My beloved Doberman Pinscher Zephyrus at 9 months old.
It has come to my attention that on my,
My Date From Hell post, I was criticized heavily for bringing my dog on a date. Well, let me get something straight here:
you absolutely DO NOT get me without the dog, period. End of story.
Non-dog owners or dog owners who trivialize their furry friend just do not understand that special bond between dog and master. You will never find as loyal of a companion or as great of a friend as a dog, and certainly no human being will ever come close to matching the loyalty of a dog,
nor in any human being will you find anything close to the pure and unconditional attachment a dog has to his master. Not even one's significant other comes close.
My dog is my everything. He is by far the best thing that ever happened to me. If it wasn't for him, I'd have likely died months ago. He gives just that little bit of meaning to my otherwise completely and totally meaningless life, and when you try to trivialize that or pass him off as "just a dog," I get angry.
Yes, I will bring my dog along on dates. He goes with me pretty much everywhere: to work (which is now mostly at home, but still), to the park and to the store (there are pet friendly stores!). Why should dates be any different? We are joined at the hip and to be separated from him drives me nuts. As I said, you don't get him without me, and
if you tell me I CAN'T bring him, we don't have a date.
If, in the less than 1% chance this happens, we manage to hit it off and I do decide to "convert" to a long-term romantic relationship, my dog will be part of that. I will not get rid of him because you're not a dog person, and if you insist I do I'll get rid of you instead.
The bottom line is this: if you make me choose between you or my dog, I'll pick my dog every time and kick your sorry ass to the curb, and any dog owner who wouldn't probably doesn't need to be owning a dog. As I said earlier, no human being (not even a significant other) will even come close to matching the loyalty or unconditional attachment that a dog has with his master. You just won't find anything like it in a human being.
My beloved Doberman Pinscher Zephyrus at 9 months old.
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I guess it'll be just you and your dog for a while.
Being great companions with your dog is great and dandy. But, when you go out on a date, you are on a date with someone who deserves your full attention. You go on a date to learn about someone and see how they can be compatible with you. If they wanted to meet your dog, they can come over after the date to play with your dog.
@jeezshoua@xanga - That's cool with me. There's a reason they call a dog (and not woman, I should add, and for good reason) "man's best friend."
@laytexduckie@xanga - As I said, my dog goes with me literally everywhere. It pains me to be away from him for even a few minutes. Plus, as mentioned, if you're not compatible with my dog you aren't compatible with me, so it's a good test of compatibility.
I loveeee dogs. I completely agree with you about the beauty of dogs. There's nothing as loyal and pure. My boyfriend and I plan to get 2 big dogs of our own one day and I'm more excited about having them than the kids lol.
Anyway, in regards to the post (and the others I've seen), I think you're much more of a dog person than a people person. Maybe you'll find someone someday who works well with you. But you don't seem to care too much about finding that person anyway.
I love animals, and I love all of my pets. My dog is no exception, but you need to understand something.
You wouldn't bring your best friend, your mother, father, child, or twin on a date, would you?
No. You would not.
Then why would you assume its acceptable to bring your dog?
@wildchildofthebluemoon@xanga - As I said, you don't get him without me and 2) if you read in a previous comment, if I'm so much away from him as a few minutes I go bananas. I can't let him out of eye or earshot for any extended period of time lest I freak out. I won't even take a vacation without him, and if I can't arrange a trip that can accommodate him for travel I don't make the trip. That's just all there is to it.
He goes with me everywhere because if he doesn't I lose it.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - I think that means you have deeper problems you might need to work out. That isn't meant to be offensive, only something to think about because that doesn't sound healthy.
I'm glad you have a good friend in your dog. May I ask if you fly planes anymore..?
@wildchildofthebluemoon@xanga - As I said, he's my everything, and I put him first always. Period. He's basically the only reason I'm still alive. If he hadn't come into my life when he did, I'd have already died by my own hand because quite frankly life sucks and it's better not to exist (and, by extension, either of two things will happen: he'll outlive me or if he doesn't, I'll terminate my life when he passes on because a life without him would be meaningless).
Yeah, I have issues, if by "issues" you mean I live in reality and actually am smart enough to realize that life is a drag and that it really isn't worth living for any of us.
