dad had died five years befo… -
Finish The Sentence #5
I would stop what I was doing and jump someone immediately if he/she ____________________________________________ for me. -
WYD: Would You Date A Vegan?
My poor boyf is subjected to my discussions about potential Datingish posts all the time. I ask him all sorts of ridiculous questions because I think they'd be good topics, and he humors me, god bless him. Anyway, we w… -
Routine Relationships Become Hard Habits To Break
I've never been the type of girl who casually dates and lives it up "single-style". Since high school, I have always been in and out of serious relationships with men who I was convinced at the time were all "the one"… -
How Have Your Exes Helped Shape Who You Are?
Over the past few years, I have gone on several dates with guys I've gotten to know: former college/high school friends, etc. and what I've come to notice about dating in your 20s is that we all carry our past with us.… -
Was I Flirting Or Was It Not A Big Deal?
Miss Alligator I've been in what I'd call a serious relationship for almost 7 months with a guy I couldn't be happier with. Now with that said, here's the story: I was in my English class and my professor split the… -
Is Hollywood Casting The Roles for Our Love Lives?
I'm sure you've all heard the popular saying "nice guys finish last". Well, I'm here to tell you that this is no longer the truth. Steering clear of the "bad boy" phase that erupted in the 80s, these days women are looki… -
What Song Reflects Your Love Life?
I think we've all listened to a love song and said "awww, doesn't that sound like us?" or "Didn't that sound like us BACK THEN?". There are particular songs that are/were significant to your relationship with your SO (we… -
Michael Cera's Paper Heart Trailer Is Adorable
Michael Cera + his real life GF + fake documentary about love = me turning into a pile of mush. Take a look at this trailer: Who can't wait for August?! -
You Vs. Your SO: Majorly Cool
What were/are your majors in college? If you aren't in college yet, what do you guys plan to major in? I have a bachelor's in French (ouaiiiiis) and a minor in telecommunications. His degree's in journalism with a minor… -
Is This Guy Looking For A GF or Job Hunting?
Great, now what I used to get on MySpace is slowly moving over to Facebook: Hey, How are you? I'm sending you this message because I think you're really cute and I'm wondering whether you would be interested in dating… -
Bouncing Back After A Baaaaad Breakup
Miss Reindeer You like that alliteration? So suffice it to say, March 2009 was probably the most craptacular month of my entire life. The biggest contribution to that was being dumped by someone I thought I was go… -
Long-Term LDRs - Is It Worth It If The Future's Uncertain?
Last September I started a two semester program at a university more than 4,000 miles away from the school I actually attend (think of him as being in one corner of the US and me being in the opposite one). The experie… -
Is There An Expiration Date on Exes?
This month marks two years since I started my last relationship, and a year and half that I have been without one completely. It also marks the end of six months of silence between me and my most recent ex. Last… -
Meet Miss Alligator!
Miss Alligator Location: Greensboro, North Carolina (and Rockville, Maryland when school isn't in session) Age: 18 Occupation: Psychology and photography student About Me: I'm a quiet girl who has a lot to say… -
Is This Guy A Player or A Keeper?
There is a guy who I'm interested in, but I can't tell if he wants something serious or was just trying to get with me. My friends and I went to visit him this last weekend at his college and since we didn't know anyone… -
Miss USA, Gay Marriage And The Lesser of Two Evils
So a certain trolly blogger turned VH1 clip show participant (who doesn't need the extra attention, so he can just be The Blogger) was a judge in this year's Miss USA pageant. Check out the video here as he asks Miss Cal… -
ALERT: You Cannot Get Pregnant From Webcam Sex
via FAILBlog: (click to enlarge) My favorite part is the (Audience Discretion Please) warning after the part about having an orgasm. Hilar. -
What Makes Your SO Perfect In Your Eyes?
We all have flaws and not-so-good qualities hidden somewhere in us all, but we also possess some of the most wonderful characteristics that make us who we are. You might say that you have the most "perfect boyfriend" or… -
You Vs. Your SO: zzzzzzzz...
Who snores - you? your BF/GF? neither of you? I am a mild to moderate snorer. It's one thing I'm totally self-conscious about because aside from wearing Breathe Right (HOT), there isn't much I can do. So it goes. -
Nobody On TV Graduates With A V-Card Intact
I just read an interesting blog on the NYTimes site about how TV shows portray virginity; most specifically, the author was talking about Friday Night Lights (if you haven't seen it, watch it online NOW). I won't spoil… -
I Visited My GF Secretly; Her Parents Caught Us...Now What?
My girlfriend lives in another country, and I went to visit her secretly without our parents' knowledge. Our parents are okay with us dating, but they believe we are too young to publicly announce it to everyone, so the… -
*vomit* - Girls Walk In On Taco Bell Bathroom Sex
Um, no quiero. Via WNDU: The parents of two young girls say their daughters walked into a downtown restaurant bathroom and saw four people having sex. Their parents are so disturbed, they want all parents to be aware.… -
Love Is Blind - Check Out This Braille Ring
Artist Mikala Mortensen from Denmark designed these amazing rings - from far away, they just look like they've got dots on them, but they actually say "blindlove" in Braille. I like 'em because they're plain enough t… -
You Can't Have 4/20 Without A Drugs Post
We've posted a couple entries lately about drugs and alcohol straining relationships. But I don't think we've done an entry about specific instances you will and absolutely won't put up with. I'll start. I would not dat… -
The Secret on How to Marry Mr. Right
As you've probably already discovered, you don't just marry "the right man" and live happily ever after. Because……you've probably discovered that "Mr. Right" is not a person, but an attitude. Because… …when you get mar… -
I'm Gonna Try Dating Out of My League
Lately, I've been running. Two miles. Every day. This is quite different from my usual after school routine a few months ago which included a bottle of Carlo and Scrubs reruns. So last Thursday, as I was running my litt… -
I'm Cheating with a Cheater
I've been in a very hard, arduous but positively progressing relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a bit now. I've been overseas with him to meet his whole family, which included the types of people I really didn… -
When Can You Tell An Ex to Stop Texting Your BF?
