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Clubbing: How Can Guys Approach Girls Without Being Creepy?

I was having a chat with someone I'd met online and he was asking why I hadn't been out to the clubs/bars lately. I told him it was because I didn't like getting groped and touched by random creepy men and that it all se…

Confessions of a Womanizer

Womanizers get a bad rep in America. We are regarded like atheists, homosexuals and Frankenstein in that society's misconceptions and misunderstandings can lead to downright hostility which keeps our lifestyle in the cl…

Dear Dr. Datingish: What Makes A Girl Amazing In Bed?

Dr. Datingish I've slept with three guys in my life, and they've all told me that I was good in bed. But as a perfectionist, that compliment is not good enough. So boys, give me some advice on what I should do the next…

The Way I Badmouth My Ex Worries My Current BF

My boyfriend, C, has been making fun of my ex, D, a lot lately. But the moment I join in the fun, C suddenly gets upset over the matter. D and I broke up 5 months ago. It was mutual. D thinks we broke up over religious…

When Another Girl Calls Your BF by A Pet Name

Nicknames are good for shortening names or giving pet names or reliving inside jokes or memorable moments. In relationships, maybe you give your significant other a nickname because it's cute or mushy or however you roll…

Men Shaving Places that Aren't Their Faces

Picture this: my guy and I are at a friend's house playing a drinking game with our buds. My beloved decides to strip down to his birthday suit, and as he lifts his arms to hug me, BAM, I see them. Hairless pits.I can't…

Meet Miss Fox!

Miss Fox Location: Montclair, NJ Age: 22 Occupation: English/Psychology student About Me: As a student of the literary arts, I've read tons of stories of knights in shining armor, and of the deepest heartbreaks. I'…

I've Got Spring Fever!

With the viewing of celebrity groundhog Punxsutawney Phil just a few days away, I'm beginning to fear the most contagious illness of all time: SPRING. FEVER.Every year, I fall victim to this sickness. If I'm single, I b…

Rules for Men Written by a Tomboy

I've always seen those "rules for men by women" lists online, but whenever I read them, I think, "Wow, this really doesn't apply to me!" I've never assimilated myself with the rest of women out there. To be fair, there a…

Help, I'm Meeting My Boyfriend's Family!

We are not even official yet, but we are planning to be after everything is settled. We've been talking for a year and change now, but as soon as he comes up here to Washington, we're moving forward. But that's another t…

Friday Fun: When Did You Know You Didn't Find Your Soulmate?

emmalee1508 sent us a link about moments when guys knew that their girls were the ones for them - check it out here! But because most of us aren't married and probably won't be for a while, let's switch it up - what was…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Is Sex All He Wants?

Dr. Datingish I have dated the same guy three times now. We keep breaking up and getting back together. He is always the one to break it off and to start talking to me again. Each time we date, the relationship gets…

"Do I Like Him Only Because He Likes Me?"

Mr. GiraffeMy friend Tara is having major relationship problems. She just found out (from a third party) that her BFF's brother is head over heels in love with her. At first, this came as a complete shock to her. But th…

Why Men and Women Don't Understand Each Other

I made a pulse about how feelings are different from emotions, and apparently there were some people who wanted me to expound upon this, so I guess I'll give you all my take on how they differ. There could be some who se…

I Have A BF But I've Been Dreaming about Someone Else

Lately I've been having dreams about a coworker. He's pretty attractive, but we don't interact outside of a few minutes at lunch. These dreams are not sexual, although in one, we did almost kiss. They are generally a…

Warning to Guys: We Can Size You Up

Girls can do some remarkable things. Brilliant things. Useful things. Maybe what I'm about to say will send a portion of the male population running or make some of them laugh. But within the first five minutes of conver…

Should You Call Your Ex on His Birthday?

My ex and I broke up a few months ago, and we have since ended communication with each other. It wasn't an angry end of communication, just a realization that talking was certainly not helping anything for either of us.…

When You're Trying And Your BF Isn't

My current boyfriend and I have been friends since the beginning of high school. We've now graduated and go to the same university. Even though we never liked each other before, he has never failed to flirt or be a total…

Who Should Move On First?

A few months ago, I broke up with this guy that I've been on and off with for about a year. And I know it doesn't seem like that long, but I'm in high school, and a year was a big deal. But towards the end, I realized th…

Greeting Gestures - What Are You Comfortable With?

I guess you could say I'm one of those people who's up for anything in the way of how someone greets me and departs me. Some people like hugs, some people like to wave, some people don't like to say goodbye at all, some…

Trying To Find Closure After Two Months

I spent nearly half a year in a failed relationship. This boy was clever, witty and interesting, but also controlling, insulting, apathetic and emotionally repressed.He couldn't listen to intense things I had to say and…

Early Relationships: Top Five Things Not To Worry About

Occasionally my boyfriend and I will be talking and our pre-dating/just-started-dating phases will come up in conversation. We were really good friends beforehand, so it was probably easier for us than most couples, but…

Questionable Ways to Say "I Love You"

Have you ever noticed how many ways there are to say "I love you"? And not only that, the majority of them are unacceptable in terms of whether or not you really mean it. The first time someone said it to me for real was…

I Got Friend Zoned By A Guy

I met him last year at work. Shortly after we met, we started hanging out a lot and having a lot of fun together. It wasn't long before I started thinking of him as more than a friend and developed a crush on him. He wo…

I Love to Spoil My SO

I pamper my husband like he's a king. That man gets whatever he wants/needs. I've pampered him since we started dating. I feel like he deserves to be spoiled. And I LOVE to do things for him. He's been at work all day, h…

Single for The Rest of My Life? Fine By Me.

