Tuesday, 20 November 2012
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I'm Not Saying She's a Gold Digger
So there's this gentleman who is incredibly obsessed with me. He's really creepy about it. I have told him from the get-go how I do not appreciate his obsession and was never interested in the first place, yet he still latched on anyway.What do I mean by "creepy?"
Well this dude said that he'd write me in his will and then I would inherit all this money from him and not have to work ever again for the rest of my life. That's how creepy he is. He's loaded but his personality is such a turn off. The thought of never working again sounds amazing right now. I'm over worked and under paid, struggling to pay things off and trying to save. No, I can't save I have to live for the now.
The guy is so creepy that I don't care if he has a lot of money. I want nothing to do with him. I asked a friend of mine what she would do if she was in my position. She's a single mom who can't find a stable baby-sitter, works a full-time job and a couple of part-times on the weekend and she said she would take the offer!
If someone presented this proposal to you, would you take his/her offer on the money? Keep in mind that this person is a creeper and has been trying to pursue you since the beginning even though you show no interest at all in him, not even his money.
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He might be lying.
However, if he was serious, I would probably. I'm sure for the money that I'd learn to live with him. Why am I like this now? because I know what it's like to be at the bottom, and I don't want to be there again.
I'd never get an offer like that though.
I've been labeled everything under the sun for not dating homeless people (I kid you not) and I don't care. Right now I refuse to date because there is literally nothing in it for me. I've learned that you have to be selfish to survive.
On the principle that he is an absolute weirdo and using that to entice you. I wouldn't go for that.
But on the other hand, if a person is willingly putting themself out there to be used for financial gain, it does sound appealing.
Either way, you could give going out with him a shot, see if once you dig deeper the creepiness disappears.
He may just be so fed up with failing with relationships and he feels he needs to use his money to get people to be close to him
LOLZ.
It depends if he is creepier than the source of my PTSD (which I seriously doubt). A guy pursuing me even after I tell him I am not interested does not make my definition of creepy; nor does one who offers money. The words I would use are Annoying for the former and desperate for the latter.
This is one of those questions where the answer will depend on the day you ask me. I am not allowing myself to answer this question today.
no way, you'd have to be his sex slave for life. I'd rather go to work than have sex with an ugly geezer, who isn't dreamy at all.
if you aren't going to save while struggling financially, then if you inherit money, you'll likely blow all of the money quickly, then be back to square one.
Or perhaps he's not even really interested in you, just your social security number and identity that could be easily stolen because all that info is needed for a legal will.
As said very eloquently by Sir Admiral Ackbar:
IT'S A TRAP!!
No, eww.
seems legit
i was in a similar situation.
i was 16 and living in nj, the guy was 24 and living in florida.
he bought me plane tickets to come down to see him and would send me things in the mail constantly like jewelery or concert tickets. he told me if i moved in with him he'd put a ring on my finger, etc.
he was definitely loaded and proved it to me multiple times.
buuut i never went to florida, obviously. i was 16 and he was emotionally unstable.
nothankyousir
@Rigaboo@xanga - Yeah the dude I'm dealing with is definitely emotionally unstable as well. It's funny because he thinks I'm emotionally unstable whenever i send him venom telling him to leave me alone and I'm like um has he looked in the mirror as to how obsessed he is with me! He's more broken up about me than he ever was with his ex wife divorcing him and running off with another man.
If I were to be with him I would definitely cheat on him. He can think again if he is going to keep tabs on me 24/7. Since I know I would cheat on him I'm never going to even give him a chance so then I won't cheat. The thing is we never even developed a real connection in the beginning for him to feel this strongly about me.
