Tuesday, 22 January 2013
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Discussing Your Dating Life with Your Parents
I’m guessing many, if not most, of you share details about your dating life with your friends, and many of you even write about some of your dating experiences on your Xanga weblog or as a post on Datingish. Would you ever consider sharing that kind of information with your parents?Growing up, it was interesting for me to observe the varying degrees to which people I knew from school would talk to their parents about what was going on with their dating lives. I had some friends whose parents were constantly "in the know" about whom their child liked and how much of an attempt their child made to talk with that person or ask that person out. They would also know the story of their child’s first kiss and many of the details about what happened on their child’s dates.
On the other hand, other parents were completely left in the dark when it came to their child’s dating life because their child was too uncomfortable or just did not want to share that information with them. Some parents went as far as to ask their child’s friends about whether or not their child was seeing anybody at school because these parents just had no idea. The children of these parents would grow angry at their parents and sometimes even their friends for betraying their trust by disclosing that kind of information to their parents; after all, they felt that what happened at school was none of their parents' business.
I, personally, was a very private person growing up. I never even used to talk about my dating life with my friends, let alone my parents. Although I would consider myself close to my parents, I would never tell them about people I liked and, when I was in my teens and started dating somebody I knew in high school, I rarely talked about the relationship with them because I felt very awkward about discussing my dating life.
As I got older and became an adult, I matured and the nature of my relationship with my parents changed. When I reached my late teens, instead of dictating what I could and could not do (for example, no going out on such-and-such night because I have homework) my parents trusted me to make my own choices about some very important details of my life (where to go to college, what to study, where to live, etc.) and supported my decisions. Now that I’m 24 and am in a serious relationship, I find that it’s much easier to talk to my parents about my dating life – in fact, I’m finding that I want to talk to them about it at times; they have a lot of great wisdom to offer and relatable experiences to share.Would you go – or have you gone – to your parents for dating advice? Why or why not? Did you find their advice helpful?
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They usually know who I like, and when I'm dating someone, I tell them things here and there about the relationship. But I definitely do not discuss my sex life with them. I think they think I'm still a virgin.
my mother only asks me the basic question of, "who is that guy(that you're talking to)??" and I say, "nobody
" and that's pretty much the end of the dating/relationship conversation with her.
Both my parents are kind of old fashioned, so I can't tell them a lot about my dating life. They wouldn't approve of me being a "slut", or bisexual.
In the beginning, I couldn't go to my parents at all. My mom tends to give horrible advice and my dad isn't very attached to the situation in general. I guess it doesn't help that I swing both ways. Either way, I'm more comfortable going to my mom now being a heterosexual relationship but she still doesn't care to hear much of my lady-crushes. She still gives terrible advice though so I tell her limited info. I'm not really private though, I'll tell my friends more, if I think they'll give me more logical or feasible advice.
My parents know I'm not a virgin but that's it. They knew more about past relationships than they know about my current one. All they know is his name. I don't want to get them involved in it until we plan on living together or getting engaged. I just don't feel like it's any of their business.
My dad, no. But my mum is kind of my best friend. I would tell her pretty much everything about my dating life growing up, because I had a lot of problems with relationships and attachment issues (opposite, though, of most kids; I couldn't become attached, something I still have problems with), so talking about them helped. I try to steer clear of sex conversations, though, because my mum will always be there for me but I highly doubt she wants to hear about that kind of stuff.
I didn't talk to my parents about my dating life, we didn't have the kind of relationship that led to open communication. as a mother of a 15 year old, i'd like to think I know everything, but i'm sure I don't. any mother who thinks they do is delusional lol she does talk to me though, she lets me in on her life and her friends lives, and even asks for advice on occasion :)
Yes I have gone to my mom. She is older, has gone through a lot, and just gives great advice. Aside from that, our parents are people too. They dated and then procreated us, so they know a little something about dating! The older I get, the more I try to remind myself that my parents are human beings with feelings too. However, just because I can go to my mom doesn't mean all parents are cool with you sharing or asking for their advice. I've been fortunate to have a mom that understands I'm a human being too. =)
I tell my mum a lot of things but we're both adults now and great friends, it's not a big deal.
I don't talk to my parents about my dating life. My train of thought is if it's nothing serious, what's the point? When I was in high school my dad was in the military, and I didn't want to worry him and distract him over nothing while he was overseas. He's retired now, but I don't have any kind of a dating life currently. So there's nothing to report to my parents.
my parents usually know who I like/what's going on.
my mom definitely knows a lot more this time around because she just helped me through my breakup. I don't know how I could have handled it without her! <3