Monday, 05 November 2012
It's a funny story, really. Looking back now, I am sure we both feel like idiots. In-fact, we laugh about it all the time. Maria and I are close friends who once both loved the same boy. A boy who is now gay. It's astonishing to think we fought over someone who was chasing his own Romeo. To be fair, he was mine first. Oh the irony!
Maria had asked me who this boy was that I had been dating. I told her about the couple of weeks we had been going out together. She asked me numerous questions, every little detail was what she wanted to know. I had known this boy before she knew of him. Two years before we had a thing, and we became close friends. When he was away for two years, I wrote letters to him weekly and there was always one from him in response to mine.
This boy was golden skinned, curly haired, had a beaming smile, amazingly talented (musically, well spoken, everything- he could do it!), going to a great college, and on top of all that, a real sweetheart. Why didn't I realize he was gay you ask? This is what I always question. Why did he continue to date me and flatter all the other dreamy faced, love sick girls who followed him around? My guess is he was probably figuring himself out still, or in denial.
After I was dating this boy for a while, Maria kindly announced to me that she wanted to date him, and that it wasn't fair for me to date him. I was shocked by what she said and told her to go for it, but that it was all fair. We were both immature back then and have grown up a lot since. This news ripped a hole in our friendship for a while. We were each other's competition for a while and friends shouldn't be that way. I am sure I don't have to tell you how it all ended. No one got the boy.
What really bothers me is this boy told me he was in love with me and pursued me endlessly. Why would a man who is gay do this? Myself and the world included learned this boy was gay through a YouTube video. He deleted Maria, myself, and many others from his Facebook. For some reason, he feels we shouldn't be friends anymore since he is out of the closet now. I'd like to be his friend, but I respect how he feels. I hope he finds happiness and peace with himself.
I always joked with a few of my friends about how they all have a gay ex, but I don't. I guess now I do have one.
Do you have a gay ex? Are you the gay ex? Tell me about it.