Tuesday, 25 December 2012
This post was submitted by Jennifer.
So I've been in an on-and-off relationship with the same guy for about four years now. We've gone through so much with each other. Sometimes, I do think that we are meant to be with each other. There are two reasons why we keep on being on and off: religion and looks.
You see, the guy that I've been seeing is Muslim. He comes from a strict family who is devoted to the religion. I, on the other, am Catholic. I was raised in that faith and although I don't go to Mass, I still have a relationship with God. The conflict with religion is that he isn't supposed to be talking to any girls; that's against his religion. It always comes back to him saying that I am a sin and that he will just be marrying a Muslim girl in the future, so this relationship is a waste of time, but we always seem to come back together anyways.
The other reason we keep on being on and off is looks, my looks to be exact. In all honesty, I'm not the skinniest person on earth, and he knows it. He does care about looks, and he didn't like how I was a bit overweight if you would say so. After our latest break-up, I decided to get serious about being fit and starting working out and watching what I ate. When I changed my Facebook picture, he contacted me again and wanted to get back together. I was hesitant, but I ended up giving him a chance.
Now, he has asked me to marry him but there is a catch. The only way that I can marry him is if I change religions. That scares me a bit because I really don't know anything about Islamic faith and I don't know how my family would take it. I don't even know if he is the one. I'm only 21 years old and this would be a huge change for me and a huge commitment, but I do think I love him, and I feel that no one else will show me the care and love he has given me throughout the years.
How do I know if changing religions will be the right move for me? Is is wrong to change religions for a guy?