Thursday, 03 January 2013
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Why Do Couples Hang Out at Night Clubs?
I go to 4-5 different night clubs in my area when they have their Latin nights, and one thing I find baffling is the number of couples that choose to hang out at these clubs. In fact, on many nights, most of the women who show up are not single (yet there never seems to be a shortage of single guys).
Maybe it's just like that where I live and things are different in cities like New York or L.A., but still...unless they're REALLY into dancing (which most aren't), I don't see why these couples are choosing to go to night clubs, places that are primarily designed for single people to hook up, as if they have no other option.
If someone's idea of going out on a date involves standing around a crowded room while drinking and engaging in very little social interaction due to the loud music, then that must be a very lame relationship in my opinion.There has to be reasons why couples go to night clubs if it's not for the dancing and drinking. Sure, maybe they just like the club atmosphere and it's what they're used to, or they only get to go out every once in a while and the club was just a suggested place. There seems to be other implicit reasons however, such as guys wanting to show off their hot girlfriends or for women to want to have a valid and solid excuse to turn other guys down.
In my opinion, unless they're there to partner dance, I think it would be best if couples stayed out of the clubs and did things that couples usually do instead, such as go bowling, watch a movie, eat sushi, etc. Either that, or be accepting of the consequences that come with visiting night clubs.
Women should know that they are going to be hit on by a bunch of guys in a club and should accept that instead of being total bitches about it, especially when said guys would not have known that said women are in a relationship because their boyfriends are using their "bathroom break" excuse to hit on other women on the other side of the club behind their backs.Do you believe that night clubs are good places for couples to hang out, or should they be more reserved for single people?
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I definitely think its weird. I've never had the urge to go hang out at a club when I have a significant other. When I'm single it's a different story but I don't see any appeal to hanging out at a club when in a committed relationship.
Hmm. Well, I live in a very small town & have never actually been to a club lol but I don't think I'd choose to go with my SO. I might wanna go with a bunch of friends even if I were in a relationship, just to dance & have a good time, but if I really wanted to have a good time out drinking with the boy, we just go to a bar.
I've gone out to nightclubs with couples before and they seem to have just as much fun as the single folk. From what I've seen, most couples enjoy hanging out at nightclubs because of the atmosphere and the opportunity to dance and just have a good time. Why should they stay out just because you have trouble getting the single ladies you want?
If the couples want to dance and drink, why not? Also, some people go to have fun with friends. I don't see a problem with couples visiting nightclubs. But, if they're not having any fun on a visit to a night club, maybe they are better suited for other types of dates.
THIS. >> @QuantumStorm@xanga - "Why should they stay out just because you have trouble getting the single ladies you want?"
so they can dance and have fun?
I don't go clubbing at all, nor would I ever. But I think it's weird that a couple would go out to nightclubs. But hey, if that's what they wanna do, then sure. As long as they're enjoying themselves, and it doesn't affect their relationship with each other negatively, then so be it.
while the people of whom you speak definitely piss me off, i actually am much more frustrated by people who choose to go but not drink, and then are total buzzkills. (referring to "regular" clubs, not latin dance clubs.) i have absolutely no issue with people who don't drink, as that's entirely a personal choice--but when you *voluntarily* choose to go into an environment that is generally miserable to be in sober, and then complain to everyone around you and are rude to the people who talk to you, you really need to choose something new to do with your time. don't fucking ruin it for the rest of us.
as for me, i go to clubs with a "date" once in a while (though my preference is to go alone and find a new girl) and have absolutely no issue with other guys talking to my date. i accept it as a reality, and it's not like i've never done it before to other guys' dates. i love drinking and dancing. i mean...there's a reason i do it every friday and saturday.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - @laytexduckie@xanga - if i understood what he was writing, he wasn't complaining about all couples, but specifically couples that go and don't dance, or are otherwise bothered by the general level of social interaction that is expected at such a place. (i get the impression that the editors made have switched the article up a little bit, too.)
@aanjelaa@xanga - hahaha, i used to say that till my friend started *forcing* me when i was 23, and now i looove going :)
I think this is silly. Couples are still people too, they are allowed to go out wherever they want. I do hate it when people go out, drinking or not drinking, but bitch about the place or the people an don't dance or anything. Don't come out!
I use to hit up the clubs when I was single with my buddies that took their SO with them. No, they're not there to get hit on or be a buzzkill, they were quite fun and cool when guys tried to hit on them (she just pointed to her ring and said sorry, in a nice way). Why did they do it? Well, they had single friends and they like to hang out with them, which sometimes mean kicking it at a club.
... I'm confuzzled. so because you have a boyfriend/girlfriend you're not allowed to go out? if I want to go out with my boyfriend to dance, maybe drink & have a good time what's the problem?
There's no rule that says you have to quit going out to clubs or bars once you're in a relationship. If I want to go get a drink with my girlfriend or a bunch of our friends want to go someplace with alcohol and live music, then I will. I don't see why my girlfriend and I should exclude ourselves from patronizing certain establishments just for the benefit of singles. Just because I'm in a relationship doesn't mean my SO and I have to spend the rest of our lives ordering take-out and watching crappy rom-coms together; we still like to go out and be social with our friends.