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - As an instructor and for recreation, yes. I got tired of the corporate world so I quit that job and am instead pursuing a home-based business. My primary income these days comes from making bagpipe chanter reeds (and I'm in the process of developing a complete line of bagpipe products: chanters, drone reeds, etc.) and from tapping on my old skills repairing clocks and watches (I'm certified as a master clock/watchmaker from the AWCI). As I said, I still do flight instruction as a bit of additional income and I still do fly recreationally.
Can't argue with this.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - seeing as you are so dearly attached to Zephyrus, my question is don't you worry about bringing him on a date somewhere with someone who could be seriously dangerous to have him around? I.E someone who is maybe verbally or physically abusive to an animal, or someone scared of larger animals and ends up frightening Zephyrus without meaning to?
@Trueinnerbeauty@lovelyish - I don't worry too much about him because even though he is a sweet and loving dog, as with any Doberman he has an extremely protective side and he has gone up to bat for me during my times of need. I also gave him some military/police type training so he's trained to bite/attack on command much like a police or military dog. He can hold his own.
Why don't you sign him up as a service dog? It seems like you are very anxious without him and he is the only thing that calms you nerves. I read about someone having their dog become a service dog for that very same reason. Now, they literally take them everywhere without anyone giving a fuss, or giving them hell.
"Non-dog owners or dog owners who trivialize their furry friend just do not understand that special bond between dog and master."
Is there any scientific evidence that a special bond even exists or are you just being a hypocrite as usual?
so how does this whole thing play out when you want to have sex? does the dog get to lay in bed next to you guys and watch?
I'm a huge cat lover, and I won't say that's the exact same thing as dogs, but in general I love all things furry and cute. I would accommodate any animal that my date or potential SO had though, but not if they had an attitude like you're displaying. My ex-gf had (has?) a service dog that she literally took everywhere, including in walmart when she went to go buy her fresh veggies and fruits. I had no problem with it, as long as it calmed her and kept her in a stable state of mind, which she wasn't in many times without holding her dog. On the other hand though, she was more reasonable about not bringing Phoebe the Dog with her to dates (she got the dog after we got together, actually, but I was still 100% supportive either way) we had, whether it was the movies or a similar place. Her story isn't the same as yours, everyone's is unique. But I think one thing that keeps bugging me here is, I don't think you're going to have better luck if you don't change your attitude in the future. Women love pets, and even larger dogs, but they don't love pricks who bring dogs on amusement park dates and won't get on rides with them, then leave for a funeral only to return just in time for a lame date with monetary restrictions after she had to pay the entire admission into the park. that's a douche move. granted, she could've tried to include both you and your dog more, but I don't know if I would've wanted to either with how everything was playing out already.
@CursedFaerie@xanga - I never even thought about that. Seriously, I haven't. What all does that take, do you know? An endorsement from a physician (probably easy enough to obtain)? What else?
@cook0129@xanga - Well, dogs have sex out in the open for everyone to see, so I don't think it'd be that bad if he witnessed his owner having sex with someone of his own species, do you? Actually, humans are the only animals that have sex NOT in public view. So I don't mind if he sees me engaging in sex, but he won't be allowed on the bed while I'm doing so.
We do, however, share a bed and sleep together at night when I'm not engaging in sexual acts.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - and just how long has that been? the dog is honestly okay with just sitting back and watching as you get it on with some stranger in HIS bed with HIS master?
@cook0129@xanga - He actually takes his cues off of me. He doesn't get defensive or spring into attack mode unless he senses that I'm in danger, and I've done my best to train him not to be possessive.
Admittedly I'm on a very dry spell as of recently because of not really wanting anything to do with people much less women specifically, but I can and have had sex in his presence without issue. He really doesn't seem to mind it and if he does he sure doesn't show it because he's still all kisses with me in the morning and still snuggles up to me at night and all that business.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - haha, good point. there's no proof that such a special bond exists. period, end of story.
I wouldn't bring my dog on a date, but I absolutely wouldn't date anyone who wasn't cool with my dog.
The good news is there are a lot of women out there who are dog lovers. Some are so into dogs that they treat their own as if they were offspring. A lot of women also post pictures of their dogs on online dating sites. I don't think you'll have much trouble finding women who would be accepting of your situation.
I only have two comments. First your use of the word "master" and the phrase "man's best friend" kind of suggests that only males can have a bond with their dogs. I have a dog and that isn't the case at all.
My second comment is that he is very, very, very cute.