The recent Hurricane Sandy that hit the New York area caused many extremely serious problems in people's lives, few of which had to do with dating. However, for a friend of mine in her mid-20's, the hurricane forced her to question the guy she'd been seeing for the past few weeks. Truthfully though, the hurricane simply brought on what many couples actually end up bringing upon themselves: too much intimacy too fast.
My friend had been dating this guy for around a month before the hurricane hit, not too seriously, but seriously enough that when she lost power due to the storm, he was compelled to invite her to stay at his place until she got her power back. This week-long stay, while undoubtedly generous on the guy's part, made her question if she really wanted in on his life. After just a month, she saw things that she otherwise might not have seen for half a year. She learned about his living habits, and there were some that she didn't really love.
Intimacy early on can be problematic. Perhaps, once my friend knew her guy better, these nuances wouldn't have bothered her, and now she is freaked and turned off. But maybe getting a clue at the start is ultimately helpful. Maybe my friend knows now not to waste her time. What do you think? Is it beneficial to expose your flaws and habits to someone you're dating early on, or is the old-fashioned way of taking it slow while getting to know someone a better route? image source