Friday, 02 November 2012
I wish I could say that someday she'll realize everything we had and the love she ignored and left behind, but 'what she doesn't know' pains me every day. It's the most dreadful feeling, knowing that someone can't possibly hold the thought that you truly love them while simultaneously acknowledging that their actions and inaction continue hurt you every day out of their own willful ignorance of the truth.
The girl I like makes a special exception for her love life in this sense, and it begs the question, "If you're okay with that, why do you choose veganism?" as she relentlessly points out the willful ignorance of others to how their choices affect animals they never knew.
Some people would call it "moving on," but what if the only problems that existed in a relationship were unrelated to personality and looks, but based solely on a person's circumstances (i.e. financial hardship, distance, etc.)?
Is it fair to call what I (or anyone else in my situation would) have "unrequited love" if it is "requited" to someone else in my place? I continue to run into the same ridiculous impasse whenever I confront the situation, which always results in her summarizing her argument with either:
"You are responsible for creating your own happiness; not me, not anybody else,"
or (in total contradiction to the former)
"I can't change how I feel."
We both know her feelings would change on their own if she chose to feel at all.
Tell me, readers... is there a difference between "moving on" and deliberately forgetting about someone, thereby putting an unfinished relationship in the past?
Do you think it's right for a romantic interest to hold it against the relationship because you argue with them all the time and it makes you "incompatible," when what you were arguing for was a chance for things to work between the two of you?
Does it add insult to injury when a chance is later given to someone else based solely on the fact that they aren't you (because he or she wants to avoiding having to own up to his/her mistakes and actually put effort into making a relationship work)?