There comes a point in almost every relationship when it's time for the dreaded event: meeting the parents. Or the family. 1. Find the perfect balance in talking.
And there's nothing worse than feeling unprepared when it comes to an event that is already anxiety and stress inducing! On the bright side, there are definitely ways to ease this situation.
Don't speak too much about yourself, but try not to be too quiet. In the beginning, you should engage in conversation but be careful not to dominate. You don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. 2. Make good eye contact.
Often when people are scared, they avert eye contact. However, the ability to make eye contact shows trust and comfort. If you're clearly feeling a bit uneasy, so will everyone around you. An easy way to feel safe and comfortable is to make good eye contact. 3. Don't dress too sexy.
Of course you want to look good, but not to the point of being judged. Use the four finger rule. Place four fingers below your clavicle bone and don't go below that for modesty! Dressing inappropriately is easy to avoid and is a definite turn off that's just not worth it. 4. Don't engage in any PDA.
Perhaps there's a time and place for public displays of affection, but the first time with your SO's family isn't it. Most likely, it'll just make everyone feel weird, and that's evidently not the goal!5. Ask questions.
Just like they want to know about you, you probably want to know about them-- and people like to talk about themselves! Assuming it's going well, be sure to ask the SO's family members about themselves in a natural way. Just inquire about things you're genuinely curious about!6. Go with the flow.
If there's a decision being made, for example about where to go to dinner, just try to be flexible! There's nothing wrong with speaking up, but show them that you're the kind of person who is accommodating and easy going. That's never a bad thing!7. Be polite
. You never know who really cares about manners and expressions like "thank you" and "please." A little politeness could go along way and it's pretty easy to slip in there. 8. Be yourself!
Most importantly, if you're trying too much of anything thats unnatural, it'll show. Relax and be yourself, and if your SO loves you, chances are their family will too!
What do you guys think? Do you have more suggestions for meeting the family for the first time? image source