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Is She Playing Games or Am I Playing the Fool?

This is a guest blog submitted by psykoaznballa. Once upon a time I was really diggin' this girl. I thought she was diggin' me too, until one day, when we were video chatting, she received a call online from Mr. Anony…

Dating Your Cousin? So Are A Lot of People.

Mr. Giraffe There was a post about this here on Datingish recently, and much to my surprise, there's a whole community of people in romantic relationships with cousins of theirs. Charles Darwin, Teddy and Eleanor Roose…

Dear Dr. Datingish: My Ex-BF Is Crushing on My Best Friend

Dr. Datingish My first serious boyfriend broke up with me about a month and a half ago. I'm over him, but I'm still hurt by what happened. We had a long talk about a month after the split, and he said that he wanted to…

Scandalish: What's Your Secret to Giving...

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. What's your secret to giving great oral sex?

Ladies, Robbing the Cradle: Yea or Nay?

Miss Seal We've had a lot of posts about dating older guys -- what about dating younger guys? I wouldn't call myself a cougar (I leave it to my friends to call me that!) but I've had one or two crushes on boys sligh…

Things I Miss About Being in a Relationship

This is a guest blog submitted by Roadlesstaken. The other day, I met up with an ex who was not only my longest relationship but was also the only girl I've ever truly loved. It took a while to get over her, but I e…

Notes from A Recovering Nice Guy

This is a guest blog submitted by DuckTapeJourneyman.In my previous post, I talked about the differences between Nice Guys, Jerks and Confident Guys. Now, most guys can't be categorized strictly into one or another, but…

Why You Shouldn't Wait to Move In Together

This is a guest blog submitted by fluttertothestars. I keep reading comments on blogs about sex and I am getting annoyed. Now you're thinking, "well don't read them," and I would respond, "I can't help it". You read a b…

Following Up on Crushes on JuicyCampus...

This is a guest blog submitted by the_prestigiator. Petty gossip and crazy rumors have found a home on the internet known as JuicyCampus.com. Are the comments on there juicy? Oooh yeah. Are they appropriate and delightf…

I Had An Experimental GF...But I Like Guys.

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. When most people refer to an experimental event in their life, it usually involves a crazy night at a college party and the aftermath that proceeded after everyone s…

The Easy Way To Tell If Your Boyfriend is Over his Ex

Mr. Lion Jackie, this girl I once dated, told me it's easy to tell when a guy isn't over his ex by the way he describes her after the breakup. She said if the guy talks trash about her, saying it was her fault…

Bridging the "Just Friends" Gap without Ruining A Friendship

This is a guest blog submitted by msullan. Okay, so we've all heard the phrase "men and women can't be friends". We've read about it, talked about it and thought about it. I was always under the impression that a man a…

Are Rebound Relationships Legit?

This is a guest blog submitted by cyanidebutterfly. Rebound. If the word immediately brings to mind the typical image of an emotionally unstable girl instead of a basketball game (or other sporting event), then you're d…

Friday Fun: Regifting A Boyfriend

Aaaand the holiday season is officially upon us - bring on the cookies, mad dashes to the store for last-minute presents and, of course, inevitable regifting. Here's your Friday Fun question: Have you ever regifted a BF…

I Want to Break Up - Do I Have to Get Her a Christmas Gift?

Mr. Giraffe My roommate Nikolai wants to break up with his girlfriend of 20 months, Amanda. He can't stand her anymore because she's just been too much to handle between her jealousy and the ultimatums she doles out. H…

When A Guy Cannot Disclose His History or Feelings

This is a guest blog submitted by resolc. You're in a relationship with a guy (or girl, whatever) and everything is going great, apart from the fact that he is incapable of disclosing his past history and his "feelings"…

Please Don't Call Me Your "Wifey"

This is a guest blog submitted by El_Prego_Nikki. You never try me Always stood right by me Make living lively Highly spoken of My only love The only one, you're my wifey Make my life complete, sweet But you know when t…

I Was Told "You're A Tease"

This is a guest blog submitted by causeimrussian. "You say that like it's a bad thing." I've been told this a couple of times before - always with a negative undertone. I don't know if it's because I wasn't planning o…

Why Are You Thankful for Your BF/GF This Thanksgiving?

First of all, happy Thanksgiving from Team Datingish - hope you're spending it with friends, family and possibly your lovahhhhh. Why are you thankful for your BF/GF/crush/houseplant this Thanksgiving? (mine: he's kept…

My BF's Putting Off Moving In with Me, Proposing

This is a guest blog submitted by sjnjld0716. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three and a half years. On our one year anniversary, he gave me a promise ring. Ever since then he's been saying, "Oh, it'll…

Do I Need to Tell Every Guy That I Have A Boyfriend?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I'm slightly perturbed about my boyfriend's response to my dilemma today... it wasn't what I expected at all. I'm aware that my BF seems to get slightly "protective…

Just Broke Up But I'm Crushing Again - Is It Too Soon?