Recently, I had an epiphany: I'm okay with not marrying. EVER. In fact, I'm okay with being single for the rest of my life. (note: by "single", I mean being alone and/or dating casually, with few lasting romantic relat…

Friendly Breakups Are Actually Possible!

This revelation was shocking to me.So my boyfriend of three months and I finally sat down tonight to talk about our relationship.We both saw it coming. We just butted heads on too many important topics (fundamental valu…

How Can I Ask If He Has A GF Without Scaring Him?

I recently met this guy who's about four years older than I am. I'm falling for him so fast; he's adorable with this great personality.Over the past week, we've met up three times, usually to play tennis, go for a swim o…

Bigger Guys Are Better

There's something about bigger guys that I like. I like a guy with some weight. I noticed this trend with myself . . . the guys I've been most attracted to sexually, physically and even emotionally have been bigge…

Am I Being Too Picky?

So I've always been a hopeless romantic - the kind of girl that always dreams about her prince charming, the most perfect guy ever. And I have this fear about being deceived by a guy I think is perfect. Well, recently.…

"My Wife Left Me for Another Girl - And It's My Fault"

Mr. Giraffe I just read the craziest article in Details magazine. It was about men who pushed their wives/girlfriends into havi…

Helping Guys Reform Their Kissing Technique?

Miss Penguin I've written about kissing in the past, but I'm honestly astonished at the way some people kiss. Yesterday I went on a second date with the first guy I've met on plentyoffish. I will nickname him "the law…

I Have The Opposite of Yellow Fever

I'm an Asian girl, and I've been infected with white fever - the opposite of yellow fever. I've got it bad. I need a cure.Don't get me wrong, I've dated Asians. In fact, I've only dated Asians in the past. I'm tired of d…

Can People Change, Even "Tools"?

There's this new show on VH1 that I happened to catch the other day. It's called Tool Academy, and you can watch it here. It's much like the other reality shows that VH1 has put out over the last couple of years like F…

How to Submit Content

We've been getting a bunch of messages lately asking how to submit content . . . so here you go. Send 'em to us at our form at datingish.com/submit-post. If you'd rather not have your username attached to your post, jus…

My BF Took Over My Group of Friends

My friends used to tell me all the time, "It's just not a party without you!" We were all really close. Then there was this guy that I really liked. After a while, we started dating, and they loved him too . . . but…

How I'll Determine If The Girl Is Right for Me

I've been in very few serious relationships...two, as a matter of fact. Neither has worked out, and the other day I started wondering why. Now the first didn't work out because I caught her at a party with a couple of…

Does Your Ex's Opinion Affect Who You Date Next?

This question was submitted by mindfulbeauty. Let's say you're still friends with your ex. Would you date a person your ex openly - and vehemently - disliked? Would all those things your ex told you about him or her mak…

I Read My Boyfriend's Journal And Didn't Like What I Saw

I have been with my guy for almost a year now, and the other night i found an old journal of his. I opened it and saw something from a few days before he and I first hung out. He'd slept with some hot girl. At first, i…

When Nice Gestures Backfire

I wanted to surprise a special someone by bringing her breakfast, but when I surprised her, she told me flatly that she'd already eaten. How was I supposed to know her eating habits and still surprise her? I was glad she…

I'm Intimidating But I Don't Know Why

So here I am, a 30-year-old single parent. I didn't ever think the word SINGLE would ever apply to me, but that was back in high school and college, when I was popular. Now I have grown up and the men I meet talk to me f…

Scandalish: Coupons Just Got Hotter

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. My husband is currently deployed, but we're trying to celebrate Valentine's Day like we would if…

Datingish Gets Me Through Bad Dates

Miss Polar Bear If you remember the countless times I've wrote about being stood up and my most recent run-in with "coffin boy", you're probably wondering why I even bother at this point anymore. I have one word fo…

Why Flirt If You're Not Interested?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. Why do guys flirt shamelessly with girls when they're not interested at all? I had an experience with this a few days ago. I spent time with a guy who I originally th…

Can Your Feelings For Someone Grow Over Time?

This is a guest blog submitted by christina_believe. I'm ecstatic - I'm 17 and I was asked in the cutest way to be my boyfriend's girlfriend . . . he's so sweet! This is my first real relationship where everything is...…

He's Just Not That Funny

This is a guest blog submitted by msullan.Have you ever met someone who is just perfect...great guy, similar interests, attractive, ambitious.....who just does not have a sense of humor?My friends are still shocked tha…

Are Some Secrets Okay To Have In A Relationship?

