Tuesday, 04 December 2012
I met my friend, we'll call him Andrew, through other mutual friends. These other friends had met him at a bar back in their college days. When I first moved to the area, they introduced me to him since I didn't know many people.
Most of the time when I hang out with Andrew, we're at the bar. We used to hit the gym together, but he got busy with work and I changed gyms. Nowadays, we usually go out for a few drinks to catch up and blow off steam. Problem is, there is a lot of steam to blow off. For instance, we (well, he) is no longer allowed at one of the bars we used to go to because he tried starting a few fights there. The first night I met his (soon to be) girlfriend they got in an argument, and I had to drive him home.
Fast forward a bit. Andrew has gotten together with his girlfriend (I'll call her "Ann"). We're hanging out with other friends at a bar, generally having a good time. Andrew and I approach some girls (he likes to try to set me up), and we're talking to them. Well, while we were away, some other guys approached the girls who were still sitting at the table. Long story short, Andrew got mad, ended up taking off, and everyone was drunk and confused. Except Ann. Ann blamed me for his drinking and was mad at me.
I didn't hear from Andrew for awhile, but just recently, we started hanging out again. Things are going well, and Ann is acting cordially towards me. She is a bit reserved when it comes to our drinking, but doesn't outright say anything. That is, until the other night.
I had met someone for dinner, and it happened that Andrew and Ann were also out that night. We decided to hit up one of our old spots (ironically perhaps, the lounge where Ann got mad at me). So we're drinking and chatting, and Andrew is telling my friend (we'll call her "Winnie") some stories. Now, this is their first time meeting Winnie, and Ann was a bit upset at how much Andrew was sharing with her. Ann got mad when Andrew didn't stop, and she took his keys and went outside.
I tried to tell Andrew to go after her, but Andrew said he couldn't cave in and let her have all the power. A little while later, I got a text from Ann asking me to take Andrew home and not to reply to the text.
Well, eventually we took off, but Ann had already gone. I dropped Winnie off, then I took Andrew home. Upon arriving, we saw his car parked out front. Yep, Ann really had ditched Andrew at the bar for me to take home.
It seems Andrew and Ann have some problems to work out, but that's on them. What concerns me is being able to be friends with Andrew, and still maintain a neutral relationship with Ann, when most of the times we hang out we're out drinking.
Any suggestions on how to be friends with both?