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You Vs. Your SO: Favorite Movies
What's your favorite movie? Your BF/GF's? (mine is Annie Hall/Singin' In The Rain and I think his is American Beauty!) -
Help My Best Friend See Me As More Than A Friend
I told my best friend, T, who I've known for about 7 months, that when I had first met him I had a small crush on him, but I "got over it" (I clearly haven't). He responded with, "Aww, well, when I first met you, my inte… -
I Hate Expiration Dating
Miss Ostrich Even though I've dated around a lot, I only count myself as being in three serious relationships, one of which I'm currently involved in. The first relationship was with my high school sweetheart, laste… -
Being Faithful When You Only Live Once
I've been in a serious relationship for a few years now. We both care very much for each other and I see myself with him for many years to come. We're both still young, but even our family sees us marrying. Basically, I'… -
The Most Annoying Thing Your BF/GF Does
What is the most annoying thing your SO does? There has to be something, not everyone is perfect! -
She Thinks We're Still Together But We're Not.
Recently, I broke up with "J," my girlfriend of nearly a year. I wanted nothing to do with her; she pissed me off so bad and it was VERY clear at the time that she felt the same. She cannot trust me no matter what, she c… -
Ashton Kutcher's Surprisingly Worthwhile Love Advice
We all know men have problems understanding us - they certainly need help when it comes to our emotions, needs and feelings. Who better to provide the help than Ashton Kutcher? He seems to have finally landed on target w… -
Jenn's Angry Breakup Playlist
Here's Datingish reader Jenn's angry breakup playlist:Hole in the Head - Sugababes I Never Loved You Anyway - The Corrs Seventy Times 7 - Brand New My Girl's Ex-Boyfriend - Relient K Unhappy Birthday - The Smiths No C… -
Why Can't There Be a Magic Wand to Solve Relationship Problems?
Miss Ostrich I hate not being able to solve all of the problems of the person I'm dating. My ex suffers from depression.While we dated, he would not take his medication (usually by mistake), then he'd have episodes w… -
Find Someone Who Just Wants to Go on The Journey with You
I had dinner with a friend at this Viet restaurant in Chinatown today, and the waiter placed us next to a couple who sounded like they were at the end of relationship. It was a WPS situation: Worst Possible Scenario. I t… -
You Vs. Your SO: Your First Cars
What were your first cars? I drove a brootiful '96 Mercury Sable and he drove an old Honda hatchback. -
Are You Obligated to Tell Your SO You Have a Blog?
In the past, I've hid my blogs from people I knew in real life. I kind of don't want to; this time around, though. I want to be open about it with my boyfriend. He doesn't really like the idea of me having a blog. I aske… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm Going Right to Friendship Hell
Dr. Datingish My friend N had a party for her police academy graduation last weekend. There was an AMAZINGLY DELICIOUS guy there, M; I ended up spending most of my night with him and then he drove me home. We spent most… -
Friendship or Relationship - Walking The Fine Lines
I haven't been the luckiest individual when it comes to love, to say the least, and even so early in my life, I have to say I've had at least my fair share of disappointments. Every time I have a passing fancy and act on… -
Common Sense Points for Single Ladies
We girls definitely can turn a blind eye when it comes to love. Here are a few things that should have been common sense for a (mostly) sensible girl like me, but I had to learn them the hard way:Signs He's Looking for… -
Does Being Married Really Make a Difference?
Anyone who's read my blog for a while now knows about the paradigm shift in my current relationship. I'm with a wonderful woman who I feel deserves the very best life has to offer, including the best of myself. This has… -
Musical Mondays: Your Favorite (Slightly Meaner) Breakup Song
I'd rather cut to the chase than dwell on being depressed after a breakup. Maybe that's why "Song For The Dumped" is so appealing to me (warning: there's some not-so-nice language in this). look how young Ben looks! m… -
Single Moms: Myth vs. Reality
Okay, so I am young (19), single and a mother of a baby girl (8 months). The thing that bugs me about dating now is that people assume things about me just because I have a child.Myth #1: You have a child; you must be ea… -
Who's Your Go-To Relationship Guru?
Miss Reindeer I love having a gay best friend. He is seriously fantastic and is always there for me no matter what. Michael and I met during our orientation before our first year of college - we performed a karaoke re… -
You Vs. Your SO: What Were Your First Jobs?
I was a prom consultant at a bridal store and he sold sandwiches at Schlotsky's! What were your first jobs? -
Can You Understand Men Without Being In A Relationship?
My friend and I had this argument the other day about understanding men. She suggested that in order to know how guys are and understand men, you have to be in a serious relationship. I disagree - I think you can under… -
My Short-Lived Trial with Asian Avenue
A few days ago, I signed up for an account on Asian Avenue, thinking that I'd give in and join in on the web race for finding romance. Meeting someone online may not be the most romantic way to find that special someone,… -
You're Allowed to Be A Little Selfish When You Date
Usually, I'm a pretty level headed person. Usually. It's not until I love someone that I forget to put myself first. When I love someone, I love with all my heart and all of me. And that's how I screwed myself over...By… -
Follow-Up: The Worst Ex Ever Has Gotten Even Worse
Awhile ago, I posted a blog about appropriate ex behavior, and I received several comments telling me how much of a douchebag my boyfriend is. Well, it got worse!I confronted Dan with my issues. I told him that I couldn'… -
Dating Someone Who Works for Your Parents?
There's this guy who works with my dad - let's call him Mike. Mike is rather attractive and nice and sweet - he's not too old either; he's maybe five years older than me (probably 28 or so). He's already graduated from u… -
The Craziest Thing I've Done for Love
Long before I ever met the woman I would marry, there was a girl I loved. We met when we were both 16, and I bought some goats from her family. We were never actually a couple - just very good friends - but we shared ho… -
Do Something about Dating Abuse
All right, so I feel the need to touch on this. I've never been a victim of domestic abuse or any kind of abuse, but in light of the Rihanna/Chris Brown incident, I think we need to talk about exactly how important it i… -
Three Things Every Girl Should Know about Cars
There is a domain that remains yet where men are still king - the garage. Men might be dominant in some places, but in all the rest of the world, men furtively glance around before even THINKING about saying something s… -
Scandalish: What Would It Take to Make Your BF/GF Unattractive?
Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. What would it take for you to stop being attracted to your SO? Say he/she gained 50 pounds, had a… -
You Vs. Your SO: What Are Your Future Plans?
What do you and your SO want to do "when you grow up"? Do those plans conflict or do you think your relationship can last? -
How Different Genders Deal with Sex
Miss Penguin I find it interesting that the top two health topics for men on WebMD recently were (1) Weight Loss Boosts Sex and (2) Frequent Masturbation. For women, the top two are: (1) Bad Marriages and (2) Why ha… -
I Know It's Wrong, But I'm Cheating with My Ex
My ex dumped me almost three and a half years ago after we had a year and a half relationship. He wasn't my first BF, but he was the first one I truly loved. After the breakup, he blocked me on MSN, Facebook, everything.… -
Don't Get Offended: Celebrity Crushes are Harmless
I was out with my boyfriend and friends once, and we all decided to share our celebrity crushes. It was all in fun, of course, but I ended up accidentally hurting my boyfriend's feelings. When it came to be my tur… -
How Can I Be There For A Friend Who's Lost A Loved One?
My best guy friend's girlfriend just passed away. He told me that a friend of his and I are the only people who really understand what he's going through. The thing is, I don't know what he's going through. I've only met… -
My Favorite Dance-In-The-Kitchen Song, Part II
Procul Harum's "A Whiter Shade of Pale" is this fantastic song I first heard on the Big Chill soundtrack - it's this melancholy sounding song that's fantastic to sway back and forth to. And although nobody knows exactly… -
Why Catchall Relationship Guides Don't Work for Me
It seems to me that everyone wants to be an advice columnist, because everywhere I go there's a guide that tells people how to function in relationships. Sure, maybe it's a harmless outlet that allows people to vent and… -
Finish The Sentence #1
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He Broke Up with Me Because He Didn't Want An LDR
Although my relationship with Alex only lasted a month, I felt that month was the best time of my life. With him, I felt true love. In my eyes, everything about him just seemed so perfect, so amazing. He could be the… -
Would You Loan Your SO Money?