This is a guest blog submitted by DHSPoet. I recently got out of a nine-month internet relationship with a guy that I thought I really *really* connected with. I had gone through the relationship and whatnot, and sure,…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I Can't Tell My Friends We're Dating?!

Dr. DatingishI have been dating this guy on and off for the past four years, and we're very serious about each other. We lost our virginities to each other and we love each other. We broke it off when he went to colle…

I Don't Care If The Diamond's Fake - I Just Want to Marry Him

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I've known this guy for about four years and we've been dating for a year. We talk about our future all the time (getting married, future house, kids, etc.). My boy…

Going to the Movies Alone: Pathetic or Brave?

Mr. Giraffe As a movie buff, I have no problem seeing a movie alone. Sometimes I'll pick a movie that no one wants to see or I'll be in a mood for a movie and my friends just aren't available. I know a few people who ca…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I Still Hang with My Ex But We're Cool

Dr. Datingish My ex-boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago, but we've remained on good terms. We still hang out from time to time and talk online a few times a week. I don't think this is a big deal because when we w…

Note to All Men: We Girls Just Want to Dance When We're Clubbing

Miss Seal In one of his funniest comedy sketches, Dane Cook explains the difference between a girls' night out and a guys' night out. Girls go clubbing to dance. Guys go clubbing to pick up girls. What ensues is a…

Do Men Still Want Princesses?

This is a guest blog submitted by hunnyz0806. My boyfriend loves me because I'm independent. I'm not clingy, I have my own ambitions, I am self-reliant and I live my own life while balancing the time I spend with him. H…

Follow-Up - "I Want A Threesome Or I'm Done with You"

This is a follow-up by the author of this post. I've gotten a lot of feedback on the post regarding my boyfriend wanting a threesome. I would like to emphasize some things a little better. I am NOT going to "drop his…

Can I Reject Him After I Agreed to Go Out with Him?

Miss Penguin This past weekend I went on a little trip with a group of friends and, while on said trip, a friend of mine asked me out. It came kind of out of nowhere. We haven't known each other that long and we're n…

"Don't Tell Our Family You're A Lesbian"

This is a guest blog submitted by FlyLikeABird08. Why is it that love is discriminated against? Why is it that two people of the same sex are forbidden from marrying each other or discriminated against for loving each o…

Tattooing Your Love for Someone

Miss Polar Bear I love tattoos. I have many, I love going with my friends when they get them; I think it's an amazing way to express yourself. Unless, of course, you're expressing how much you love the boyfriend you'…

The Problem with Dating in New York

Miss Penguin When I saw the Sex & The City movie, it actually made me really mad because it starts out by saying how countless girls come to the city to fall in love; later, Carrie's assistant perpetuates the cla…

Crushing on Two Guys - Which One Should I Go After?

This is a guest blog submitted by toliebolie. I think I'm totally crushing. On two guys. There's one guy who's in my grade. His name is Dave. He's in my AP English class and he's sort of a nerd. But I like nerdy guys…

Worst Pick-Up Line Ever

Miss Seal The worst pick-up line ever has to be, "So, what's the worst pick-up line you've ever heard?" It's like they're not even trying. They know that their pick-up line is so bad that they refuse to even give o…

Is The Way You Eat The Way You Date, Too?

This is a guest blog submitted by bluetrashcan. My friend Adam is a genius.He's got this theory that you can predict the behaviors of people in relationships by their eating habits; in particular, if a person dunks his…

The Winner and Loser in A Breakup - Which Were You?

This is a guest blog submitted by jot_scribble_note. In every breakup, there is a winner and loser - with the very rare tie. If you are unfamiliar with the concept, let me explain... The winner becomes more desirab…

Dating Someone with Children

Mr. Giraffe My friend Julia is hooking up with this guy, Ben, and they're at the point where the hooking up is slowly becoming a relationship (strange, right?). Ben wants to open a restaurant where his twin brother will…

Dating with An Age Difference - How Old Is Too Old?

This is a guest blogs submitted by sweeetstache. One of the funniest things my ex boyfriend ever said was, "College guys shouldn't date girls who are sophomores and under." Funny, he was just about to turn nineteen and…

Scandalish: Does Size Matter?

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Is the cliché "it's not the size of the wave, but the motion of the ocean" true? Does size mat…

I Think We're Both Crushing But He Won't Meet Me Halfway

This is a guest blog submitted by myconfessions_hopefullromantic. What happened to just make yourself available, and if he's interested, he'll make a move? That's a dating myth if I've ever heard one. Tonight my frien…

He Isn't Interested Anymore (But Was He Ever Into Me?)