This is a guest blog submitted by justinimal. I just finished reading my second PostSecret book and began to wonder if any of the postcards that were sent in were submitted by my friends, relatives or ex-boyfriends. I w…

Understanding Women

This is a guest blog submitted by DearRicky.One of the main reasons I want to walk again is because I want to cook with my potential future mother-in-law. It was always a lifelong dream of mine to impress her…It's actua…

I Want My GF to Fulfill None of My Expectations

This is a guest blog submitted by nyclegodesi24. I had a conversation a couple weeks ago about the preferences/ideals I place for the girl I see myself with. It was only then that I began asking myself what I desire to…

Is My BFF Looking Out For (Or Lusting After) Me?

This is a guest blog submitted by whittpaige. I have had the same best friend since I was in seventh grade. We always help each other through everything and he knows my life story. Recently, he broke up with his girl…

How Do You Tell Your Boyfriend You Might Be Pregnant?

This is a guest blog submitted by Bbyphat22. It usually comes every month like clockwork. My stomach starts to hurt, I start craving chocolate and salty foods...but not this time around. I tried to calculate when the la…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Does Living Together Ruin A Relationship?

Dr. Datingish Next year, my boyfriend of over a year will be transferring to my college. Having not had the greatest roommate experiences in the world, I have opted to live by myself next year in an on-campus apartment.…

Friday Fun: How Would You Like to Be Proposed to?

Okay, so it may not happen today, tomorrow or for a couple years, but maybe you've thought about the day you'll ask someone to marry you or be asked the question yourself. So, ideally, how would you like to be propose…

Ten Signs You Need To End That Date

Miss Polar Bear Sometimes there's a point in a date, first or not, that you decide you need to leave. Perhaps it's that "SOS" text to a friend who's nearby, you accidentally got sick, you decided you actually liked t…

Rekindling Former Crushes

Have you ever experienced crush renewal? A Datingish reader submitted a post about running into a guy she'd liked in 7th grade - even though it had been nearly ten years since she'd last thought about him, after she saw…

"I Need Space, But I Still Want You to Call Me!"

This is a guest blog submitted by msullan. I was talking to my friend today about his recent breakup with his girlfriend. He was upset because she broke up with him, citing the need for space, but she's recently start…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm Head Over Heels But Need to Hold Back

Dr. DatingishI'm 23 and haven't really dated since high school. I met a guy around New Year's, and we've been hanging out a lot with friends, going on occasional dates, just getting to know each other. Things are going…

Wish You Were A Member of the Opposite Sex?

Miss Seal I was recently told I have penis envy. What does that even mean? I love being a girl. I've seen quite a few posts recently about what guys would do if they were girls, and vice versa, which makes me wo…

Laughter Is The Best Pickup Line

This is a guest blog submitted by MyxlDove. So I was at a birthday party the other day and I was talking to one of my close female friends. Now, she happens to be one of those just pretty-without-trying kind of women, w…

What's The Purpose of Sex?

This is a guest blog submitted by SerenaDante. I am a promiscuous person. I talk about sex a lot. I think about sex a lot. Almost my entire blog is about sex. And many people don't like this. I have been told more than…

How Fast Do You Go with Your BF/GF?

This is a guest blog submitted by sWtLiLdEvIl137.How fast do you go with your boyfriends or girlfriends? It's a question that's popped up in my mind several times, especially since the beginning of my own current relat…

"My BF Wants Me to Get Rid of the Dog My Ex Gave Me"

Mr. GiraffeMy friend told me this story about her co-worker Mariam's dog, which is becoming a roadblock in Mairiam's relationship with her boyfriend Liam. Mariam's ex gave her the dog and she loves it to pieces. They br…

Guys At School Are Betting On Who'll Get with Me First

This is a guest blog submitted by SABRiiNUh_x3. I'm Sabrina, I'm 14, and I have a problem. The guys at my school have this competition going on: it's called "see who can get Sabrina in bed first". None of them have su…

I Don't Want to Know That About You Just Yet

Miss Seal My friend was on a first date, and she and her suitor were passing by the Virgin Megastore. "I guess this is a good time to tell you that I'm a virgin," said the boy. It wasn't a good time. The first…

Everyone Thinks We Should Date Except Him

This is a guest blog submitted by dazednconfused.I've had the biggest crush on the same guy for three years. I'm a junior in high school, and we've been good friends ever since the middle of freshman year. No matter how…

What to Expect When You're Dating

This is a guest blog submitted by Power_Ranger_Freak.I was having a conversation with my Xanga friend icicle84 the other day; he mentioned something along the lines of, "I really want a super hot girlfriend with 'nice fe…

Whose Eye Beholds Beauty?