My friend and I were talking about the latest episode of The Real World today. In the episode, the roomies go to Atlantic City to gamble and hang out - but Katelynn's broke. Scott lets her gamble with some of his money a… -
You Vs. Your SO: What Are You Afraid Of?
Do you or your SO have any irrational fears? I'm sketchy when it comes to bridges and loud noises, and as for him . . . wow, I have no idea. I need to ask him! -
My Friend's in A Toxic Relationship - How Can I Tell Her?
Miss Reindeer Long ago, as a freshman in high school, I introduced my new friend "Vicky" to my friend from grammar school, "Patrick". I thought they would hit it off and make a cute couple. It became pretty clear that… -
"Actions Are Louder Than Words" in Romance
Everyone has heard the saying "actions speak louder than words," and many have used it against others when they feel as though they are not receiving anything more than useless words. Admittedly, there are plenty of peo… -
Does He Have the Right to Take Away My Makeup?
Miss Ostrich I always need to have eyeliner on to feel comfortable before leaving my room or interacting with other people. I guess it springs from being self conscious about the shape of my eyes and face and blah bla… -
Around School, He Was A Preconceived Player
I remember reading "It does not mean anything if you do not put a meaning to it..." on my friend's MSN name. What came into my mind is that we always give meanings to certain things, or people... but most of the time we… -
Book Club - Which Dating Books Have You Read?
Some of the stereotypes we're gonna smash come from The Rules, a notoriously ridiculous book that encourages women to act strangely to land the man of their dreams. I was thinking, though, it'd be cool to cover differen… -
FML Friday
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Friday Fun: Kissing with Braces
Have you kissed anyone with braces (or have you had braces and kissed someone)? Was it disastrous or manageable? (omg it's Friday and it's 60 degrees outside! go out and play) -
Further Evidence That Women Are Impossible to Understand
via Yahoo! News: Women still have a complex and contradictory relationship with their own image according to a poll released on Tuesday that found 25 percent of those questioned would rather win the "America's Next Top… -
Is It Still Considered Flirting If You're Dating The Person?
to flirt (third-person singular simple present flirts, present participle flirting, simple past and past participle flirted)To throw with a jerk or quick effort; to fling suddenly; as, they flirt water in each other's… -
Doing Something Just to Spite Your BF/GF
Miss Ostrich Forgetting to put my headphones in my bag before getting on the subway has its advantages sometimes. The section I walked into was pretty empty, so I sat across from two teenaged looking girls and flippe… -
When Your BF/GF's Obsession Gets in The Way
I was thinking about Fever Pitch the other day. It's based on a Nick Hornby memoir of the same name - in Nick's version, he's obsessed with Premiership soccer, whereas in the movie, Jimmy Fallon's character Ben is obsess… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Is He My Friend, BF or Makeout Buddy?
Dr. Datingish Almost two weeks ago, I met this guy and we connected. One major problem is that he's seven years older than I am - I am underage but we haven't had sex. I still liked him and wanted to get to know him bet… -
"Im Braking ^ Wit U LOL SRY!"
Miss Ostrich A classmate of mine has been complaining about her boyfriend for weeks, and with only five of us (all girls) in the class, we all get involved. Our fifteen minute breaks every week consist of her tellin… -
DNA: 13-Year-Old Alfie Patten Is Not Actually A Father
Remember the story of the 12-year-old father from England? He is not the father (cue Mauryish "OHHHHHHHHH!" from the crowd). From UKFamily: Baby-faced Alfie Patten – who it was claimed had fathered a baby at the age of… -
Sexually Charged Junk Mail Is Funny
I was cleaning out my email inbox today and saw this message: From: dumb spammer Subject: Nothing can seduce women faster thhan a.... Body: Thiis is your penis: 8--o Thiis is your penis on drugs: 8=====OMy best frien… -
Why Nice Guys Finish Last
I know you've heard the phrase about how nice guys finish last. Green Day even wrote a song with that very same title. And it's true. But it's not true because women are sadistic creatures or they like being hurt. It's t… -
He Wants A Good Christian Girl But I'm A Buddhist
I have a friend, "Jake". Jake and I first met in high school - I was a freshman and he was a sophomore. Although we were initially hesitant to talk to each other, we became friends over time. To this day, we remain great… -
I Take Thee...Hold On, Lemme Check My Top 8
From Mashable.com: MySpace is getting into reality TV with a new Web-based series called "Married on MySpace" that will chronicle one couple's journey to their wedding day, with MySpace members driving much of the decis… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: His Parents Have Scared Him Out of Getting Married
Dr. Datingish I've been with my BF for almost five years - we have a 20-month-old baby girl and we even live together now. He asked me to marry him almost three years ago - before we were of legal age. I've waited for a… -
You Vs. Your SO: Who Has Better Taste in Music?
Who has better taste in music - you or your SO? Has dating you improved his/her musical taste? Bonus - what's the most embarrassing song on his/her iTunes? -
How Do You Deal with Sexual Frustration?
Some delightful person found Datingish today by Googling "I need sex". Um, we can talk about it, I guess, but . . . Apparently this person relies on Google to help curb his/her sexual frustration - what do you do? -
Portia de Rossi Jokes, "Sorry I Got Married"
Check out this clip from Jimmy Kimmel's show where Portia de Rossi apologizes for any inconvenience, pain and/or suffering she may have caused by marrying Ellen DeGeneres: I love Portia and Ellen together! Gay or stra… -
Too Old? Divide His Age In Half And Add 7
I was checking my horoscope this morning when I happened to glance at an article written by the astrologer regarding the correlation between age and a relationship. He said the foolproof method of determining whether or… -
An Easy Way to Get Phone Numbers from Women (Does It Work?)
I read this advice on Dating Support Center and wanted to see what you guys thought:Here is an easy way to get phone numbers from women: 1) Flirt with her. 2) Build rapport. 3) Flirt some more. 4) Find something in commo… -
Smashing Stereotypes: Play Hard to Get, Win His Heart
Never be available when he wants you to be. If he asks you out on a Monday, tell him you're only available on Wednesday. And if he calls too late, tell him you've already got plans. This is completely counterproductive.… -
To You, What Is Sexy?
Admittedly, I think of Victoria's Secret first when I think of the word "sexy" - good marketing job, guys. But, truthfully, I don't think their stuff is particularly sexy, nor is anything that intentionally tries to be s… -
Where Does A Relationship End And A Friendship Begin?
My best friend for the past two years has been a girl I was in love with. We dated for ten months before I broke up with her because I couldn't see a future with her. Despite that, we remained the best of friends. Thou… -
Finally! Single Geeks at My Fingertips!
Miss Ostrich Okay, so I promise this is the last post about my love for geeks and nerds, but I came across THE BEST website yesterday: Geek to Geek gk2gk.com is a dating website tailored for helping geeky girls and… -
Hilariously Specific Dating Sites
(also entitled "Where Do I Find a Man Who Loves Smoking and Wearing a Diaper?") Miss Ostrich After finding gk2gk.com (geek specialized!), I wanted to find more specialty dating websites. Here are the most interesting… -
He Wants Us Married In Life AND The Afterlife...Should I Convert?