This is a guest blog submitted by pandabear. Okay I've seen people write about similar situations but I just don't know how to look at my own; my look on it would be biased and would probably be one that would create a…

Dating at 22 And 32 Years Old

This is a guest blog submitted by jigg. "I think you're being unfair," my friend said to me last after I told her that I could easily date someone five years older and maybe even as much as eight, though I wouldn't dat…

Gender Roles in Relationships - Which One Do You Fill?

Mr. Giraffe One of my good friends from high school, Craig, told me about his adventures as a newly outed gay guy in college. He told me how hard it was to land a date because of one problem:Craig, my dear friend, is co…

My Fear of Rejection Drives Me Away from Guys

This is a guest blog submitted by Laura. I'm seventeen years old, and I'm the typical never-been-kissed girl - never had a boyfriend, never really even dated. I think I could get a boyfriend, but every time it seems a g…

BF: "I Want A Threesome Or I'm Done with You"

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost eleven months. When we first started to date, my boyfriend and I talked about if we'd ever had a threesome. I am bisexua…

Dealing with ahem Noisy BF/GFs

Miss Penguin I dated this guy briefly who was... well... noisy. And yes, I'm talking in that context. But the funny thing was, we only ever got to making out because we didn't date for that long. We'd be kissing and…

How Do You Flirt?

Mr. GiraffeEveryone around me seems to know the secret of flirting. But I just can't do it. I don't see how it works. I've been told that you have to slightly insult a girl - make fun of something she says or what she do…

Slowing Things Down in Your Relationship

Miss Cheetah My sister and I stayed in the house this past weekend catching up on our favorite movies. While watching 'How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days," my sister asked me if it were possible for a guy to act the way Ka…

Why Do Girls Love Edward Cullen from Twilight So Much?

Mr. Macchiato The other night, my special lady friend was up all night reading the first book of the Twilight series. Why? Apparently all of her girlfriends are in love with Edward Cullen, the vampire from…

Do Guys Typically Confess Their Feelings Accidentally?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. Brownie and I love each other very much. He is one-of-a-kind of guy - he wants to be the best boyfriend he could ever be and he is everything that I am looking for.…

Friday Fun: Aunt Flo's In Town - Are You Checking Out?

It's been a hot topic at Datingish HQ this week - what do you do when Aunt Flo's in town? As a girl, I'm totally uncomfortable with the idea of fooling around when it's that time of the month - first of all, I feel gr…

Picking A Date for Your Wedding

Mr. Giraffe Ever since my sister got engaged (!), all we Giraffes can think about is the when and the where. Much to my surprise, picking a date is a really tough process. I always assumed you just decided. "April 14th…

Tips on Dating Someone with Multiple Personality Disorder

...or someone on the "dissociative continuum" (post-traumatic stress disorder/PTSD, borderline personality disorder, dissociative amnesia, fugue, and DID/MPD): This is a guest blog submitted by therions_swain. 1. Don…

How Guys and Girls Deal with Cheating Differently

This is a guest blog submitted by righteousthang. How come when one spouse is cheating on another, the guy will always ask, "Did you sleep with him?" and the girl will always ask, "Do you love her?" Okay, maybe not alw…

Is He Interested in Me Or Is It The Alcohol Talking?

This is a guest blog submitted by ohsnapbrit. I met this guy about three months ago back in August. We recently met again about two and a half weeks ago at my friend's birthday party (which was a collaboration with his…

Taking a Relationship Break: How Much Time is Needed?

Miss Polar Bear My friend Kristen has a problem. It's an issue that we can say has caused the demise of more than one relationship: word vomit. If you're being an idiot, she'll tell you. If you're being stupid, she'll…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Should I Talk To Him About His Ex?

Dr. DatingishI've been going out with my boyfriend for about three months now. We've had a general discussion about our exes, and he gave me a general synopsis of the two girls that actually mattered to him. At first, I…

Now That We Live Together, We Have Sex Less Often...

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I always thought that married couples had sex daily . . . or rather, when a guy is living with his chick, they had sex on a daily basis. I've had to ask a few peo…

Help My Friend Land The Guy of His Dreams

This is a guest blog submitted by roadlesstaken. My friend has a problem and needs some advice. I've offered some help, but I'm coming to the Datingish community to see if others have more advice to give. He…

Songs That Should Be "Boxed Away"

Miss Zebra "I wanna live in a house like that Where love wears out our welcome mat And our hearts know that's where it's at I wanna live in a house like that Live with you in a house like that (Loving you in a house l…

My Parents Think We're Getting Too Serious

This is a guest blog submitted by midge4ever.I have been dating my boyfriend for ten (almost eleven) months. My parents were not okay with this from the time I told them that I liked him. Their idea of coping with this i…

Dating and Taking Classes Together

This is a guest blog submitted by wuwu. There's a cute guy in my class.. but alas, I am confined by the bars of taken-hood. Regardless, it's probably better this way; mixing academics with romance is a bad idea. When my…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I Don't Like Kissing

Dr. DatingishI was 24 when I had my first kiss. I had wanted it to happen much, much sooner, but you can't always plan these things. It should have been exciting. I was in a big, flashy, foreign city. I was just check…

He's Not Ready for A Serious Relationship - I'm Not Waiting Around

This is a guest blog submitted by charm1234. A little less than 4 months ago I started dating this guy; we're both in our…

My Fiancé's Educational Plans Are Messing Up Our Life Plans

This is a guest blog submitted by Bapster1.I was recently talking to my fiancé when he casually mentioned that he's considering studying 2 to 4 more years in college in order to become either a pharmacist or a chiroprac…

Is Love All It's Cracked Up to Be?

