Saturday, 17 November 2012
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I Don't Ever Want to Marry
I've lived a fairly solitary life. From a young age, I knew I was different and that there weren't many people like me. For the most part, I've stayed isolated. Perhaps this is the way I am meant to be. Some people think it's strange that I won't engage in the dating game or anything else. I've found a number of them have attempted to trick me into partnering using various methods. One of these is the infamous, "You like so and so..." and then they'll tell the guy I like him.Nope.
My step-mom is very into me forming a family, but I don't want to. She's like, "Things won't always be that way." Meanwhile, my dad keeps saying, "One day you'll have children."
I don't think so.
I never really grew up in that way. I enjoy my freedom, and I enjoy being alone. People frantically tell me I'm lying or that I'm in denial.
What do you think? Are any of you flying alone? Do you crave a partner?
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Lol. I saw the title of this on my subscription page and was like, "Hmm, I wonder who this is by.".
If I'm not interested in an individual, I'm not interested in dating. I never really had a general craving for "a partner" and don't mind being on my own when I don't have romantic feelings for any person in particular. It makes little to no sense to me to date for the sake of dating, though I see it happen all the time.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - "I never really had a general craving for "a
partner" and don't mind being on my own when I don't have romantic
feelings for any person in particular."
LMFAO.
There could be some denial, but to an extent after a while after being alone for so long you forget what it is like and end up not bothering much.
Is that a girl or a guy in the photo?
I have somebody I enjoy my time with but I don't mind being alone. I'm a very busy woman struggling to live with the 6 to 7 jobs that I have that a serious relationship is the last thing on my mind right now.
@xinq@xanga - Was I actively seeking or looking to date anyone before I met the person I'm currently interested in? Was I asking anyone out on dates or joining dating sites before I met the person I'm currently interested in? Have I asked a girl for her number or anyone out on a single date in the past 5 years?
You really should get yourself checked for mania if you often find yourself laughing at things for no reason.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - You only write about longing for @DrummingMelody all the time on here, LOL.
If you end up finding someone you are happy around you don't have to marry them. My position is that if I am happy with someone for long enough I might get married because there are tax benefits for doing so, or if the woman in question really likes the idea of us symbolizing our union after a sufficient amount of time. But that won't enhance my feelings for the person that already exists. Some people live together for decades and never get married, for example, Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. I don't think being solitary is the opposite of promoting eventual marriage. But if you like being solitary, you are fortunate to be liberated from the needs that many have. But don't let this negate the possibility of a long fulfilling relationship that may work because our culture idolizes ceremony and formality if you find yourself desiring companionship.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - You forget that I don't care about a moron calling me a moron. :) Haven't you noticed that I don't really respond to you anymore other than today? Most of the time I just ignore you.
@xinq@xanga - Uhh hur hur hur, you're huhlurrius @zink. You should bold, caps, italicize, and underline your "lol"s to really drive home your baseless pseudo-points.
@xinq@xanga - Yeah, and you have to tell me that you usually ignore me otherwise you won't get the full effect of any satisfaction should you happen to realize I don't care that you ignore me. Your need for acknowledgement is plainly visible, to me at least, and you are so transparent. When did I call you a moron? Oh, that's right, I didn't, you did.
I enjoy flying solo. Even if/when I do find someone else, I'm not sure how I feel about the idea of marriage. That kind of finality scares me a little bit, haha.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - Also, you got told in the age post after your age of consent bit.
@xinq@xanga - Yeah, didn't notice. Thanks for proving my point and once again seeking my acknowledgement.
The only people I ever want to fly with in my life are my First Officers and my doggie.
(OK, most of you probably didn't get that, but OK).
Seriously though. Nobody is allowed to live in my house but me. I hate people enough anyway without having to live with another person. Ugh. Just, no.
That's certainly a strong conviction, but there's nothing wrong with that. Yes, you might change your mind. That's human but, you don't have to actively seek out a life partner either. If you never get one, cool. If you end up finding someone, that's cool too. Just be open for whatever life throws at you.
I have a partner but we live separate lives yet we are alike, so in that way, we are never apart
I just swooned at my own comment
why am I so adorable
The girl in the picture has one ugly ass haircut.
I just viewed your blog ... yeah, you shouldn't marry. And don't worry about being alone because you have your "friends." :)
i'm not saying i'll never change my mind, but at the rate i'm going, i will never even have a long-term girlfriend, let alone get married. <3 doing what i do.
I'm married. I think it suits me. Anyone else, if they choose to be single, or childless, it's none of my business. If that is what you prefer, it is what you should do if it pleases you.
It might change. I'm much like you (can you say total introvert? ;] ) & for the last 22 years of my life I have always been content to just have friends. I also value my alone time & used to worry about dating because I didn't want to let a guy into my personal bubble in any way, shape or form. Now I'm starting to feel that weird.. craving for partnership. It's a very strange thing. I think that eventually, instinct comes around & says, "Come on, what do you like to do alone? Go for walks? Play with animals? Play video games? Horseback ride? All these things you could still do alone if you ever wanted, but wouldn't it be nice to have the option of having someone to do them with..?" & I think that if you don't want to rush it, good for you, but keep your options open. You may think this way now, but someday somewhere down the line, a guy might just sweep you off your feet & completely change your mind. You just never know.
@phoebester@xanga - I see some teeny titties; I'm thinking a girl.
@babybug329@xanga - Please don't refer to those of us who choose not to have children as "childless." We don't feel like we're lacking anything. We prefer the term "childfree" to differentiate not having children by happenstance and by choice, because the term "childless" makes it sound like we're lacking something when we really aren't.
Thank you.
@genie_inabottle@xanga - yeah, I was concerned about having children because I'm afraid I'll pass it on so that's another reason.
Everyone's journey will be different. And if it changes, it's perfectly normal.
it's your life! do what you wanna do! don't conform to what others are doing or what they tell you is the right thing to do because you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life.