Once upon a time, there was a young, boisterous, liberal teenage girl. Love was not on her side, but she lived life to the fullest. She knew her fairytale would find its way to her; it would just take a little time. She… -
The Sexual Chemistry Debate
A post last week asked if you'd stay in a relationship where you knew you and your SO would not have sex. Results were mixed but brought up an interesting debate on sexual chemistry and compatibility. BrewsterGK wrot… -
Long Distance Relationships: Notes And Observations
You never notice how many people are in long distance relationships until you are in one yourself. Since my SO (who most of my subs know as Steve) moved to Arizona this past August, I've noticed so many devoted couples w… -
What's Your Sexual Education Background Been Like?
I came from a conflicting background when it came to sex. I was raised Catholic, so that meant lots of "no sex before marriage" chats in religious education; my parents were very realistic about it, telling us about cont… -
Cinderella Causes Mass Hysteria among Single Girls
Why do so many people let romantic relationships control their happiness? A lot of people I know have to have a love interest, otherwise they are sad, depressed, thinking the world is ending, etc. I used to be one of the… -
Facebook Couples: Knock it Off
Miss Ostrich Here is my formal complaint to Facebook couples: Please stop posting hundreds of MySpace-esque and Macbook pictures of you kissing and making faces at the camera. It's not cute after the first three pictu… -
Do I Judge My Friends' Relationships by Unreasonable Standards?
I often find that when my friends talk to me about fights with their boyfriend or how their relationship is going, I always think (but rarely say directly) "I would never stay in a relationship like that!" I don't always… -
Married But In Love with Someone Else
On the way home one night, my wife asked me an interesting question... HER: "Let's say you were a woman..." (I was a bit disturbed, but intrigued nonetheless.) ME: "Um, weird...but okay." HER: "You are a woman, and… -
My Ex Ruined Vanilla For Me Forever
Miss Ostrich A downside to living with a guy is that I can't escape the smell of man. My roommate is great, except that he's a big guy who sweats a lot and doesn't shower every night. He doesn't stink; he just leaves t… -
Sure, You Can Call Me - The Rejection Hotline
I've had a couple occasions in the past year where guys have asked me for my number and I'm not quick-witted enough to say either "I don't have a phone" or "I don't talk to strangers"...but my friend told me about the Re… -
Is It Scarier to Tell Someone How You Feel or Never Know?
So there's this guy I'm into. He seems like he's into me. But I don't know. He seems to always be there for me whenever I need someone to talk to. He spoils me from time to time. We talk every day, sometimes for hours an… -
Can A Shallow Start Mean A Meaningful Relationship?
Miss Reindeer Does anybody else watch The Millionaire Matchmaker on Bravo? For those of you that don't, I'll give you a quick rundown. This super-tan, fairly bossy lady owns her own matchmaking agency where she sets… -
Ideal Boyfriend Versus Ideal Girlfriend
I love watching romantic comedies, and this is always when I am (again) hit with the fact that these guys and girls in there are just way too perfect. There can't possibly be one of those, right? Nevertheless, I have… -
Have You Been to Planned Parenthood?
I was looking at the Planned Parenthood site today and wondered how many Datingish users have been there. Whatever your reason for going, what was your experience like? Would you recommend it to friends? -
Old Enough to Get Serious, But Seriously Not Ready
I am constantly marveling at the evolution of dating throughout life. As pre-pubescents, we all have little embarassingly awkward crushes on the people sitting next to us in 7th grade biology class. Dating someone at th… -
Musical Mondays: My Favorite Dance-in-The-Kitchen Love Song
Lauryn, I miss you. To me, this is the ultimate song for singing along and dancing in the kitchen...maybe while the dishes are in the dishwasher, the brownies are in the oven or you just feel like reminding your SO that… -
When Do You Support Your SO Or Finally Put Your Foot Down?
My husband is in a band that has some pretty decent long run potential. This is my hubby's dream: to eat, sleep and breathe music. They have only been playing since December, but my mind is already jumping forward to the… -
He Said It Was Okay to Date His Friend, Then Panicked
About a year ago, I met "Kenny" - I picked him up at a play audition, asked him out to lunch and we became friends with heavy flirtation. Now, I think Kenny is a wonderful person: sensitive, considerate, poetic and lovel… -
Girls, What's An Ideal First Date for You?
I'm a guy, and I've found the toughest thing about asking a girl out is figuring out what to do for the first date. Usually people go for either the dinner...or movie...or the cup of coffee in Starbucks routine, but th… -
When Is Lying to Your BF Better Than Telling The Truth?
How do you respond when someone you care about asks you about sex with your ex?To understand the situation better, I have to give you a little background. My first boyfriend pushed me to do more sexually than I was com… -
Okay, A Dad Asked Me Out.
Miss Reindeer This is so weird that I don't even know how to preface it except to flat out say that a dad asked me out. A business-suit-and-tie-wearing, picking-up-his-little-girls-from-dance-class bonafide Dad Guy. S… -
It's Not Easy Being The "Dumper" in A Relationship
When a serious couple breaks up, the most common response is sympathy for the person who was unceremoniously dumped on the curb, while it is assumed that because the other person chose to end the relationship, he/she mus… -
How Can I Keep Persistent, Not-So-Secret Admirers At Bay?
Ever since I've arrived on the university scene, I've been having serious problems with men pursuing me (despite the fact that I am very, VERY much taken). A few of them have resulted in friendships before it could get t… -
He Wants to Be Friends But Treats Me Badly
So, my boyfriend of seven months broke up with me back in January. I was devastated and tried to mostly stay away from him. If he texted me, I would reply, but when he did text me, even after we had been broken up for le… -
My Friend Can't Do Anything without Her Husband
I'm not writing this as a bitter single; I'm writing this as a happily single for now woman sick of being a wheel with a selfish coupled friend. My friend got married last year. Ever since she was old enough to date, w… -
Making Our Relationship Work After A Rocky Three Years
We were juniors in high school when we met. We began dating and everything was going so great. It was during our senior year that things got kinda messed up...or should I say that I kinda began to mess everything up. For… -
Is This Love or Lust? I Can't Tell Anymore
Mr. A is my former boss, and I met him nine years ago. I was attracted to his charming charisma and handsome face right away. Work had been fun and exciting, watching his many expressions and always peeping over the door… -
Why And How I'm Polyamorous
Growing up, I never had a best friend (some people feel the need to express sympathy over this? I don't know why). Girls in this society are pretty much expected to have one other female that they do everything with, or… -
Scandalish: Use Your Imagination
Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Have you ever thought about someone other than your partner during sex? If so, whom? To what ext… -
My BF's Past Makes Me Feel Insecure
I'm currently in a relationship with someone who is a lot older than me, and knowing this obviously means he has more experience in relationships and life compared to me. Before I got together with him, we got to know e… -
Kissing - Connection's More Important Than Technique
I recently read an advice blog in which an 18-year-old girl asked advice about kissing. Apparently she was insecure about her experience level, never having been kissed before. She seemed to think that most people had… -
She Doesn't Like Long Distance Relationships But I Want to Try
Spring break ended and I'm back in school. As with any other break, I'm not happy to be back, but then again I haven't been happy to be in law school for a while. I do want my degree, but I just don't like this school. S… -
Can You Be In Love with Two Girls at The Same Time?
I'm 16 and a junior. Before, I was totally one of those girls looking for the right boy, but I had a feeling I wasn't exactly into boys...so this year, I met someone who was going through the same "phase," I guess you co… -
When You're Single Again, Guys Come Out of The Woodwork
Miss Reindeer I recently updated my Facebook status to single, and it has been interesting to say the least. The first thing I have noticed are the different ads on the sidebar. They used to be about "presents for your… -
Is Potentially Ruining a Friendship Worth It?
