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Last night my boyfriend informed me that he is over condoms. He doesn't want to wear them anymore. Instead he wants me to go on the pill or get a diaphragm or ring or something. Just no more condoms.
I don't like this at all. I used to be the sort of girl who was okay with a guy sticking it in me unwrapped but not anymore after my last boyfriend gave me Hepatitis C. "But you can't get that from sex!" some people say.
It turns out that was wrong. Sometimes people do get Hepatitis C from sex. If you have even a microscopic abrasion on your vagina and your boyfriend has a small abrasion or cut on his genitals, you can get Hepatitis C from him. Hepatitis C is a tough little virus. It can survive outside a human body for up to 7 days. You don't have to be a junkie to get Hep C; it's easier to transmit than people think.
Anyway I went through hell because of Hepatitis C. I was prescribed Interferon for the disease and let me tell you, Interferon is like chemotherapy. It's horrible. You're in pain all day long. All. Day. Long. You throw up, lose your hair... it's horrific. I really just wanted to die. I was ready to go off the meds and take my chances with the disease (Hep C can be managed with a good, healthy diet and lifestyle, but it still increases your chances for liver cancer and cirrhosis by 50%) but somehow, I made it through the six months required for the drug therapy.
My doctor said I had a clean bill of health and took me off the meds, but I've been careful ever since.
So in short, no. If you want to date me, you're gonna have to wear a condom. I've been through too much to be polite to a guy who can't respect my health. My boyfriend has already had an HIV test at a free clinic but he says he's not going to get an STD workup and blood tests. He doesn't have health insurance and it would cost him a lot of money to get the tests.
"Okay," I said, "We'll just use condoms. No biggie."
"I hate condoms."
Pills and diaphragms don't protect against STDs or Hepatitis.
Does anyone have any suggestions about how I can make my boyfriend wear a condom? I don't want to dump him, but I'm going to if this keeps up.