Thursday, 08 November 2012
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How to Get Rid of Someone You Don't Like Who's Bothering You
As the election ended, I filled my Facebook page with more complaints than usual going on wild rants to the point where a couple of my friends I talk to on a daily basis asked me if something was going on. I said yes, I can't take continuing to work the way I do; I'll be worked to death. At the same time, my friend count largely decreased. At the beginning of the week I had 130ish friends, and now it's down to 124.
It really amazes me how I can't say something on my page unless someone agrees with it, and if they don't agree with it they de-friend me. Really, it's like, who made them Facebook God to judge what gets posted and what doesn't? I wonder, if my statuses were filled with something they rooted for, would they like everything I post? I don't de-friend someone just because they may not think like me.
It's usually these people that claim other people are "immature" which is the funny part to me. To get to the point, while my friend list was significantly decreasing, I noticed one guy who removed me was someone who's been hitting on me like none other. I tried being nice to him in the past and to reject him kindly, but every now and then he would send me these unwanted flirty inbox messages. I think he knows why I don't like him as more than friends.
He's told me before, "It's because I'm ________, isn't it?" Not only that, he's got a lot of children and baggage with him. I'm not attracted to his ethnicity and I didn't want to be mean about it. Just like people have their preferences in dating, I have mine.So I couldn't believe all it took me was to have a different political viewpoint to get him to stop trying get in my pants. Obviously, even on here some people have said they would write off others who don't agree with them politically. Let me ask those who write off people just because they're a certain political party: Do people not have their own right to vote just as you do? Wouldn't it be a dictatorship to attempt to force someone to choose one person they don't want to root for?
Dating is all about compromises and acceptance. I'm sure that person has something they don't like about you and managed to accept it. For those who have been trying to get rid of someone who won't stop bothering them, simply have a different viewpoint in politics than them since it's quite apparent that a majority cannot get along when it comes to this topic. I didn't have to weed out the "non-friends," they deleted themselves for me. Saved me some work!Can you think of other ways to get someone you don't want around to stop bothering you without dragging others into it or resorting to violence?
P.S.
Be really annoying as well. Never fails. If someone's annoying you, be 10 times more annoying back. Works every time for me.
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post how smelly your shit is after using the rest room.
i'm not really sure i have any idea what this post is about.
@IcECaT123@xanga - dude girls go WILD for that shit, you have no idea. if i had a facebook account, i would make my status updates exclusively about my shits (right now i just email or text my friends).
can't think of any single thing that has gotten me laid more.
Hm. I haven't deleted anyone recently because of the election but I also didn't read anything too offensive. As long as the person is respectful I won't delete him/her. However, I can see why someone wouldn't want to stay "friends" with someone who didn't, for example, support gay marriage. You can be against gay marriage and be respectful about it, but at the same time, you're also saying that it's okay to deny others of rights because of your personal views. No matter of what your beliefs are, I truly see that as wrong.
I don't typically delete people off Facebook, but if someone was being excessive with their political views I probably would. Everyone is allowed to have their opinions, of course, but people are also allowed to not have to read them or whatever. Not everyone is going to agree with you and not everyone is going to want to tolerate it. After these past elections I wanted to delete about half the people that posted because they sounded so ridiculous, but I just decided to keep off Facebook instead haha.
To get people to stop bothering me, I usually just ignore them. Flat out ignore them. Or do the Jenna Marbles how to get people to leave you alone face. That usually works.
Well, if I don't really like them, they probably wouldn't be my friend on Facebook. I do not like to add people I do not know personally, and if I have met them, I only add people I would want to hang out with again in the future. So, if we're friends, and there are some things we don't like, we can still be friends. But, there are some people who post truly annoying things all day everyday. Those people, I just hide their posts.
Telling people to get the fuck away from me or stop talking to me usually works for me. It's pretty easy to ignore people on-line. It's not like they are in the room with you.