My best friend (and I have kind of had feelings for each other for a couple of months now, but we've never had a time where we both had feelings for each other at the same time; well, we have, but it's been complicated.… -
When Your SO Catches You Off-Guard with Something Cute
My SO and I have been together for over a year. We argue a lot. And for a while, I was constantly mad at him about his attitude towards his schoolwork. Thinking back, I was a bit bitchy. I remember one time, he said/did… -
“Girls Talk About Sex In Excruciating Detail”
Miss Elephant News flash: girls talk about sex. Probably in more excruciating detail than guys even want to know about. Not just general things like “Yeah, we had sex, and it was good,” but very specific things about… -
Myths and Realities of Dating Throughout Your Life
Middle School Myth: ooh la la, lots of romance. Everyone gets their first kiss when they are 12 or 13! Reality: everyone is really ugly and immature (braces, glasses, bad haircuts, before tweezers, big t-shirts & s… -
Confessions of a Clingy Girlfriend, Part II
(first part is here) "Love yourself before you love another." God I hate that phrase. To me I interpret it as, "Ignore your boyfriend, be 100% selfish." I care about my boyfriend a lot. And to ignore him even for one… -
He Switched from Being A Man to A Child
Miss Ostrich So like I said in previous posts, I love dating nerds and intellectuals, though sometimes they make me feel dumb. Even so, I love listening to my boyfriend talk about the inner workings of his record player… -
My BF Doesn't Trust Me And Tells Me So
I don't know if anyone has ever had the misfortune of knowing their boyfriend doesn't trust her and thinks she's lying all the time. Recently, I have - it seems like every time I turn around, he's asking me questions abo… -
Common Misconceptions about Polyamory
Let's talk about polyamory: What it is, what it isn't and why I practice it. Polyamory very literally means "many loves" as poly = many and amore = love. It is the desire, practice or acceptance of having more than on… -
Survey: Why Do You Date?
It's a common thing these days that almost everyone ranging from the age 13-19 has a significant other. It is also common that they all result in breakups. Of course, excluding the minority that last forever. But the tr… -
Programming Note: Smashing Stereotypes
Helloooo Datingish! [echoes as cheers erupt] I was thinking...because we have so many people who date so differently, it might be cool to have a feature where people dispell myths about dating, relating, whatevering. C… -
I Fantasize About Black Guys And My SO Is White
I'm a white female, and I've been more attracted to black guys than to white guys for a while now. I can't really explain it - it's their general attitude, their swagger, the way they dress, their no-nonsense attitude.… -
Dammit, Heartbreak Sucks.
Wow. I'm really hurting right now. It's been a while since I've felt this way, but I guess this had to come sometime. It's never easy to find out that your has ex wasted no time in trying to hook up with somebody else.… -
My SO Read This Blog
Miss Elephant Well, my dear new XFFs (Xanga Friends Forever), it was probably inevitable. My SO read my blog posts. Yep, the one about my ex calling me a wildebeest in bed. Yep, the one about how I question whether o… -
FML Fridayyyyyyyyyy!
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Friday Fun: Do You Read Sites Not Intended for Your Gender?
Okay, I'll be honest . . . I've been an AskMen junkie for a while now. It covers the issues I want to know about (that may be too embarrassing to ask a guy outright) without the flippy-dippy language women's publications… -
Confessions of a Clingy Girlfriend, Part I
Scene: watching TV in the living room, I'm all snuggled up to my boyfriend on the couch.Me: [Hmm, I feel like kissing him...] "Hey, hon..." Him: *stifles a grump* "Hm?" Me: *leans in to kiss him, reaching further across… -
I Have His Heart; She Has His Body
My ex-boyfriend and I have been over for seven months. Although the relationship title isn't there anymore, we talk every day for hours, share secrets, and say "I love you". Whenever we're together, he holds my hand, pla… -
Twelve Types of Guys - Which One Are You?
So, Mike and I were talking about the 12 types of women last night, and he asked me to put up a list of 12 guys. So here it is: which one are you? 1. MR. FOREIGN GUY Advantages a. He comes from a faraway ex… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Is He Playing Hard to Get?
Dr. Datingish I've known this guy for going on two years and we've had this odd relationship. We started out as just friends, but now it just keeps getting more intense. Whenever we hang out alone, he does all the cut… -
Be The Exception, Not The Rule.
I recently watched He's Just Not That Into You, and it taught me a very valuable concept that I'd never noticed before (btw, a must-watch for all those couples out there, even the singles!): Be the exception, not the rul… -
I'm Spending Spring Break With Jerry Springer
Miss Ostrich Spring break is having adverse effects on me. I don't own a TV at school, but now that I'm home, there are televisions in almost every room. There's no escaping them! Mid-afternoon shows are the best. I… -
10 Firsts in Relationships
Miss Ostrich All of my friends are doing those MySpace/Facebook "25____(truths, facts about me, etc)," so I felt like making one of my own about relationship firsts. I'm only going list ten, and out of solidarity, I'll… -
I Went On A Date With A Guy With PTSD
Miss Elephant So, as far as going on dates with random guys is concerned, I'm fairly inexperienced. As I have discussed before, I've had three "serious" boyfriends - aside from that, I've been on, like, two or three… -
"Girls Can't Parallel Park"
In my city, cabs are all shared - I was in one on St. Patrick's Day with two rather inebriated people and was listening in because I knew it'd be good Datingish fodder. Our cab was stuck behind a car whose driver was ha… -
"Twilight's Bella Is The Ultimate Anti-Feminist"
Miss Elephant As a 20-something self-respecting female, I'm sort of ashamed to say that I"m reading the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer. I"ve been reading it since last summer - I'm a slow reader, okay? - and I'm no… -
I Know My Ex Will Compare Me to My Friend
Given that there are 7 billiion people in the world...of which I am assuming 3.5 billion are women...WHY can't they go pick one of those others instead? Have they only the means to attract within the same immediate local… -
"I Cheated to Get Back at Him for Cheating on Me!"
While my husband and I was cuddling on the couch watching Friends, one of my close friends called. I picked up and she instantly told me she had to get something off her chest and she had to tell someone. Giving my hus… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: The Sex Isn't Good And I'm Worried
Dr. Datingish My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We don't have the best intimacy - to be more specific, he cannot please me. Although I have no problems pleasing him and giving him what he likes, h… -
When You're with A Hot Guy But There's No Spark
Miss Reindeer I dated this guy after I graduated high school for a summer. It wasn't very serious, and to be honest, it was mostly, if not all, physical attraction. I always thought he was "out of my league" and when… -
My Favorite Hot Song, Part III
Datingish ladies officially approve of Maroon 5's "Secret" - SomethingAboutKaren calls the song "ridiculously sexy" and MistletoeLove...well...she can vouch for it . Okay, see what you think, take a cold shower if ne… -
Two Girls, A Guy And The Silent Treatment
So there's this guy I went out with for three months. I broke up with him late one Friday night, because the week before, he had reeeeeally wanted me to have sex with him and do other things, and I was worried I wouldn't… -
I Wasn't Attracted to Him, So Why Am I Sad about His New GF?
There's this boy that has liked me for a good couple of years, and even though we were both aware of his feelings, nothing happened because I didn't feel the way same way he did. He has been nice to me from the very star… -
Remembering How to Love After A Bad Breakup
A reader sent us a post with the following excerpt: Since the last relationship, I completely cut myself off from that whole romantic business of love and take: no flirting, no crushes, nothing. It was that way for ab… -
A Guy's Guide to Being in a Successful Relationship
Here are the three golden rules a guy must follow in order make this relationship a success with the lady. 1) Love her wholeheartedly. And not just with the penis. You're going have to deal with the whole package: mind,… -
Google Questions - What Haven't You Been Completely Honest About?
Someone found Datingish by Googling "my boyfriend found out that I stuff my bra". Uh, wasn't finding this out inevitable? We've had readers who have lied about their age, who they've dated in the past and what happene… -
Dated a Nerd and Feel Dumb? Here's Why.
Apparently, women like to date smarter men because it shows how far they are dating up compared to stupid, muscular brawns. Haha! I'm just joking, guys. But think about it. The nerd is the anti-cliche that is attacked in… -
You Could've Just Deleted Her As A Facebook Friend...
