Friday, 25 January 2013
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The Emotions of a Break-Up
This post was submitted by Amelie.
Here are some of the emotions most commonly associated with a break-up.Underappreciated when I tried to make you feel happy and loved and received a cold answer back.
Angry when you said ugly things to me instead.
Guilty when I realized I was being overly difficult and was causing you more stress.
Naïve when I thought our love was strong enough to work everything out.
Frustrated when I couldn't talk to you anymore and didn't know how to fix my mistakes.
Devastated when I realized it was so easily over.
In denial when I didn't want to accept the breakup.
Nauseous while trying to accept that was over.
Scared when I had to move to another country even further from you where you weren't coming anymore.
Hopeless when I didn't know what to do with my life after you.
Lost when I found myself alone in the place where we were going to finally reunite.
Heartache when I think of all the beautiful things we shared and all the plans we had.
Annoyed when all I want is to write to you all that I feel even though I know it is annoying you.
Alone when I look around and can’t find you.
Distress when I lost any desire to stay alive.
What would you add?
How do you get over a breakup when you lose what you thought was the love of your life?
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"How do you get over a breakup when you lose what you thought was the love of your life?"
It's "who" not "what". You don't.
someone isn't who I thought he was
Betrayedthat he wants someone else
grow the fuck up
when you realize that (almost) all relationships are transient anyway.
Time. Time. and well....Time.
You need to separate yourself from him and everything about him. I would even go as far as saying try to limit your interactions with mutual friends between you two as well unless they were your bffs to begin with. Talking to them will only remind you of the good times between you two as your friends have always seen you 2 together as a couple.
I think what's most important is you need to think about why the relationship fell apart. If it was just because you 2 weren't meant to be and there was no cheating involved, hone in on what qualities you want in your next boyfriend. Think of what you missed out on your ex and non-redeeming qualities he had that you want to see in your next partner in life. Also think about weaknesses on your part that the relationship ended and promise yourself next time you'll be a better lover.
Friends. Friends help loads in helping you get social again. Enjoy the freedom you have now. Use this time to empower yourself. To make yourself feel good, to further your career, to be a better person. The more you empower yourself, the more you can set yourself in the mentality: "too bad he lost me because I sure as hell am better now than we were together." Pamper yourself, feel beautiful. Life is too short to be mourning over 1 person for so long.
It took me about 3 months to reach to this mentality. It took me about 2 months to stop crying about him and to be able to talk openly about our breakup. It's not easy dealing with it but time will help you as well as a positive attitude.
When you learned that spaceships still exist, and that makes you happy
How you feel when your buddies buy you a lap dance to help you get over it
Relieved. When you realize you don't have to worry about the next time he is going hit you or degrade you in front of his friends for fun.
oh wait, you were talking about the love of your life... I married mine.
One suggestion, counseling.
Confused when you realize we all die alone, anyway.
Substitute -- I had my work and my boys.
It is unwise to hold on to the negative separating emotion. Resentment -- unresolved anger -- is unproductive and harmful. @QuantumStorm@xanga - Happiness - because you have _____.
In the case of QS the _____ is spaceships.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - hahah oh man, demotivational poster right there.
all of those emotions make sense though, I suppose one just needs more experience as time goes on to be more equipped to be able to go through the motions and realize it is not the end of the world. learn what you can from it so your next go can be better in the ways that you want it to be