Saturday, 24 November 2012
I recently came across this Yahoo! article that discussed an elderly couple who is celebrating their 80th wedding anniversary this month. John and Ann Betar are 101 and 97 years old, respectively, and they married in 1932, shortly after FDR defeated Hoover in the 1932 election. They met while growing up in the same community in Connecticut.
Initially, Ann’s parents arranged for her to be married to a man much older than her. Ann was not interested in going through with the arranged marriage because she was in love with John, but she was also nervous about going against the wishes of her family. John and she eloped when he was 21 and she was only 17. At only 17, Ann was unsure that she was making the right decision, but 80 years, five children, 14 grandchildren, and 16 great grandchildren later, she has no regrets.
When asked by reporters to give advice to young couples about how to maintain a strong unity in marriage, the Betars stressed the importance of getting along, compromising, living within one’s means, keeping commitments to one another, and not holding grudges.
Stories like these help restore my faith in humanity, and it is sad that such stories do not show up in the news more often. In a world filled with violence, war, and dishonesty, positive news articles are so refreshing to read. The Betars' story is an encouraging one for people who no longer believe that marriages, or any long-term relationships, can last.
Everybody’s life will be filled with a number of challenging obstacles. For the Betars, life’s biggest struggles involved losing of two of their children, which took a great emotional toll on both of them. By providing one another with love, communication, support, and understanding, however, they pulled through those tough times together.
What do you believe are the essential ingredients to creating a lasting long-term relationship? Do you know of any couples whose love story inspires you?