Wednesday, 05 December 2012
So I was talking to a friend I met on OkCupid tonight. Yes, that's right, I have an OkCupid account, f*ck you. Anyways, she mentioned that the ratio of guys to girls seemed to give the females a sense of entitlement. I think a lot of us guys would agree with that sentiment. It seems no matter what, whenever a guy approaches a girl in any setting, the girl will automatically assume that he wants to get a number or something. This may be the case in some instances, but one thing I've noticed on OkCupid is that a lot of women there who are looking for "Just Friends" are incredibly picky.
Now, I understand that women need to filter a lot of BS. I can understand that they would also want someone they can connect with in a friend. What I cannot understand is the huge list of criteria that must be met before one should even contemplate sending a message. I mean, really? You're looking for a friend, but this friend has to be a certain height, be this, be that, etc.? Ladies, you may consider yourselves a commodity, but I am not going to pay 300% just for a rejection.
I suppose what I'm driving at is that women are not the only ones who need to be careful when considering who to communicate with. For me, if I see a woman as being too picky, I will automatically ignore her. This may be considered picky on my part, but it's a necessary precaution. I feel that if someone is that picky in the beginning, and does not see the potential in a person, they are not worth my time. Of course, this initial screening may just be a filter and a person could be a lot more easy-going once you get to know him/her, but I feel that this is rather backwards. I'd rather give a person a chance, and upon getting to know him or her, let the person's actions dictate how the relationship progresses.
Maybe I'm doing it wrong. Maybe that's why I talk to so few women. In my opinion though, it saves me a lot of time, and a lot of rejection from women that probably aren't all they're cracked up to be. What are your thoughts?