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Befriending and Defriending a Bully
By Miss Double Shot You've already heard a little about Jim - his parents didn't like me, remember? We were friends from the end of high school until about halfway through college. Our relationship was a strange one… -
Chivalry: Shouldn't It Be The Girls' Turn?
By Miss Double Shot Poor Mr. Macchiato had to listen to me ramble about etiquette the other day. I was so annoyed with a couple I saw on the street. I watched a guy open a door for a girl (brownie points!) and watched… -
Birth Order and Dating
by Mr. Macchiato Mrs. Macchiato and I went to brunch with another couple this weekend. It was reasonably fun, although I am soooo not a fan of double dates. The boy had an interesting life story: he didn't like co… -
Dating Etiquette: Following up on Facebook
By Mr. Macchiato I was instant messaging with a friend, and he asked for dating advice. I wasn't sure what to tell him, so I promised him to post his situation on Datingish! Any words of wisdom? Last week, I fle… -
Get A Room! Fun with PDA
By Miss Double Shot The train I take to get into NYC is always crowded on the weekends, but if I'm lucky enough, I can grab a square foot of space to myself and stand in the corner while I count down the minutes until… -
Friday Fun: When Did You Start Dating?
By Miss Double Shot The rules the 'rents set were pretty simple: no dating until you're 16. I remember lamenting to my friends how unfair it was - everybody else could start before 16! (there may be have been a few i… -
What Does Hooking Up Mean?
By Miss Double Shot One of my college professors was fascinated with the way our generation uses the term "hooking up". She was amazed at how casually people my age threw around the phrase and how nobody seemed to pa… -
Can Animals Love, Too?
By Miss Double Shot Over the weekend, I read the book Why We Love and learned a bunch about how love works on a biological level. Cool things Dr. Helen Fisher mentions: Animals don't have emotions, right? Ehhh... whil… -
She Fell for the Upper West Side Instead of The Guy
By Miss Double Shot My friend Nora had known Nick for a while before he started housesitting a luxury 35th floor apartment for his cousin. Nick had always wanted to go after her, but because they lived on opposite end… -
How to Be a Good Wife
By Mr. Macchiato There's a famous chapter on "How to Be a Good Wife" from a 1950s home economics textbook (Snopes says it may be real, but they're not sure). Here are a few of the more ridiculous excerpts about how t… -
Being One Half of a Whole
By Miss Double Shot You know Bennifer, Brangelina, Speidi . . . I've even seen Ashlee Simpson and Pete Wentz referred to as "Ashlete". Whatever the cutesy nicknames may be, the reality of their situations is that thes… -
Do You Fight Fairly?
By Miss Double Shot Tami and Eric Taylor from Friday Night Lights make up one of my favorite TV couples - they're probably the most realistic couple on television today. My favorite part about their relationship, tho… -
The Dancing Circle of Girls
By Mr. Macchiato We had a recent guest blog by an Asian girl where she mentions the infamous dancing circle: "[Asian guys] bust that move where they dance beside you, hoping you'll let them join your circle of dancing… -
Good Morning from Miss Double Shot
By Miss Double Shot Hello friendly Ishers! This is my official first post under my new moniker, so I hope it clears up any confusion as to who's who. Mr. Macchiato and yours truly have been posting since the beginning… -
Poll: Is It Okay to Check Text Message Records?
By Miss Double Shot Title says it all . . . is it cool to check your significant other's text history or call records? If you've got a story about this issue (which is even more prominent now that almost everyone ha… -
How different races hit on or sexually harass girls in the City of Angels
This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. It is rated C for Caution. If you are easily offended, please do not read this post! How different races hit on or sexually harass girls in the City of Angels I j… -
Insecurities in Dating
By Mr. Macchiato Growing up, I noticed that almost every woman is insecure on some level about her looks. I didn't date a ton, but I noticed early on that every time I complimented a girl on her looks, she would beam… -
How many partners is too many?
By Mr. Macchiato I was talking with a friend about our "numbers". No, not the number of people we have slept with... but the "number" of our partners. Actually we didn't get that specific - we were focusing… -
Hello from Mr. Macchiato
By Mr. Macchiato Ok, sorry for not posting yesterday. I was struggling to come up with a code name for myself. Let me explain: there are two of us writing for the site: writer #1 is a girl and I am the boy. We thoug… -
Dating Someone with A Vice
By Miss Double Shot I'm an addict. Every morning, before I think, talk to anyone or do anything, I need coffee. I've been drinking it for ten years now and am completely useless without it. Guys I've dated or datedis… -
Ex-Tendencies Part II - Your Soundtrack
By Miss Double Shot 2002: Ex-Ish (get it? He and I dated...ish) and I drove around in my car, hanging out, wasting gas and listening to the Beatles. He was 15 and didn't have his learner's permit yet, so he navigated… -
Your Turn #1: Can You Slow Things Down Without Consequences?
