Wednesday, 09 January 2013
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Horrendous Dating Advice
What happens when you are feeling overwhelmed in the dating world? What do you do when your significant other abruptly decides to leave you or you find out that he or she has been cheating on you, and you have a hard time moving on? What if you find yourself in a situation where the guy or girl you want to date is the ex of one of your close friends, and you are not sure whether or not you should date him or her? What if you cannot decide whether or not you should call back a person you met at a party? What would you do?In times of dating distress, most people have turned to a friend, relative, or even an acquaintance for advice at one time or another. Some of the advice given by these people may have been beneficial and helpful, while other advice…not so much.
What is the worst piece of dating advice you have ever received? The following is a list of the worst dating advice that has given out to a few people I know. Honestly, I am not sure what the people who handed out these pieces of advice were thinking, but even if none of these pieces of advice were useful, they were still good for a laugh.
- Speak very quietly to create an air of mystery around you. Guys love that. I’m sorry, but what? If a person purposely talks quietly during a date, the person with whom he/she is on a date is going to get frustrated because he/she cannot hear what is being said. This is likely to result in the date itself coming to an abrupt end because the date does not want to put up with the frustration anymore.
- Don’t do any of his/her chores or cook for him/her before marriage. Sorry, you’re not getting that sandwich you wanted until you put a ring on it. Sex before marriage is a controversial issue. Living together before marriage is also a controversial issue. It is completely understandable why people would have strong opinions on both sides of those issues. No cooking or cleaning before marriage, on the other hand…I don’t think the general public cares. The only way this piece of advice would have made sense would be if it was meant to teach the advice recipient that he/she should never let another person take advantage of him/her.
- Act disinterested; he’ll want you more. Any advice that involves playing mind games is, in my opinion, bad advice if a person is seeking a stable relationship. Solid, lasting relationships do not blossom from mind games and deception.
- Pick fights in your relationship every once in a while to keep it healthy. It’s unhealthy to not fight in a relationship. Why create problems if problems do not exist? Some couples just do not fight very often. If a couple can talk through differences without fights, all the more power to that couple!
- Tell your date a deep secret about you right away as a means of breaking the ice. Why not get up on a stage in front of every person you know and do the same thing? Save your deepest, darkest secrets for a steady partner and not a person whom you have only begun to see.
What is the worst dating advice you have ever received? Have you ever followed a bad piece of dating advice and regretted it later?
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Much of this advice has to do with putting on airs and basically bullshitting your way into a relationship. Imagine, that such advice would be considered horrible!
Long ago and far away in another galaxy, I went out with a woman that had two children because my cousin dated her girlfriend. That was stupid of me. I wasted our time. As a bonus, I got attached somewhat to her children. My cousin and his girl were happy. Meantime, I ought to have listened to my mother when after a few months, she gave me advice to end it. That was good advice. I was not ready and this relationship was not for me.
As for the worst advice I've ever seen, that would be on datingish. Not every time, but often, there are advisors that say things like to use people or to get over it and so on. If this were on Sunday, I might actually take some time to flag some of them for you. Anyway, you know. I guess you maybe even got the idea for this article from reading datingish.
Wait until you're ready to get married before you start dating.
generally speaking, advice from girls can be considered pretty horrendous.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - I think my favorite is number 4
@galadrielspitcher@xanga - NO YOU CAN'T I WON'T ALLOW IT unless it involves pokemon battles
"find yourself a man" hehe
@Erika_Steele@xanga - rofl XD
I'm trying to pick the pieces up of my life. It's weird meetin new people but I'm putting myself out there and I've gotten really positive advice frm people who have no ties to me. It was great hearing that I could so better and deserve it and sometimes u have to love yourself more before you tackle another relationship or meeting anyone. Usually once u have it all together... Things fall into place.
"Open up to me. I want to know what you're really thinking, what you're really feeling. I'm safe."
Then my "real feelings" scared her away. I'm sorry, I didn't know that invitation only covered good feels, not bad ones.
/bitter
Uh...I've never heard ANY of these. Pretty sure you've either made them up, or the people who actually said these things were just dicking around. Whoever actually follows any of this deserves whatever happens afterward.
@chronic_masticator@xanga - you are a lucky...lucky woman. I've been told a lot of these things especially the acting disinterested one. The disinterested one was the whole premise of that God awful book The RulesSo many of my friends tried that crap that I seriously wonder if the one woman is still married.
there's been a lot of bad advice tossed around among my family and friends...
stand up right after sex and you won't get pregnant
don't eat more then 5 bites on a dinner date or the guy will think you're a pig
make sure not to express a differing opinion from your date on anything
and my personal favorite, if I have anything important to say, write it on my tits. (this one was said as a joke thank god, but it still cracks me up)
sounds like cosmo, honestly..
I thought this was going to be a list of datingish posts.
My best friend (for some odd reason) convinced me to stay and work things out with my then boyfriend when I found out he was cheating on me. :\
So much bad advice came my way when I was single, hmmm.... let me see.... always go for ugly guys, because they'll treat you better (that was a weird piece of advice a woman from my parents' church gave me at her husband's funeral).... don't act strong/tough/smart/etc. because that's a turnoff.... and then there was one creepy guy that I used to work with that told me that if I knew how to make good tea and good coffee, I was what he termed a "keeper" (oh, yes, forget everything about emotional and physical intimacy, my coffeemaking skills are what got me a ring on my finger...).
my cousin was telling to disagree with whatever ur boyfriend says like if he says its an apple say it a banana even though its really an apple needless to say they broke up i never really took her advice though he could never get it right with this one needless to say it would cause a fight everytime he would say something cause she would diff disagree with what he has saying guys get tired of all the yelling and complaining all the time i feel like in relationships at times u gotta let some things that are not a big deal slide by
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