Monday, 12 November 2012
Recently, one of my grade school friends found out he is a half brother. Now, we're all grown adults in our almost late 20s and he just found this out. He didn't even know when we were in middle school. His dad had a baby with a previous woman before he got married to my friend's mom. Here's the catch: That previous woman never bothered to tell his dad that she got pregnant. So that child grew up her entire life never knowing her real father and my friend's dad never even knew he had another child. I found this very disturbing that a woman would keep such a big secret.
I'm sure my friend's mom flipped her shit when she found out but it was not the dad's fault. That woman kept it a secret and they all now obviously have to either accept it or divorce.
Another friend of mine dated this girl who never knew her father. She was a one-night hook-up baby and her mother never told the guy. When she got older, they tried to re-connect but she felt it was too weird since she never knew her father and was always with her mother. I feel that women should at least give the guy a chance to see if he wants to be in the baby's life instead of never telling him at all. That's unethical.
What do you think about women not telling their "baby's daddy" for the lack of a better term about the kid?
Have you ever known anyone to deal with this situation and how did they handle it?