This is a guest blog submitted by CommOShin.Many of my friends are guys, so I am used to being around a lot of "guy talk". My girl friend and I have realized that guys analyze the physical attractiveness of every single…

"My Girlfriend Tested Me and I Think I Failed"

Mr. GiraffeDominic, my roommate, came home from visiting his girlfriend in Michigan and he looked quite troubled. Naturally, I asked him what was wrong and he said he had made a huge mistake with Helena, his girlfriend.…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm Worried about What I Saw in My BF's Email

Dr. Datingish I was signing into one of my many accounts the other day, and my computer brought up the emails to all the accounts I've ever logged into, one of which was my boyfriend's. We have a long distance relations…

On Looks and Attraction

This is a guest blog submitted by Jade.My friend told me once that I'm too picky when it comes to guys. She said maybe I should give an unattractive guy who likes me a chance because he would treat me better more than an…

Through the Crushing Glass

This is a guest blog submitted by healthymango. The birds were singing, the sky was a brilliant blue and the clouds just seemed to lazily float on by... Whoa! Reality check: the crows were squawking; the sky was smoggy…

I Like My Best Friend - But So Does My Other Best Friend

This is a guest blog submitted by lets_dance93. I have a few best friends who I really admire. One is a girl and the other is, of course, a boy. When my girl friend admitted to loving our best guy friend, I was stunned,…

My BF Says I'm Not The Girl in Our Relationship

This is a guest blog submitted by berisme. I have been dating my current boyfriend for a little over a year now. A few weeks ago he told me I was not being the "girl" in the relationship. Then a few nights ago, his cat…

I'm A Teen Mom Who's Dating Someone New

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. Two weeks ago my boyfriend of two years, best friend of eight years, and the father of my child dumped me. And when I say dumped, I mean dumped HARD, over a stupid ar…

My BF Dumped Me by Never Talking to Me Again

This is a guest blog submitted by eur0peandiva.I was going out with this guy until a couple of days ago. We'd been together since October but had only made it official just recently. He was the most amazing guy that any…

Is Being Romantic Borderline Creepy?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.I'm asking a guy I like to my school's Sadie Hawkins dance. The story is really complicated, so I won't bother to explain the entire situation, but from what I know of…

Girls Have to Get The Last Word In

This is a guest blog submitted by blackmagic_woman. I feel compelled to ask anyone reading this blog a question, and maybe you'll have a better answer than I can come up with. Over the summer, I dated an amazing boy and…

What Makes Someone "Good Crazy"?

Miss Polar Bear Here's a kicker for you: Apparently there is "good crazy" and "bad crazy." I was talking to a boy last week and we got to talking about exes (first sign the conversation should have ended right there…

Does It Matter How Far A Girl Has Gone?

This is a guest blog submitted by fearless__surveys. I know that many guys give people the impression that all they want is sex, but is that totally true? I'm a virgin and plan on keeping it that way for a while. I ha…

Why Men Withdraw From Women -- Are You Serious?

Miss Seal Do you ever want to chain your friend to a chair, take away her cellphone, and perhaps even deport her to a desert island without reception so she doesn't call an ex and do something stupid? My friend…

Scandalish: whipcrack

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Are you into S&M? Any stories, good or bad, about your experiences?

He's Cheated on Every GF He's Ever Had

This is a guest blog submitted by StandUp2Life.I was recently in a relationship, and the guy I was with had a girlfriend. It recently started to get out of hand (he would try to hook up with me while she was in the room,…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Can I Date Two Guys, Then Choose One?

Dr. Datingish About two months ago, I met the perfect man, J! He's a little older than I am, and we have a long distance relationship, but he is seriously the older male version of me! Everything was so perfect until re…

This Guy Made Me Physically Ill

This is a guest blog submitted by trickery19. I've only been going to my new church for a few weeks, and last week, I was invited out with a group of the young adults. So I went along and met this guy who was apparently…

My Dad's Made It Hard to Trust Guys

This is a guest blog submitted by OuttaspaceAleh. I have high standards for dating; some of my friends know why and others don't know the whole story. My father has left me and my mother nine times in nineteen years, u…

Getting Nervous around People You Like

This is a guest blog submitted by lovemigraine.Don't you hate how when it's just some random person you hardly know, flirting comes so easily? Then somehow, when it's someone you're actually interested in, you act like y…

Can You Choose Who You Fall in Love With?

This is a guest blog submitted by OhSoDifficult.I'd never been the one to pick someone to go fall for and/or to go after. The ones I fell for always caught me off guard when I least expected it. And I'm never the one to…

A Tiny Rant on Born-Again Virgins

This is a guest blog submitted by the_prestigiator. According to urbandictionary.com, a born-again virgin is a "formerly promiscuous person's commitment to not have sex (again) until marriage." Don't get me wrong. I'm n…

On Trying An Open Relationship

This is a guest blog submitted by xoxbabymonkeyoxo.Recently, a guy that I liked in high school came back into my life, and we've been seeing each other for about six weeks now. It's been amazing having him around, but at…

"I Was Just Joking About That Racy Convo I Had with Another Girl!"

This is a guest blog submitted by justtryme11.My current boyfriend and I have had a long, messed up history. We started off fine as boyfriend and girlfriend but broke up three months later. Looking back, I know this is w…

I'm Grounded And Can't See My BF

This is a guest blog submitted by Samantha.I met a guy named Chris a while ago through a friend, and we really hit it off. He's 21 and I'm 17 - where I live, I'm of the age of consent already and I'll be 18 in two months…

Friday Fun: Would You Block Out Love If You Could?