Via Yahoo! News: Edward Richardson, 41, stabbed wife Sarah, 26, to death in a "frenzied and brutal" attack at her parents' home in Biddulph, central England, last May after she altered her profile on [Facebook]. The c… -
Some Girls Like Paying for Dinner
Guys, from what I've read, the vast majority of Datingish ladies won't give you a second thought if you don't pay for their dinners. Covering him or even splitting the check? Please. I read something like "if you're taki… -
What Does Your SO Get Like When He/She Drinks?
WOO GREEN BEER OMG ST. PATRICK'S AHHHHH! Because some of you may be drinking tonight, inquiring minds want to know what you and your SO are like when you drink. Are you naturally more flirty/talkative/horny? What about… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: My GF Dumped Me Because I Like to Smoke
Dr. DatingishMy girlfriend of six months just broke up with me because I smoke too much weed. Now I see her every day at school and she won't talk to me anymore. I've tried to talk to her several times, but she tells m… -
My Favorite Hot Song, Part II
With me, it's very least likely I'll ever make out, make love or have sex to music, because once music comes on, all I think about is that music. The lyrics, the arrangements, the message intended, etc. I'm your garden v… -
We Broke Up - Thumbs Up!
(via passiveaggressivenotes.com) Facebook's new "I like this!" thingy can make you sound a little sadistic... -
Would You Stay If You Knew You Wouldn't Get Any?
If you were dating and in love with a virgin (and she was in love with you) and she told you she still wanted to wait until marriage before she had sex, would you wait for her? Or is it a stone-age concept that "normal"… -
My BF Has Done A Total 180 Since Our Break Started
I have separated for two weeks with my boyfriend of three years. We have had a pretty stable relationship - we were one of those couples that our friends thought would last forever. We met in university and we were i… -
He's Still Hung Up on His Ex - Should I Give Him a Chance?
A few weeks ago, I started hanging out with someone I work with. I really want to date him, and he's kind of even asked to date me kind...but he's still incredibly hung up on his ex. She cheated on him and is now appare… -
My Love Resume
The idea for this came from MadisonLinh's post My Love Resume.Objective: A fulfilling and equal relationship with someone I love.Summary: - Will love you with all my heart - Very outgoing, energetic and ambitious - Very… -
Why Does Everyone Assume We're Sleeping Together?
Miss Ostrich I live on the "gender blind" floor at my college. It's the one floor in all the dorms on campus that allows boys and girls to live together in the same room. Some people are dating, one couple is married, a… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: My BF Messed Up And I Forgave Him Right Away
Dr. DatingishMy boyfriend and I have been dating for six and half months now. It's a pretty serious relationship, and we've talked about the future, marriage, kids, etc. We have our shares of fights and arguments, but… -
Breaking Up with Someone You Still Have Feelings For
I met a stunningly beautiful and charismatic girl about two and a half years ago. We had a really intense relationship that lasted for 3 months until I broke it off because I knew it wouldn't last. Although we shared g… -
Sharing Romantic "Movie Moments" with Others
Miss Reindeer Sometimes in life something happens to you that is too romantic, too bizarre or too perfect that you feel like you're in a movie. This happened to me on my solo trip to Barcelona about 2 years ago. I w… -
I'm Helping My BF Find A New Job - But Am I Doing Too Much?
My BF recently got another job, but he doesn't really like this job. The hours are bad, there are no benefits, the environment is very uncomfortable. This is a big HUGELY well-known company - he even feels this new job i… -
It's Me Or The Dreads
Miss Ostrich I'm guilty of saying this. A year into our relationship, my ex decided he wanted dreadlocks. I was hesitant to support him at first; part of what made him so attractive to me was his mass of natural Shirley… -
Selfishness and Selflessness in A Relationship
A problem I've found myself and my SO caught up in is that we are both willing to give up everything for our relationship. We both want the best for each other. We both want each other to think for their own good more -… -
Hypothetical: Which Couple Has The Toughest Situation?
Couple A They "love" each other. They live together for two years. For whatever reason, the living arrangement does not work. They move back into their own separate apartments, but they continue dating each other without… -
Musical Mondays: My Favorite Hot Song
I think I first heard this song a few years ago - someone in our mix CD club put it on a mix...and my life was never the same - the entire thing is unassuming but incredibly hot. I don't really like listening to music w… -
How Blatantly Do You Like to Be Hit On?
Tuesday night, for the first time in ages, I was beat over the head with overt "interest" signals. But as flattering as it was - I love subtlety, but I'm not made of stone, damn it - it did nothing for me. This isn't mea… -
"I'm Going to Cheat on Him! Help Me Choose With Whom."
Miss Ostrich My best friend Kt loves to complain about her boyfriend. Every day she has a new story about how much of a jerk he is, or how dumb he is because he said this or did that. Nothing he does is horrible; he doe… -
My SO Sent Me Flowers at Work
Miss Elephant I've only had flowers sent to me three times in my life. One time was with J, the second time with A (which he delivered in person), and the most recent time was today with A again, but this time he had… -
Casual Sex with An Ex? Is That Even Possible?
My best friend and I recently had a conversation with another friend of ours. She and her boyfriend have been broken up for a little while, and she insists that there is absolutely no chance for a reconciliation. While I… -
This TV Show Pressures You to Propose
I am a reality TV junkie, I can't deny it, and as disgusted (but totally entranced) in watching shows like Rock of Love the Bus, this is by far the worst one I have come across. I was watching WE and a show called Surpr… -
I Got Suckered Into Paying for Our Dates
So, this guy asked me out on a date. He told me to get dressed up nice, and I actually wore a skirt, something that is very rare for me. He ended up taking me to this local Italian restaurant - cute enough, but certainly… -
Even Snoopy Can't Find True Love
(click to enlarge) Are you scared of falling in love (again) because you're afraid to get hurt? -
I Don't Know If He's Flirting or Just Comfortable with Me
So I'm into this guy, and he's been flirting with me since August of last year. We've been relatively close friends since 2006. Everything he's done with me has inched me closer to believing he's interested and makes me… -
Are You A Tina Fey Guy?
MSN's Wonderwall recently posted the story "MEGAN FOX, TINA FEY VOTED TOP PARTY GIRLS." I know, I know. You probably just threw up a little after seeing the Queen of Funny juxtaposed next to the Queen of Slutty. I don't… -
Sexiling: An Unspoken Rule between Roommates?
Miss Ostrich Sexile: To kick your roommate out so that you can spend intimate time alone with someone without the threat of being walked in on; a combination of "sex" and "exile." During my freshman year of college, I… -
Scandalish: Answering Burning Questions
Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. What's something you don't understand about the opposite gender's anatomy? If you want to answer… -
He Called Me A Wildebeest In Bed
Miss Elephant It's amazing the power really good sex can hold over someone. I'm a grown ass woman, but a man who's skilled in the sack can turn me into a worthless pile of irrationality. My second boyfriend D was o… -
Communication Is Key
when you’re in a relationship, and you choose not to communicate with your partner, they’re left with no choice but to guess. they guess out of concern. they guess out of love. when they guess wrong, you have only yourse… -
Two Sites' Views on Friends with Benefits
For the longest time I have been curious as to how two people generate a friends with benefits situation. You might ask, "Why? Are you looking to get into one?" I must admit, I am curious what the experience is like, bu… -
I'm FWB with My Best Friend
First of all, I know this post will make many judge me quickly and harshly, but save those comments, because I don’t want to read them. I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place and I don’t need you to add t… -
Finding Mix Tapes From Former Boyfriends
Miss Ostrich After one of my relationships fails, I tend to cleanse myself of anything that reminds me of them: presents, dried flowers, email address/AIM name/facebook/phone number. The most important thing to go,… -
I Want Love Letters to Make a Big Comeback
Miss Ostrich I love reading old love letters, but I get jealous since I've never received a real love letter. Sure, I have a stock pile of sweet emails from old boyfriends and cute notes passed in high school, but th… -
Why Do I Like Nerds Even Though They Make Me Feel Dumb?
