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He Cheated On Me with Her - Now I'm Invited to Their Wedding.

This is a guest blog submitted by sleepnhawaiinbeauty. We were high school sweethearts. We had beentogether for four years until we started drifting apart. It was hard 'cause we're also about three years apart in…

Meet Miss Zebra!

Miss Zebra Location: Colorado Springs, CO Age: 18 Occupation: Music Performance student w/ emphasis on piano, voice About Me: Moved to Colorado a few years ago from south Texas and am loving the new experiences av…

He Said, She Said: What Men and Women Do Wrong in Relationships

This is a guest blog submitted by Supanamu and La_dolce_vida. A few days ago, we decided that we were gonna write a co-blog about what men and women do wrong in relationships and dating in general. The following is what…

When Guys Dictate How You Feel about Yourself

Miss Polar Bear "Epiphany" is probably the last word, to me, associated with love. But really, I had the best one the other night out of nowhere and it's one of those things where, had you learned it many years ago,…

When Your BF/GF's Family Doesn't Like You

Miss Zebra You walk into a room with your sweetheart's hand in yours, absolutely loving life. Suddenly you see the faces around you and the weight of your hands feels like a ten pound weight. You almost start to feel…

Friday Fun: Is Halloween A Free Pass Day to Dress Provocatively?

I always thought Mean Girls captured the whole Halloween epidemic pretty perfectly: So I'm wondering...are you using Halloween as an excuse to dress more provocatively? If you're currently in a relationship, does your BF…

Mentioning PMS: Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don't

This post was submitted by a Datingish reader. I was reading AirForceVirgin's post listing some "dos and don'ts" for boys, and noticed a number of her recommendations had to do with PMS: * As soon as you experience the…

I Don't Really Want A Diamond Engagement Ring

Miss Penguin A friend of mine is going to propose to his girlfriend soon and we were talking about the whole concept of engagement rings. If you don't know, the concept of the diamond engagement ring was actually a g…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Single & Starting Life Over...What Do I Do?

Dr. DatingishI recently just got out of an INTENSE year-long relationship with my ex-fiancé. He and I were to get married in September, but the wedding got called off, and he recently just kicked me out of our apartment…

Finding A Soulmate...After Marriage?

This is a guest blog submitted by LucyWrites. I once saw a movie called Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna. And yes, I totally pasted that title from another location; I'm not Indian, so I'm not about to remember all of those wor…

Meet Miss Seal!

Miss Seal Location: Staten Island, NY Age: 22 Occupation: I am currently working on several projects, including a soon-to-be best-selling femoir. I also think it would be cool to write fairy tales with alternative…

I Had Premarital Sex and Now I Can't Get Past It

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I've decided to write this post because of imagoodegg31's post on this site. She said stuff about past is past, and you are still beautiful and stuff. I want to beli…

Women Love Jerks

This is a guest blog submitted by supanamu.I know a lot of women. I'm a player, remember? I even have the t-shirt to prove it. Ok, so I'm not…

Middle-Aged Couples Making Out in Public

Mr. Lion A few days ago, while getting into the train station at 42nd Street, I noticed a couple making out in front of the station entrance. I was somewhat surprised to see a middle-aged couple stick…

Ladies, Let's Talk: A Rebuttal

Miss Penguin This entry is in response to this entry. I agree that women don't seem to realize how valuable we are, but I don't think this is 100% our fault. We are still often told by society that we aren't as…

Breaking Up with A Friend

Miss Seal How do you break up with a friend? It's a valid question. Relationships are nothing if not complicated, but at least you know when the beastly ogre is breaking your heart: We need to talk. It's not…

How Long Do Guys Need to Recover from A Breakup?

This is a guest blog submitted by Katie. So this guy, who just so happens to be my best friend, told me he liked me IN JUNE. I've liked him for over a year. I told him I loved him a couple months ago and he said it bac…

Meet Miss Polar Bear!

