Friday, 09 November 2012
Yesterday was my birthday. While we were out at the bar with my parents, my girlfriend whispered in my ear that she owed me birthday sex (which I was fine with, I like sex). However, it made me wonder, do people really "owe" each other birthday sex? Or any other kind of sex for that matter?
To say that you owe me birthday sex makes me feel like our sex life is a chore, and that we only have sex when you "owe" me something. We should, and do, have sex all the time because we both enjoy it. So what makes birthday sex special, other than the fact that it happens on my birthday?
I feel like a lot of women think sex is a birthday gift. Or that buying themselves sexy lingerie and wearing before the aforementioned birthday sex counts as a gift. And granted, if you know me, you'll know that I don't want any birthday gifts, so I'm happy about getting the sex. It just seems funky to me to think of sex as something that can be given as a gift in a healthy relationship.
How do you feel about birthday sex? Is sex ever "owed" or should it just happen out of desire? Is it the same thing?