Miss Ostrich I've always been attracted to nerds. For two years I dated a physics major who could talk for hours about equations and science and engineering, even though he knew I didn't understand a thing he was sayin… -
I'm The Last Stop for The Guys I've Dated
Miss Elephant I wouldn't say that I have an obvious pattern in relationships. I've had three boyfriends in my young life, and they've all been pretty drastically different. J, my high school boyfriend, was sweet but… -
My Favorite Depressing Love Song, Part II
In light of the Leona Lewis "Best You Never Had" blog, I immediately thought about this song. It's great to know that almost everybody turns to music for some sort of emotional outlet. This song held great importance for… -
Meet Miss Elephant!
Location: New York, N.Y. Age: 23 Occupation: Intern About Me: I'm pretty bad at relationships, but I try really hard. I love writing, blogging, reading, eating, exercising, and sexing. That list is not all inclus… -
When Your SO Doesn't Support Your Endeavors
I broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years last week. After constant fights because he has issues with trust and jealousy, I finally gave up hope that he will ever change and treat me with respect. Every time I… -
How Do You Know When You're In Love?
When I was 15 years old, I fell in love with a boy. It was an immediate attraction, and when we started dating, I became infatuated. When I was with him, it was unlike anything I had ever felt before. We spent long stret… -
Have You Pulled A Helga G. Pataki?
The Pop Site's daily question reminded me of one of the greatest relationships of a Nickelodeon raised kid's formative years - the tumultuous relationship between Arnold and Helga from Hey Arnold! If you're not familiar… -
Does a Rejected Proposal Have to Mean the End of the Relationship?
Mr. GiraffeMy friend's sister Marla was proposed to last Saturday. But she said no.Not because she wasn't in love with the guy. Not because she doesn't ever want to get married to him or anyone. But because she genuinel… -
Going Out of Your Comfort Zone for Love
Okay, I'm your typical shy girl who sits in class and never raises her hand - except this typical shy girl started to have a crush on this guy in her class. Now, there are a few things you should know about me before any… -
That Fork in the Road
This is a sequel to my last post: My First Job Interview. I wrote my last post to show how a single event in our lives can affect us. I call these forks in the roads because these are turning points in our lives that ca… -
Sustaining A Relationship On Two Continents
Five years ago, this girl I know came over to Canada to study English - she is from mainland China. During her stay in Canada, she and my ex-boyfriend formed a close friendship. But seeing how things turned out, I guess… -
Five Guys That Have Turned Me Off of Dating
I gave up on dating after my last relationship. He broke my heart and I take responsibility for my role in the foolishness. I realized after we finally ended (it took us almost six months to break up), that I never want… -
FML Friday
Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Friday Fun: Spring Fever
I'm waiting for spring to show up so I can frolic around the park, picnic on Saturday afternoons, run after the ice cream truck and eat outside at restaurants because it'll be warm enough (!!!). Do you and your BF/GF ha… -
Conservative Backgrounds, Sex and Family
Coming from a strictly conservative background and being flung into a complete lack thereof now that I'm out on my own, I have come into an interesting situation. If you asked me right now, I would tell you I am one hund… -
I Was Staring At Your Shirt, I Promise!
I'm all for t-shirts with print on them. Today I wore my favorite shirt that has the phrase "let's hug it out" on front. I wear it all the time. People who watch Entourage usually make some kind of comment on how great… -
Build Her A Cake Or Something
In Napoleon Dynamite, Pedro asked Summer to the dance with a cake. Although it didn't work out for him, maybe it's had a more positive effect for other people... Have you ever wooed someone with baked goods? What kind… -
Am I Dealing with Love or Puppy Love?
To most people around me, they'd say what I'm experiencing right now is "puppy love" because I'm only 16 and this is a first for me. Like everyone else, I've had a couple of crushes before, but nothing has been as strong… -
A Lesson From Rihanna: Are Women Blamed For Being Victims?
Pretty much everyone seems horrified by the recent act of violence Chris Brown is accused of perpetrating against Rihanna, espsecially after the photo came out of her bruised and swollen face. Any sane, decent human bein… -
Nice Guys Finish Last and "You're Like My Best Friend"
Ladies, the last three girls I've liked have all told me, "You're like my best friend!" *cry* They all have boyfriends; two of them have broken up and gotten new ones, and all the guys they choose are mean and put the gi… -
My Favorite Depressing Love Song
I love Leona Lewis! It all began in high school. Dave was my best guy friend. He understood me as much as I understood him. We lived in different towns but saw each other every summer, a couple times a month, and talked… -
What's The Least Appropriate Place to Pick Up People?
Yesterday I was running late after picking up cupcakes for the kids I babysit, and as I was leaving, a guy stopped me and started talking to me, saying he lived down the block, asking if I was from Europe and what I was… -
New Female Condom Design Approved
The FDA has (finally) approved the production of a new female condom that will be less expensive and and quieter than its former design. It seems like in America, with heterosexual couples at least, female condoms are p… -
Insecure Men: Is It a Regional Thing?
Miss Seal My friend recently visited from Texas and my friends and I took her out to a bar. We were all having a good time, but she looked a little confused."Why don't the guys come up to you here? In Texas, guys w… -
He Doesn't Want to Be in a Relationship on Facebook
I started dating a guy recently. We had been seeing each other for about a month but we didn't officially start going out until about a week ago. I asked him if we could be "Facebook official" as well, meaning that it wo… -
Getting Busy: Being Under The Covers Is Overrated
Beds are an extremely comfortable and awesome place to have sex, no doubt about that. They're not only soft (usually), but also bouncy (usually) - which provides amazing leverage for a particularly powerful romp.However,… -
Dating My Best Friend's Ex Or Being A Good Friend And Saying No?
I have a conundrum for you.It's my second semester at college. The first day of one of my classes, I met this guy, "Zach". It was pretty obvious from the start that he had an enormous crush on me. But at the time, I had… -
The Monster That Is Codependency
Hi, I'm Jocelyn, and I'm a codependent. (Hiiii Jocelyn!)I've spent years putting my own needs aside while putting my significant other's first. For a while, I didn't even believe that I had a problem. I just thought it w… -
Do Not Ask The Internet How Pregnancy Works
One of my favorite Yahoo Answers (after "How is babby formed?") is this post, which asks if the reason why a girl doesn't get her period during pregnancy is because the baby is drinking the blood. Vampires ahoy! I remem… -
Are Young Couples with Kids Judged Too Harshly?
Miss Ostrich Women are judged more harshly in relationships than men. If a girl complains that something is bothering her in the relationship, she's automatically labeled as being bitchy and too sensitive. With guys, if… -
Meeting People At Bars - Sleazy? Worthwhile?
I want to ask the public how they feel about going home with someone they met at a bar (or even taking someone home with them). In my opinion, I find it sleazy, but of course I'm sure most people have had these experie… -
How to Win Your Guy's Heart
Let's face it. The two genders of the human race seem to function in two completely different ways. When we girls turned five, we became obsessed with Barbies, played make-believe family and had our first little girl cru… -
I'm The Problem in My Relationships
I don't talk about my past relationships often, but because of a conversation I had with a friend on Facebook, I've come to a really disturbing, pride breaking revelation about myself and why most of my relationships don… -
Telling A Friend "Your Taste In Women Sucks"
Miss Fox One of my best guy friends has the worst luck with women ever. Every girl he falls for ends up wanting to get away from him as fast as possible. I've talked him through four crushes, two ex-boyfriend situat… -
Jail Time for Sending Scandalous Pics of Your Ex
There was a segment on the Today show this morning talking about consequences for teenagers who send racy pictures they've received to hundreds of people. One guy who sent out his underage ex's nude picture to 70 people… -
Life is Short. Have an Affair.