Miss Polar Bear Location: Manhattan, NY Age: 20 Occupation: Journalism/Publishing student About Me: I just moved to Manhattan from Albany, NY (yes, it was a big change) to pursue my childhood drea…

SWF: Life Is Too Short to Compromise

Mr. Macchiato A SWF on Craiglist posted a list of what she's looking for in a man: With so many people out there, at least ONE guy can match this. I know he's out there. My standards are exacting, but they're…

HIMYM And The Bro Code

Mr. Giraffe As an avid fan of How I Met Your Mother (which everyone should be, btw), the Bro Code is something oft-discussed on the show. I don't consider myself to be a part of the bro culture and I have never even s…

I Get Excited Just Hearing His Name

This is a guest blog submitted by bearhugs. I have a huge things for names.I absolutely love it when the guy I care about says my name. It literally sends chills down my spine- it's all he needs to say sometimes, and I'm…

Dear Dr. Datingish: Will My Friends Perceive Me Differently Post-Hookup?

Dr. Datingish I regularly read your blog; I guess there's some nostalgia in me that wants a boyfriend but doesn't as well. I am an extremely busy person and don't know what I want enough to have a boyfriend, which is wh…

A Shiksa's Lament: Dating Jewish Guys Can Be Tough

Miss Penguin I'm going to be blatantly honest here: I have a thing for Jewish guys. Maybe it's because I'm in New York and surrounded by them - my best friend is an orthodox Jew, I work with all Jewish men and I went…

The Importance of Bonding...Over Laundry

This is a guest blog submitted by breakingthemold. At the moment I have 4+ loads of laundry upstairs which aren't getting any closer to being done by me sitting here at my computer. Makes me think how much I'd love som…

Girls Making The First Move = Flirty or Virtuous?

This is a guest blog submitted by clearbluesky.My close friend Hargrees has had a crush on J, this guy in her class, for about a month. They're not close yet, but every day after school, she talks about J; she really see…

A Letter to An Unrequited Crush

This is a guest blog submitted by LetMeDreamAgain. Dear Boy, Has it really been years since the last time we've seen each other? Was I really that young and naive that I didn't imagine you would grow up to be quite…

Are The Bible's Views on Sex Still Valid? I Don't Know...

This is a guest blog submitted by harmonyminusmelody.I was brought up in the Bible belt of America, western North Carolina. So for 12 years of my life, I was taught that sex was evil and that even considering anything…

We're Engaged But He Needs to Move Out of His Mom's House

This is a guest blog submitted by slowlydisappearingforever. So I've been with my boyfriend now on and off for 6 and 1/2 years. This past July we've been going strong for a whole year. Last Christmas, he asked me to m…

I'm Too Clingy - How Can I Let Go A Little?

This is a guest blog submitted by xsumxvtxgyrlx.He loves me. I know he does, and he definitely shows it.But I want him to treat me extra special ALL the time, and I know that there will be some situations where the girlf…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm A Craigslist Missed Connection

Dr. Datingish I go to the same Starbucks every morning and order the same thing (what can I say, I'm a creature of habit). And like every other New York internet junkie, I check the missed connections on Craigslist all…

Scandalish: Have You Lied about Birth Control?

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. Have you ever lied about being on birth control?

Dear Dr. Datingish: I'm In Love with My Best Friend

Dr. DatingishI have a peculiar problem. I'm in love with my best friend. Now the thing is he says he is in love with a girl (they have history but they aren’t together), but at the same time, he treats me like his girl…

Ladies, We Need to Talk.

This is a guest blog submitted by imagoodegg31. We need to talk. Men, you're welcome to step in as well, but this is intended for my ladies. We have a problem. A pretty big one. It seems that the majority of woman don't…

Nine Words Women Use...And How to Decode Them

This is a guest blog submitted by nursejenna. (1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up. (2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an ho…

Having Your Ex Come to Your Wedding?

Mr. Giraffe Blanche, one of my friend's sisters, was getting married to Theo. Blanche's ex-boyfriend was Bruce. Blanche invited Bruce to her wedding, which did not sit well with Theo. According to my friend, Theo was wor…

Making Your Relationship Official

Miss Penguin I've always found it hard to tell when the dating ends and the relationship begins - meaning when does dating become exclusive and how do you know? Usually, I resolve this by just having a talk. The gu…

Dear Dr. Datingish: How Do I Make Friends after A Divorce?

