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Monday, 23 April 2012

Introducing Your SO to Your Friends

My friends have been pestering me to meet this new guy that I have been seeing lately. Things between me and this guy are not so serious right now, but my girlfriends are still curious. They have met men whom I have had far less affection for and other men who I have seen for a far less amount of time.

Granted, things with this guy have been very rocky. We have been seeing each other very, very casually for about five months, while also seeing other people. Recently we have fessed up to each other that we have feelings for one another and things are seemingly moving forward towards monogamy. And now my friends are expecting to meet him. More Here...
Just a Quickie: Advantages of Being Single

I've been single for about a year now, with a flurry of unsuccessful dating attempts here and there. While I miss the intimacy of a relationship, I find that I'm finally enjoying the single life.

Before I felt my primary focus was on finding someone, which kind of hindered any sort of personal development. Bringing the focus back on myself and reconnecting with my passions has made me happier than any short lived affair.

What about you? What do you think are some of the advantages of being single?
Getting Dumped Over the Internet is Hilarious

Sure, I've been dumped over an email -- when I was 18. We were both young and I forgave him because... well, we were 100% incompatible and fought all the time.

I met a new guy and we dated for a few months and I relished the fact that maybe he and I were in many, many ways 'perfect' for each other. Not one single fight, not one single tear. Until about a month ago, out of the blue, he decided (over the internet) he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. I was upset about it, but a couple days later, he came by crying and apologizing, saying that he wanted me back and that he cared for me deeply. Okay, okay. I took him back, strike one.

Everything was perfect after that, yet again. We went to some gardens, the movies, dinner, camping... we had so much fun together. But, c'est la vie, he had to go back to work, which consists of 4 weeks on the gulf, pulling barges to and fro. When he left, I made him promise that he wouldn't try that shit on me again... because things were literally as good as they could be between us since that incident. He goes to work and 4 weeks later, he comes back. More Here...

Sunday, 22 April 2012

Would You Move For Your SO?

I was recently talking to a friend who told me her boyfriend was considering moving back to his home state after finishing school. They've been together a little over a year and can't imagine being with anyone else.

She told me she'd be absolutely devastated if he did move and wouldn't know what to do. I asked her if she had considered moving with him. She seemed to make excuses about why it wouldn't work, which baffled me. More Here...
What Do Your Sex Dreams Mean?

Last night I had a dream that I was kissing my friend's husband in my parent's basement. He wanted to have sex with me, but I said no. I woke up this morning confused, but sort of amused. I thought it was a funny dream so I immediately texted another one of my friends and shared a laugh about it. But then I got to wondering: What did it mean?More Here...
How Do You Play The Dating Game?

In the game of dating, when do you walk away? When do you say enough is enough? Or rather, when do you stay and wait... just to see if that person also has the same feelings as you do, to see if there is any potential than just casual dating?

Does leaving early on in the dating game make you petty? Does holding out/waiting make you look pathetic? More Here...

Saturday, 21 April 2012

Why Mr. Nice Guy Doesn't Get The Girl

I hate it when guys whine about how girls don't notice the nice guy. I hear it all the time. "Women love assholes!" "Oh, I'm such a nice guy but the girl always chases after the douchebag!"

I'm here to tell you that it's not true. I recognize nice guys. I like nice guys, not douchebags. But there are several things I'd like to say. More Here...
Am I Overreacting?

This post has been submitted anonymously by a Datingish reader.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. He treats me wonderfully and we compliment each other well. Several months ago, we discussed moving in together. We've got all of out kinks worked out and we set some ground rules for living together.

I was okay with most of his requests, so we decided to do it. We have been living together for a month and it's great, but there's one thing that bothers me. More Here...
Pet Loving

I came across an article on Bizarremag.com from 2009 that deals with pet love. So what's bizarre about someone loving their pet?

Read the 1st paragraph here and see if you can determine it:

Doctor X and Stray (their names have been changed for legal reasons), think their golden retriever, Elvis, is the dog’s bollocks. They feed him salmon, let him sleep in their beds and, in Stray’s case, the royal treatment even extends to allowing ‘The King’ to love her tender… or hard, rough, and from behind, while Doctor X and his seven-man production crew film it at their base in sunny south-western Europe. They also arrange regular play dates for Elvis and his doggy friends to service a wide roster of other willing women.

Yup. THAT kind of animal love. Doctor X runs a "pet love" website. More Here...
How Young is Too Young For a Family?

When I was little, I thought that everyone got married at eighteen. I grew up in a very rural town in the Midwest and saw the same pattern over and over again. Graduate high school, get married, and have babies. Lots of babies. It wasn’t until my first trip out of the state to New York City that I realized that that wasn’t the kind of life I wanted to live.More Here...

Friday, 20 April 2012

Listen!

It seems to me the biggest roadblock in modern society isn't TV, technology or even popular culture's the degradation of women. Simply put, it is you. Somehow, somewhere, we have gone off path and stopped listening to OURSELVES. In all this modern bru-ha-ha of sexy and single and useless dating advise, the biggest part of the equation is missing... YOU.

You have all the answers inside of you. You know what is right for you. You know who is good to date. Which guy is a jerk and only wants have sex. You know who the players are, who the good guys are, and which one of the two is a good match. You know which one is going to break your heart even before you do the "deed." You know damn well who is going to call you back and which jackass is going to let your call go straight to voice mail because he is hunting new prey, until he is bored, drunk, or too lazy to find someone new. You Know. More Here...
Do Men Have a "Right" to Sex?

Last week I hung out with a guy that I had previously hooked up with about a month ago. I went over to his apartment, we ordered food, and watched a movie. However, nothing happened. We hung out for about five hours and he made no moves. I was thankful because I wasn't really feeling it, despite us having great conversation and sharing a lot of laughs. At around 1 a.m. I decided to leave. And suddenly, he became very angry. More Here...