Sunday, 18 November 2012
In high school, two of my good friends held part-time jobs at the same local restaurant. They already knew each other very well through school, and, since they were already friends, they often spent their work shifts telling jokes, pulling harmless pranks on one another, and talking about their lives. Their co-workers noticed their rapport right away, and, because one of them was male and the other was female, their co-workers began to suspect that my two friends were actually dating.
The co-workers brought their concern to the attention of my friends’ manager, and the manager grew very upset. After all, my friends had both signed an agreement stating that they would not date anybody on their work staff. My friends were not, in fact, dating, so they were let off with a warning not to date each other while they were both still working at that restaurant. Eventually, they did start dating, but by that time, they no longer worked together.
It is no mystery to me why people would be asked to refrain from dating co-workers; the work place is a professional environment, and a majority of couples do break up eventually. Imagine seeing your ex and having to work with him or her on a daily basis after breaking up. The last thing that most former couples want to do immediately following their break up is spend a lot of time together, and the workplace not only requires that co-workers spend a lot of time in close proximity, but also that co-workers are able to work together on a professional level. How “professional” can a person be if even the very sight of his or her ex makes that person sad or furious?
On the other hand, a job is a great place to meet people. After all, people spend hours each week at work, and after a while, one gets to know his or her co-workers quite well, since they are always around. Isn’t it only logical that, after getting to know a person very well, one could realize that the person possesses many of the qualities desired in one’s ideal partner? What if this person is actually one’s future husband or wife? A person never knows what could happen unless he or she takes a chance.
When I was in high school, I once came back from summer vacation and heard that two of the teachers married each other over the summer. This marriage came as a surprise to my classmates and me because none of us had even suspected beforehand that these two teachers were a couple. The teachers were successfully able to put on a “poker face” and completely hide their relationship with one another from the students. I also wondered if they were perhaps trying to hide their relationship from the principal and their other superiors at the school as well.
This also got me thinking: they were probably not the only couple that ever formed among the teaching staff. How many other couples had formed in the past and did not make it down the aisle, and what was it like for those teachers to come back to work after the break up?
How do you feel about the idea of two co-workers dating? Have you ever observed a situation in which two people who were co-workers dated? What ended up happening?