The title of this post on datingish made it seem like it's about someone trying to get rid of a stalker who likes them. Nevermind I guess? (shrugs)
@tictact0e0@xanga - I voted Republican tho I'm not identified with any group and that hit a nerve with some people, lol. easy easy way to get rid of stalkers when everything else fails. now if they have the same views, that might be a bit harder, because they'll think that's some sort of "connection"
Ignoring them works most times, but not all the time for me, i have to take extreme measures, lol.
when i had a psycho ex of some guy's harass me -- i bugged her back ten times more then she cried she was the victim even tho she started it, haha.
why do people care so much about this shit. i say, GTFO facebook, and go talk to people in real life. JESUS PEOPLE. THIS IS NOT REAL LIFE. THIS IS THE FUCKING INTERNET. get over it.
@paperrcranes@xanga - You obviously cared enough to comment. If you didn't care about this shit at all, you'd have move on to the next blog and not put your two cents in. People care about this shit for the same reason you care about whatever it is you care about.
I think you should be able to be friends with people of different political beliefs. However, it would be pretty damn hard to be in a romantic relationship with someone. I'm not gonna date someone who doesn't believe in the things that I do...that's just your basic values in life. How can you possibly date someone who has diffferent possibly opposing views? Wouldn't you constantly be in conflict with them?
Obama is an elitist and so are the people who voted for him. Of course they're going to want to control the way you think.
Just take the high road and say, "Nice to have known you but I'm moving on with or without your permission." Don't be annoying, just be truthful.
I don't use my social network profile to date or meet friends. it is more of a humor roleplay site. I updated my page after 2 years and changed my sn on it. some foreigner guy noticed that I changed my sn. I think he's from pakistan. it was funny, but probably funnier to me because I'm imagining him speaking like apu from the kwik-e mart store from the simpsons while reading his messages to me. I haven't really been bothered by anyone. I usually find their messages funny. I'll just ignore them if I don't like them. there's this dilf that is hot but I hate his stache. I should tell him to cut his mustache or else don't talk to me, but I'm not that interested in him and he isn't that hot compared to my bf and crush lol he can keep his stache.
Well, as someone who did delete a "friend" or two (read: acquaintance), I can't really say too much. But in my case, I actually voted the same way as them, they were just being extremely offensive, to the point of making me not want to read their stuff anymore. Just as they have the right to post their thoughts, I have the right to unfriend them. Now, if it were someone I was close to, I might have just hidden their statuses for awhile.
Oh well. It's just the internet--I talk to the people I really care about via other modes of communication.
But as a sidenote, I want to just make a comment and say this particular election has really disgusted me--more specifically, the complete polarization of our country. It was either one side or the other, and both sides have said pretty awful things about the other. That disappoints me. As a country, we need to come together, not pull further apart.
Do people not have the right to have the friends they want on facebook, and the right to delete whomever they so choose?
Are you sure it's not because you "filled [your] Facebook page with more complaints than usual going on wild rants" rather than your political leanings? Some people will de-friend based on annoying posts/too many wall posts in general. Also, I wouldn't call losing about 6 Facebook friends "largely decreased".
People have the right to express themselves how they choose and to vote how they choose, but they also have the right not to have others' beliefs shoved down their throats, and the right not to be accused of being close-minded just because they don't want to hear it.
@PassionFruit06@xanga - Everyone I found out who removed me were Obama fans. I went to Obama's page and the number of friends that liked him decreased which was how I could tell they were Obama fans. Coincidence? I think not. And pretty much everyone who agreed with me kept me on their friends list and liked what I posted.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - Lol, for once I actually agree with what you say. Did you hear about Melissa Joan Hart? She played Clarissa and Sabrina the Teenage Witch. She was one of the few people in Hollywood to vote for Romney and she got so much shit for it was unreal. For people who stand for "sensitivity, compassion, caring, and tolerance," I most certainly saw none they gave to people who voted differently than them as though they have zero tolerance. It's funny to watch them claim they support American values while they attack anyone who doesn't vote like them.Here's some of the things people said about her for voting Romney: https://twitter.com/melissajoanhart
@Statuess - Isn't that being close-minded though if they don't want to hear it?