This NY Times article talks about the effects of blocking the hormone oxytocin in humans... “If we give an oxytocin blocker to female voles, they become like 95 percent of other mammal species...They will not bond no ma…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Why Haven't I Dated for Two Years?

Dr. Datingish I'm a moderately attractive 23-year-old girl. In my five-year college career, I have had only one relationship and one date. My ex and I broke up almost two years ago. Since then, I've met many eligible gu…

Battle of the Sexes: COMMUNICATION!

This is a guest blog submitted by MeLoveYouL0ngTime.After some time in a relationship, arguments are bound to happen. And it's no secret that men and women go about arguing in completely different fashions. It's those sa…

Absence Does Make The Heart Grow Fonder

This is a guest blog submitted by Adas_Devine. My boyfriend and I have been going out for about four years (five in July). I've recently started staying at his house for a couple weeks because I'm not currently workin…

Guy of My Dreams Called And I Chickened Out

This is a guest blog submitted by LiViNG_VS_EXiSTiNG7.My friend Samantha and I went to an event in my town the other night. There were a bunch of local bands playing, and it was really fun - lots of crowd surfing, drugs…

I Dumped Him But I Think I Made A Mistake

This is a guest blog submitted by miss_triathlete. My boyfriend and I were going out for about a year, but we recently broke up because of differences in lifestyle - I'm a very active and ambitious person and he's much…

How Do Guys Express Their Love?

This is a guest blog submitted by rockerchick. I've been dating this guy for two and a half months, and he's leaving for the Marines this Saturday. We've had a good relationship for the most part, but now that he's leav…

Married for 53 Years and Still In Love

This is a guest blog submitted by The_Prestigiator. I wrote a post for Lovelyish recently and received many amazing comments - everyone had something great to add to the comment thread. I don't mean to call anyone out…

Sadie Hawkins And How to Ask The Guy

This is a guest blog submitted by runner_4_jc.With Sadies coming up, I need some ideas on how I should ask my potential date to go with me. I'm about 70% sure he'll say yes. There's not much of a theme aside from maybe V…

Finally Finding Closure After A Breakup

Miss Penguin The other night something amazing happened: I got over my ex. It was like a switch flipped in my brain and suddenly I didn't need to win him back anymore. I've never been very good at getting over people…

Why I Like Being Forward When It Comes to Guys

This is a guest blog submitted by ooh_dazzle_me. I met a very cute boy while I was in the bookstore of a local college with my parents - it turns out my mom knows his mom, so we were introduced and all that good stuff.…

"I Only Call Him When I Want to Have Sex"

Mr. Giraffe There is this guy, Jack, that my friend Morgan once dated. She thought he was really attractive but was a really boring date. He was a good kisser, though, so she decided to give him another chance so she go…

Dear Dr. Datingish: If He Doesn't Like Me Anymore I'd Rather He Be Blunt

Dr. Datingish I think what hurts the most having someone lead you on. I've been hanging out with this guy for a while now and I can't stand his mixed signals anymore. At first, I thought this is too good to be true! b…

I'm Getting Jealous of My Boyfriend's Nosy Ex

This is a guest blog submitted by CoconutPalapa. I have never met, nor really know a whole lot about, my boyfriend's most current ex. But I am so jealous to the point that I hate her. He hasn't told me much about her,…

What's More Important, Your Date or American Idol?

Miss Double Shot The boyf reminded me recently that when we first started going out, I was never willing to stay out past 7 p.m. - I told him flat out that I had to go home and watch American Idol. Somehow, we are stil…

Am I Too Picky of a Dater?

This is a guest blog submitted by colorsoflife.I am almost 20 years old. I have never had a boyfriend and have only gone on two dates in my life. The first guy I felt sorry for, and some friends pressured me into going o…

Sappy Movies Are Unrealistic But You Can Learn from Them!

This is a guest blog submitted by cx3yu. [disclaimer: yes, I understand that what I want in a man is unrealistic, but a girl can dream, can't she? I blame Disney princess movies and romantic novels/movies like The Note…

Why Do People Cheat?

This is a guest blog submitted by Lena.It's been on my mind for a while after my ex's constant calling and texts telling me to pick up. Why do people cheat, then come back with their tail in between their legs? When I fi…

Do You Know Your BF/GF's Passwords?

Miss Double Shot My sister and her BF have been dating for two years now, and she was telling me how he's given her all his passwords to his accounts. He'll ask her to check his online banking to make sure he has enoug…

My Husband's Deployed and My Ex Is Trying to Get Closer

This is a guest blog submitted by XxFireXboltxX.My senior year of high school I met this guy we'll call C. C was your stereotypical high school jock, but no one cared to get past his sports achievements to see that there…

Hooking Up with a Cheater: Who's to Blame?

