Tuesday, August 05, 2008
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Does depression wreck a relationship? Or is it pride?
I've suffered anxiety and depression, and taken medication for it. This was before the whole 'dating' thing became a part of my life. Right now my life isn't going too well in several areas but this time I've got a guy. I dumped some on him via email last night, and I hated myself for it. His reply was quite good surprisingly, here is a snipit of what went down:
Me- "Oh... now I feel like crap for sending you a wonderful message of me whinging.."
Him - "As for getting a message full of your whinging? Well I only think it's fair if I return the favour, so it's not ok (not one little bit) and you can expect a heaping big message full of "i've got no money" and "i wish i didn't live at home" soon enough. Deal? Deal."Now he knows I've got 'issues', but he has also only known me when I can 'deal' with my issues. What happens when I can't? We'll have to see. But will I ever let it get that far.
Right now in my head I'm thinking 'If I can't fix this, I should break it off, before he does'. Yeah I know that doesn't even give him a chance, but that's what depressed people are like, very self-centred.
I've decided I'm not going to do what I'm thinking for now, I'm going to wait it out, an put my emotionally strong reputation on the line.
Have you ever heard either yourself or your partner whinging about how crappy life is at the moment?
Or do you hide your negative feelings from them because you're ashamed?
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Comments (2)
Oh my, I tell him stuff all of the time and he just listens (or doesn't, sometimes I can't tell). For me, I just feel better getting it all out even if he isn't paying much attention.
I would be honest with him though so that he can be prepared to help whenever you ask. Letting him know that you can get depressed sometimes and it can affect how you handle some situations will help him better understand what is going on and can help you differently than if you were to never tell him. Does this make any sense?
He seems like an understanding, cool guy. I'd give him a chance.
I guess guys dont like complainy people. Try to find someone else to complain to.
RYC: thanks, I guess any attention is better than none.