My boyfriend "Ray" and I have been together for almost four years. We've definitely have had our ups and downs throughout the past, but we've made it through everything and have come out stronger as a couple. We love eac… -
You Vs. Your SO: Morning Routines
My mornings aren't complete without the Today show, coffee and cereal; he likes to ease into the day by eating yogurt and reading the NYTimes on his laptop. What are your morning routines like? Do they get significan… -
Remember, Men Love to Be Loved
I am writing this to a person who will not even see it. But I feel that I need to unload my heart. So let me unload it to all you married women out there in the Xanga community. I really need to say some things that are… -
Longtime Couple Dies Six Hours Apart
via Yahoo!: Residents of a northeast Kansas town are mourning the deaths just hours apart of an elderly couple who were married 67 years. Arnita Yingling died in her sleep early Saturday at the family's home in Troy. Sh… -
Is It Worth Meeting Up to Break Up?
I've heard way too many stories of how couples should not break up through technology. This includes over instant messenger, text messages, over the phone or any other kind that does not allow the two of you to see eac… -
Being Affected by First Love Syndrome
So, I'd like to think I have a pretty good grip on reality. I'm usually very realistic and I don't let myself get carried away with things that I know aren't going to happen. However, I think I've come up with what I've… -
I Have A Crush On A Guy I Absolutely Can't Crush On
So...here's the thing. I'm 19. I have a crush on a 30 year old (Greg). He's incredibly nice and is fun to be around. Everyone who knows him likes him. He's great with kids, but has none of his own. Helps anyone who needs… -
Women Haters Who Wonder Why They Don't Get Women
Miss Penguin It's been a while since I've written...guess I've been busy! That and I just haven't been sure what to write because my love life is overly complicated right now. But so the reason I am writing today is b… -
In Love with Two Men, Part II
As the days went on, we spent a lot of time together; my perfect man was back at home studying hard for his exams and I only saw him about once a week. I always need someone around me, and James happened to be there. We… -
If The Relationship Wasn't Serious, What Was It?
Sometimes it bothers me when people say "I've only had two serious relationships in my life" or "I've only had ONE serious relationship in my life"...what does that mean?I'm not trying to belittle anyone who says that; r… -
You Vs. Your SO: How Do You Prefer to Communicate?
I am a big fan of texting. It's fast, to-the-point and easier than a phone call. He's a big emailer - we have some email threads that are, like, 100 messages long. Win. I do like emailing because you have sort of a story… -
My BF Never Wants to Do Anything While We're Sober
I was grounded and not allowed to hang with my BF (we're long-distance), so I hadn't seen him in four weeks. I saw him today and wasn't feeling it physically - I mean, I usually do, but this time I was being distant and… -
Should I Let My BF Go to A Strip Club?
I've been in a long distance relationship with this guy for almost a year now. He was a schoolmate, then he went away to another country for college, and with any luck, I'll follow suit. Anyway.I went through his Faceboo… -
Does Not Getting Butterflies Mean Not Being Attracted to Someone?
I was reading the ever entertaining Yahoo! Answers when I came across a conundrum that was worth discussing here. Here's her question: I put a question on my other account and my boyfriend saw it. I wrote that I wasn't… -
Why Is My BF Active on Dating Sites?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years. We've always been close, live together, etc. But some days he can be distant - I mean, we would be in the same house, but we would be doing our own thing… -
w4m Craigslist Missed Connection Success
Miss Ostrich The craigslist Missed Connections section is one of my great guilty pleasures. If you haven't looked through them, you must; they're entertaining, heart-breaking, sick, and sweet all at once. People post… -
In Love with Two Men, Part I
Right now my life is in a situation you will only encounter in a movie. I am in love with two men and faced with a choice, a choice I cannot make. My life was perfect; I was madly in love with my perfect man. He was ever… -
My BF Forgave Me for Cheating But I Can't Forgive Myself
In February of last year, my ex-boyfriend randomly called me, telling me that we needed to talk. I should have just ignored him or told him to go to hell, considering he'd been emotionally abusive for two years before fi… -
"Please Inspire Me to Love You"
This guy is looking for a girlfriend and thought it prudent to start his search online. Well, let's check out what he says. -
You Vs. Your SO: Doing CPR on Your Relationship
So the boyf and I were on shaky ground since the beginning of this week - like "ok, see ya later, good luck with everything" shaky - but we made up last night. It's gonna be something we both have to work on together to… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Is Keeping Naughty Pics of Your Ex Cheating?
Dr. DatingishI did something I don't like to do - I went through my boyfriend's text messages. He had done it to me several times, so I didn't feel too bad, and I would never read his personal conversations, but when I… -
He And I Have Never Met But Text "I Love You"s
We first started talking on an online forum a few years back, not for dating purposes though. We were just two bored people who ended up keeping each other's AIM screen names.Some time later, we started talking again bec… -
I Used To Think That Girls Had No Feelings - Response Blog
No, not really. But I did to a point sympathize in a man's version. Growing up, I used to be good at understanding love, but often wondered if women know about love, or if they were just going through the motions. In oth… -
One Picture Left of Me And My Ex-BF
Before my first boyfriend and I broke up about a year and a half ago, I made him a secret scrapbook I'd been working on from the first day we dated until the end. I spent hours on it each weekend filling it with our most… -
What's Being Disrespectful While Dating?
My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a month. We've been getting along well and he has been the perfect gentleman so far. The other day, we went on a double date with a couple of my friends (who happen to be enga… -
Women Don't Know What They Want?
Can anyone explain to me why any guy feels the need to explain to a girl how he's the better guy for her than anyone else? A guy I know's words were, "Women don't know what they want. They just want guys to beat them a… -
FML Friday!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Friday Fun: Whatcha Doin' This Weekend?