Dr. DatingishI need help in meeting male and female friends. I do not want to mention I am divorced because the men only want sex, and that is not what I am looking for in a friend. I just want to meet people who ar…

How NOT to Get Friend Zoned

This is a guest blog submitted by La_dolce_vida. That's right..it's better than nothing...or is it? I have one too many guy friends that somehow always, always end up getting friend zoned and they cry their patheti…

Rec Posts to Us on Our Cool New Submissions Page

Find an entry we should know about? Tell us! Whether you or a friend wrote it, we want to publish great posts on the Datingish front page. Now you can submit posts even more easily using our submission form. You can ei…

Dear Dr. Datingish: What Exactly Does Third Base Mean?

Dr. DatingishMy friends keep talking about bases in terms of how far they've gone with their BFs . . . and I feel like kind of an idiot because I don't know what all the different bases mean. I looked online and it look…

On Matchmaking And Being Set Up by Friends

Miss Penguin When I was younger (circa 8th-10th grade) I used to love playing matchmaker. I don't know why - I guess I just wanted my friends to be happy, but I wish I had learned earlier to keep my big fat nose…

The Romance of Arranged Marriages

Mr. Giraffe My parents both came from India (my mom was three; my dad was twenty-seven) and so my sisters and I grew up really learned about Indian culture. We speak Hindi, we watch Hindi cinema, we go to India once eve…

Is It A Compliment If I Look at His Girl?

Mr. Lion Yesterday on the train ride home, a woman got on, and because the train was mostly empty, I started looking in her direction I normally don't do that, but she was gorgeous. A few seconds later he…

Dear Dr. Datingish: She Wants to Break Up But I Know She's The One

Dr. DatingishMy ex and I have been together for two and a half years. About a week and a half ago, she told me that she needed to be alone for a while, that she needs to focus on studies and that she is too "young" fo…

Dear Single Men...Sincererly, A Wounded Good Girl

This is a guest blog submitted by spokenfor. I'm sorry you can't find any of us good girls left. I hear about how many of you there are, even though I've yet to meet any of you in the wild, and it breaks my heart that yo…

Carrying Protection in Your Wallet

Mr. Giraffe My friend Dean came home from his date last night with Nigyar, a girl from his French class with whom he'd been flirting since the beginning of the semester. Overall, he said the date went really well except…

Do These Jeans Make Me Look Fat?

Do you call your BF/GF fat or vice versa? How much do you worry about your body image and what your SO thinks of your physical appearance? Also, is there a good way of getting out of the always horrible "do these make…

I Hooked Up My Friends; Now I Never See Them Anymore

Miss Penguin I hate it when two people get together and then suddenly you don't see either of them anymore. This seemed to happen a lot in college in particular - couples would get together, they'd basically m…

Being Jealous of Your BF/GF's Accomplishments

Miss Cheetah One of my friends has been feeling pretty sad lately in her relationship. Apparently, she not only got a great paying job with benefits, but she received a shiny, new car compliments of her parents. I wa…

Does He Care Or Am I There As A Post-Breakup Placeholder?

This is a guest blog submitted by edscissorx3. I've recently started dating a new guy named Andy. We haven't really known each other all that long but we seem to be doing well. Unfortunately I'm doubting him. A week…

"Congrats On Not Being Single Anymore!" brb, vomiting

This is a guest blog submitted by aimeeanne. Lately there has been a lot of coupling up going on. Nothing new there. But what is annoying me beyond reason are things like this: "Awww, congrats on not being single…

Holding Hands on Crowded Streets

Mr. Lion Over the weekend I returned to college - not for classes, but for an alumni weekend. It was really good to see some friends that were still in college and experience college life for another weekend…

Dear Dr. Datingish: He Only Wants Sex

Dr. DatingishI have been with this guy for around two months now. We'd known each other for around a year or so before we started to date, so our relationship went pretty fast. I've liked him for a little bit over hal…

Why I Am Still Single: A Diatribe of Blame

This is a guest blog submitted by AimeeAnne. By way of introduction, consider these:Common Fears That Women FaceThere's a shortage of menI'm unattractiveI don't have the right personality to be in a coupleI'm not skilled…

How Do You Know Someone's Actually Your First Love?