This is a guest blog submitted by sophia. I think a lot of the things in life are overrated, like school and political issues. Sometimes I think about the caveman days where they slept, ate, pooped, reproduced and just b…

Can You Be Friends with Someone You Like A Lot?

This is a guest blog submitted by sweeetstache. (A little background: The guy I'm referring to is my ex. It's a little silly, but let's call him "Frank". Frank was my very first boyfriend and we were only in a impassio…

I Have An Unromantic View of Marriage - Do You, Too?

Miss Penguin I have rather... unconventional... views on marriage for an American girl these days. To me, marriage is a legal institution that makes defining a relationship and the rights/responsibilities that come…

Dear Dr. Datingish: His GF Is Telling Me to Back Off

Dr. DatingishMy ex and I have started to test out being friends again. And I think we're both glad for it. We haven't yet talked on the phone or hung out together - we just exchange friendly hellos when we bump into ea…

Gender Roles in Household Chores - Who Does What?

This is a guest blog submitted by niltiacmai. DISCLAIMER: I am not looking down upon stay-at-home moms or housewives (I understand that they have full time jobs as well) AND if there are any guys out there that DO hel…

The Top Ten Breakup Songs for My Generation

Miss Seal I was listening to Jazmine Sullivan's "Bust Your Windows," while on the road, and I realized it was the perfect tune to bust my ex's car to. Now, I would never actually bust someone's car. In addition to…

My Boyfriend Keeps Asking About My Period

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. So for the past couple of months, my boyfriend has been constantly asking me when my period's gonna come or if it's started already. I never answer him because not o…

Do You Want A Bag for That? Buying Condoms Can Be Embarrassing.

This is a guest blog submitted by xxramones__rulexx. Going up to a counter with a pack of condoms or lubricant (or anything else you might want) in hand is kind of a big deal. Who might be watching you? Is the cashier s…

We're Too Young to Be So Serious

This is a guest blog submitted by LyssaLullabye. I have two friends who have been dating over a year and cannot be away from each other. We plan "girl days" and who should happen to show up with her. She's surprised w…

Dear Dr. Datingish: How Can I Meet People Outside of Work?

Dr. DatingishLet's say you work from 6 a.m. to 9 p.m. six days a week as an intern. You feel pretty damn tired every day. How are you supposed to meet people outside of work?! The overworked people I'd relate to best a…

I'm Apparently A Prude But I'm Fine with It

This is a guest blog submitted by Jackie. I am a virgin. I wish to remain so. I'm not interested in relationships right now. I have NO time for boys and their stupid problems that they create in my life! I have more impo…

To My Future Husband: Ten Things We'll Need to Agree Upon

This is a guest blog submitted by two_days_until_forever.Darling, whoever you turn out to be, there are going to be a few things that you just have to love about me and that I have to love about you. To keep it short and…

Three Reasons Why Guys Cut Ties with Their Exes

This is a guest blog submitted by nobodyknows8116. To every girl who has been broken up with (Guys, read too and nod your heads in agreement)...I have found that, as a guy, the simplest part of a breakup is cutting off…

Personal Responsibility In Relationships - It's YOUR Choice!

This is a guest blog submitted by bluetrashcan. A recent conversation with one of my guy friends lead to the question that at one point or another, all of my guy friends have asked me - "Why do girls go out with scumbag…

Does the Person Who Ends the Relationship Deserve Sympathy, Too?

This is a guest blog submitted by msullan. So, you and your significant other broke up and you're trying to get back out there...get back on the old horse and never look back. I think that whoever thought that was possi…

Scandalish: Ménage à Trois, Anyone?

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Would you ever consider having a threesome? If so, with whom?

Should I Be Friends with My Ex - The Father of My Kids?

This is a guest blog submitted by tequila_sky. Help.I am going through a separation after 8 years. We have 3 kids. I am the kind of person that once the relationship is over, it is exactly that: OVER. I really just cut…

Enjoying Memories of Your Ex

Miss Zebra While doing laundry this morning I was listening to my music and a song came on I hadn't listened to in a while. Why? Because it was a song that my ex and I listened to a lot together. By habit, I reached o…

I Have Feelings for A Guy I Met Online - Should We Meet?