A reader sent us this dilemma; what do you think she should do? My boyfriend and I started dating 2 months ago. His last girlfriend lived far away and they didn't see each other too often. Sexually, they got as far as… -
Do You Take Compliments or Deflect Them?
By Miss Double Shot I was raised in a big family, and my parents' mantra for me and my siblings was pretty simple and effective: The world does not revolve around you. It's a great statement to keep in mind if you wo… -
Two Day, Zero Night Vacations
By Miss Double Shot Two summers ago, I interned in NYC, five hundred miles from home. I kept in touch with all of my friends over AIM and on the phone, but you can only go so long without seeing someone until you go in… -
Google Questions
Someone found our site after searching "when a woman answer let just be friends is it final" Her take: Yes, it's final . . . I've probably been asking my friends what to say and "let's be friends" is the best thing we c… -
Being Beautiful versus Being Interesting
By Mr. Macchiato Personally, I don't really place a huge amount of value on looks. But I find beauty to be truly fascinating. It has such a huge impact on how people respond to you... that can't help but shape you as… -
Friday Fun Part 2: Cheesy Pickup Lines
Did it hurt? (Did what hurt?) When you fell from heaven. If I could rearrange the alphabet, I'd put U and I together. I lost my number . . . can I have yours? What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard? -
Pucker Up . . . Later?
By Miss Double Shot I'm a late bloomer - I like to think of it as a) procrastination and b) letting my awesomeness incubate for longer than most people need. I had my growth spurt late, I got my license years after my… -
Music and Romance
By Mr. Macchiato A friend of mine is obsessed with the idea of a girl singing to him while she plays the guitar. I guess as fantasies go, this one is kinda tame. Personally though, I was always kinda skeptical unti… -
First Crush
By Mr. Macchiato I was such a late bloomer that I basically ignored all romantic cues from girls until I was well in college. Which brings me to the story of the first crush of my dating career, during junior high sch… -
Do you have a Brain Trust?
By Mr. Macchiato A "Brain Trust" is the core group of friends you turn to when you need relationship advice. If you've ever seen Scrubs, you know what I mean (the Janitor has an hilarious all-male brain trust). Carr… -
Bad Boys, Bad Boys (and sex)
By Mr. Macchiato Scientists have finally identified a "dark triad" of personality traits that define "bad boys": the self-obsession of narcissismthe deceitful and exploitative nature of Machiavellianismthe impulsive, t… -
I Failed the eHarmony Compatibility Test
By Miss Double Shot A few years ago, my friend and I were looking for a way to kill time on a weeknight, and with the TV blaring eHarmony ads in the background - you remember the "this! will! beeee! my everlasting love… -
The Semi-Annual Sale Experience
By Miss Double Shot It's the most wonderful tiiiiiiiime of the yeeeeeeeear! For girls like me who hate paying full price for expensive underwear, the Victoria's Secret Semi-Annual Sale is like Christmas in June. The s… -
Turn On, Tune In, Drop Out
By Miss Double Shot My friend has a 45 minute commute every morning that's usually spent waking up to music and reading. Like most people on the train, she listened to her iPod on the way to work, but one morning, she… -
Do Drunk Dials Ring True The Next Morning?
By Miss Double Shot Drunken confessions are nothing new, but they've become exponentially more widespread and convenient with the advent of cell phones. Calls at 3 a.m. are sort of an expectation if you have friends wi… -
Confidence with ze Ladies
By Mr. Macchiato Back in college, I ran into the same problem a few times: I would meet up with a female friend for a casual lunch or coffee, and find myself on a surprise date. Like with my friend Aliana - she had se… -
How Would You Do on Reality TV?
By Miss Double Shot Average Joe. The Bachelor. The Bachelorette. Age of Love. For Love or Money. Blind Date. A Shot at Love. Rock of Love. Joe Millionaire Who wants to compete with a bunch of other people for one pers… -
Intimidated by Beautiful Women
By Mr. Macchiato This is embarrassing, but I used to get nervous when I talked to beautiful women. Then one day I read an interview with a beautiful newscaster. She said that she didn't get asked out to the prom beca… -
LOL, Are You More Honest Online?
By Miss Double Shot I love talking to people online. There's a rhythm to the whole online conversation that's completely different from normal face-to-face speaking, and I love being able to think instead of having to… -
Can men and women ever just be friends?
By Mr. Macchiato Let's get this one out of the way: can men and women ever just be friends? Rather than rehash old ground, let's go to the original argument: Harry: [N]o man can be friends with a woman that he finds… -
Cheerleader or Band Geek: Which Are You?
