Wednesday, 23 January 2013
I remember when I was younger I had this boyfriend called Xavier. My whole life revolved around Xavier, what he was doing, what he thought, and his Myspace. I remember I would listen to the music he liked and I would dress in the type clothes he said looked good on me. According to us, we were in love.
I think it is always natural to want to do things that will please your SO, and especially things that make you more attractive to him/her, but when do you cross the line? When does that turn into an obsession? Xavi and I broke up a year later because he always wanted me to do what he liked and what he wanted me to do. Looking back, I always feel like that relationship was borderline abusive, and that wasn't all his fault. I would go along with what he wanted, and I never stood up for myself because I was so blinded by him.
My point is this: Love is a beautiful thing, but there comes a point where we can cross the line, and it becomes an obsession. It's natural to be interested in your partner's life and to want to look good for them, but you should never have to lose yourself to do so. You should be able to be yourself and both you and your partner should have different interests and different styles, yet be able to respect each other for that. Yes, that person can be the most important thing in your life, but not the the ONLY thing in your life.
When does love turn into an obsession? Have you ever been obsessed with a SO? Have any advice?