Miss Ostrich Ashleymadison.com is a website where attached/married men and women go to find lovers on the side with other people in similar unhappy situations. After signing up, you can search through over three millio… -
We're Not On a Break...We're in Relationship Renovation
Miss Fox Last week, my boyfriend and I broke up. Yes, the same boyfriend who I was preparing to celebrate an anniversary with... the same boyfriend who joked about teenagers getting married... yup. Same guy. Sure,… -
Being Together without Actually Being Together?
Two months ago, I wanted an open relationship because I needed space and couldn't deal with commitment. That lasted for a week because my BF was willing to try the open relationship thing just to be with me - the least I… -
I Dropped My Preconceptions of The Perfect Girl and Found Love
Before I met the girl I'm with now, I loaded my mind with preconceptions about the kind of girl I wanted to date. In my early high school days, I was a "scene kid" and, like most scene kids, I wanted to date a scene girl… -
Owning A Dog As A Couple = Practice for Children?
I was reading Stuff White People Like the other day and a line in the post about dogs made me think... It should be understood that in white culture, dogs are considered training for having children. That is to say that… -
My Adventures Meeting Friends on OkCupid
When first learning how to bike, I remember being told by my mother that falling (as well as rolling facefirst down a hill multiple times) was to be expected. But then she would complain about the scabs, bruises, and sca… -
Talking Relationships with Your Siblings
Miss Double Shot My sixteen-year-old sister started dating a guy shortly after school started, and by the time I was headed home for Christmas, they'd broken up (I found out via Facebook - so much for family togethe… -
He's Calling Another Girl "Babe"
I've been with this guy for 22 months now and I am madly in love with him. Our relationship is stronger than ever. This is a long distance relationship, but honestly, I wouldn't trade him for anyone else I visit him whe… -
To Tattoo Or Not to Tattoo Together...That Is The Question
Miss Ostrich My boyfriend and I joke around all the time about getting matching tattoos together because most of our friends are heavily inked and we are not at all. We talk about how we'd get something funny like a sh… -
Happiness Is Realizing That We Cannot Be Sublimely Happy All the Time
...we are human after all. I do realize that happiness takes real effort and sheer willpower. But there are parts of being human that we cannot shy away from, like the pain of heartbreak or the misery of losing a loved o… -
My Best Friend and I Hooked Up
I've been best friends with this guy (let's call him WB) for the last four years. We know the good, bad and ugly about each other and we've been through a lot together. We are in our last year of college and both of us p… -
Why Aren't We More Direct When We Like Someone?
I come from a family where dating was not allowed until one turned 16, and steady dating was discouraged until guys got back from their Missions (I'm LDS), or at least college. Anyway, I digress. It appears to me that m… -
Musical Mondays: My Favorite Depressing Love Song
New fun thing! Each week, let's have people pick out songs that mean a lot to them in terms of their relationships (or lack thereof) and talk about it. I'll start. This is the way that we love, like it's forever/then li… -
Will Guys Ever Grow Up?
Breakups are almost always difficult, but some are worse than others and a few don't even get solved with tubs of Ben & Jerry's. My problem is, all those books that tell you He's Just Not That Into You or He Was a Je… -
Guys vs. Girls - Is Three A Crowd?
No, this post is not about threesomes. Sorry if you're disappointed. Not too long ago, I wrote a post about this guy who asked me out at a training session for work. I politely told him no, I couldn't date him because I… -
Featured Comment: You Don't Believe in Marriage?
On a recent post asking what you thought marriage would be like, a bunch of you expressed sheer disdain for the idea of getting married. LizzieLizzie05 wanted to know why: What is with all of you cynics? What do you mea… -
"Bros Over Hoes" - When Your BF's Friend Doesn't Like You
I've heard this saying before and I am sure most people have, but have you ever heard one of your boyfriend's friends say that about you?My boyfriend, Marc, had a best friend named Sean. They've known each other since t… -
Are High School Sweethearts Unrealistic?
Back in the times of our parents, these existed, at least in some sense. More like...it was possible.You could find your special someone right there, sitting behind you in that Spanish class you didn't even want to take… -
Do You Need to Be Friends Before You Date?
I've never understood how people form romantic relationships with people they barely know. How do you date someone when you aren't friends first? Would you rather date a friend/friend of a friend or someone you don't… -
Quiz: What's Your Love Language?
*Sorry, guys - fixed the link!* pinkcrayon78 linked to a cool quiz on our post about having your partner reassure you of his or her love - check it out. The idea is that there are five "love languages" that we speak,… -
What Do You Think Marriage Will Be Like?
Miss Double Shot A friend from college got married last summer, and she's loving it so far - "it's almost identical to dating," she said. "I'm living with my best friend instead of having to do daily phone calls and pl… -
Dating A Moocher
Miss Ostrich My boyfriend recently dropped out of a university to attend community college in our hometown. He hated the university because he claims it's too much of a party school, and he wants to go somewhere that wo… -
Scandalish: Something Even He/She Doesn't Know
Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Scandalous or not, what's something that you've never told your boyfriend or girlfriend? Why have… -
Five Things This Guy Doesn't Understand about Girls
1. Getting mad about not remembering important dates ...fine, we admit we aren't the best at remembering dates sometimes, but it's not because we don't want to, it's because for some odd reason, our brains are just built… -
"It's Not Cheating - It's For Science!"
Miss Ostrich Last night at dinner, one of the guys in my group of friends (let's call him Craig) bragged to us about how he made $200 in an hour for doing absolutely no work at all. He wouldn't cough up the details at f… -
I Was Set Up with A Guy But I Like His Friend, Not Him!
Say you're out one night with your friend and you meet a group of chill guys to hang out with for the evening. You all have fun at the bars then you go back to their place to play beer pong and whatnot, even spend the ni… -
We Had A Great Weekend - Now He's Completely Ignoring Me
My ex and I were dating long distance for 10 months - I was in Massachusetts and he was in Florida. Between this time period, we saw each other once in person when I met his sister. We talked almost daily either online,… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: My Exes Have Suddenly Started Calling Again
Dr. DatingishOut of the blue, six of my exes (chill, not all of these relationships were serious) have started emailing/texting/calling me again. So I've got three questions: 1) WTF 2) How does a guy tell women "back o… -
My Mom Doesn't Want Me to Make The Same Romantic Mistakes She Made
Miss Reindeer So I got into a huge fight with my mother the other day regarding my SO. I can't even remember how it began, but she basically expressed to me that if I met somebody else "intriguing," she wouldn't want m… -
How Much Baggage Do You Have?
Compared to the average Datingish reader (or the average dater, if you prefer), how much emotional baggage do you have - more, less or about the same? Does it affect the way or the people you choose to date? -
Meet Miss Ostrich!
Location: Brooklyn, NY Age: 20 Occupation: Creative Writing undergrad at Pratt Institute. About Me: I grew up in New Jersey, but after living in the city, I can't say I'm eager to go back! I'm saving up to travel t… -
Things You And Your SO Still Don't Agree On
Miss Reindeer I like to think my SO and I have everything in common, but it's just not true. One of our big issues of contention is going camping. Camping is one of my favorite kinds of vacation, and I mean real cam… -
Why Date If You Know It Won't Last?
Lately I've been wondering why people enter relationships that they know won't last forever. I, for one, am looking for a serious relationship that would hopefully last. However, I see all these people around me talkin… -
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Fmylife.com contains short day-to-day life anecdotes. A simple recipe: in one sentence, each site visitor can tell the shitty moment which ruined his day. These short stories must begin with "Today" and end with "FML".… -
Friday Fun: Where Did You Meet Your Current SO?
