Thursday, 24 January 2013
We all know what a "Honeymoon Phase" is, we've heard of it, talked about it, been lectured about it. It's described from all angles of life, from people in and out of relationships, people who are saddened over having no one and once having someone or from people who are madly in love and can't wait to begin their lives with that someone special.
I've been waiting a long time to write this up, to finally put an unbiased piece of information out there, because let's face it: Us bloggers, we have opinions, and those opinions, are more often than not - biased.
The honeymoon phase by definition, is the period of time from which two people first start dating, to the point where they become so familiar with one another that they feel a "spark" is lost, that there is no longer a mystery component. They no longer see that person as special and rather as just yet another human being (God forbid they're human). I like how one Xangan, @Wrongfuphil, put it: You start off seeing them as a unicorn and when the phase is over, they're just a regular horse. You still with me?
I honestly believe this phase is non-existent. Sure, we start off mesmerized and full of infatuation, lust, love and wondering. But if those emotions become tranquilized and less evident, maybe the "spark" isn't gone... maybe you've just come to realize that this unicorn isn't your 'Happily Ever After' unicorn, they're just someone you were meant to meet in your lifetime of ups and downs and diagonals. A unicorn you were meant to cross paths with per-se.
I'm 5 months into my current relationship and I couldn't be happier that I've come to realize that she's just an ordinary girl. She's no superwoman or bionic in a super-powerful sense, she's just like every other girl (obviously not exactly like every other girl, she's still an individual), but the difference is, I love the flaws, I love the mistakes, I love the normalcy, I love that I no longer feel inadequate; I feel equal.
Maybe that's the point of love. It's not to fear when this believed "honeymoon phase" will end, but rather to embrace it. This person is pretty damn fantastic whether or not you feel that you've gotten too comfortable. You're not supposed to be strangers, there was a day when you wanted to know everything, don't just drop out when you discover it all... love it all instead!
Do you think this honeymoon phase exists, or do you recognize some truth in my theory that it's not about a phase and rather just a step toward a mature relationship? Throw your thoughts down below!