This is a guest blog submitted by msullan. I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she was telling me a story about her ex-boyfriend. He had just come into town and she went out for dinner and a few drink…

He Said He Misses "My Touch" But Not Me Specifically

This is a guest blog submitted by CarlyMarx.My ex Michael and I had been getting along better as friends for a while, and then over the past week or two, he became really sweet and cute and flirtatious towards me. I was…

Are Host-Customer Relationships Romantic or Fake?

This is a guest blog submitted by KasumiCelesta. Some of you who have read my comments on various blogs might know that I'm currently living in Japan as an exchange student. For one of my classes, each student had to ch…

What Would A Guy Do If He Were A Girl?

This is a guest blog submitted by raineyracecar.I've been going through a lot of females' blogs where they've been mentioning what they'd do if they were guys thanks to Beyoncé's "If I Were A Boy". It's given us female…

"You'd Be My Type If You Weren't So Tall."

This is a guest blog submitted by GiantUnicorn. I have a guy friend that I frequently flirt and joke around with even though he has a girlfriend and I'm interested in someone else. But he recently said something that sh…

What Can You Say That's Beyond "I Love You"?

Miss Double Shot I'm a cynic, so writing this post getting me to say "I love you" to anyone is pretty tough . . . but I'm also fiercely loyal to people I love, so once I start, I can't really stop. At any rate, the b…

We Both Live With Our Parents; Where Do We Make Out?

Miss Seal Making out in the car may be cute when you're 16, but now, I just feel like a class act. I'm seeing someone, and I really like him. The only problem is that we both live with our parents. What to do? I l…

Marriage Proposal on Twitter

This is a guest blog submitted by The_Prestigiator. I thought I had seen it all until I witnessed a marriage proposal. No, not in a restaurant. Not atop the Eiffel Tower. No, not in the front of some pretty fountain. I…

Would You Be With Someone Who Had A Physical Handicap?

Miss Zebra The couple was excitedly discussing their baby that was due to be born in a few months. The husband and wife had been married for years, but the wife had only just been able to get pregnant. However, the to…

He Dumped Me Out of The Blue

This is a guest blog submitted by aka_lois_lane.First, a history lesson. I was separated from my now ex-husband for almost a year when a good friend of mine got divorced. Not long after that, he and I started dating; soo…

My Parents Don't Think My BF's Good Enough for Me

This is a guest blog submitted by thistimeimperfect. I think this general topic has been brought up a dozen times already, but it's something that has me worried as I will soon be visiting the 'rents. I've been dating…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm Too Jaded to Believe in Our Relationship

Dr. Datingish I'm 18. I having been seeing my boyfriend for five years now. We had a load of problems until about a year ago, including his not being ready for commitment (but promising me the world), his being aloof…

Hot And Not-So-Hot Clichés of Men

This is a guest blog submitted by RighteousThang. I've decided to make my own hot or not list about the cliché things men can do or think. I know some of them may not seem cliché, but most are. If you must fall into o…

What's Your Definition of Romance?

This is a guest blog submitted by LiLbabeSwT. Lately I have been reading posts about how man should or should not be romantic. (Light reading: Romance is for suckers and Romance is not pointless) I showed my BF those p…

What's Appropriate Ex Behavior?

This is a guest blog submitted by eye_breathe_ewe. What is appropriate ex-girlfriend behavior? Isn't there some unwritten rule about how one should act around her ex and the new beau? Dan is my first boyfriend, so…

Why I'm Done with Dating

This is a guest blog submitted by waitingpatiently.So I've been in a rollercoaster of emotions when it comes to guys. But I think I'm over it now. The list of guys I've dated is short, but they have all turned me off to…

Suspicions and Trust in Relationships

This is a guest blog submitted by klaam_x.Have you guys found it hard to trust even the person you care most about, the person that you should be trusting with your life? But I know most of the time, it's just me over th…

Moments That You Wish Would Last Forever

This is a guest blog submitted by choochoochewii.Everyone has those moments that they wish would last forever, be it a first kiss, an embrace in a magical setting, a comical instance that happens rarely or even a moment…

Enacting Revenge on A Guy Who Broke My Heart

This is a guest blog submitted by frequentlyDAZZLING. Girl likes boy. Boy claims to like girl back. Boy kisses girl. Boy tells girl various romantic lies. Boy starts dating other girl. Girl and girl's friend put dicks…

Why Do You Date?

This is a guest blog submitted by mental_therapy. After my last "date," for lack of a better term, I have come to realize that people place too much pressure on impressing the other person. No, you are not going to fall…

Friday Fun: A Very Long Engagement

One of my friends who got engaged (you remember that Pulse, right?) told me last night that she'll be getting married in August - that means she and her fiancé will have something like an eight-month engagement. I also…

Love and Contentment

This thought du jour was submitted by Profit. The interesting thing about being in love is that while your life goals do not change there are times where you are strangely content in standstill. To think there was even…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm Attracted to A Much Younger Guy

Dr. Datingish Is it odd that I'm a 21-year-old woman and I find a 15-year-old boy attractive? I'm working with this youth group he's a part of, and I know that I'm going to have to end up quitting because of this growi…