This is a guest blog submitted by supersteller.Messages on Facebook flew back and forth, starting in mid-summer, between me and this guy. Let's call him George. I have no idea how we came across each other, but that isn'…

I Tested My Boyfriend And He Failed

This is a guest blog submitted by e9273. I haven't talked to my boyfriend in four days and we usually talk everyday online. We haven't talked since Monday, he texted me on Tuesday to say that he loved me, even though m…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Does He Like Me Or Is He Playing with Me?

Dr. DatingishThere is a guy that I am crazy about. We've been friends for a few months, but I keep getting mixed signals from him about what he wants. So here's the situation. I met him in September. Actually, I've "kno…

Do Your Teeth Help You Make A Good First Impression?

This is a guest blog submitted by onawa. I was dressed as a colorful Hawaiian girl for a Halloween party when I noticed two guys standing out for all the wrong reasons: Guy #1: I meet this guy in an interesting cos…

Where Did You Go Wrong in Past Relationships?

Miss Cheetah I've been doing a lot thinking lately and I've come to realize that I've been in the wrong about a lot of things when it comes to relationships. For example, in my previous relationship, I failed to give the…

Saying "I Love You" Can Be Kind of Terrifying

Miss Penguin There are three little words that strike terror into the hearts of those not ready to say or hear them and joy into the hearts of those who are. You know what words I'm talking about. I. Love. You. I…

Google Questions: She Just Wants to Be Friends...

Someone found Datingish by Googling "when a girl says she just wants to be friends is that a good sign?" GOOD SIGNNOT A GOOD SIGNBALLOONS? pollcode.com free polls

Dear Dr. Datingish: I Like Someone I've Never Met

Dr. DatingishIs it crazy to like someone that you've never met? There's this guy I know that I've had class with him for a few weeks now, but the class only meets once a week, the class is a small discussion group wi…

Holiday Celebrations: Your Family or Mine?

Mr. Giraffe With the holiday season coming up (Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Christmas, Boxing Day), many couples have the unfortunate, daunting task of deciding which holiday to spend with which family. This drama i…

Friday Fun: What Are You Getting Your BF/GF for The Holidays?

There are only 41 shopping days until Christmas, and although that may seem like a lot, between Thanksgiving and general holidays related brouhaha, that time is gonna fly. So, Datingish, what are you thinking about ge…

The Post-Breakup Window of Happiness

Mr. Lion A close friend of mine emailed me yesterday complaining about her life. She described her feelings of sadness and having a void in her life but left out why. It was obvious even though she wouldn't ad…

Five Relationship Red Flags

This is a guest blog submitted by Liera. My relationship failure is a classic case of ignoring the red flags. Sometimes when you are in love or you've been together for so long, you tend to rationalize away the red fl…

Having Sex to Be Popular?!

This is a guest blog submitted by Bob. Thinking back on the reasons I first started dating my girlfriend, and even now as I learned more about her, I can say I fell for her because she's strong, persistent, self-suffici…

Is Being Forward A Bad Thing?

Mr. GiraffeMy friend Mary and I went to Puccini's last night, which is one of those restaurants where you're not sure if the food is good enough to distract you from the bad service. While we were there, Mary filled me…

We Broke Up 4 Years Ago And I'm Still Not Over It

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. First off, let me say this: I know I'm not perfect, but I make do with what I have. It's been 4 years since my ex and I broke up (not mutually; she ended it) and I s…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm Kind Of The Other Woman

Dr. DatingishI recently started hanging out with a new guy friend. We met a a wedding, and everyone told me that he has a girlfriend. He, however has only mentioned her once, timidly. We've hung out 4 times since the we…

I Love Him For The Right Reasons, But We're Sort of Related.

This is a guest blog submitted by shamelesslyred. Being a single woman with kids (divorced 9 years), I don't date as a matter of rule. Dating while raising children, in my experience, is problematic and literally filled…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I Can't Stop Fantasizing about Other Guys

Dr. DatingishI am an innocent looking girl, but I actually have a very high drive for sex. I really love my current boyfriend of 7-8 months; I make love to him a few times a week and everything is pretty normal. However…

Dude, You've Been Friend Zoned - Now Stop Driving By My House.

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.I have a friend that I've known for years. He is one of those people that wiggled his way into my life, uninvited. This isn't to say I don't appreciate his friendship,…

"You Have A Nice Thickness"...What's An Ideal Size for A Girl?

This is a guest blog submitted by thegreenwaffle. I dated a guy who was pretty awesome. He was funny, cool and real. When I asked him the forbidden question, "Am I fat?", he didn't reply with a "no". He didn't reply…

Is Virginity A Turn-On?

