This post was submitted by Shawna.
I have a problem that I've tried to figure out myself or rather, just not think about. I can't help but feel scared about the fact that after being in a relationship for two months with my current boyfriend, I said, "I love you." I didn't realize I had said it but I meant it. He didn't say it back and he told me he would rather wait until the time felt right.
However, we just had our five month anniversary and I'm still waiting. I worry because I always thought you knew you were in love with someone within a couple of hours or days, then you simply hold off until the time is right. Even though we have had a number of romantic dates and spontaneous moments, he still hasn't said it back.
I'm not sure I can wait much longer if it gets past the six month mark because I would feel like I was buying time or just waiting for him to realize he is never going to develop the feelings for me that I have for him. He starts work after Christmas and will be flying back and forth to Russia.
Although I trust him, I'm afraid if he realizes he doesn't feel the same while abroad, he may cheat. I could do with some advice.
How long is too long before your significant other tells you he loves you back?