This is a guest blog submitted by missturtle. I had a conversation with my friend the other night that went a little something like this: Friend: I'm not sure if it's going to work out between us. We're just so differe…

Featured Comment: Get Over A Breakup Successfully

kaleidescopeeyes88 had some great pointers on our recent post about a girl who wanted her ex to take her back. 1. Do not beg him to take you back. Do not act hysterical or clingy. He won't find that attractive anyw…

How Many Compliments Does a Gentleman Give?

This is a guest blog submitted by greekphysique. Recently I've noticed how powerful a good compliment can be for a woman. In fact, I would joke that compliments are like drugs (or even worse, chocolate!) for a woman, ha…

Being Walked In On . . . How Do You Recover?

I think we're alone now There doesn't seem to be anyone around I think we're alone now The beating of our hearts is the only so-ooooound ...except when your roommate walks in. Have you ever been walked in on while you…

Dear Dr. Datingish: How Do I Win Him Back?

Dr. DatingishSo the love of my life broke it off yesterday because he said he "just wasn't feeling it". He doesn't want to try to get back together because he thinks it'll be useless. But I love him with all of my hea…

Scandalish: How Often Do You Fake It...

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. How often do you fake it?

BF: Don't Tell Your Friends About Our Fights!

This is a guest blog submitted by urmymiracle. I've been seeing this problem not only in my relationship but among my friends, too. Whenever we'd fight with our BFs, we would share it with our friends - we would always…

Do You Prefer Someone with A Strong Cultural Background?

Mr. Lion "I can't marry a guy who has no culture." I heard those words and instantly became interested. This came from a girl that dates guys of all different races. She's Nepalese and wants a guy who can shar…

What If Your Ex Came Back? Would You Ditch Your SO?

This question was submitted by j_speaks. Given that you and your ex had past history, lots of mutual friends, etc... If you were currently happy in your current relationship, and then, your ex came back, w…

The Dangers of Public Proposals

Mr. Giraffe My oldest sister is of the marrying age and, by default, so are all of her friends. She told me this one story about her friend James proposing to his girlfriend of two years Charlotte. When James and Char…

Wearing A Ring to Avoid Being Hit On

Miss Double Shot I babysit an eight-year-old girl pretty consistently, and she's always grilling me about why I'm not married yet even though I'm only 23. Last week she noticed that I was wearing a ring on my ring f…

Friday Fun: My BF's A Mac But I'm A PC

Are you a Mac or a PC person? What about your BF/GF? Does this cause any computer elitism arguments between you?

Dear Dr. Datingish: How Can I Get Over An Old Crush?

Dr. DatingishI've been head over heels for this guy for the past three years; this is my fourth year running. The thing is, though, is that I want to get over him. We're not as close anymore, yet I still have st…

Ten Tips on Dating A Korean Girl

This is a guest blog submitted by petitetokyo. Although I should have waited for my friend Kenji to write this entry up, seeing as he is the king of dating TKC (Typical Korean Crazy) girls. I've decided to write a litt…

Learning to Kiss on The Cheek

Mr. Lion Learning to adjust here in America was tough. Learning to get used to a relationship was even tougher. The hardest part was when it came to a kiss, even the ones on the cheek. It took me years before I…

Is Blogging about Relationships Worth the Risk?

Miss Penguin Obviously, I blog about my relationships. That's why I'm here on Datingish. And most of you who are here on Datingish probably blog about your relationships too. That's even why I have basically lef…

Talking about Contraception with Your BF/GF

Miss Cheetah When my girls and I sit around and talk about dating, the topic of birth control always comes up. We usually talk about our experiences with birth control and how it fits into our daily lives. Most of u…

Dear Dr. Datingish: He's Taking This Relationship Too Seriously

Dr. DatingishI have been with this guy for only a little while, but we have been friends for about six months. After about two months of being friends, he told me that he liked me and he wanted to get to know me bett…

Halloween Costumes for Couples

Are you and your BF/GF planning to wear matching costumes this Halloween or are you both going to do your own thing and dress up differently? What are the best costumes you've seen for couples?

My BF Started The Fight, Now I Feel Bad about It

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I was wondering, for the female readers out there... Do you find yourself being sucked into an argument with your boyfriend and feeling bad about it afterwards (ev…

We're Different Denominations; Now My Parents Are Forcing Us Apart

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. My boyfriend and I have been together for a very long time, and my parents have forced us to separate because our churches are of two different denominations. The…

Dear Dr. Datingish: I Still Think about My Ex Sometimes

Dr. Datingish My ex-boyfriend and I have been broken up for over two years now after a long-term relationship. I've moved on and liked other guys, but sometimes he still crosses my mind. I just reminisce of the tim…

He Loves Me But He Can't Help Who He Likes?!