I got nothin'. So...what are you doing this weekend? Here in NYC, it's supposed to be, like, 70 both today and Saturday, so I want to hit up the ice cream truck and walk around until my feet hurt (ten miles? maybe). Su… -
Her F*** Buddy Didn't Visit Her at the Hospital
Miss Ostrich My suitemate Heather (she has her own bedroom, but she shares my bathroom in our dorm) was hospitalized a few days ago because of a blood clot in her leg. She stayed overnight, so a bunch of people visit… -
You Vs. Your SO: More Like Mom or Dad?
Do you take after your mom or your dad more? What about your SO? I think I'm slightly more like my mom - we're the stubborn, silly type . . . and he's more like his dad, I think - mostly keeping to himself but open and… -
I Used to Think Boys Didn't Have Feelings
Sorry, boys; it's true. It's not that I thought guys were incapable of feeling romantically toward a girl, it's just that I never put much thought into it. I would see a couple together and, being one myself, I would fin… -
I Need Creep Repellent
Today I was walking in the library and decided to go upstairs to the second level. After climbing the first flight, I heard some weird sounds, like hissing/whistling/I dunno what. Naturally, I was, like, what the hell?… -
Questioning Historical Figures' Sexualities
Miss Ostrich Today, I looked up the phrase "log cabin Republican" because I've heard it often but had no idea what it meant. Basically, they're an organization of homosexual Republicans, but what confused me was why t… -
Seeing Exes in My Dreams, WTF?!
Lately I've been having dreams that involve seeing two of my three exes (more specifically, my first one - infrequently - and my most recent ex - much more frequently). The funny thing is that nothing with feelings or s… -
Girls Rule In This Ant Farm
via Telegraph: Experts have discovered a South American species that is exclusively female and reproduces asexually by cloning the queen.Reproduction without sex is fairly common in the ant world, but the Mycocepurus sm… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Are You Supposed To Plan A First Kiss?
Dr. DatingishSo I'm 14 years old and still haven't had my first kiss yet, but I've dated a couple of guys before. Anyway, my boyfriend "Anthony" and I have been dating for one month already, and he told me probably five… -
My Boyfriend Is Financially Supporting His Mom
So you meet his parents and they seem nice...too nice. Aren't in-laws meant to be nasty, scary and people you would rather avoid? My boyfriend is Polynesian and is very family oriented. His best mates are his cousins an… -
How Honest Are You In Your Relationships?
I'm the kind of person who will tell you what I really think, how I really feel, and probably at some point, end up hurting your feelings. I can't help it. My stomach gets all queasy when I can't tell someone how I reall… -
Breakups, Facebook Etiquette And You
Check out this video - it's a spoof '50s instructional video about proper Facebook etiquette when you and your swell pal aren't feeling so chummy. My favorite part's when she lists things about Timmy...but see for yourse… -
You Vs. Your SO: Who Knew First?
Who said "I love you" or even "I like you" first - he/she or you? (in our case, he said it first! I thought it, but I was too scared to say it. ) -
My BF Suddenly Decided He Didn't Want A GF Anymore
After over two years of being together, my boyfriend suddenly decided that he didn't want a girlfriend anymore. One of the few reasons he cited was feeling that our relationship had been going downhill for a while. This… -
Being Looked Down Upon Because of Who You're Dating
Reader Krista wrote in on our post about dating someone with a physical handicap:I am in a 2 year relationship with a guy who has Muscular Dystrophy and has been in a wheelchair since he was 5 years old. We are so much… -
Finish The Sentence #4
My most recent relationship taught me never to ______________________________________________. -
How Long Should You Know Someone Before An Engagement?
I'm currently in a long distance relationship with someone. And by long distance, I mean LONG distance. He's in Virginia, I'm in California, and we don't get to see each other often due to school, conflicts with holiday… -
Paul Rudd Reads From Romance Novels; Hilarity Ensues
Harlequin (as in romance novels) is turning 60 this year, and ABC's Nightline celebrated their anniversary by asking famous people (including the always awesome Paul Rudd) to read from some of the novels. The video won't… -
Have You Ever Been Afraid Your Friend's Crush/BF Will Like You?
My best friend has a crush on this guy she likes, and things have been rocky between them ever since they met. Even though they're great friends, communication hasn't been the best part of their friendship. I'd like to… -
Piercings...In Special Places?
This post may be better left private, but what the hell. I'm trying to decide if I should get my nipples and/or clit pierced. I enjoy tattoos and piercings, but I'm not sure if this is for me. The pros would obviously… -
Does Your Yearbook Smiling Mean A Happy Marriage?
"Psychologists have found that how much people smile in old photographs can predict their later success in marriage.In one test, the researchers looked at people's college yearbook photos, and rated their smile intensi… -
You Can't Change The Past; You Can Change Your Perspective
It all started a year ago. I met him through two of my close friends. At first sight, I knew he was something special, someone worth knowing, someone worth having in my life. So that's what I tried to do. I got to know h… -
You Vs. Your SO: Time/Distance
What's the longest you and your SO have ever been apart? How far apart were you? How did you both deal/manage the I-really-miss-him/her moments? -
Promise Rings for Our Anniversary?
Well, I decided that I would be going back home, and lately I've been thinking about my one year anniversary...I'm really excited for it, because the last time I was in a relationship that lasted this long was probably f… -
I Don't Believe In Love At First Sight Anymore
I'm a sucker for anything romantic. I've spent countless hours daydreaming of love at first sight and painting movie-like images in my head (when everything else around, including time, ceases to move and you feel that… -
How to Win Her Heart In 10 (admittedly not so) Easy Steps
A friend of mine asked me for advice on how to get the girl of his dreams. I thought I would share with the rest of the male population out there who are clueless about this topic. How to win her heart in 10 (admittedly… -
Is He Being Patient Or Did He Give Up On Dating Me?
I am totally head over heels for this guy that I met recently. Of course, that's not saying much, because I tend to fall for guys pretty easily, but I would really love some advice on what to do because I am SO confused.… -
Be Honest: Personality Vs. Appearance in A Relationship
I'm guessing everyone has had a conversation about how much personality and/or appearance matters in a relationship at some point. Recently, my cousin asked me what the qualities that I'd like in a future boyfriend were.… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Can You Be Close Friends Who Cuddle?