@s0ciallyawkward@xanga - If they deleted me they were no friends. People have the right to express themselves however the way they want. People say to never talk about politics but I've really had enough about keeping silent about it just because most people don't know how to react.
@Gaia - You're right! That's why I wanted to take the time to find out who removed me to say something to them. :)
For the two people who rec'd papercranes' comment -- there's irony in what you rec'd. You care enough to stay online and rec people's comments that say they don't care. If you didn't care at all you wouldn't be here. But it's okay for you to stay online and talk shit? LOL.
Luckily no one that I cared about removed me although I'm disappointed one of my ex-neighbors was among them, and then I checked she was an Obama fan. I haven't kept in touch with her since they weren't our neighbors anymore so I'm just glad it's not someone I keep in touch with daily.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - It's about finding ways to get rid of someone who won't stop bothering you. Politics is an easy way to scare some people off, LOL.
If someone is being negative or hateful and it's affecting me negatively I'll delete them or hide their comments from my news feed.
I made a comment on my facebook saying I'm tired of people constantly posting pictures of their babies and maybe they should be more considerate on people on their facebooks who can't have children and have to see that in their newsfeed all the time and cry. Yeah lost some friends that way. :X
How about being a little more assertive and just be honest. A simple "Sorry Im not interested" should do it.
I don't understand why people would post who they are voting for anyway.. I thought that was all secret ballot... If it was supposed to be public knowledge then it would be public ballot. If I did choose to vote, I wouldn't tell anyone who it was for. Its none of their dang business.
As for deleting people off FB... its FB.. I wouldn't take it too seriously... 2 of my cousins "defriended" me because I'm a fostermum. And I really don't care.
I forgot to add in the fact that when the friend count went down, it was all in one day. i'd think that was a rapid pace. not just over a few days. i was on facebook that morning and i had 129. as soon as i came back to check in the evening it was 124.
Wait..I am confused. On one hand you're saying people on Facebook deleted you because you "Couldn't continue working the way you were." I assume your job? So..people just deleted you because you didn't like your job? o.O What?? But later on you start in on..how people delete you based on silly things like your political outlook..I fail to see how something like what party you support is the same as people defriending you because you bitched about your job? Either the people who defriended you - because you were cranky, were not people [I] would personally consider friends, more like mere acquaintances, simply because...or maybe they were "drama free" -rolls eyes- But the point is..I don't see how that ties in to being deleted based on your politics. Are you trying to say "Because these "friends" of yours didn't agree with the fact you hate your job or why, so they defriended you?" If so..I suppose I can see a very faint connection there.
Also, the only little snipe about their "maturity" there..was kind of counteracted by yours..in your P.S. down below.. "Be really annoying as well. Never fails. If someone's annoying you, be 10 times more annoying back. Works every time for me." ...If we want to talk about maturity..just ignore the trolls! Let them defriend you, you should have defriended that guy who hit on you, the first time he couldn't seem to take "no" for an answer. ...honestly, I don't see why you wrote a post about this :/ Defriending for stupid reasons happens all the time, hell marriages fail & break-ups & friendships dissolve, without the help of FB..due to political outlooks or other silly things.
Just remember, that your true friends aren't going to care that you had a bad few days or what party you supported. Keep that in mind & let others do what they may.
@syringesofglitter_x@xanga - Yep, I'm coming to terms that some people have to hang out with those who only think like them or act submissive with what they think. Those didn't like outspoken people. I got paid today which finally put me in a better mood. I was living like a broke joke for weeks which was another reason why I went on wild rants about the election. You're definitely right though. For the friends that keep in touch with me on a daily basis they have never removed me and even commented they would accept me for who I am and how I speak. It's people I hardly or don't even talk to that did the defriending luckily, not a huge loss. Hurt a little bit that people would be so immature though to defriend someone just because of political views. I'm willing to bet if my page was all in support of Obama they would have liked everything I posted instead of defriended me. All who defriended me were super Obama fans.