This is a guest blog submitted by tokimon. During the time my ex and I were together...a whole year...he was secretly emailing a girl he really liked over in Japan. He says she's just a friend, that nothing ever happe…

We Were Sort of Dating - Now He Won't Even Talk to Me.

This is a guest blog submitted by cyanidebutterfly. How do you get someone you were sort of seeing to speak to you again? We were sort of seeing each other (dating, but not exclusively) for a few months this summer, an…

Breaking Up for College

Mr. Giraffe I have this cousin in Delaware, who I will call Aladdin. He dated the appropriately named Jasmine for about two years in high school. Aladdin and Jasmine had one of those dream high school romances where…

Is My BF Too Controlling Or Should I Stop Seeing My Guy Friend?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. I'm in a nearly year-long relationship with a wonderful guy. He's everything I want in a man: thoughtful, respectful, intelligent, funny, caring, loving and more.…

Pick Up Guys at The Apple Store?

Mr. Lion This morning I was reading about the upcoming Apple Notebooks on a tech forum when I came across a post about a girl who decided to go to an Apple store to meet guys. It worked for the girl - two Brazil…

Dear Dr. Datingish: An Older Woman Is Pursuing Me - What Do I Do?

Dr. Datingish This girl from my work contacted me through Facebook, then after talking to her for a while, she randomly IMed me. I really don't know what to think about her. The thing I'm worried about is this is…

Waiting Until Marriage Isn't Easy...

This is a guest blog submitted by ackfull. I'm an unmarried, very devout Catholic in a long-time serious relationship. For me, The Ultimate Rule is NO SEX. Ever. At least until after marriage. I know the reasons, circ…

My Boyfriend Is Sweet, But He's Sweating All Over Me - Ew.

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. Last night I went to the movies with my boyfriend - we saw a very scary movie. I'm kinda a wimp, and as we were sitting there, he could sense I was scared and put hi…

My Ex Doesn't Want Me to Date Other Guys

This is a guest blog submitted by enterthelabyrinth. I'm wondering what's going on in my ex's head. We broke up because he seemed to like to *say* he was dating me more than the actual act of dating me. Eventually, I go…

"So...I'm dating your ex."

This is a guest blog submitted by withlove_yourdisaster. How would I go about telling a good friend that I'm currently dating the guy that broke up with her? Should I leave out the fact that he was cheating on her for…

They're Playing Our Song! Music For You & Your SO

This is a guest blog submitted by breakingthemold. For different stages, events and people in my life, I've picked out different songs for each of them. "Cowboys and Angels" described my first serious relat…

Holding The Door Open - Gentlemanly or Insulting?

Mr. Giraffe I am a door-holder. I hold the door open for everyone, I'm always the last person to leave an elevator and I always keep the door open for the person behind me when I exit a building. I don't remember exac…

Whose Trust Do You Value More: A Friend's or Your BF/GF's?

Mr. Lion The topic of secrets came up in a rerun episode of Home Improvement I saw the other day. Tim told Jill one of their friends had cheated on his wife and asked him not to say anything about it. He told…

"If You Love Someone, Let Him Go"

Does this saying have any truth to it? Will he (or whoever you're letting go) come back?

Dear Dr. Datingish: How Does This Dating to BF/GF Thing Work?

Dr. Datingish So a guy asked me on a date, twice. However, he never actually asked me to be his girlfriend. I know he likes me and he knows that I like him, so how does this whole dating thing work? Are he and I…

It's the Economy, Not Love, That Keeps Us Together

Mr. Giraffe In their wedding vows, couples promise to stick together for richer or poorer. Considering the volatile state of our economy, some couples who want a divorce, are being forced to abide by that vow. In Miam…

Scandalish: What's Your Number?

Be sure to log out so you can answer anonymously! Here are instructions on how to comment anonymously if you need them. How many sexual partners have you had?