Dr. DatingishSo, as most stories go...there's this boy. We IM every day, but we rarely see each other - maybe once every month or two. However, when we are together, it's never awkward or uncomfortable. We're generally… -
Lindsay Lohan's eHarmony Profile FTW
Here's the newest Funny or Die video...and I cracked up watching it. Sometimes I'm not sure if celebrities are in on the joke, but this makes it look like even Linds understands how ridiculous the situation is. Check it:… -
Could You Tell When You Were Meant to Be?
Just about a month ago I ran into my best friend in middle school. It had been ten years since I'd seen him because he moved to another city when we started high school. We didn't keep in touch because his family prett… -
So...My Friend Accidentally Lost Her Virginity.
My best friend is the type of person who has a multitude of WHAT THE HELL moments in her life, but this one has definitely surpassed all others.So my friend and her boyfriend have been dating about 2.5 years, and because… -
You Vs. Your SO: Looking Forward
I babysit all the time, so when the kids get out of school (and head to camp/vacation) in June, I'll have evenings free to wander around - woohoo! He and I are also planning on exploring all of New York this summer, whic… -
My BFF's Getting Married And I'm Going to Hear ALL about It
My best friend of 18 years just got engaged a month ago. At first, she didn't know how to react; she was between squealing in complete excitement and worrying that she wasn't ready. I stood at her side, reminding her to… -
Do You Schedule Backup Dates?
A coworker of mine and I were discussing weekend plans recently, and she mentioned sending a text message to her crush, inviting him to a local bar for drinks. After telling her that I hoped he accepted the offer, she t… -
Be A Better Person And End It - Don't Cheat
Oh, the subject of cheating never gets old. The endless debates on who's more likely to cheat, men or women? Of course there is a higher statistic for one of the groups, but why discuss that. The question is, who would… -
Secret Lunch Dates With The Ex - What Would You Do?
Put yourself in this situation - your partner arranges to meet his/her ex for lunch, but it's arranged behind your back. You've been together for maybe...six months, your partner has mentioned his/her ex briefly to be s… -
Dating A Girl with No Family
A while back, I read a piece of advice in a men's magazine.It was something along the lines of: don't date a girl who is on bad terms with her family; she's bound to be trouble.Now, I understand the logic, I really do.… -
Musical Mondays: Favorite Disney Love Song
I went through a very intense Cinderella phase, wherein I watched this movie up to three times a day. My poor parents... Anyway, what stuck after that obsession subsided was my love for "So This Is Love". It's definitel… -
Hold On To Your Love...No, Youth
I was watching Oprah this morning, and on the episode, it was recommended that no one get married before the age of 30...and after hearing Steve Harvey speak, I must say, I agree. Your 20s are when you're still finding… -
I Have A Problem With Physical Intimacy
I am fifteen years old and have never made out with anyone. Now, I know there are people out there older than me who have never even been kissed yet. But that's a different story. It's not that I don't have the chance t… -
I Don't Want Kids; My Boyfriend Does
I've never really wanted kids. I've always been more interested in pursuing a career, traveling, and essentially living without something tying me down. Of course, on the more responsible side, I don't feel like I'll… -
You Vs. Your SO: Grab Your Passports
Is there a particular country you and your SO want to visit on a vacation or extended trip? He's dying to go to Thailand and I've had dreams of going to Australia since sixth grade (that was a while ago). -
F*** Buddies: The Issue of Pride
There really is nothing new under the sun, so they say! But I say that there is something new about the way that some women find it so easy to label themselves as f**k buddies. I understand that people are not as res… -
Finish The Sentence #3
The lamest excuse I used to get out of a date was _________________________. (I told a guy it was too cold to go outside and he told me afterward he thought that was lame - have you ever tried starting your car when it'… -
The True Meaning of Easter
You know what I'm tired of? People taking religious holidays and commercializing them until their original meanings are lost. I'm tired of Easter's true meaning being forgotten by everyone except the followers of its fou… -
How Much Do You Want to Know About Your BF/GF's Ex?
I love hearing ex stories. I like knowing what he/she was like, things he/she did and said, what nicknames he/she used...mostly so I know where things went wrong and how I can avoid that. I've talked to a bunch of peop… -
What Happens If You Break Girl Code?
Someone found Datingish by Googling "what happens if you break girl code"? And while I thought it was kind of funny, it got me thinking that I had no idea what the result would be. Would you be shunned? Have your hair… -
Scars from My Dating Past Have Made Me Stronger
She'd met a guy. At first, she was reluctant to accept his request for a date - she is a skeptic by nature. He won her over with his immense charm and sweet talking. From the first date, he had her wrapped around his… -
There's No Room For Atheist Boyfriends On Easter
Miss Ostrich I'm what's referred to as a "twice-a-year Catholic," meaning I only go to church for Christmas and Easter. I mean absolutely no disrespect with that phrase; I was raised Catholic and still consider myself… -
Scandalish: You On Me, Then Me On You
Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. What sexual position have you found works best for you and your lovahhhh? Was there one in partic… -
Cybersex: Innocent Pastime or Cheating?
Miss Ostrich A friend of mine posed a question to me today that I'm not sure how to answer: "Is having cybersex considered cheating?" My first reaction was to say no, but then as I thought about it more, the answ… -
You Vs. Your SO: Family Affair
How many siblings do you and your SO each have? I've got four (whoaaaaaaaa) and he has one - we're both the eldest in our families. -
My Friend Doesn't Like The Guys I Date
My best friend and I have been friends since we were three - it's been a 13 year friendship of bickering and then making up again. Some people even say we act like we are married! We have talked about everything, when I… -
Plentyoffish Is The #1 Dating Site In The US
From PRNewswire: Plentyoffish.com is now the official #1 online dating site in both the USA and the UK according to Hitwise and is quickly gaining the reputation for being the site where people meet their true love....… -
My Definition of Love
So.. there are lots of definitions of love. Here's mine: Love is not a feeling you have for the one that just happens to be there, or something easy. It's not an emotion you get when you agree with everything they say,… -
How Many Serious Relationships Have You Been In?
