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Dear Dr. Datingish: This 'Ship Has An Expiration Date!
Dr. Datingish A friend of a friend of mine lives in New York right now. She'sfinishing up her Ph.D. and her boyfriend is involved behind the scenes on Broadway. Shehates living in New York and plans to move somewh… -
Relationship Remnants - To Save or Not to Save...
This is a guest blog submitted by sleepyhead. My brother recently had a fight with his wife about some things he found in her closet. She had a box full of pictures, notes and some bears that she'd collected over the… -
"Just One More Tattoo, Babe!"
This is a guest blog submitted by melsie. I'll admit it, I'm not a big fan of tattoos. There, I said it....whew. Sure, it's nice to look at all of the cool body art people have, but I would prefer that the guy I date… -
What's Your Perfect Kiss Like?
This is a guest blog submitted by sahar. I've definitely had some knee weakening kisses by ex-lovers. One of my favorites happened last New Year's Eve - my then-boyfriend and I were on the rooftop of a Battery Park apa… -
No, I Don't Want to Be Friends Right After We Break Up!
This is a guest blog submitted by sleepyhead. Ever since high school, I've been fascinated with how couples react to each other after they break up. I used to watch couples after they broke up in school - they always… -
When Your Parents Are The Ones Dating
This is a guest blog submitted by mikeljason. Dating can be tough at any age or stage in life. It's hard enough to ask someone out when you're 15, and it doesn't get any easier as you get older. I bet the pressure doesn… -
PDA, Part 2: The Fine Line Between Affection and Vulgarity
What's acceptable when it comes to PDA? We talked about it last month, but this reader took a different side of the argument. This is a guest blog submitted by sahar. Some people claim that kissing in public is allowe… -
Who Should Make the First Move - Guys or Girls?
This is a guest blog submitted by melsie. My friend and I were discussing this topic the other day... She says she's afraid to make the first move, but I, on the other hand, have no problems making the first move if… -
A Match Made in Heaven or in Snowboard Hell?
This is a guest blog submitted by melsie. "The Bachelor" and "The Bachelorette" don't have the greatest track records in terms of long lasting relationships, but for some reason, I watch both shows each season they'r… -
Dating Disasters: When Nature Calls...
This is a guest blog submitted by mikeljason. We all have bad dates, and once some time has passed, we can actually look back on them and laugh (sorta). They make for funny stories afterward but are pretty horrible wh… -
"You're The Right Person; It's Just The Wrong Time"
This is a guest blog submitted by sleepyhead. Most of us have heard cheesy phrases like, "You're the right person, but it's just the wrong time" at one time or another. But, honestly, what do those lines really mean - i… -
Dealbreakers and Denise Huxtable - What's Your Type?
This is a guest blog submitted by mikeljason. The world is roughly 5 billion people strong - that means that theoretically, there's someone for everyone in the world. The thing is, we all have certain qualifiers and d… -
Can Longer Leg Hair Mean Greater Love?
This is a guest blog submitted by sahar. Being comfortable with a significant other is definitely an important part of a relationship, but can being comfortable mean letting yourself go? My cousin Anna got married to… -
Making Your Relationship a Public Affair
This is a guest blog submitted by sleepyhead. Most people have fantasized about getting friendly with their significant other or a stranger in a public place - maybe you've seen or even known people who have "done it"… -
Chick Flicks and Sweatpants - The Breakup Schedule
By Miss Double Shot I was listening to Fiona Apple at work and it reminded me of a breakup with an old flame . . . there's nothing like listening to an angry, sullen girl play melancholy piano ballads when you'r… -
Rekindling Romance, Facebook Style
This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I usually only accept people on Facebook who I know or people who tell me that their Facebook account would be "mad cool" if I added them. I even friended a girl… -
Knight in Shining Armor is Fed Up with His Princess
This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. "I don't know what to do about him." One of my friends has been saying that a lot lately since her fairytale wedding a year ago. You know the drill . . . kisses an… -
Couples that fart together, stay together?