Also a lot of single women will lie about their relationship status at bars or clubs primarily so they don't get hit on by single men. Some of my single female friends will ask close male friends to cockblock for them or they'll wear bands on their ring fingers when they go out. Others just flat out lie about having a boyfriend at home.
However I do agree that if you go to a bar or club as a couple, you have to deal with the consequences of being in an environment populated by singles looking to meet each other. If you get insanely jealous or alpha-male when someone comes up and talks to your SO, then maybe the club/bar scene isn't for you.
What? Who says that clubs are only for single people? Is that like in the "Statement of Operation"? Anyone can go to a club if they damn well please. Attendance at a club, despite what men think, is not an open invitation to be hit on. That's silly.
Yeah. I really don't know why you are assuming that couples do the things you suggested they do....you are supposed to do things you enjoy. If that is going to a dungeon, then by all means go. If it's going bowling, go. And I would love to go dancing at a club, if my significant other liked to dance.
I don't see anything wrong with couples going to clubs. Period, the end.
Clubs aren't only for single people...
Couples who like to go out to drink and dance can go if they please. After all, they'll be one of the few who actually leave the club knowing they will get some. It's sad that you think single people are the only ones who can enjoy night clubs. I actually plan to go to a night club with my fiance, because I want the experience and I want it with him.@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Well if that is the case, that is more related to the mood of the person than the marital status. If the person in question is a buzzkill, then they will sour things at the club, regardless of whether they're single or married. If you ask me, this post should have been titled "why do buzzkills hang out at nightclubs?"
they want to strut around in their mini skirt just like every other diva and tease guys as they shake their booty
then their bfs cut in if they see creeps try to dance/flirt with their gfs, so they start a fight, and have a reason to get drunk and kick some ass
the females want to show off their sexy outfit and to feel like they are hotstuff if they are let into the club immediately by the meathead bouncer
or they like the music and like to bump and grind on the dance floor and make others jealous that they can't tap dis hot ass
but what's to be jealous of when they basically look the same. or they are alcoholics and want free drinks. once they get free drinks, they hand it over to their bf, and get more free drinks for both of them. they are drunk while the laser lights are zapping their eyes
they have no idea wtf is going on, so they wander to flirt with other people, and dance with everybody!!!!! why wouldn't guys welcome drunk girls at the club; they can rub up against them in the crowd. I'm not a guy, but that's why I'd go to a club and welcome all females, single or not. more booty to look at, dance with or "accidentally" bump into
it wasn't me
females go there to dance and take advantage of the free drinks. guys go there for bootilicious eyecandy and maybe get to grind with a hottie at the club and after the club.
Uh, since when are nightclubs just for single people?
Its a night club not a singles bar.
Me and my boyfriend like to go out have some drinks and hang out with our mates. Just because we are a couple that doesnt mean we have to sit at home, watch tv and be boring.
I'm guessing you dont like it because you dont have a partner? When did nightclubs just become a place for you to hook up?
I love going out with my gf bc I like going out in general! My work schedule doesn't usually permit me to go out so whenever I can, I definitely make plans. It's fun to go out, have a few drinks, dance, be silly, etc. and it's even better when you're with someone instead of alone. Sometimes I get pretty silly (dancing in my own world ha) and it's nice to have a smiling loving face to look up to :)
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Haha. Naw, I think I might go ONCE with a friend. Because she wants to go to a gay club. Personally, I'm just not the type of person who finds joy in places that reek of alcohol and cigarettes. But maybe I'll try it out once. Haha
I think it's very narrow minded to think clubs should be reserved for singles only. I live near Ybor City which is a huge clubbing area in Tampa. People of all kinds love going to the clubs there. It's good people watching, dancing, socializing, and just fun- whether you're single or not. Most of my friends are married and we'll all still go to a club for a birthday celebration, etc. We do dance, we do drink and we do have a great time with our friends. It's even more fun to be there with someone you know is a sure thing than to be on the prowl the whole time.
Shut up.
They do it to have a good time. I agree with @Pepin909, it's a little narrow minded to assume that all night clubs are for single people.
oh yeah. you know another thing i hate when i go out? approaching girls, not even having a damn chance to get a word in, yet watching her friends pull her away. it's the only kind of rejection i take personally. one time i sat outside and sulked for 5 minutes, hahaha. i'm such a pussy.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - yeah, methinks there might have been some d-ish editing that made the post less clear, but he *did* state: "There has [sic] to be reasons why couples go to night clubs if it's not for the dancing and drinking." so i think he's okay with couples who go and have fun.
@aanjelaa@xanga - haha. you know, a fair number of people (that i know, at least) who like going to clubs actually started out saying that they would never get into that scene, including yours truly. based on (only) my experience, i'd say that you don't learn to like it by just going once. in all fairness though, i would probably never go if smoking wasn't illegal everywhere i've ever partied, save vegas. and even then, i think most clubs are smoke-free now in vegas too? it's hard for me to say definitively cause i never remember a damn thing from my trips there, haha.