I was just unfortunately the first girl to talk to him since he's been divorced with his wife for a long time. I hate being friendly and nice to people they always take it the wrong way. I'm just at the wrong place at the wrong time. I don't automatically write off people if I'm not interested in them as more than friends. I try to be their platonic friend but if they become too creepy that's when i'll ignore them. And I've definitely been ignoring him lately for sure.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Haha that's why I didn't want to take the money because just the mental image of getting intimate with him makes me want to throw up in my mouth. I'll hook up with a hot broke 18-year-old before I hook up with this ugly older dude who's got issues.
@Colorsofthenight@xanga - I can definitely assure you this guy is made of money. At one point he told me he wanted to buy me a new car because he knows what a POS car I have but I was like no. When I get a new car I want to buy it myself, earn it myself and pick it out myself.
@davesprettylady@xanga - I don't see why he'd want my info. I'm broke and have no money, lol. But yea I didn't take the offer so I don't have to worry about that whew. Oh and my credit score is a joke.
@Erika_Steele@xanga - You're right I forgot to mention desperate and annoying in my original OP. He for sure is. No matter how mean and nasty I am to him he still thinks there's a chance. I let him down gently the first time but he wouldn't take a hint so I got nasty. I think he thinks this is like the notebook movie where if the guy waits around long enough and builds a house she'll come back and I'm like this isn't like the movies, lol.
Marrying for money is too much work. If you want to prostitute yourself that way just go work a street corner. Tell him to buy a mail order bride if he's desperate but that you aren't for sale.
I would block him from your life then...
... But she ain't messin' wit no broke wigger
I wouldn't do it, and if you're really not interested, call the police if he won't leave you alone.
How old is he (i.e. how soon would he die), and what would he expect in return? He can write me into his will as a generous gift if he wants, but I wouldn't be grateful until I'd received the money. He can also give me money or expensive or needed gifts while he's alive, but it doesn't mean I'll have sex with him or spend time with him when I don't feel like it. As long as he understands that, treat away!
Like, totally, duh. Omg, you just had a blonde moment lololol.
@Under_the_Ghillie@xanga - You should read my replies I made to people before. Thanks.
@Statuess - He exceeds my preferences in age range let's just say, and I mean way way way exceeds haha. And yeah he's definitely tried to buy me with gifts before but I beat him at his own game and now he's pissed he's not getting any from me. Like lol if some guy thinks he can buy me. I took his gifts and money he offered and then he claims all I do is take from him, hah! Well it isn't taking to me if he offered it. :P Yeah he definitely expects me to be "nice" to him and hook up with him too. I said, "Ew."
Oh, ok. See, it's just that normally when ppl ask advice they include the relevant facts in the body of the article, not later, once ppl have responded. :)
"The thought of never working again sounds amazing right now."
Quit trying to hide the fact that you're interested in him. You're just trying to sound like you're making the smarter choice. Stop it. You sound like a fool already; this is a pathetic issue and you know that if you had absolutely nO interest in him, you wouldn't even be whining to us for advice.
@Under_the_Ghillie@xanga - You know you sound really stupid attempting to act like a hard ass about my post and then I already posted several responses before that has answered your question about the will shit. Yes he has money. He even designed his own house and has dropped a couple $ trying to get in my pants. I'm not for sale.
@xinq@xanga - Yup, you really do want to be with him, because if you didn't, you wouldn't have taken his gifts. You would have said go away, you're a creep and I will NEVER love you. And then you know what? You would have left. Tsk tsk.
@Adrenaline_Unknown@xanga - Hey bitch I've said that plenty of times you want to see e-mails for proof that I told him nothing will ever happen? He doesn't know what leave me alone means.
No I'm pretty sure I don't want to be with him because if I really wanted to be with him whore, I would have already been with him in the first place and I wouldn't have even written this entry so there goes your theory. You can take your zero eProps and shove it up your wannabe self-righteous ass.
@Adrenaline_Unknown@xanga - If I wanted to be with him as you claim then why would I be writing this entry? I wouldn't need any input and just be with him. yeah you're so tough. I've seen your comments before. You sound bitter did something happen to you is that why you always come onto datingish likea raging bitch?