by Mr. Macchiato I am a big believer in *not* letting them rip in front of your loved ones. I mean, you love them right? Why would you inflict that on someone you love?! Believe it or not, this subject h… -
Pregnancy Scare: Scared to Have Sex Again
This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. If you're a woman and sexually active, one of the most frightening situations you can find yourself buried in is the pregnancy scare. When it happened to me, I… -
American Teen and The High School Flashback
By Miss Double Shot Here's the trailer for American Teen, a movie I saw this past weekend . . . it's the story of five high school seniors from Indiana who are getting ready to move on to the next part of their live… -
Guys, How Are You Feeling? We Want to Know.
Dr. Datingish A female reader writes, How come it's so hard for a guy to tell you how he is feeling even if you give him so many opportunities to say it? For example, what does the response, "that's not my mindset… -
Featured Comment: Full Disclosure on First Dates?
saxy_grrl responded to a recent post about disclosing too much on a first date, and she asked a great set of questions:I think this brings up the question -- when do you reveal something like that? (Meaning, any secret… -
Can your girlfriend keep a Secret?
by Mr. Macchiato I have a pet peeve: I simply can't stand it if a girlfriend can't keep a secret. I had always assumed that secrets were secrets, until the first time I had a confidence betrayed by a girl I… -
TMI, kthxbye
By Miss Double Shot My roommate has been going out with some really strange guys as part of an "exclusive! millionaires only! très selective!" matchmaking gig . . . she texted me earlier today to tell me that one of th… -
How Do You Make Date Nights Different?
By Miss Double Shot A friend and I were out last week watching couples swing dance as part of NYC's Midsummer Night Swing. Essentially, Lincoln Center opens its courtyard to anybody who wants to dance or watch; a liv… -
Friday Fun: Do You Believe in Horoscopes?
One of my friends started reading her horoscope about a month ago. Although she acknowledges that most of the predictions could apply to a lot of people, she's also noticed that some of the things she reads are eerily tr… -
Don't Change a Hair for Me
By Miss Double Shot My friend Nora (remember her?) always wears her hair up - I've known her for a couple years now and I've only seen it down once! "It gets in my way," she said, "and I don't have anyone to impr… -
Flirty Femme is Super Sick of Cosmo's Puns, "Advice"
By Miss Double Shot I was a big fan of teen magazines when I was a young teenager - it felt like I was reading something I wasn't supposed to see and could get a glimpse at what could potentially happen to me in the f… -
Poll: Would You Let Your Ex Hook You Up with Someone New?
A Datingish reader writes... I just found out about this dating reality show on Bravo where this woman is being set up with the help of none other than her ex-fiance. I don't watch much TV anymore, but I honestly d… -
The Truth about Cats and Dogs
by Mr. Macchiato When Mrs. Macchiato first moved into my apartment, she brought her cat Smokey (see right). It was definitely a shock to my system! My whole life I've had dogs. I love dogs. They are so l… -
Meeting The Boyf's Boss
By Miss Double Shot I was book shopping with Floyd last weekend when he noticed his boss checking out CDs on the other side of the store. "C'mon," Floyd told me; "I want you to meet my boss!" We both talk about our jo… -
The Game of Life: Are you ahead or behind schedule?
by Mr. Macchiato When I married my wife, she had just turned 26 years old. Shortly before the big day, she told me she was surprised that she was almost exactly "on schedule" for her life timeline. I guess… -
Little Romantic Gestures Add Up
By Miss Double Shot Check out this clip from Say Anything... starting around 6:30. You'll see Lloyd (John Cusack) do Diane (Ione Skye) a little favor that she remembers and appreciates. "Dad, do you you know what h… -
Crush + Phone = Anxiety
By Miss Double Shot Marie, one of my roommates in college, was a fantastic conversationalist; she was funny, smart and perceptive and we could - and did - talk for hours about whatever was on our minds. She held… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: We're Never Together Anymore
Dr. Datingish I've been going out with my girlfriend for the past 5 months. We just graduated from high school and are heading to college soon. We had a great time together during the school year, but as summer roll… -
Is pr0n Cheating?
by Mr. Macchiato A friend of mine writes an advice column. She was telling me that one of the most popular topics is porn in relationships! According to her, women these days are divided into two main camps:… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Should I Still Stick Around?