Sweetest Day Is October 18

Miss Double Shot To be honest, I had never even heard of Sweetest Day until recently - I'd always assumed it was another made up Hallmark holiday meant to sell more cards, teddy bears and chocolate. Turns out the day…

Dear Dr. Datingish: He's Checking Out Girls' Profiles...

Dr. Datingish I met my boyfriend online. We have been in a relationship for about a year and a half. Recently, I noticed that he's been checking out girls' profiles online. Is it normal for him to do that? Got a…

Would You Let Someone Take Tasteful - But Scandalous - Pictures of You?

Mr. Lion Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are in the news again. No, they're not adopting kids again (yet); this time Brad took pictures of Angelina breastfeeding one of their newborn twins and sent them to a magaz…

Be A Better BF/GF #3 - Keep The Romance Alive

This is part of an ongoing series moderated by Kari, our resident relationship expert. Fellas, it's the little things that means a lot to us girls. The way you tuck a stray strand of hair behind our ear, the soft kiss…

News: CosmoGIRL! Closes

Miss Double Shot December's issue of CosmoGIRL! magazine will be the last for the teen version of Cosmopolitan. Circulation and ad pages were down . . . it's a tough time to be in print right now. I already wrote a…

I Was Hit On by A Gay Guy - Should I Consider It Flattering?

Mr. Lion Last weekend, I was downtown bar hopping with a few friends. Onthe bathroom line in one of the bars, a guy came up to me and startedtalking to me. We were waiting for the bathroom and he was obviousl…

Friday Fun: Can You Seek Out Love or Does It Find You?

One typical cliché about finding love is that it shows up when you least expect it - you can't actively seek it out. Is this consistent with what you've found? Can you will yourself to find romance?

Peter Cook: I Cheated Because She Didn't Give Me Attention

Mr. Lion Many of us have heard about the cheating scandal and impending divorce of supermodel Christie Brinkley from her former husband, Peter Cook. Cook cheated on the supermodel with an 18-year-old girl he…

Dear Dr. Datingish: How Can I Tell A Girl I Like Her?

Dr. Datingish I'm not cheesy, romantic or suave, but I really like this girl and I don't know how to tell her without looking like a total idiot. What's the most painless way to tell her I dig her? Got a question fo…

Sundays Are About to Get Scandalish

We cover most everything dating related here on Datingish, but we also realize that sometimes it's hard to open up when there's a username attached to your comments. Enter Scandalish. We'll be posting tough questions…

Save Your Relationship by Recognizing Your Flaws

Mr. Lion Over the weekend a friend and I got into a heated argument about our flaws and how they mess up our relationships. She's the same girl that flipped out over the gift bag. While she listed my flaws, I c…

Could You Pull A Hugh Hefner And Have 3 GFs at Once?

Miss Double Shot The world is coming to an end, you guys - Hugh Hefner and one of his three girlfriends, Holly Madison, have called it quits. I can no longer believe in true love. Anyway, sarcasm aside, you have to h…

How Often Do You Think about Your BF/GF/Crush?

Back in college, my roommate and I were crushing on guys simultaneously. We decided to count how many times our thoughts floated to the guys, and, well, it was a little scary when we tallied them up. How often do you th…

Russia's Day of Conception - What Incentive Would You Need?

Mr. Lion This past month, on September 12th, Russian provinces held a "Day of Conception" giving women a portion of the day off work to go home and procreate. Birth rates in Russia have been on the decline and m…

Giving Up on Love

Miss Penguin Yesterday, my best friend (aka my twin, even though we're not biologically twins) sent me an email that broke my heart a little. She recently has been going through a bad breakup (from a really unheal…

World's Heaviest Man Is Getting Married

Mr. LionThe world's fattest man announced yesterday that he planned to marry his long time girlfriend later this month. Manuel Uribe was declared the world's heaviest man by the Guinness Book of World Records whe…

Can You Be Friends with Your Ex?

This is a guest question submitted by cute_sushi. Is it possible to be friends with your ex? Or is it too risky because there might be leftover feelings involved? If you are good friends with your ex, how did you…

Why Is Interracial Dating Even An Issue?

