I just spent a month and a half dating a guy who didn’t make enough time for me. I told myself that I wanted to keep things casual because I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship, and that as a result, it was ok this new guy didn’t make me a priority. But in the end I realized I am worthy of more than a random date every other week.
Well, I realized I was making a sacrifice because I was lonely. I wouldn’t say that I was settling exactly. I will admit that I don’t often like people, so I was surprised to meet a guy I thought was totally rad after just one month of being single. At first everything was fantastic. He was caring of my celiac disease
and took me out on really nice dates.
But after a few weeks (and after I put out) things started to decline pretty quickly. He was already working hard at his day job and then opened a small business on the side. I think he was surprised by how much time his small business consumed, and he wasn’t intentionally ignoring me. But he wasn’t actively making me a priority either.
I realized that I was compromising more than I needed to as a newly single person. I want to be with someone who is successful, yes, but who still has time to plan nice things for us to do. If they really care about you, they will take the time to see you.
The dating world is still new to me since I’ve spent all of my adult life in committed relationships. This is just a small reminder to everyone that you are worth it, and you don’t need to settle for the first person who is moderately nice to you and will cuddle with you at night.
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