Dr. Datingish I’m 25 years old and I'm still together with my high school sweetheart(it's been 7 years now). We were dating for about a year and thingswere good, but I started having doubts and didn't see it l… -
When Women are the Breadwinners (and Men are not)
by Mr. Macchiato A good friend of mine is a successful lawyer at one of the top law firms in town. She's also a single girl in her early 30's. *cue dramatic music* Over time, she's found that her caree… -
It's OK if you're short, as long as you are RICH!
by Mr. Macchiato Wow, a lot of girls will only date guys who are taller than them! Mrs. McAllister was right... short girls have a lot easier time finding men. I went online to get some hard data on heig… -
The Prince and The Pauperess: Inter-Class Relationships
By Miss Double Shot I grew up in an modest neighborhood in an upper-middle class suburb. About ten minutes from my house, though, there were multimillion dollar houses, Lamborghinis in our high school parking lot and a… -
On Dating Tall(er) Girls
by Mr. Macchiato I have a confession: I am 5'8". I know that I am not tall, but I don't think about my height very often. My wife is 5'2", so we fit together nicely. Still though, I was doing some Googl… -
Friday Fun: Describe Your Ideal SO
Let's say you were walking down the street and bumped into the absolute love of your life. He or she is exactly what you look for in a significant other both mentally, physically and emotionally. What specific qualitie… -
"You Look like a Dog"
This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader (she is a Korean female). I was standing in line at Starbucks and this African guy with a heavy accent behind me said, "You look like a dog." "What?!" "You look l… -
Dating with An Agenda
By Miss Double Shot I went out with a guy (thankfully, only once) who was a year and a half younger than I was. He kept asking me how much older I was, and when he realized that I wasn't underage like he was, he… -
Poll: Who Rules Your MySpace Top 8?
By Miss Double Shot Okay, MySpace/Facebook/social networking site members, so your Top 8 may be made up of your family and friends, but where does your significant other go? When I was on the site, my sister was always… -
Google Questions #2: Brutal Honesty?
By Miss Double Shot Someone visited Datingish after Googling "should you be brutally truthful when breaking up with a lover?". I thought about it, and while it's a normal question at face value, when I started to think… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Crushing at Starbucks
Dr. Datingish Dear Dr. Datingish, I've been crushing on a girl who works at my neighborhood Starbucks for a few months now. It wasn't until recently (last week) that I decided to man-up and talk to her. I mad… -
Who Wears the Pants in Your Relationship?
By Miss Double Shot I can be laid-back, indecisive and moody - I like for people to plan out events in advance for me and don't like having to make big decisions for myself or my gentleman du jour. Ex-BF was a lot li… -
Sharing A Bed under Your Parents' Roof
By Miss Double Shot My sisters have serious boyfriends, and the last time I came home for a visit, the guys were staying at our place overnight. My parents are touchy about having guys spend the night unless they… -
Girls and their Girlfriends
by Mr. Macchiato On the subject of dressing up for dates, it's funny: Mrs. Macchiato spends a lot of time getting ready for dates. But the dates aren't with me - they are for her girlfriends! When we go ou… -
The High Cost of Dating
by Mr. Macchiato Wow, this is a great point about the high cost of dating (for girls): [W]hen girls go on dates there are a lot of hidden costs to looking "good" i.e. getting nails done, expensive hair trea… -
Dating Pet Peeves: When a Date expects you to pay
by Mr. Macchiato A number of people had the same dating pet peeve. As one person put it: my No. 1 dating pet-peeve is when my date EXPECTS me to pay. If she at least offers, I will happily pay for the date… -
Aaaand I Would Fly 3000 Miles!