Mr. Giraffe After seeing the masterpiece Rachel Getting Married(a truly spectacular film; I cried at least five times), there weresome lingering thoughts in my head. The title character, Rachel, ismarrying a man…

Learning to Love Again

Mr. Giraffe Nicholas Sparks. He's the kind of writer who makes you root for a couple to push past their hurdles and be together. But then he just throws in a tragedy and you're left crying along with whoever is stil…

Follow-Up: They Broke Up; He's Engaged and She Still Loves Him

Mr. Lion Remember this story? Well, they've been hanging out again. She told him she still had feelings for him and wanted another chance but couldn't be his friend if he decided to go through with the wedding.…

Nick & Norah and Thrown Together Relationships

Mr. GiraffeOn Friday, I was lucky enough to witness one of the best love stories of my generation: Nick & Norah's Infinite Playlist. Nick and Norah are like the niece and nephew to the Judd Apatow films, effortless…

I Don't Want You in The Bathroom with Me, Thanks.

Mr. LionOn an episode of Two and a Half Men, Allen's girlfriend, Kandi, decided she wanted to brush her teeth while he was using the bathroom. He asked her to step out but she couldn't figure out why she should.…

Poll: After Six Months, Does A Guy Know...

Someone found Datingish by Googling "does a guy know if he wants a relationship after 6 months?" What do you say, guys? Duh? YesMaybeNoWhere am I? pollcode.com free polls

I Like Snuggling, But Seriously, I Can't Feel My Arm Anymore.

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. Contrary to some hackneyed gender stereotypes, guys don't dislike cuddling. In fact, if I may speak for a population of 3.4 billion, we enjoy the simple pleasure of…

Women with Low Libidos - What Can You Do?

Miss Penguin I read this article on CNN a while back about various therapies women with low sex drives are trying. This article made me happy because it often seems to like society doesn't care about women's sex dr…

How Many People Have You Told "I Love You"?

Three? Six? None? How many people have told you they loved you? (romantically! your mom doesn't count.) How many people have you said it to?

Going Clubbing without Your Group of Friends

Miss Cheetah This weekend I went out to celebrate my homeboy's birthday at this hot Caribbean club in Long Island. It was a great scene - the music was on point and there were plenty of cute guys around to dance with.…

The More You Know Crushes, The Dumber They Become?

Mr. LionEvery so often I meet a women that seems extremely smart. The girl I'm talking to right now seemed that way when I first met her. Everything about her screamed smart and sophisticated. But the more I tal…

She's In Love with Her Professor

Mr. Giraffe My friend and I decided to have a sushi outing and she brought along her friend Carrie. I wondered who'd be the third wheel, but this party of three turned out to be pretty entertaining. Carrie, it seems,…

Which Celebs Would You...ahem...If You Could?

Mr. Lion I was catching up with Entourage, and in one of the episode, Vincent Chase (Adrien Grenier) sleeps with a random girl (happens a lot) he picks up at a bookstore. After having sex, he asks her if he can…

Have Your BF/GF within Easy Reach? Lucky!

This is a guest blog submitted by HiMyNameIs_Jaimie. When I'm out with my girlfriends and see couples (sickeningly) lovingly affectionate with each other, I get jealous. Big time. Overall, most couples fail to realize…

When He Likes You More Than You Like Him

This is a guest blog submitted by bearhugs. I've been a serial relationship mess lately. I'd love to delve, but I'll spare you. My most recent incident is actually quite current. Like, I'm avoiding it right this very…

Kissing An Actress Vs. Kissing Your Wife

Mr. LionRevelife posted a story the other day about Kirk Cameron's decision to kiss his wife over the actress playing his wife in his new movie. Kirk won't kiss anyone except his real-life wife Chelsea Noble. So…

The Waiting Period Between Relationships

This is a guest blog submitted by breakingthemold. Okay, this guy and I both ended separate relationships a few months ago. We've been interested in each other for a long time (before we were with our exes) but compli…

Dear Dr. Datingish: She Liked Me for A While, But...

Dr. Datingish There was this girl that I met a month ago. I decided to make friends with her, and yeah, I kinda like her. We were cool for about a whole month, and all of a sudden she just stopped talking to me an…

Follow-Up - "You Can't Date Him - He's Not Chinese Enough!"

This is the original author's response to this post. A lot of you have brought up age. Just to let you know, I just turned 19 in August. I know I'm not real old, but I'm definitely not a high schooler either. You…

Is Your BF/GF Too Good for You?