It's Virginity Week here at Datingish! This is a guest blog submitted by causeimrussian. This may seem like a strange question, but is a girl's virginity a turn-on or -off? Speaking from experience and a girl's…

Marriage Hype And Living Together Beforehand

This is a guest blog written by baranorewen in response to Is Living Together Before Marriage Okay?. When I started piecing this blog together in my head, it was more about the shock - yes, shock - I felt when I read th…

Sigh, I'm "Just One of The Guys"

Miss Polar Bear Katy Perry sings it best in her song "One of The Boys": "The way you look at me / is kind of like a little sister / you high five your goodbyes / and it leaves me nothing but blisters." Oh, I hear you…

My Ex Is Dating Someone Else Already And It Hurts.

This is a guest blog submitted by kaleidescopeeyes88. I was with my ex for almost a year. Less than three weeks after he broke up with me, he started seeing someone else. I don't know her, but I know that he knew he…

What's Your Best "How We Met" Story?

Miss Penguin I've always wanted a great "how we met" story. Army Guy and I had a pretty cute "how we met" story, though it wasn't that unique, really. We met through a friend. I was temping at her place of work at th…

Let's NOT Be Friends: A Guy's Guide to Beating The Friend Zone

This is a guest blog submitted by Mr_Jin. I've heard it all before. Once you're labeled a "friend," you can never make it back. You're Tom Hanks on a deserted island; Friendsville, population YOU. I, for one, think th…

Getting Over Your Friends' Breakups

Miss Zebra "A friend tells you how much better you are without him. A best friend calls him up at 1 a.m. making chicken noises." Okay, so we've talked about how long it takes to get over a breakup and the difference…

Enacting Revenge on The Opposite Sex

Miss Polar Bear Okay, let's face it: we've all thought about getting revenge on that mean coworker, friend, and especially the boy or girl who broke your heart or did something just downright wrong to you. Whether rev…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Is He Moving On After Our Breakup?

Dr. DatingishThere are so many ways people try to hint to the past significant other that one has moved on ... sure, you may cut off all ties, but it's so hard when you can't help but to surround yourself and think ab…

Circle, Circle, Dot, Dot - Do Guys and Girls Still Have Cooties?

When did you decide that members of the opposite sex didn't have cooties anymore - elementary school? High school? Maybe you're still not convinced...

Things A Guy DOESN'T Wish Women Knew

This is a guest blog submitted by harmonyminusmelody. Apparently my comment to "Things a guy wishes women knew..." got way more hits than I suspected, and therefore lead me to believe that my list was, in fact, superior…

In A Relationship But Never Been Kissed

This is a guest blog submitted by xSafety_x_Pinned_x_Heartx. My boyfriend and I celebrated our 14-month anniversary last week. This is the longest relationship I've been in, and I love my boyfriend. What makes this rela…

Rekindling A Fading Romance

This is a guest blog submitted by midgetmachine. I hate it when the novelty of someone you're interested in has worn off. You then realize that they're just a person, not as interesting or intelligent as you first foun…

A Guy's Take on Virginity

This is a guest blog submitted by relationshipnoob. The girlfriends that I have dated weren't virgins. They have had more sexual partners than I have had and I do not consider women who have had multiple sexual partners…

Oh, Limerence...I'm A Love Addict!

Miss Seal My friend once thought she was addicted to love. Apparently, the love addicts website was powered by the sex addicts website, though the maladies are complete opposites. As she was looking for ways to cure he…

Zack and Miri Made Me Laugh

Mr. Giraffe The sex comedy is an art form that doesn't really get the importance it deserves. The Los Angeles Times had an article about comedies continuously getting snubbed by the Oscars. The article says that the rea…

Behind the Story: "I Had Premarital Sex and I Got Over It"

This is a guest blog submitted by AnonymousBlonde. To preface this update - yes, my case and the case I went off of were extremities. I am in no way saying that my case is a normality. In my original post I was in no w…

Scandalish: What Drives You Crazy?

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Do you have any fetishes? What are the weirdest ones you've heard of?

You, The Ex, And His Friend Who Ruins Everything.

This is a guest blog submitted by sick_of_this_bullshit. There's this guy that I dated for a few months, and then we split, and we still remain really close friends...then there's his friend who's crushing on me and who…

Do People Still Believe in Inner Beauty?

Mr. Lion Do people still care about inner beauty? My sister asked me last night after a few of her friends wondered what she saw in her boyfriend. They ask why she's with an "average" guy. In her eyes, her bo…

Being Friends with an Ex's Sister

Mr. GiraffeThis weekend, my friend Aislinn is hosting her ex's sister here at Fordham. And while I'm glad that Aislinn's friend is here, I can't help but think it's a little weird. Aislinn and her ex had a clean breaku…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm Scared to Believe My Boyfriend.

Dr. DatingishBefore my boyfriend and I got together, he was in a really bad relationship for over two years. He says he loves me and is in love with me, but I'm scared to trust him because just like him, I was in a bad…

If The Guy Pays, Is It A Date?