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I Want to Make Out With My Best Friend's Boyfriend - Is That Wrong?
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Do You Need Reassurance That Your SO Loves You?
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Dating and Relating: Are We Victims of Our Environment?
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Had Your Trust Broken By An Ex? How Do You Get It Back?
I am miserably terrible at relationships. I'm not trying to hide it. So far in my 23 years on this earth, I've been in three; I dated my high school sweetheart, J, for 5+ years, and when it was time for that relationshi… -
Arguing for The Sake of Arguing
Miss Reindeer I've never been able to seriously date someone with vastly different political views from my own. I had a hard time talking to my Republican friends during this past election, so I can't imagine what it mu… -
We Broke Up But He Doesn't Know What He Wants
I was dating a guy for about six months. He's my first love, and we have all of these plans for the future. A lot of drama has been going on, and I keep hearing rumors about his flirting with other girls (this all start… -
Meet Miss Reindeer!
Location: Chicago, IL Age: 23 Occupation: Soon-to-Be Graduate Student About Me: I'm a recent honors grad from the University of Minnesota English department. I'm currently living in Chicago, but I'll be moving this… -
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The other night, my boyfriend and I were watching Meet the Parents. I couldn't help but giggle with him at the ridiculous scenarios Ben Stiller's character kept finding himself in. I mean, really? All that happened while… -
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Miss Double Shot I was reading Cosmo (it's research!) and read that while guys do talk to their friends about their sex lives, it's only about whether it was good or bad - no more description than that. I asked the boy… -
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My boyfriend and I decided it was time we bring our relationship to the next level, but the problem is that we are both high school students. Now, I know many people lose their virginity in high school...most people do… -
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My Ex Keeps Calling Me - What Does He Want?
My ex has been calling me for some time now. We broke up last year after he admitted to cheating on me. I scoffed at him, told him a few colorful words and shut him out of my world. A few months later, he started calling… -
What A Difference Two Years Can Make
At ages 28 and 30, a woman and man can live in harmony. Two years isn't much of a difference when you're already settled down. You're in the same stage of your life - you've finished school, already settled into a career… -
I'm Always The Third Wheel
I'll let you guys in on a little secret about me...I have never dated. That's right, I'm nearly 19 years old and I have yet to go on a date. I spent all of high school in "singledom" and so far my time in college has bee… -
How Can I Give Better Relationship Advice?
I'm really bad about advice, at least when it comes to relationships. Today my friend and I were talking, and she burst in to tears. I tried comforting her, giving her hugs, tissues, a shoulder to cry on, and the other u… -
The Male Equivalent of "Just Another Pretty Face"
So many guys talk use the phrase just another pretty face to describe a girl. This means the girl lacks anything remotely close to a personality and is only good for her body. BUT, what about guys? You don't seem to hea… -
"We're Dating - Now Don't Talk to Any Girls/Guys But Me!"
I have a question I'm sure most all people in relationships have had to deal with: is it okay for your BF/GF to ask you not to talk to the opposite sex at all, like at parties or just hanging out at a friend's? I tell… -
A Thoughtful Breakup Letter or A Stumbling Explanation?
Please read this whole post before making comments. Which would you prefer, a heartfelt and thoughtful letter describing why your BF can't be in a relationship with you anymore... or a stumbling, incomplete, poorly wor… -
Dealing with An Obsessive Guy Who Loves You
I admit dating my ex wasn't the smartest decision, which I knew a couple months even before we started dating, but I just didn't want to admit to myself. I was flattered that someone was so enticed with me, especially be… -
Help Me Differentiate Between Flirting And Friendship
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What's the Deal With Anniversaries?
Miss Fox My boyfriend and I are coming up on our two year anniversary - which is the longest, most committed relationship that either of us has been in. Both of our anniversaries have fallen/will fall on the last day… -
I'm Attracted to Fragility and Vulnerability in Guys
I don't think I want to be loved by a beautiful man. It would feel great, initially, I'm sure, but I find that beautiful people sometimes (okay, most times) get so caught up in their own looks that they leave their per… -
Dating: Why Do We Agree to Things We Don't Want to Do?
More than once, I have agreed to do something that I didn't really want to do or have allowed something to happen that I didn't really want to happen. A few days ago I decided to finally speak up.I have been with my boyf… -
How Do You Know If You're Over Someone?
My ex and I have been broken up for a while (sorta...we broke up a few times). We went out for a year, broke up for six months, went out again for two months, broke up for two months, went out again for a month and that… -
Background Check Before The First Date?!
I got a call a few hours before a first date Saturday night. The woman wanted to know my FULL name, middle name included. This means she was doing a background check. I'd met her once, in a bar. The date was in a pub… -
A Dream Date on Thursday
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Response: Help Me Understand Why She Dumped Me
Recently, a young man posted a blog describing how he persistently went after a friend who continued to reject him, and he couldn't understand why. Even more surprising than his ignorance was the response of several read… -
Was I Sexually Assaulted?
My friend Sean invited me over to his dorm room, and it got late, so I decided to stay the night. Because I've been sleeping over fairly often during the several months that I've known him and it's never amounted to more… -
Why Aren't The People I Like Interested in Me?
When I think of dating, I hardly ever think about myself. I think about all of the people that I've helped with their relationships, how I've been there to wipe their tears and bring up from the depths of hell they have… -
Commitments and Responsibility at Twenty-something
I'm beginning to feel that the levels of commitment and responsibility in this relationship are off-balance. Perhaps I'm crazy, but I feel like he's taking things way too lightly and we're both going to get screwed by th… -
Dating A Chronic Exaggerator
Usually I am a cheery person, filled with life and hope. Lately, I haven't been. I just went through a breakup with the the person that I actually feel in love with. It was a very hurtful relationship and as time progr… -
"And they lived happily ever after..."
I was walking in Barnes and Noble earlier today, and I happened to open a book that said the following: "'And they lived happily ever' after is one of the most tragic sentence in literature. It is tragic because it tel… -
When He Says "I Love You" And You Don't Feel The Same Way
So I figured that this is a subject to be dealt with because it's happened to me quite a few times in the past. I'm not sure if it's the same for other people as it is for me, but this has to do when a guy tells a girl t… -
I'm Coming to Terms with My GF's Past
My girlfriend and I have been going out for ten months now, and I couldn't be happier...she is a great girl and I love her to death. She recently told me about her past. She told me that she has had sex twice, but the… -
When Do You Ask What Your Date's Looking For?
When I first meet someone and we get to know each other, I always ask what they're looking for. I'm not asking them to date me or anything (that would raise red flags) - I just want to know what they want in the long-run… -
Give Me Love, or Give Me Death?
In today's oversexualized culture, it's not unusual for people to know Victoria's Secret popular slogan "Give Me Sexy". But since when has "Give Me Sexy" become more important to us than "Give Me Love"? The phrase has… -
How to Avoid Falling in Love
How To Avoid Falling In Love." Instantly, it caught my eye. I knew exactly why. I'm semi-philophobic. But that's not to say that I'm not in love. Or am I? Wait, too personal. Anyway, paraphrasing from the article, here a… -
Smash These Stereotypes!
If you pay for dinner, you'll get some tonight. Wait three days before you call for a second date. Women don't like men who are too nice to them. The more people you date, the better chance you have of meeting Mr./Mis… -
Everyone I Know Is Breaking Up!
Since January, six of the couples I'm friends with have broken up. A few were not a surprise at all (when pet names include f***er and idiot, you have to wonder why they're together), but the others seemed like they were… -
Scandalish: The Race Card
Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Are there some races or ethnicities you'd refuse to date for whatever reason? Can you explain why… -
Is All Fair in (True) Love and War?
Answering this questions is rather difficult... for three reasons: 1. The subjectivity of the word "all" can be tested in too many different ways. 2. Individuals that do not fully understand the depth to all the variabl…
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