By Miss Double Shot My freshman and sophomore years of high school, I had to do band (parents' orders) but tried out for cheerleading every year anyway. If I'd just make the team, I could turn in my trumpet and total… -
Tremen -> Datingish
We just changed this site name to datingish! Tremen was just a fun code word that we used to start the site off... short for "tremendous". Now when datingish.com gets huge, you can tell people that you knew the site ba… -
The Few, The Proud, The Cocooners
By Miss Double Shot A bunch of my friends have met their significant others at bars or out at parties, and most of those friends would rather die than stay home most nights. As for me, though, I'd rather stay at my pl… -
Staying friends with Ex's
By Mr. Macchiato Looking back at my dating life, I wouldn't change much. Each relationship changed me, mostly for the better. But there's one thing I would change about how things went down after my relationships end… -
Worst.Rejection.Ever
By Miss Double Shot So the Brady excuse worked like a charm, right? Turns out that the guy I would ask to prom my senior year would use a similar excuse on me and I'd get a taste of my own medicine. He played three in… -
Is society unfair?
By Mr. Macchiato There's one thing I find most fascinating about Lucy (my friend who chips away at other people's egos). She is completely convinced that it is society's fault that she is not in a happy relationship.… -
Something Suddenly Came Up
By Miss Double Shot I grew up watching The Brady Bunch and was always shocked at how popular Marcia and Greg, the eldest two kids, were with their respective significant others. In one episode, Marcia sets up two dat… -
For Love And/Or Money
By Miss Double Shot My roommate is 31 and wants to settle down as soon as she can. She's coming off of a longish-term relationship with a guy who still lived with his parents and was a part-time videographer - what a w… -
Give us a name?
There are two of us writing for this dating blog so far: one boy, one girl (I'm the boy). We've been working on code names for ourselves (it's hard to blog about relationships under your real name). But it's been tou… -
Stroking Egos
By Mr. Macchiato I wrote about my friend Lucy and how she constantly whittles away at other people's egos. It was really interesting to see how many people had had similar experiences with their own "Lucy's" (haha,… -
Friday Fun: How Long Does It Take...
Love at first sight may happen, but most of the time it takes a little more effort to get that special someone . . . what's the longest amount of time you've pursued someone romantically? Was it worth your while? -
"It'll grow out, I swear!"
By Miss Double Shot Marching band was a big part of my college career, and one of the strict rules was that girls either had to have their hair braided for performances or cut it short enough to fit it all under a hat.… -
Incredibly Sexist Tips for asking a girl out to Dinner
By Mr. Macchiato NotSoLittleGravy had an interesting comment on my last post: I think men have this odd need to feel... "manly." There are all these ideas of what a man is supposed to be - he's supposed to "put food o… -
Dating Outside Your Type
By Miss Double Shot I tend to date within my own species - geeky pop culture fanatics with penchants for home-baked goodies, nights spent at home watching old movies and karaoke. I've always wondered, though, what i… -
Women over 28 = Insane
A guest blog by manilajones As a 30-year old single man, I’ve been expected to date women who are around my age. But, I’ve realized that something happens to women at around 28 years old that just causes them to go com… -
How to Escape from a Bad Date
By Mr. Macchiato (continued from Part 1: SURPRISE! We're dating!) I wasn't sure how to handle my surprise date with Aliana. I think she knew from the inside-out sweatshirt I was wearing that I didn't think of her in… -
Do You Extend Ex-Tendencies?
By Miss Double Shot Ex-BF and I had it down to a science: at 6:50 p.m., I'd walk to his dorm with a can of Pringles. He'd let me in at 6:54 (always held the door open for me, good boy) and we'd run upstairs and sit on… -
SURPRISE! We're dating!
By Mr. Macchiato I woke up at five minutes to noon with a start: OMG, I had lunch in five minutes with a friend! I had been a bit confused when Aliana had invited me out to a fancy off-campus restaurant for lunch. M… -
Men Threatened by Strong Women?!
By Mr. Macchiato Women are constantly telling me that "men are threatened by strong women". This is such a crock! All of my guy friends are dating or married to strong women. The idea that men are threatened by str… -
When Matchmaking Goes Wrong - Part II
By Miss Double Shot Where we last left our heroes, Guy was pondering a move across the Midwest and Girl was biding her time until he arrived. "I'll be here in June," he told her, as he and I exchanged emails and doubt… -
When Matchmaking Goes Wrong - Part I
By Miss Double Shot I hooked up two of my friends earlier this year. Now I'm watching them self-destruct as a couple and there's nothing I can do. Guy, who I met in Italy in 2005, has a day job as a financial aid adv…
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