How do you define a serious relationship? I've compiled five definitions from different sources so you can see if any of them sound about right. 1. DaynaDaze at Plentyoffish: "I define a serious relationship as being on… -
My GF Still Hasn't Forgotten Her Ex
...and it's getting to me. I have tried to take it lightly because I had faith in her that she would stay loyal. I thought she had totally forgotten him...at least this is what she tells me... Her ex hurt her real bad ba… -
Married Women Might Get You Killed
I'm going to write about something really disturbing - married women that pick up guys and pretend to be single, divorced or separated. I've had a few of these incidents happen and it is a wonder I'm still even here to b… -
Do Kids Damage Marriages?
"Couples who do not have children also show diminished marital quality over time," says Scott Stanley, research professor of psychology at University of Denver. "However, having a baby accelerates the deterioration, espe… -
Date Nights Become Nonexistent in Long Relationships
Miss Ostrich I miss date nights. I've been involved with my current boyfriend for almost two years, and while I'm still very happy, I envy my single girl friends who still get to experience the thrill of getting asked… -
Virginity Anxiety - How Can You Make Things Less Awkward/Nervewracking?
Someone Googled "virginity anxiety" and found Datingish and it made me think about how nervewracking your first time can be is. If you've already had sex, think back to your first time - did you pretty much know it was c… -
You Vs. Your SO: Favorite Smells
(if you don't know the answer to this one, go ask him/her! you might learn something). Today, I asked my BF what his favorite smell in the entire world was. His is ground coffee. Mine is either gasoline, rubber cement o… -
Wanna Impress Members of The Opposite Sex? Stop Trying to Be Cool.
In the first installment of COOL, I wrote briefly on defining what cool is, what being cool means for a person and how being cool isn't always such a great thing. Now, I will elaborate on how being cool can be quite detr… -
Make Your Sausage Taste Like Bacon!
Miss Ostrich From the makers of Bacon Salt comes a new product that brings bacon into the bedroom in a whole new way: The company is REALLY serious about their motto, "Everything should taste like bacon." The lube… -
How Has Your Taste in Guys or Girls Changed?
Have you guys ever noticed that your taste in the opposite sex changes over time? Surprisingly, I just noticed this recently. In the past, I was more attracted to guys that were outgoing, down-to-earth and with a sensit… -
My Family's In Financial Trouble And I Can't Tell My BF, Part II
His catty friend said that I was using him, that I'd cheated on him and treated him like shit. I do admit to treating him badly 'cause he knows how to tick me off, especially when I'm tired and stressed out and all I do… -
I'm Having Relationship Déjà Vu!
There's this guy who isn't exactly subtle about his interest in me. Before yesterday, we'd never really had a real conversation with each other, and his sudden forwardness caught me off guard. The thing is, he's pursuing… -
Do You Read Other Dating Blogs?
We're trying to expand our horizons, so here's a poll: Do you read dating-related sites other than Datingish? What blogs by people who are dating do you enjoy? Link us, plzkthx. xoxo, Team Datingish and the D-Bot -
ZOMG FML Friday!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Friday Fun: How Has Your SO Changed You?
I bake more, I'm slightly less frustrated about little things (mainly public transportation and finding a wifi signal - I have no patience whatsoever) and I've gotten much lovey-dovier. Awwww... How have you changed you… -
Woman's License Plate Reads ILVTOFU - She Meant Bean Curd, Guys!
This is going to be one of those things where if you read it one way, you're probably a perv, and if you read it the other way, you probably like soybeans. Via Yahoo!: One Colorado woman's love for tofu has been judged… -
You Vs. Your SO: Where Were You Born?
Where were you guys born? Bonus points if you Google Map it and get the approximate distance - just click "Get directions" and type in your cities and states! He was born in California and I was born in Ohio - our citi… -
My Family's In Financial Trouble And I Can't Tell My BF
Over the last few months, I'd been keeping a big secret from my BF for the following reasons: 1) He tends to spaz out (ex.: OMG I HAD NO IDEA WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME) 2) He dives into the situation without knowing the en… -
The What If Guy And How My Life'd Be Different
Apparently, my What If guy just realized I had a son. Random. I guess he never noticed the pictures I posted on Facebook before. I'm guessing with the new Facebook, he saw my status about Eli sleeping and it finally clic… -
Is My Friend Being Playful Or Is She Attracted to Me?
So I have this friend. I'll call her Jane. We have known each other for years now, since we were 11 years old. We've changed a lot. And I remember when I came out to her and told her that I thought I might be attracted t… -
Is It Naive To Think My Ex and I Will Get Back Together?
I dated this guy for a little over two years. Even though we were young, we were head over heels in love, and we both knew it immediately. I don't believe in love at first sight, but we were the closest thing to it. We h… -
Getting Involved with The Boss Is Never a Good Idea
Miss Ostrich My friend Wendy is in love with her boss. At least, she claims to be. He's young (26), a successful film director, and very attractive (I've seen pictures - think Jim from The Office with a beard). The pro… -
Love by Zodiac Signs
I don't know if everyone does this, but I also want to introduce you into a little thing I used to do - getting into a relationship based upon horoscopes. Ever since I read a lot in high school, I took the horoscopes tha… -
"No, I'm Not in High School...And You're Married!"
A guy came to fix our DTV (which had only been installed a couple days and was already messed up) and he seemed pleasant. At first. He made small talk, tested our equipment, then fixed everything. Awesome customer servi… -
Chimps Trade Meat for Sex, Companionship
This is amazing...and possibly why I am attracted to a gentleman who offers me part of his BLT. From BBC News: Chimpanzees enter into "deals" whereby they exchange meat for sex, according to researchers. Male chimps t… -
Making Sacrifices in Relationships
Many people sacrifice a bit (or a little more than a bit) of their own happiness out of selflessness so that their SO can have his/her own happiness. Knowing that something will make someone we love so much happy means… -
You Vs. Your SO: Is It Complicated?