This is a guest blog submitted by luvs_u. My wife and her friend are having this argument over whether or not friends pay for each other's meals. One is saying that if the guy pays, then they usually consider it a date.…

Guys Stealing Seats...and Girls...in A Bar

Mr. LionA few weeks ago, while getting drinks for some of our girl friends, four guys slid into the booth (semi-circle) we were seating in and started talking to them. It's probably one of dumbest things a gu…

Things A Guy Wishes Women Knew...

...but don't have the balls to tell them. This is a guest blog submitted by CaKaLusa. This is for all you guys out there. When you don't have the galls to tell your ladies what we all face together as men, I will let…

Love or Money? Buying Your Bride

This is a guest blog submitted by FrosteChic. listening to my ipod this morning, i had classical music lulling me to the depths of sleep i was deprived of the night before. just as the song was ending, fading slightly,…

How to Meet The One

This is a guest blog submitted by sophia. Marianne couldn't find her tweezers. She thought her life was over. Everyone knows that untweezed eyebrows that are usually tweezed look really funny: But then I informed Ma…

Here Are My Stats; Why Can't I Get Any Girls?

This is a guest blog submitted by Samson. I'm 6'2" with an athletic build. I'm an accomplished mechanical engineering student, already earning more than Mr. Part-Time could earn in years. I cook damn well. I have many…

Looking to Meet Someone at A Coffee Shop

This is a guest blog submitted by Roadlesstaken. I've recently been going to more coffee shops lately. Usually the reason is just to relax, read a book, or surf the net while enjoying a drink. However, sometimes I sit…

Elevator Etiquette - Can You Stare At Anyone?

Mr. Lion Yesterday on the elevator during my late lunch, a woman came on dressed really sharp. One of the guys in the elevator, also dressed extremely sharp, started staring at her intently with a smile on his f…

Friday Fun: What's The Secret to A Great Kiss?

You know a good kiss when you get one - the best ones can, as cliché as it is, take your breath away. What's your secret for giving the perfect kiss? (hint: you gotta get a rhythm going! oh, and little teaser ones are f…

He Keeps His Girlfriend A Secret

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.I like this guy who sort of keeps the fact that he has a girlfriend stuffed in a box in the basement. He refers to her as someone he just knows. A while ago, someone a…

Most of My Friends are Girls, Does That Bother You?

Mr. Giraffe Last fall, I had a girlfriend -blah!- and for a while we were great together. But there was a major problem my now ex didn't have the guts to tell me about: she was jealous of my girl friends. At first, I th…

Dear Dr. Datingish: He "Loves Me" Except When His GF Shows Up

Dr. DatingishOne of my best guy friends has been going out with his girlfriend for little over half a year. Even if he doesn't realize it, I think he's become quite absorbed in the relationship and I've said it to him,…

I'm Exchanging Emails with My Ex - Should I Tell My BF?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. Recently, I saw my ex on the street and because it'd been a long time since I'd made any contact with him whatsoever, I thought I'd say hello. It was a very fast "H…

My Search for A Cuddle Buddy

This is a guest blog submitted by bigaslives.At the beginning of this year, I attempted to snag myself a cuddle buddy. It was my first attempt at converting someone I was sort of casually dating into a someone that wou…

So You're Friends with Your Ex -- But What KIND of Friends?

This is a guest blog submitted by kaleidescopeeyes88. A while ago, this blog featured a question about being friends with one's ex. For the most part, readers responded in two ways: 1.) No, I could never be friends wi…

When Your BF/GF Isn't Around for Important Moments

Miss Penguin As a staunch Democrat, I was (obviously) elated by last night's election results. I was out with friends. We all hugged and were merry; It was a magical night. But for some reason, when I got home, I got…

Are You A Risk Taker or Risk Evader?

This is a guest blog submitted by AimeeAnne. I have a long-held theory that people can generally be dropped into one of two categories: Risk Takers or Risk Evaders. And even though I'm not fond of sweeping generalizatio…

I Met A Great Girl, But She Has A BF - What Do I Do?

Mr. LionOn Halloween night, I met a wonderful girl through a friend of mine - they went to school together a few years back. The girl, Cathy, is planning to finish her final year of college in the city.…

Facebook Etiquette: What Does Poking Actually Mean?

Miss Double Shot My BFF Ned is a Facebook newbie (I know, right? where has he been?) and was asking me a bunch of questions about what the different features of the site meant, how to start a group and connect with fri…

Playing The Game: How Can I Keep My Crush Interested?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. Everyone likes the game of chase in the relationship. It keeps you young and fresh and the thought of the other person just makes your heart flutter -- but you h…

He Lied about His Age - Can I Trust Him?

This is a guest blog submitted by floryo. I have been dating with a guy for about a month, and he told me that he was 20 when we first met. It actually took me quite some time to get over with the fact that I'm a year an…

When Should I Mention My Dating Dealbreaker?

