Wednesday, 07 November 2012
This post was submitted by Megan.
Does it often seem like marriages require the work of a magician just to stay functioning? Do you sometimes feel like you're not sure where you're headed with your spouse?
If you're overwhelmed with this feeling, you're not alone. Take in the fact that 40 to 50 percent of marriages fail in the United States, according to The American Psychological Association. So, the fact that your marriage — however bruised — is still alive, is quite phenomenal! It could be a few simple fixes that will get your marriage back on track.
Here are three ways to ignite a spark again, and keep things romantic:
Increase Your Intimacy
This idea may seem obvious or cliche, but sex is an essential element to a well-adjusted marriage. What better way to improve your marriage than to start working on your sexual communication? Maybe you're more conservative and don't like to be open with sex talk, so you find this to be an uncomfortable topic to discuss. Sorry, no excuse! Ed Young, pastor at Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas, explains how essential it is to have a strong sexual relationship with your spouse.
In fact, in his New York Times best-selling book, Sexperiment, Young encourages married couples to have sex for seven days straight to recapture the romance and thrill that originally brought them together. This creative pastor has some great advice in his book, so take heed and think twice the next time you pass up the opportunity for some good old love making with your wife or hubby.Cooking
Take a cooking class together; or if there is an Iron Chef already inside one of you, teach the other. Cooking together can be a great way to be productive and release stress. It's also highly entertaining, educational and can be very sensual. Prepare a pristine kitchen, and set the table with fresh ingredients and cooking ware. Dim the lights, or set out candles, and put on some romantic music.Physical Fitness
When your husband or wife comes home, invite them into the kitchen and start getting busy by slowly peeling fruits or vegetables and rolling dough. This is a great way to get your hands dirty, be creative and work together to keep the passion alive. Plus, it promotes healthy, home-cooked eating — if you make it to that point.
Staying physically active is of utmost importance for not only your relationship, but for your own health. Creating a work-out plan with your spouse can be stimulating and thrilling. Your fitness routines can range from doing light Yoga and stretching to preparing to run a 5K. Exercise has an interesting way of making you feel and look fresh, attractive and young. Going for a hike or taking a neighborhood jog is also a fun way to stay challenged and work up a sweat together.
Whether it's weight lifting or a simple, brisk walk, becoming more fitness-conscious with your spouse is a great way to improve the health of your relationship. Exercise improves your physical, mental and spiritual states, and married couples will see a boost in their physical intimacy as a result of increased physical fitness.
Increased sexual activity, cooking together and motivating one another to stay fit are tried-and-true methods of keeping the intimacy and “newness” of your marriage alive. If you're finding that things are slowing down, you're becoming frustrated with one another or there is a communication blockage, try something new. Become more active together. Go on an adventure. Play a game. Experiment. Communicate. Do anything but sit around and simmer in your emotions.
One could imagine most marriages falling apart because of the lack of effort being put forth to keep things fresh. Don't wait another day to improve your relationship with your spouse — stoke the flames today!
Have any of your own ideas or tips?