Mr. Giraffe Last Wednesday, I saw My Best Friend's Girl. I expected almost nothing from it and was pleasantly surprised. Kate Hudson and Dane Cook had an effortless chemistry and the jokes were laugh out loud. Of cou…

When's The Right Time for Marriage?

This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. In my most recent relationship, I was with my (now ex) boyfriend for about a year and a half. We're both 23. We were together towards the end of college and…

Is eHarmony The Best Way to Find A Match?

This is a guest blog submitted by willow_ann209. I see the commercials for eHarmony at least once a day, even when I only watch TV for an hour. I see the people that have found happiness through this dating service, an…

Seeing Your Ex For The First Time

Mr. Giraffe I just got my copy of Forgetting Sarah Marshall in the mail (yes!) and it had me wondering. Seeing your ex around town right after a break-up is an interesting experience. It could either be difficult (pa…

Be A Better BF/GF #2 - Learn How to Fight Fairly

This is part of an ongoing series moderated by Kari, our resident relationship expert. Understandably, conflict and anger in a relationship means a difficult and stressful time for a couple. What I have found the most u…

Friday Fun - Do You Agree Politically?

Do you and your BF/GF agree on political issues and/or which candidate you support? If not, how are you getting through this election season?

Serial Monogamists - How Can You Spot One?

This is a guest blog submitted by uhm_roar. A friend of mine just broke up with his girlfriend of two years. He was torn up, the normal "I-don't-know-why-she's-doing-this", "I-don't-even-know-what-I-did-wrong", and t…

How Did Your Parents Explain The Birds and The Bees?

Miss Double Shot I've gotten really into the MTV show "Sex...with Mom and Dad" lately. If you're not familiar with it, kids who are somehow sexually deviant have a heart-to-heart with Dr. Drew Pinsky (of Loveline fame…

Making Sacrifices for Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend

Mr. LionI told my friend she'd mess up her relationship if she continues toargue with her boyfriend over small things. She has a tendency to take small, irrelevant issues and make them bigger than necessary, and…

Featured Comment: When's Your Anniversary (Or Lack Thereof)?

To this day I don't know what our anniversary is cause we never took a day to make anything official. It makes me wonder, how do people celebrate anniversaries if there is no official day to put the title on it? -Happ…

Taking Romantic Advice from TV Shows

Miss Penguin I watch a fair amount of TV (though I work in the industry so I tell myself it's excusable... It's research!). I'm very excited that new seasons are starting right now, and I find actually that TV can b…

Do You Rush Into Relationships Or Ease Into Them?

Mr. LionMeeting new people is a great feeling. It's even better when arelationship can come out of it. But how that relationship matures iskey. I like to get to know a person right away and then maintain the…

We Barely Knew Each Other And Hooked Up - Why Isn't That Okay?

This is a guest blog submitted by lovemasquerade. Recently I met a guy online who happens to be from my school. We hit it off pretty well on issues such as sex and all - more specifically, we were both quite sure that…

Do Successful Relationships Depend on Equal Attractiveness?

This is a guest blog submitted by porcelainx27. According to this absolutely huge psychology book I have, partners on the same or a similar level of attractiveness tend to have more successful relationships than those w…

Does Your Relationship Need A Title?

Mr. Lion Titles. Some people can't live without them; others wish they wouldn't exist. Iused to be in the former category; I needed that title to make my relationshipmatter. If I didn't have the title of the b…

You're Getting Friendly...Lights On Or Lights Off?

Miss Penguin In my rather limited experience, I have to say that more often than not, if I'm fooling around with someone, the guy is more likely to prefer the lights on. As a girl, I am not always 100% comfortable w…

When Breaking Up Is Best for Your Relationship

Mr. Giraffe I sit at a Starbucks on Sixth Avenue, catching up with one my best friends Penelope. She's in a relationship with a guy she's known for years named Sean. They're both about twenty years old. I've never met…

Featured Comment: Is Having An STD A Dealbreaker?

Mr. Lion's post on knowing your partner's history struck a nerve: la_faerie_joyeuse wrote, "I would...not like to date someone with an STD, OR a promiscuous past. Most people with an STD obviously do not think ahead to…

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