Both of ours say "in a relationship," but neither of us really likes linking our names on the profiles (it's a little too carve-your-initials-on-a-tree for me), so...yeah! What's your relationship status on Facebook? -
He Untagged Himself from The Pictures We Were In Together
Friday night, my friend invited me to hang out with her and three of her guy friends. I don't know them that well and I'd only met two of them once before, but I was bored and I haven't seen my girl in so long, I didn't… -
Why Did The Guy Who Broke My Heart Block Me?
Four months ago, a guy that had broken my heart almost three years ago decided to add me as a friend again. We used to be on each other's FB, but I deleted him maybe a year ago when I was feeling particularly nonchal… -
Relationship Status And Insecurity
My suitemate got into an argument with her boyfriend last night because she put up a picture of them together up on Facebook. The boy said that while others know that he's in a relationship, he doesn't necessarily want t… -
How Do I Tell My Online BF I Don't Think Our LDR Will Work?
My boyfriend "Simon" and I met on a website called World Wide Asianz. The website is for Asians and others who like the Asian culture to talk and to have fun...it's like MySpace or Facebook. He added me and we started t… -
Programming Note: Posts Tonight Are About Facebook, Etc.
Some of you guys love Facebook. Some of you hate it. Either way, we had a handful of submissions about the site (and other various online endeavors with significant others) lately, so I'm dubbing tonight - one night onl… -
Follow-Up: Circumcision Clarification
(original post is here) Okay, so the guy has very good hygiene and spends, like, 30 minutes in the bathroom getting ready just to go to Starbucks! LET ME CLARIFY: I have no problem with penises with foreskin! They're j… -
Dear Future Husband
Dear Future Husband,I wonder if I know you or have yet to meet you. Either way, I know I think about you all the time. I know you are out there because I can feel your presence when I close my eyes. Though I may not k… -
My Roommate's Girlfriend is Gay...We Think
Miss Ostrich My roommate has been dating "Kelly" for about seven months now, and while she's a nice girl, we are all starting to suspect she might be gay. Everyone, that is, except my roommate. Though it's not my busine… -
My BF Won't Try to Get Along with My Family
I've been with my BF for two months. We broke up just before Christmas after two months and got back together earlier this year. Things have been going okay - some things are better than they were and some things are wor… -
You Vs. Your SO: What Do You Like to Wear?
I'm a jeans and t-shirt (okay, sundresses and flipflops when it hits 60 degrees) kind of girl and he's the king of flannel. Hot. I think we've kind of met in the middle, too - I introduced him to the Tri-Blend shirts I… -
Busting Romantic Cliches: I'd Take a Bullet For You
Miss Ostrich I have a problem with "romantic" cliches. I've heard too many girls say, "I love him so much. I would LITERALLY take a bullet for him," while talking about their little 8th grade boyfriends. In rural New Je… -
Are There Girls That Have Trouble Talking to Guys?
Being that I am a girl, I always felt like there were more awkward guys than there were awkward girls. What I mean by that is that there are more boys who have trouble dealing with and talking to girls than there are gir… -
Why Ask For My Number If You're Already Taken?!
Last week, I wrote a post about a guy I like who has the same name as my ex. While SameNameGuy and I were talking, he mentioned his "girlfriend"; however, I am not convinced he has one, because he made some lame joke t… -
"Engorged Breasts" Don't Make For Comfortable Dinner Conversation
Miss Ostrich Here's a quick f***mylife moment I had the other night: I was sitting at dinner with my boyfriend and his mom, dad and sister. His mom started talking about when she was pregnant with his sister and how… -
Dating A Repeat Offender
My ex and I started going out when he was a junior in high school and I was a senior. I'm now a freshman at my local community college and he's still in high school. The week before I was graduating from high school, h… -
Hooking Up with An Uncircumcised Guy Was Gross
So I recently hooked up with a guy who is uncircumcised, and let me tell you, that won't happen again! I know it seems shady, but I've always been with circumcised guys and seeing/touching/feeling a penis that wasn't… -
The Phrase "Having Sex" Makes It Sound Like A Chore
To have sex with someone is different than making love to him or her, and making love to someone is completely different from f***ing him or her. You would f*** someone that you cared nothing about. A one night stand. A… -
If You Like Pina Coladas And Believing In Fate...
So my best friend Blaine and I were debating last night. We have some overlapping musical interests, but tend to go completely separate ways with what we listen to frequently (he likes metal while I like top 40 stuff). T… -
I Quit Smoking, He's Unemployed And Both Are Affecting Our Relationship
My boyfriend of six months was down yesterday and I pestered him until he told me what was wrong. I shouldn't have done that, though, because he admitted to me that he was worried our personalities weren't compatible. H… -
You Vs. Your SO: What Do You Do In Your Downtime?
Okay, so I'm an addict and like to be on the computer alllllllllll the time. When I have downtime and am just hanging out at home, I'm usually surfing and sort of watching TV at the same time (I'm a multitasker!). He's m… -
Why Flirts Are The Way They Are
A couple days ago this theory hit me. The guys joking around with every girl they see or the girl that's being friendly to every guy she sees - why are they acting that way? My theory: Flirts become flirts after they los… -
Relationship Radars and Being A Chick Magnet
Everyone's familiar with the term "chick magnet". Just to embarass my sister a little, when she was in preschool, she called herself a "boy magnet" because all of the little boys wanted to play with her. Unfortunately,… -
Manilajones' Relationship Advice
(This post was inspired by Jay-Z's 99 Problems.) I don't know exactly what the purpose of being in a relationship is, but I have an idea. It's nice to have someone to have dinner and go to weddings with. It's good to ha… -
In A Relationship And Hanging Out - What's Crossing The Line?
I have been dating this guy for over three years now. Up until lately, everything has been wonderful between us, but lately, things have been strained. We are stuck in a rut, and it is wearing on both of us. He has a fai… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Defy My Parents Or My Crush?
