Okay so I have to admit: I am and always have been completely obsessed with baby bumps!
People just look so freaking cute when they are pregnant. Not to mention, the idea of being pregnant and creating a life is just so beautiful to me. I can't wait for the day I am ready to take that step in my life! Okay... I'm lying. I can definitely
wait, but I'm sure having a baby will be super exciting one day.
But there are just some things about the whole pregnancy process that really bother me and that I feel people don't talk about enough. Here's my biggest issue. The day that I give birth to my child I DO NOT want my partner watching.
I mean, sure I want him in there with me sharing the whole experience but I think we can do without him staring at the less than sexy state of my lady parts during childbirth.
I know so many of you will disagree with me and tell me that in the moment I won't care about things like that and that it will be a beautiful thing for the father of my child to see. And I am sure you are right! In the midst of my pain and fatigue, the last thing on my mind will be to worry about which way my man is looking. That is why I think it is a rule I will establish with him way before my due date: No looking at my crotch, which will certainly be on display for most of the room to see!
I do have my reasons for my concerns. I feel that intimacy is extremely important to a relationship and it is something I always want to preserve. When the time comes for me to start a family with someone I know we will be in a different stage of our relationship but our intimacy is something I never want to lose. Yes, we all know where babies come from, but do we really need to see it to believe it? I don't want my significant other to be tortured by the images of my cookie looking like a scene from a horror movie.
I want that to be a part of me he always looks at with desire.
I know I am saying all this as though it is solely my decision and I know it won't be. Of course, I may be in a relationship with someone who has the strongest desire to watch every moment of the birthing process. As we all know relationships are about compromise, so I will deal with that when the time comes. But unless I am with someone who has an absolute obsession with staring down below as I give birth (which I hope I wouldn't be because that's just weird), then I am pretty sure I have made my decision. Am I wrong for wanting to hide this part of the birthing process from my partner? Do you think watching a woman give birth might affect the future intimacy of the relationship?Image source