My Friends Think We've Moved In Together Too Soon

This is a guest blog submitted by shasha0406.I've been with my boyfriend for six months and I can definitely say I'm in love with him. Here's the thing. We moved in together about a month ago. I couldn't be happier and h…

He Said "I Love You" - I Laughed

This is a guest blog submitted by AuCinema. I was thinking yesterday about how the year-and-a-half marker of my relationship with my boyfriend is only about a month away. It seems that things have changed so much in the…

My BF Keeps Wanting Me to Change for Him

This is a guest blog submitted by sandy1115.My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year and two months now. Yet almost every day - at least five days a week - we fight about something trivial. Most of the…

On People Who Always Need to Be in Relationships

This is a guest blog submitted by mbbrad4d. I was just looking at my feed on Facebook, and one of my friends' pages said, "...went from 'married' to 'in a relationship.'" The girl is in her 20s, mind you, with two kids…

Dear Dr. Datingish: My BF Hit Me - Was It My Fault?

Dr. Datingish I've been with my boyfriend for two years and a few months now, and our relationship has been a wreck. The first month we were together was awesome, but when we got back to school, the next year and a hal…

"I Need Sex Every Ten Days...Or Else"

Mr. MacchiatoA friend of mine told me that he told his wife that he needs to have sex every 10 days, or he will "start looking elsewhere". Wow, points for being honest. It's definitely true that if a man…

My BF Won't Tell Me Everything about His Past

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.My boyfriend and I are very compatible, and shortly after we met, we became best friends. We never dated until recently because he was just beginning to date some girl…

Speed Dating, A Primer

This is a guest blog submitted by Cuisine. I meet people through a variety of ways: bars, supermarkets, bookstores, the internet, social events, etc. You never know where you will meet that special somebody and I love…

This Guy Who Likes Me Is Now Stalking Me

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. There's this guy at school that is really obsessed with me, though it just started out with a little crush. I need advice on how to confront him or just advice on h…

Separation of Church and Relationships

This is a guest blog submitted by onceuponatime0717. My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for a year and a half (right now, we've been on for three months). We have just now gotten to the point in our relation…

Does A Relationship Thrive On A Steady Cashflow?

This is a guest blog submitted by bananas. My boyfriend is going to study abroad for a semester next year. Initially, when I received this news, I was a bit surprised and depressed about it, but other than the fact that…

Don't Tell Me You Love Me - Show Me

This is a guest blog submitted by not_a_real_site. What does love mean? Is love fickle? I told her I loved her and she told me she loved me. Yet she is not here beside me. Nor do I want her to be. It wasn't that long…

Why, At 17, I Have Never Had A Real BF

This is a guest blog submitted by ENDSILENCE. 1. I think too much. To put it simply, I have more going on in my head in one day than the average soap opera. My mind is racing with thoughts about what I am doing this wee…

My Ex And I Are Hooking Up...

Miss Penguin So, my ex (the army guy) and I are back in a phase of basically being together even though we're not together. What I mean by this is that we talk somewhat regularly, text a lot, tell each other we miss e…

Why Ask For My Number If You Won't Call?

Miss Seal My friend brought a great question to my attention: why do boys ask for your number and then never call you?From what I know, working up the courage to approach a girl and ask for her number isn't easy to…

Talking Sex with Your Parents

This is a guest blog submitted by SWEETxN0VEMBER. As I was growing up, I never thought I would have sex until I was married, of course. That idea was implanted in your head ever since you became interested in the opposi…

Why Do We Settle in Relationships?

This is a guest blog submitted by MeLoveYouL0ngTime.We've all seen it. Hell, we've all been there.WHY do we sometimes find ourselves observing, or even being a part of, a relationship where one or both people are clear…

I'm Coy And Subtle And Guys Don't Get It

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I, being a stubborn and proud individual, do not like acting openly interested in a boy. For an instance, when I notice that a group of boys or just one boy looks int…

How Can You Make A FWB Relationship Work?

This is a guest blog submitted by Nina.The idea of a friends with benefits relationship has been discussed in pop culture, from songs to TV shows, so it's no surprise to me to actually see this type of relationship in re…

Valentine's Day - How Early Is Too Early?

I was out with the boyf before New Year's in search of hot chocolate and gloves, and I noticed that although all the Christmas paraphernalia was on firesale (of course), all the Valentine's Day stuff was out in full disp…

Buying Gifts For Your SO Can Be A Competition

This is a guest blog submitted by sick_of_this_bullshit. So not only is Valentine's Day about a month away, but my BF's and my anniversary is less than two weeks away. I don't want to be cheap about it, and I am going t…

How Many Dates Do You Go On Before Sleeping With A Guy?

Mr. Lion I was at Starbucks and overheard a cashier asking the question, "so how many dates do you go before sleeping with a guy?" I looked up to give her an answer, except she was asking her coworker, who was makin…

I'm Asexual - How Far Do I Let Her Take Me?

