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Tuesday, 12 June 2012

What Did You Think of 50 Shades Of Grey?

50 Shades of Grey is on its 13th straight week at the New York Times bestseller list, followed closely by its two sequels 50 Shades of Darker and 50 Shades of Freed. So what is this trilogy, why is it so popular, and why should you care?
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Sex on the Street

You've probably seen couples getting it on in the middle of the street at 3 A.M. after a night out. But the graffiti artist Claire Streetart has found a way of making the passion permanent.

Take a look at her spray can hook ups in the photo gallery. Straight, gay, up against a wall, in a doorway, sitting down: it's all there. One couple are "having sex" next to a condom machine, which seems very convenient. More Here...
Quiet Couples

This post has been submitted by Datingish reader, Delilah.

After three years of being in a relationship, I noticed that my boyfriend and I barely talk while dining at a restaurant or out in public in general. Maybe even at home! Everyone else who had some form of company at a restaurant would be chatting. Our eyes, however, are usually either directed at our food or wandering off into space. More Here...
The Weird Realization That You're the Supposedly Scarce Gentlemen

Last night, I was talking to a woman who claimed to have had a secret crush on me.

In the middle of a funny conversation, I gave her a glimpse of what I'd say to a woman if I had asked her out. (I wrote this very thing into a poem, and I'll put this up some other time, when I can. And this was before I was taken, by the way.)

She claimed to be full of smiles, and said that I seemed like a breath of fresh air amongst the thugs and the perverts she was constantly faced with. Now, this wasn't really a problem for me, until she made the ever-famous (and, let's face it, ever-lofty) claim that there are not enough guys like me. Not enough guys who would take the time to get to really get to know a girl before he jokes around, flirts with them and does all the things most women like.

This morning, I went into the shower and pondered every bit of this, and it seems like the number one complaint amongst many women is that there aren't enough men with home training or something of that nature. More Here...
Using Online Dating Sites to "Find Friends"

Back when I had an active OkCupid account, I'd run across a profile or five that would say they were in a relationship but the member was online within the last week. Other profiles would say they were only looking for friends or long-distance pen pals.

When my ex and I first started dating, he said he kept his profile mainly to "troll" or keep in touch with interesting conversationalists. I didn't mind so much because he was listed as "in a relationship" and I trusted him.

My roommate met her current boyfriend on the dating site and was more than peeved when she saw he was still logging in and listed as "single" months after they started dating.
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Monday, 11 June 2012

How Important is Facebook-Official?

While searching for pictures for my article on the craziest places people have had sex, I came across this picture of the various definitions of a relationship status. This got me thinking about the ever-important Facebook relationship status.
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Biblical Dating Advice: Surprisingly Insightful

I can't take any credit for this sweet little Stumble, but it seems God knows what he's talking about. Who hasn't fallen for one of the many "(insert unattractive personality characteristic) - az" listed above? Do you think you'd appreciate your Boaz if you hadn't tried and failed to make it work with a Fake-az along the way?

While the Bible appears to be the ultimate source of superior dating wisdom, I'll sidestep the whole "did God like gays debate" and take the liberty of making Boaz a gender neutral name. Don't settle for a goodfornothing-az, whether you're gay, straight, bi or any other variation.
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Maintaining a Friendship After a Relationship

One of my best friends has managed to do what most would consider the impossible: she's remained best friends with an ex that broke her heart.

The two had a very close relationship, though saw themselves going in different directions. After breaking things off, the two took a couple weeks to regroup and were back to talking daily and seeing one another every couple weeks or so.

It's been a little over a year since the two have parted ways and they still remain as tight as ever. I've always envied their seamless transition from a relationship to being the best of friends. Her ex is now with someone else and the three of them seem to get along swimmingly.
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My Best Friend Is In Love With Me?

I know I haven't written for a while. I needed a break to re-group and get my head on straight.... But, drama and dilemmas never seem to stop following me around.

I have a guy friend--we met at college and he is quite a bit younger than me, ten years younger to be exact. Before you start screaming "cougar!" and label me with a scarlet letter, hear me out.

It started when we hung out once and has turned into a weekly thing. His mom is abusive and he has a lot of health problems and a very bad home life. I started hanging out with him just to get him out of the house, at first. Then I realized that I really enjoyed his company. I didn't think spending time with him was that big of a deal because of the age difference.

I feel very protective over him because of his situation with his home life. His mom treats him like shit because he is adopted and hits him and stuff. He has a little girlfriend in Texas and he tells me all his woes and troubles.
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Sunday, 10 June 2012

The Ex-Files

A curiosity often crops up in the early stages of a relationship that makes you wonder about your partner's past--what was their last relationship like? Why did it end? How many relationships have they been in?

While I think such talks have the potential to strengthen a relationship (opening up to one another and growing together from past mistakes), I also am of the mind that what's in the past is in the past and there's no need to discuss details.

What can also irk me is if an ex is brought up too soon and too often.

What about you? When is it appropriate to open up the "ex-files?" Do you feel it's a discussion to have or something to keep in the past? Have you ever been on a date with someone who talked too much about his or her ex?
Eating the Clitoris Cake

Talk about "caking and baking it." There's just so much fondant labia at this party. Whether you agree or not I don't think 35 vaginas have ever looked more delicious. And diverse. There's lumps, bumps, flaps, hair, and a rainbow of colors. There's even a bit of a diamante inspired "vagazzle" in the second row. But do they look lickable?

In the real world a girl's clit might not taste of sugar, but it almost always appreciate some tongue. It's not always beautiful, but it's always individual. Making someone come with your tongue can be a fickle business. What works changes, for no apparent reason. More Here...
My Rant Against My Know-It-All Friend Who Thinks He Understands Love

Recently, I hung out with a friend who repeatedly made disparaging comments about long term relationships, marriage etc… He is convinced that people in long term relationships are stupid and are not really happy (of course conveniently ignoring or maybe trying to take a slight jab at me since I am in a long term relationship.)

I just simply said that all people are different. Some people can be happy in long term relationships, some aren’t. He wasn’t too convinced and continued to make cynical remarks, despite the fact (puzzlingly enough) his parents have been happily married for about 30 years, which he admits they seem pretty happy.

A lot of people who are staunchly against long term relationships/marriage are either a.) hurt too much by past experiences (but I’ve found many of those people can be rehabilitated) or b.) they’ve never been in an actual long term relationship or had any real experience with romance.

Those who fall under the “b” category are usually the worst offenders. (Just to note not ALL people who’ve never really experienced romance are cynical. In fact, I would say most aren’t.) More Here...