By Miss Double Shot RJ, my roommate from last year, won a prestigious award this spring and will be moving to Germany in the fall to do research and teach English. Great, right? The problem is that Jake, his boyfrien… -
Dating like a Man
by Tyra Lee (guest blogger) Everyone says that I have such a guy mentality when it comes to dating... I really don't think that I do at all. In fact, I think maybe a lot of women out there have the same take on relati… -
Dinner Date Disasters
By Miss Double Shot I was out on a first date a few years ago, and although the guy and I were getting along pretty well, we went to a pretty saucy dim sum place and I had no idea what I was ordering. I'm very indepen… -
Dating Etiquette: Dating Pet Peeves
by Mr. Macchiato I have a friend I have lunch with now and then. I always enjoy breaking bread with him, but I can't stand how he talks down to the wait staff! He is incredibly condescending to them - when… -
Interested in a Girl that 10 million Other Guys are also Interested In
By Trigger 821 (guest blog) How doyou get the attention of a girl who gets frequently asked out by a bundle ofother guys? How do you set yourself apart from the other guys? I wonder how thegirl feels and what… -
Which is worse: Emotional or Physical Cheating?
by Mr. Macchiato Have you guys heard about A-Rod and Madonna's "affair"? Supposedly they've never actually physically cheated... they're just spending a lot of time together. A-Rod leaves his house as late… -
Dear Dr. Datingish: Having Doubts and Trapped
Dr. Datingish We get a lot of advice requests here at Datingish, so we're launching a new feature: Dr. Datingish! But rather than have a single person give advice, we thought we'd put each question out to the entire… -
The "Honeymoon Period" in a new relationship
by Mr. Macchiato You know how when new couples get together, they're in that "honeymoon" period? Where everything is perfect and the two lovebirds have never been happier, blah blah blah. I was trying to d… -
Friday Fun: Riddle Me This
I was surprised to see that while we have a strong female population here, a good number of guys read Datingish, too! So, darlings, post a question you've always wanted to ask someone of the opposite sex and someone sh… -
Bouncing Back from A Broken Engagement
By Miss Double Shot Ex-BF and I had a good split, if such a thing exists. "It's not working; we really don't have much in common; well, see ya." So while we weren't hostile, we never really kept in touch after our brea… -
Sticking Around in a Doomed Relationship
by Mr. Macchiato Thanks for all the great comments on the last post about breakups! This one in particular caught my eye: with my ex, I wanted to break up about a year into it, but I thought "well, it's b… -
How to Break Up with your Girlfriend (or Boyfriend)
by Mr. Macchiato Back in college, my friends and I struggled with the best way to end a relationship that wasn't working out. Here are a few of the tried and true techniques we (re-)invented over the years: Ignor… -
Planning the Ultimate Date
by Mr. Macchiato Mrs. Macchiato and I have very different approaches to fun! There are three main ingredients to her perfect weekend: Adventure! - The Missus loves to go to new exciting places, and do something c… -
Can You Hold Your Own in Conversation?
By Miss Double Shot Two Octobers ago, I was stuck in a New York airport hoping to get home in time for our school's big Halloween party. My flight had been delayed for hours and I was generally fed up . . . the guy nex… -
On getting pampered when I am sick
by Mr. Macchiato I was feeling sick yesterday; somehow, I had come down with a sore throat the night before. My forehead felt hot, although the temperature said my temp was normal . I had a headache that came and… -
Can People Ever Really Change?
By Miss Double Shot My old roommate Gina has different standards than I do - her ex-boyfriend, Larry, was a real charmer who smoked pot every day, named his cat Opie for (of course) opium and had been fired from his l… -
Waiting for Sex
By onlysortofirish (guest blog) How far in a relationship does it become "ok" to have sex? (dum dum DUMMM) I'm 25 years old. I'm no stranger to this game of sex and dating....but this is always a debate with me and my… -
Do You Like Me? Check Yes or No.
