Everyone is familiar with the age-old saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
It infiltrates movies, books, TV shows, music, and perhaps even real conversation between couples. The saying is oddly definitive, and from what I've observed, polarizing. My friends seem to either wholeheartedly agree, or strongly disagree with the sentiment. But I am unsure where I stand.
On the one hand, it may take a certain kind of person not to cheat
, so we can presume that one who would cheat, might be capable of doing it again. By this logic, it is not to say that everyone who has cheated will definitely cheat again, but rather they are capable of doing so again
, because their values aren't necessarily strictly against it-- or at least their values are bendable in practice.
At the same time, people make mistakes, and it seems unfair to hold someone to any one mistake they've ever made without exception.
What's missing in this statement for me is the element of forgiveness and regret. Perhaps someone cheated, and it is their biggest regret in life. Does the saying still apply then? People ultimately will always make mistakes. The question is, are we able to learn from our mistakes enough to not repeat them?
Is who you are at one point in your life who you always will be, or can you evolve and change?
These are the questions that make it hard for me determine if I believe that if someone cheats once, they will always be a cheater. Just like that. No turning back.So, I ask this question today to try and reach some clarity on the mater. What do you all think of the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Does it hold true in your mind or in your life? image source