Dr. Datingish I have never had a boyfriend, let alone been kissed by any guy in my whole seventeen years of living. I'm not bothered by this because my first priority has always been my academics - intimate relationship… -
Musical Mondays: Positive Love Songs
Steph pointed out that we had been mentioning some really downers of songs lately - so here are her picks for positive love songs! Send us your own here! Bjork - Like Someone In Love Robert Palmer - Addicted to Love The… -
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Hey BF, Where's My Attention?
My boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year. We are almost perfect, but we have some problems - he doesn't like to make out, he doesn't like to hold me very often and he doesn't give me compliments. He says he love… -
Lingerie For The Thrifty Girl
Hey all, I was reading this blog where a girl wrote that she didn't know what kinds of lingerie or whatever to wear for her boyfriend to spice things up a bit. So, I was tempted to post and share my (and my boyfriend's… -
You Vs. Your SO: Who's Neater?
My apartment is crammed with stuff and I usually have coffee mugs all over the place . . . I need to do some spring cleaning. His is much neater than mine is and things are more organized - I think he definitely wins on… -
Dates That Would Have Ended Incredibly Badly
I've planned a couple of dates that fell through . . . but that wasn't necessarily a bad thing. 1. I saw that the local soccer team was in the playoffs, so I asked my then-GF if she wanted to go to the game. She polit… -
Nerd Love: Math Teachers Marry on Pi Day
via ArcaMax: A pair of New York state high school teachers said they held their math-infused wedding on the day set aside to commemorate irrational decimal pi. Audra Smith, 25, and Joseph Ahl, 24, math teachers at Fa… -
How Do You Break Up with Someone that Depends On You?
I've been dating this guy for about a year. I started dating him towards the end of my senior year in high school, and now we go to the same university, and we're still dating. He's sweet, nice, cares about me, loves m… -
Is There Ever A Right Time to Meddle in A Relationship?
Most people frown upon homewreckers. However, I don't think I would be a homewrecker if I meddled in this relationship. I won't let him cheat with me, which wouldn't make me a homewrecker. That is the last resort.Here's… -
Two Girls or Not, Public Makeouts Make Me Uncomfortable
Miss Ostrich Yesterday, I was working on a paper in the student lounge at my college when a girl came in, nicely dressed and holding flowers, and sat on the couch a few feet in front of mine. I had the passing thought… -
SHOOT ME! Bloody Valentine's Playlist, Part 2
I realized I left some songs off of the current playlist I have on my iPod, and some songs on the albums I bought at the store. So, this is a Part 2 of SHOOT ME! Hopefully you'll search more for these songs. 1. eels "I'… -
Can You Start Over with Your First Love?
So we dated for two and half years in high school. He was my only "real" boyfriend back then. He apparently had already purchased an engagement ring for me back then - although I didn't learn about this until about eight… -
Scandalish: Phone Sex!
Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. This one is based on a story from Yahoo: An Oregon company has ordered new packaging for its Pe… -
The Forbidden Attraction to A Much Older Guy
Over the past few months, I've been a subscriber of Datingish and I found that the majority of its readers actually give pretty decent advice. It took me a while to decide this, but I would like the Xangan opinion about… -
You Vs. Your SO: Go-To Drinks
I'm all about the vodka tonic and he likes gin martinis. Non-alcoholic? He and I dig coffee and Diet Coke (ooh, and Coke Zero and Cherry Coke Zero)...I was thrilled to find a guy who did not ask me to explain why practic… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: I Feel Like I'm Dating Myself
Dr. Datingish I have been with this guy for about seven months officially, but we have been seeing each other for much longer. I really do like him and I know that he really loves me. But the thing is, lately I feel as… -
Stalking 2.0
Miss Ostrich My friend Laura has been dating this guy for about two months. They're both shy kids who don't have the guts to ask questions each other about their pasts, if they're in a relationship together or just cas… -
Sex In Your City in May of 2010
Sex and the City 2 will hit theaters May 28, 2010, E! reports. All four stars will be back for the sequel after the first movie grossed $415 million worldwide. WHO'S EXCITED? [crickets] Did you see the first SatC movi… -
FAIL: Guy Drops Engagement Ring Through Brooklyn Bridge
Guy proposes to girl on the Brooklyn Bridge. Guy drops ring. Girl says yes after guy retrieves ring. via AOL: Determined to save her ring, he scaled the side of the bridge as motorists, thinking he was suicidal, be… -
Which is Worse - Being the Cheater or the Other Woman?
I have a friend who recently was "the other woman" in her relationship. Although one can argue this situation was accidental, considering the circumstances that led up to it, I can say it was not completely accidental. T… -
Single? Wear This Button to Tell Everyone So.
For $22.95, Australian-based site Yes I Am Single lets site users meet a bunch of people online, access discussion forums, start offline meetups with members and buy a badge with the site's URL on it to wear proudly. It'… -
OH, INTERNET...50 Sexting Acronyms Parents Should Know
NetLingo came up with a list of acronyms that should be red flags for parents if they see their kids texting/IMing/smoke signaling them. While I respect their trying to keep parents up-to-date, most of these are complete… -
Really, REALLY Specific Dating Sites, Part II
Miss Ostrich Since everyone commented about my missing Married But Single (NSFW!!!) in the other specific dating site post, and wanted another list, here are a few more I found that are a little less extreme, but not… -
Finish The Sentence #2
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You Vs. Your SO: Who's Older?