By Miss Double Shot I wish the Check Yes or No note were still socially acceptable after elementary school. I remember the careful writing and box drawing, the tenuous folding and refolding and the actual delivery as… -
Good Idea/Bad Idea: Blogging Relationships
By Miss Double Shot When we started bouncing post ideas off of each other a month or so ago, I was really uncomfortable opening up to everyone and rehashing what some of my biggest romantic "whoops"es were. Fortuna… -
Dating Etiquette: Facebook Flirting, part Two
by Mr. Macchiato I heard back from my friend who tracked down a girl from a Boston trade show. We collectively advised him to send this Facebook message: "Hi Samantha. It was nice meeting you on the bus and I was… -
That "You complete me, I can't live without you" kind of love
By mikim0to (guest blogger) I worry. A lot. Most of the time, it's about inconsequential shit not worth worrying about, like whether or not I should dye my hair back to blond again. (I won't. I don't want to be a… -
"Never marry a man who has no friends"
by Mr. Macchiato A NYTimes columnist wrote about a 79-year old priest who gives a lecture called, "Whom Not to Marry". He gives lots of advice on the sort of men to avoid. We'll go through them this week, but I t… -
What to do with your Ex's Stuff?
by hopelessromantic, guest blogger Having recently gone through a breakup, I was confronted with the question of "what do you do with the ex's stuff?" You know, the stuffed animals, the sweatshirt, the kitchy souvenirs… -
Friday Fun: Pet Names
By Miss Double Shot Sweetie, honey, baby, sugar, pumpkin . . . the list goes on and on. What pet names have you had or given? Are there any you can't stand? (I can't stand "baby girl" - I think it's soooo demeaning!… -
Summer Dreams, Ripped at The Seams
By Miss Double Shot Grease was on TV the other night, and as I sang along with Summer Lovin', I looked past the poodle skirts for a minute and thought about Sandy's plight. She met a guy on vacation, they met, fell fo… -
Relentlessly Pursuing Unattainable Men
by sandelion23, guest blogger My 24 year old friend Jack claimsto have only liked three women in his life.When he told me this, I wasflabbergasted. I was certain that he was either lying or unreasonably(and insanel… -
"She is the E to my MC squared"
by Mr. Macchiato Came across this awesome Dr. Date advice column (via d4nnyb0i) Dear Dr. Date, I need a little help to recruit myself a sorority girl. I am an IT Honors student, and not exactly the type of guy who… -
Torn between BFFs and BF/GF
By Miss Double Shot I think the hardest part of being in a relationship with Ex-BF was trying to delegate time with both him and my best friends. We got together pretty quickly - none of this whole "does he like me?" p… -
Age Differences in dating
by Mr. Macchiato I am almost exactly four years older than my wife. Mrs. Macchiato tells me that in Korean culture, it's considered lucky to be exactly four years apart. Any multiple of four will work: 8 years… -
Your Turn: What I Want in A Woman
JadedJanissary made a list of what he wants in a lady friend. I thought it was pretty fantastic. The single most important thing I want in a woman is someone who inspires me, which is actually something I've never expe… -
Who's In Charge Here? Photo Edition
I was walking the other day and saw a couple holding hands this way. The girl held out her pointer finger for the guy to hold, and he held onto it with his whole hand. (This is the gesture, but I know it's a parent an… -
Dating an Only Child
by Mr. Macchiato Dang, only children got beat up in our last post about dating and birth order! Here are some direct quotes from the comments: "I don't think I will date another only child like myself, too selfish"… -
Ish and Ex Meet-Ups - Who Pays?
By Miss Double Shot I was talking to my friend Michelle about Datingish over the weekend when we met for coffee, and she said she wanted advice on a recent Ish moment that left her baffled. Michelle had dated Rob in… -
Iffy Relationships: Give 'Em Time or Leave?
By Miss Double Shot My mom has had the same woman cut her hair for the past fifteen years. She'd drag me and my siblings along to hair appointments, too, where Joann would massacre our lovely locks. "Can I get mine c…
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