My boyfriend isn't very sentimental or romantic. He usually has a hard time opening up and expressing his feelings. He isn't even real big on holding hands or being all PDA when we're out. He shows his affection in other ways, such as putting a lot of thought and effort into making me something for a holiday gift or sending me encouraging texts when he knows I'm having a rough day.

But, I still love him, even though I am an affectionate person.

After "kind-of dating" for eight months, and then "officially dating" for seven months, I decided to bite the bullet and tell him exactly how I felt about him. Yes, after thinking long and hard about it, I finally decided to tell him "I love you."

We recently took a road trip to Florida to attend his friend's wedding. On our way back to Ohio, we stopped in Georgia and stayed at a hotel for the night. After having some late-night-extracurricular-activities, we settled down and got ready to go to bed. I decided that this was it. This was my big moment.

Suddenly, I started to get really shy. I just kept going, "Hey...Hey..." and did some weird thing where I would poke him and giggle and turn my head away. Yeah, I get weird like that when I'm nervous. Romantic, right? But he knew something was up. I was just so scared of actually saying it out loud, you know? I knew he had trouble with mushy stuff like this; how would he react?

So finally, like a volcanic eruption of word vomit, I blurted out those three words.

His reaction?

He got tense and nervous and replied with...

"I know." More Here...

You can't tell if it's a date or not.

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This is sort of a follow-up to my post where I talked a bit about why I don't pick up the tab at dates, and why I insist on going dutch. Aside from the fact that women can work now and can support themselves, since I'm a mathematician by my former training I crunched the numbers myself, and let's just say they were gut wrenching!

For this calculation, I'm going to use an average estimate of $15 per date for the other person you're paying for. Let's assume you go on one date per month, and it takes you three years (a very, very conservative estimate) to find your match. So with that, we have an absolute low-ball estimate of you losing 15 X 12 X 3 = $540 over those three years, which you could have done other stuff with.

But it really doesn't work quite like that. Let's assume now you figure in lost interest you would have gained with those payments. Assuming you put those $15 you would be spending every month in an account that accrues 5% continuously compounded interest. In that case, we have the recursion formula of your amount as follows (where subscripts indicate months). More Here...

Whenever one of my brothers had or has a girlfriend, she always wants me (in a way, more). Every single one of them every single time... even with my oldest brother's girlfriend. It's flattering but I can't begin to tell you how incredibly awkward it is sometimes. My younger brother's girlfriend has been hanging out at our house every weekend now for the past 2 months and I never so much as looked her directly in the eye and for the very same reason I just described. My conscience: "Just look straight ahead and keep walking."

He's chubby (okay, he's pretty fat to be honest) but since he's nice and not a bully or anything and apparently in school he's really funny like a young Chris Farley, I guess it's not so strange that his girlfriend is actually really pretty. I would always see her watching me out of the corner of my eye when I would go and come back in from outside (yeah, shut up, I started smoking again) and when walking back to my room or making something to eat or doing anything she would stare at me intently. It's not just how you feel it when someone is watching you... I mean, I very much felt it, but I could very plainly see it too.

Finally, today she had the balls to ask me, "What's up?" Without thinking, sort of automatically I said, "The usual. What's up with you?" and she responded "Cool." My first thought was "Fuck. Big mistake." I could tell she was lovestruck and not just by her irrelevant response. From that moment on she was hanging on me, making sure to be in the same room all day, just staring at me enchanted and would ask the most random questions whenever an opportunity presented itself, laughing at even the most ubiquitous comments I made to anyone.

Now anybody at this point is probably thinking "Oh, you're just over-analyzing" or maybe "How do you know she is watching you unless you are watching her?" or "You're just way too into yourself" and unless you knew me in real life, you'd probably think I'm bragging but I literally hate undue attention and everyone who knows me knows it. I would've rather stood outside in the cold until she left than face the awkward situation that I knew was about to unfold if I wasn't so sure she would've followed me out there as well. More Here...

“When two people mutually like each other, it’s almost a miracle. Do you think that miracle would ever happen to me too?” – Oh Ha Ni, Playful Kiss

I’ve been in this world for 27 years; 27 years 4 months and 8 days to be exact. I feel too old yet I think too childishly. A girl – no, let me rephrase that – a woman at my age could somehow already be married, have her own family, or even have just a steady relationship partner. But me, I’ve never had a boyfriend, so I can say that my life is a kind of a “no boyfriend since birth” thing.

When I was 23, I attended my best friend’s wedding and I was thinking back then how young was it for her to get married at such an age. On my 25th birthday, she gave birth to her first daughter, so yeah, I was one of the grandmothers.

Our middle school and college friends were there, and it was almost midnight when I realized I was the only one going home alone – all of them are with their partners or their family. More Here...

 
When do people feel betrayed?

When do you weigh the factors of friendships and relationships? What's more important?

I have three friends: Luisa, Isa, and Karson. We're all studying music, Luisa and Isa are singers and Karson...well let's just say that he's a one man band. Isa has had a huge crush on Karson ever since he transfered from a different University. Karson's a great guy, extremely nice and polite, but most of all a wonderful gentlemen.

Isa would often talk to me about him. She would tell me how he would sometimes give her a ride to her classes and how he would call her to ask her if she needed anything. I told her to tell Karson how she feels about him, but she was always too afraid of what the answer might be. I always say, "It's better to know what could be than wondering what could've been." Regardless of what I would tell her, she just wouldn't listen. She was too afraid, that was the problem. More Here...