This is a guest blog submitted by vanoakenfold. I've got a super dealbreaker, and it seems like my only options are to get set up or check out the internet for potential dates -- which brings me to my question: At wh…

Weddings Make Single People Feel Bad About Themselves

Miss Seal "God created marriages, but the devil created weddings."Mybrother recently got married. When he and his girlfriend announced their engagement, I was happy for them; when mymom cast a pitying glance in m…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm Not About to Be A Rebound.

Dr. DatingishI met this wonderfully amazing guy about 3 months ago. I am absolutely crazy about him. He was in a really bad relationship for 3 years. His ex was a bad drug addict and in turn he became codependent o…

Is Living Together Before Marriage Okay?

This is a guest blog submitted by righteousthang. I found a brochure the other day about young unmarried couples who decide to move in together. It gave an example of a girl and a boy who start off thinking it's a g…

Boyfriends, Exes And The Art of Creeping Online

This is a guest blog submitted by bmrowland. I woke up to an alarm this morning - one that was not my own. It was my boyfriend's. Watching him get out of bed and get ready for class shouldn't have bothered me, but t…

How Can I Learn to Trust My Boyfriend?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I find it hard to trust guys. I don't know if it is due to my father's extramarital affair with many women in the past. In my last 3 relationships, I found m…

How Should I Ask This Guy Out?

This is a guest blog submitted by Nickie Lynn. A few days ago I was assigned to put flyers up around the local mall advertising one of our upcoming events. Our "mall" is pretty much just an indoor corridor with a few st…

Are Girls Golddiggers?

Miss Seal Hush. I think girls have it much tougher than boys, and whatever you say, we still get 70 cents to your dollar, gentlemen. However, finance is the one realm where there is an unfair double standard for men. A…

Where Your Waist Fits in the Rules of Attraction

Miss Seal My friend was watching a special on what the opposite sex finds attractive, and the results were quite surprising. For women, the number one factor of attractiveness is height. Yes, the taller the guy, the…

Not Staying Fit = No Relationship?

Miss Zebra "I just couldn't be with anyone who doesn't care of their body and is overweight. That just...disturbs me." I sat looking at him trying to keep a semblance of control on my face. Surely he did not just say…

I Can't Stand The Word "Cute"

Miss Zebra "Dang, you're cute today." My friend ducks out of the way as I reach up to playfully slap him. Call me weird, but I have a problem with the word "cute" when directed towards how I look. And most of my fri…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I Want to Be More Than Friends

Dr. DatingishI have a guy friend that I met through a mutual friend - we've been friends for about two and a half years. When our friendship started, we didn't really talk much, but as the years went on, we became much…

Getting Stood Up by Dates...ARGH!

Miss Polar Bear "Don't hate me, but I can't come tonight like we planned." "Sorry, I've just been so busy" "I never said I'd definitely be able to see you today - why are you mad?"Ah, the sounds of being stood up,…

Dear Dr. Datingish: He Won't Tell Me He Has A GF

Dr. DatingishI'm good friends with this guy I've known for about a year. We kinda had this thing going and we both liked each other in the beginning, but things just went back and forth and we never officially started d…

Scandalish: Sex on The First Date?

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Have you ever had sex on the first date? What were the circumstances? Did you regret your c…

On Platonic Friendships

This is a guest blog submitted by miss_thiq.At this time, I think we need to dwell on platonic relationships...nonsexual platonic relationships. The past couple of days, Xanga has been focusing on romantic relationship…

Women Dress for Women and Undress for Men

Miss Seal I overheard this at my parents' dinner party. It's definitely true. Have you ever noticed that you can spend an hour perfecting the hottest eye shadow combination and your guy won't even notice? Or that you…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Too Much Hope For The Future?

Dr. DatingishI've always dated guys older than I am because I feel like I can connect with them better. I'm at a young age - let's just say under 20 - and there is still a lot in life that I haven't experienced yet. I…

Hiding Information from Your BF/GF?

Who hasn't been here before: I need original cell phone statements scanned and numbers changed then reprinted front and back!, if this is something you can do well and do in a very quick manner I need to speak with you…

Does Arguing Mean Flirting?

This is a guest blog submitted by goodgirl_196. What is "flirting" and what exactly does it mean? I thought I knew what flirting was but apparently my definition differs from most. Yesterday towards the end of my even…

I Had Premarital Sex And I Got Over It

This is a guest blog submitted by AnonymousBlonde. Of all the posts that Datingish publishes, there have been some that have stood out to me in particular. Ever since reading the post about the young woman who couldn'…

"How Come You Never Hang Out with Your Friends Anymore?"

Mr. Macchiato My friend Jigg has started writing an online comic with his friend Jodie Truong (he contributes to the writing, and Jodie does all the illustrations). The comic is about a young couple named "Jil…

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