This is a guest blog submitted by White_Kitsukami.I've deemed myself asexual, but I am not completely against having a relationship. It's one of those things where you just KNOW your sexual orientation.But, recently, I h…

My Boyfriend Was Texting Another Girl

This is a guest blog submitted by LiLBallz16.My boyfriend had been texting a female friend of his for a while. He said that they had known each other for years through their parents. They had the kind of relationship w…

The Virginity Dilemma

This is a guest blog submitted by deathtemplar. This New Year's Eve, I was out with a girl I met online. It was our first date, and of course, I dressed to impress; she wasn't dressed too poorly, either! We decided on…

I Felt Abandoned - Was I A Needy GF?

This is a guest blog submitted by bike_for_life. My last relationship lasted roughly two months. My longest has been three months long, but I am usually single because I don't pursue something unless I think it could le…

How My Big Boobs Ruined My Life

This is a guest blog submitted by love_hate_whats_new. I suppose I can't blame it all on the breasts; they're here for a purpose: to bring on the squishy, jiggly fun. They even keep my hands warm sometimes... but they a…

Scandalish: Lying about STDs?

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Have you ever lied about having an STD?

I Think My Ex-Boyfriend Is Gay

This is a guest blog submitted by itslovemakeithurt0. I am convinced that my ex might be gay. There are many reasons why I might think this:People who don't really know him have asked me if he was gay. They said thing…

Follow-Up: How Do You Get Over A Frat Boy?

This is a follow-up to this post. First of all, thank you everyone who commented on my former entry. Many people commented asking why I couldn't just get over him. I have never, in my nineteen years of life, just casua…

I Crushed On A Guy While I Was Dating Someone

This is a guest blog submitted by AnonyMiss. Crushes. Everyone gets them, and usually, we don't even know why or how they came to develop. Which could be a major problem. Mostly if you are already in a relationship. My…

What's Intimidating about A Girl?

This is a guest blog submitted by lovemigraine.There are so many types of girls and, in my experience, all the good guys are usually shy. There are even those guys that seem like they'd be forward, but when it comes to a…

High Maintenance Guys On Dating Sites

Miss Penguin Okay, so I'm on day, what, 3? of my 2nd online dating experiment (on plentyoffish) and already starting to lose faith in the system. So I've sent out 8 messages, 7 of which have been read (it bothers…

Moving to Be with A Significant Other?

My boyfriend and I dated our senior year of high school. When we were deciding where to go to college, we decided that proximity to each other would NOT be a factor in choosing which schools to attend. Thus, I ended up…

I Don't Love My BF Anymore But I Can't Tell Him That

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. My boyfriend is seemingly perfect; he would do anything for me, he really is a gentleman, he would never ever cheat on me and he doesn't even look at other girls. He…

What's The Best Way to Break Up With Someone?

This is a guest blog submitted by RoidBear. What is truly the best (and safest) way of breaking up with a person? Breaking up with your girlfriend/boyfriend can be a difficult thing to do and it can be different for ev…

The Truth about Abusive Relationships

This is a guest blog submitted by Nicola_Six. Note: I was inspired to write this post because of the many comments - some constructive, some ignorant - regarding the girlfriend who was hit after being in a relationship…

How Do You Feel About Girly Girls?

This is a guest blog submitted by LaBellaMorena. So I was just on Xanga reading this post about a woman who thinks she is not girly enough. One of the commenters replied, "the stock is down on girly girls". Is this tru…

Would You Still Ask Someone Out If You Knew You Didn't Have A Chance?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I have always wondered about this; do people still ask a person out even if they are aware of the odds against them? I personally have never asked someone out as o…

Friday Fun: Which Is More Normal - Phone Sex or Cybering?

There was an earlier post about cybering, and we got in an internal debate here at Datingish HQ. None of us would confess to cybering, but we talked about it "hypothetically". We agreed that we didn't get cybering, but…

My Family's Rules On Dating

This is a guest blog submitted by ally_bay_bee. I have always grown up with strong, independent women in my family - my aunts, my mother, my grandmother. I was taught three key things when it came to relationships: 1)…

Our Love Life Is Meh And He's Been Looking At Chicks Online

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I stay over at my boyfriend's place every now and then - we have been together for a little over two years. He has a tendency to keep going on the computer to check…

Do Guys Like Ditzy Girls?

Miss Seal I recently read the article "8 Surprising Turn-ons for Men". I must admit, the turn-ons really weren't that surprising. It was the standard mix of "we love baseball hats, understated underwear and sweet sm…

The Big Ugly Monster That Isn't Jealousy

This is a guest blog submitted by sweetsweetsugarjunkie.That big ugly monster is, in fact, you.Well, okay, not you, it's me, but I'm sure a lot of you can relate!I've had a pretty rough life. It was always others' needs…

Masturbation Paraphernalia

This is a guest blog submitted by RighteousThang. How is it that guys can get off just looking at the bra selection in a JC Penney catalog, but girls have to be all physically and emotionally stimulated first in order t…

How To Submit Posts (But Not Ones About Twilight)

We've been getting a bunch of messages lately asking how to submit posts to the site. There are a couple different ways: 1) message us your post 2) send it to us at datingish.com/submit-post 3) send it to us here if yo…

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