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Thursday, 03 January 2013

He Always Redirects Conversations Towards Sex

I have a friend that I lost touch with about 13 years ago after he left work. I recently redeveloped this friendship. He has always been a flirt. The problem is that when I talk to him about regular everyday stuff, he takes over the conversation and always redirects it to sex. I feel like he is always giving me his sexual resume. I have noticed he doesn't do this when others are around. My question is, why is he doing this? More Here...
Why Do Couples Hang Out at Night Clubs?

I go to 4-5 different night clubs in my area when they have their Latin nights, and one thing I find baffling is the number of couples that choose to hang out at these clubs. In fact, on many nights, most of the women who show up are not single (yet there never seems to be a shortage of single guys).

Maybe it's just like that where I live and things are different in cities like New York or L.A., but still...unless they're REALLY into dancing (which most aren't), I don't see why these couples are choosing to go to night clubs, places that are primarily designed for single people to hook up, as if they have no other option.

If someone's idea of going out on a date involves standing around a crowded room while drinking and engaging in very little social interaction due to the loud music, then that must be a very lame relationship in my opinion. More Here...
National Chocolate Day

Forget Cialis get Chocolate!

From the time the first coca beans were harvested by the Mayans, there has been the belief that chocolate has a euphoric impact on the body’s senses. The conquistadores saw the Emperor Montezuma of the Aztecs consuming a large quantity of cocoa in the form of a beverage called "chocolatl" before entering his harem. More Here...

Wednesday, 02 January 2013

Who Should Initiate the Plans?

I recently started talking more intimately with someone I have known for a few months now. When we first met each other, I did not even view him as an option to date for several reasons. Anyway, we got to talking, found some common interests. He then suggested that we should hang out some time. After that, he told me to text him about it first. I was thinking, he was the one who initiated the plans to hang out more, shouldn't he be the one to contact me? Yet, he asks me to text him.

Do you think it matters who asks who to hang out first? I always think that it's the person that initiates it in the beginning that should ask. Then again, if someone really liked someone and wanted to hang out with a person, they would ask anyway regardless of who brought it up. More Here...
Admit to Snooping?

Every time you make your personal belongings accessible to another person, there is a chance that the person will overstep his/her boundaries and snoop through your belongings – even those you did not give that person permission to use. For instance, perhaps a person has asked to borrow your computer so that he/she can use Microsoft Word to type an essay. You tell that person that yes, he/she may use Word on your computer, but you did not grant that person permission to browse through your Internet history. Many people believe that snooping through the belongings of another person breaks a trust that the person has granted you.More Here...
Casual Sex: When is it Okay?

Casual teen sex: Whether you agree with it or not, it happens. To be sure, not all teens are having sex, and certainly not all are engaging in carefree, meaningless sex. Nonetheless, of the approximately 47% of high school students who are having sex, you can be sure that not all of them are in committed relationships. And now, there is some real evidence that everyone should consider. According to a new study done by Cornell, teens who do engage in casual sex are three times more likely to have depression.
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Tuesday, 01 January 2013

In Love or Puppy Love at 16?

This post was submitted by Tanya.

Hi, I'm Tanya. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now. I feel like I am in love with him. He says we are together forever and we are making plans to go to college together. The thing is, I'm a sophomore and he's a junior so it's hard for me. I'm a literal thinker so I think if I marry him then I do. But I know he's in love with me but I'm scared that I just have puppy love for him.

Here are some examples of our relationship: More Here...
Explaining an Embarrassing Injury to Others

A friend of mine got into quite a predicament when he injured his leg not long ago. The cause of his injury? He pulled a muscle while getting intimate with his girlfriend and had to use a crutch to talk around for several weeks. More Here...

Monday, 31 December 2012

2012: A Year of True Love

With 2013 approaching, I've been thinking deeply about a lot of memories. Throughout 2012, I've remained in a happy relationship—something I never thought I would've accomplished looking back at my earlier years. Although many of you readers have probably seen my posts complaining about the roller coaster of a relationship I have, I don't think I could really ever ask for anything better.

From the very first day of my freshman year of high school, I was scared out of my mind as I sat at the lunch table. I shook as I sat down, nibbled timidly on my Triscuits, and glanced across the table to a blonde-haired, blue-eyed sophomore, and just like that, the universe was planning a love of a lifetime (though I didn't know it until the summer before my junior year). More Here...
One Direction Member's Ex Victim of Cyberbullying

One Direction: whether you scream with horror or excitement when you hear the name of this group, unless you avoid pop music in every facet of your life and spend most of your time away from TV, the Internet, and tabloids, you have at the very least heard of them and are aware of their rather large and crazy fan base. Some of the group's craziest fans are young girls. More Here...
An Unusual Brazilian New Year Tradition

Can you believe Brazilian women welcome the New Year by wearing colorful underwear? They usually wear red, yellow or other brightly colored underwear past midnight to catch good fortune for the coming year. More Here...

Sunday, 30 December 2012

A Loner or Afraid of Commitment?

This post was submitted anonymously.

I've been seeing this guy for nine months. The last three months have been bad and I cant put my finger on it but he is drifting away, I can feel it.

He says he is a loner and wants to do his own thing; he doesn't want to be a surrogate dad to my kids. I never asked or expected him to. He is 41 with no kids, I'm 39 with 3 kids. I really like him and compared to the other guys, he just feels like my equal. I know he is scared but I don't know how to reassure him.

Please help!