Friday, 25 January 2013
I just got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship a few months ago with someone who I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. It turned out that we both wanted different things and that he was not fulfilling my needs emotionally or physically. I stayed with him for as long as I did because I loved him deeply and he was my best friend, but I was not happy, and something was just simply missing. I have accepted it and am moving on now, but feel like I won't ever meet anyone, as many people do after a break up.
My question is how do I meet 'the one'? Where do I go to find him? How do I make myself approachable? I find it extremely difficult to meet men, especially because I live in New York City, and I've heard from just about everyone that this is the hardest place to meet men. Why is that? Is it because it's so fast paced or is it because the men here don't want to be in a relationship? I met my last boyfriend here, and he definitely wanted a relationship, so I don't understand.
I need some advice from all of the men or women out there as a female who just doesn't want to rely on standing there and waiting for someone to approach her or call her. I want to be strong enough to make eye contact and smile at someone if I find that person attractive, but I am very shy. How can I get men to notice me more? I'm old fashioned and have always wanted a man to approach me first, but I suppose times have changed and I might need to start doing things differently!
How did you meet your current boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you find it easiest to meet through mutual friends or just randomly? I need any advice I can get! I feel like I'm becoming cynical, and I don't want to continue down that path. Help!