I've crushed on younguns, but I've only dated older guys. I'm 23 and he's 24. How old are you and your SO? Do you prefer to date people older or younger than yourself? -
I Can't Have My Cake And Eat It, Too
My BF Rick and I have been dating for two years and everything is good. I've always had a problem with Rick not finishing college and from time to time have felt that his knowledge isn't up to my standards, but I have pu… -
Platonic Relationships with The Opposite Sex
"How to seduce a woman in 10 easy steps!" "How to attract women when you first meet them. Click here to find out how!" I'm sure with the internet and television nowadays you'd come across something along the lines of… -
I Need Five Months of "Friend Time" Before We Have A Relationship
I recently got to know this guy; we've been talking non-stop for about three weeks now, and I'm embarrassed to say that I find myself wanting to be in a relationship with him. Why am I embarrassed? In the past, I've al… -
Can't Decide If Dressing Up for Sex Is Silly or Brilliant
I was reading comments on a Glamour post about love and read this comment about how one woman drove her husband crazy (in a good way): I've tried wearing my old Halloween costumes on occasion and my ex really enjoyed… -
SHOOT ME!: BlackSunshine7's Bloody Valentine's Playlist
The reason I titled this shoot me is because I really don't like the idea of piggybacking off of the ideas, but a list of songs or whatnot seems like a thing anyone can answer. And right now I'll give you the breakup son… -
It's That Time Again - FML Friday
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Iowa Ruling Allows Same-Sex Marriage
From theatlantic.com: In a unanimous decision, Iowa's Supreme Court ruled that the state cannot prohibit same-sex couples from seeking marriage licenses. "On our review, we hold the Iowa marriage statute violates the eq… -
Friday Fun: It's Our Nine Monthaversary - Win Premium!
As of Monday, we've been online for nine months and posted over 1500 entries. Phew. Anyway, what better time than now to do another Premium giveaway? *first one is here Leave a comment with the name of your favorite Da… -
Why the F*** Do You Have a Kid.com
Miss Ostrich To all of you young people having babies, beware of this website: Whythef***doyouhaveakid.com The website is set up so anyone can send in found pictures (I'm going out on a limb and saying not their o… -
You Vs. Your SO: Furry Friends
Even if they're not pets you own together, what kind of pets do you and your SO have? I have a dog and two cats at home and he has a big furry dog named Taz. edit: this is my dog, Ellie, pictured with her boyfriend,… -
Don't Ignore Relationship Problems - They Won't Go Away
You think you've finally met Mr. Right. He's just perfect...until one day he takes off his shirt and *scream* his back is as hairy as those '70s shag carpets. Then you give him the boot! You can't have a guy with somethi… -
My BF Feels Inferior And I Don't Know What to Do
Ultimatums blow. They're even worse when they come from your own brain. My boyfriend and I have known each other for four years. We dated once before for about a month, but it, um, ended and it wasn't pretty. Since then,… -
I Crush On Older Married Guys
(I should preface this by saying that despite my crushes, I would never act upon them; homewrecking is not my style and I already have a gentleman friend who is my age, beyond wonderful and a habitual Datingish reader .… -
I Asked Him to Prom - He'll "Think About It" - What?
Well, as I'm sure most of you know, prom season is fast approaching. I decided to bite the bullet and ask out the guy I liked... and he said he'd "think about it". So, I was all nervous about before my school play - a… -
The Comeback Curse: Guys Who Return from Out of Nowhere
I don't know if this is embedded in every guy's DNA, if it's just a coincidence or if I'm just overanalyzing certain situations, but I seriously think I have been struck with the comeback curse. To me, the comeback curse… -
My Favorite Slightly Meaner Breakup Song, Part III
This is the meanest breakup song that I secretly LOVE listening to: F.U.R.B by Frankee (it's a response to Eamon's F**k It). The language on both songs is pretty strong, so...put on headphones. If I had the guts to ca… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: He "Just Wanted to Be Single"
Dr. Datingish My BF and I broke up about six weeks ago. Throughout the three years we dated, he has been the sweetest guy to me and we have had some of the best memories together. During our fight, he had listed all th… -
Three's Company - You, Your Husband And Your Ex
This morning as I was driving to the train station, I was listening to the morning radio show. This morning, they were talking about a man (Guy 1) and a woman who got a divorce. The woman remarried another guy (Guy 2) an… -
The Last Word on Nice Guys
I really cannot take one more "nice" guy bitching about how nice guys always finish last. You know what that means? He didn't get to bang the girl. "Nice" guys aren't really nice, they're strategists. Just like the d… -
You Vs. Your SO: Height Difference
I'm almost 5'10" and he's a little over six feet tall, so we're pretty close but still have a pretty good difference in height. I love the picture on the right - Shawn Johnson is 4'10" and Michael Phelps is 6'4"! Crazy.… -
How to Attract Better Guys
MSN published an article on how to "position yourself to meet Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right Now" - check it out and tell us what you think! However, there are other things you can do or observe that will help you dete… -
This Guy I Like Has The Same Name As My Ex!
I'm interested in this guy I just met this past weekend.We just connected - we have a lot in common and share interests. Buuuuuuuuuut his name is very close to my ex's - they have the same first name and although they're… -
Chivalrous Guys: I Am Not An Invalid
I just realized that I hate chivalry. I have this guy friend, and every time we go out to eat, he pays for it. I always say that I'll pay for it but somehow he's quicker in handing the money to the cashier. I don't know… -
Heartbroken? Suicide Is Never The Answer
Let me start off by saying, no girl or guy is worth killing yourself over. If you're having thoughts about it, seriously, stop right there. Time heals all wounds. Distract yourself by doing productive things.Recently,… -
Apparently I've Become A Player
Miss Penguin Before I started dating the smotherer (who I am obviously no longer seeing), I was told that he was a huge player and I shouldn't get involved with him. Turns out, I've dated/kissed more people than he ha… -
Favorite Slightly Meaner Breakup Song, Part II
This song actually got me into Killswitch Engage. My Last Serenade "This is my last serenade. From yourself you cannot run away"What better way to let your emotion out than through anger? -
Smashing Stereotypes: Nice Guys Finish Last
Nice guys finish first. ALWAYS. It's the fact of life. They say nice guys finish last because most of them give up before the end of the race, but the truth is, nice guys never finish last if they truly are nice. Trust m… -
Unfunny April Fools' Jokes
Last year, a friend of mine and his girlfriend decided to list their relationship statuses as "engaged" on April 1st. Ha! Get it? It's funny because they're...not...engaged? Uh. Anyway, the people on his friends list di… -
Everyone is Baby Crazy, But I'm Still Sane
Miss Ostrich Friends and girls around me all seem to be catching the baby bug, lately. Admittedly, I did too for awhile, but where I thought, "Aw, babies are adorable," my friends think, "Aw, babies are adorable, and…
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