Monday, 29 October 2012
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Do You Find Guys Who Can Dance Attractive?
By dancing, I don't mean randomly throwing hands up in the air or random grinding; I'm mainly referring to structured dancing that takes a lot of practice to get good at, such as salsa, bachata, cha cha, line dancing, swing, ballroom, etc. After all, Dancing with the Stars has been one of the most popular shows on television for several years in a row now. You would think that women would be deeply attracted to men who can dance really well, especially to sexual and intimate dances like bachata, because men who are good dancers are better in bed than men who aren't good dancers.I can't speak for all avenues, but from my experience, the number of women who are actually into such dancing is surprisingly low. I'm referring to the women who typically like to go out to bars and clubs on weekends. Sure, they'll dance to house party music by just randomly jumping while holding their drinks in the air. When it comes to partner dancing however, many women will turn tail and run and most will reject guys who ask them to dance without building strong rapport first.
It's really nothing against the guys that ask them; they just don't want to look like goofballs in front of all their friends and the rest of the crowd, or they feel that partner dancing is going to lead to something sexual just because there's touching involved. This is despite the fact that guys who can dance and go up to ask women they don't know to dance carry a significant level of confidence that most guys don't possess, and the fact that you really can't talk in a night club due to the blaring loud music.So to women on this site, do you find guys who can dance attractive? Or is a guy's dancing capabilities totally irrelevant to you?
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the only ones who "jump up and down" are white girls. in order of dancing abilities, i'd rate them: black, brown (latina), brown (south asian), white, then yellow.
this one time i saw a white girl who could roll her hips like shakira. i was like whoa...since when can white girls do that? then i found out she was half mexican. explained that one pretty well.
by the way, i know your article was about ballroom dancing in particular, but as a generality, there was a scientific study done a few years ago confirming that girls like guys who can dance. as for me, i did salsa for a year and a half through grad school, but got bored with it. i felt like i was doing it as a performance, and i don't like doing things for show (most notably my martial arts practice, which is strictly for my own personal enjoyment).
I like a man who can dance. I mean, he doesn't have to be a ballroom, cha-cha, salsa dancer, and whatnot to dance, but there's something to be said about a man who's willing to groove on the dance floor. Besides, it's so much fun dancing together.
I'm half Native American. You should see the "naked tribal woman" dance I invented. >.> <.<
The guy I'm into now learned to swing dance with an ex. As a former dancer and a swing-lover I would TOTALLY dig that. And honestly if a guy I didn't know asked me to dance like THAT, I would definitely go for it! It's creepy if some guy just wants to grind on me, but swing dance? Fuck yeah, I'd be down for that with a cute stranger!
I find guys who are *willing* to dance very attractive, and if they enjoy actual dancing as mentioned, I would be even more attracted! I would love to take up dancing, but alas, no partner.
I'm a semi-professional lindy hopper. Hasn't helped me in the dating department at all.
Yes i certainly do ^-^
I actually don't like guys that cannot dance.
http://youtu.be/T7hHx7gdN68
Completely irrelevant to me. Considering I can't dance.
All my boyfriends except one were dancers (bboys, lockers, house). I have a bit of a weak spot for them.
I'm actually the opposite, it turns me off. Probably because I can't dance or follow, so it's of no use to me.
I don't really care too much if a man can dance, since I'm not into dancing myself.
It never attracted me much. Give me a guy who can decipher John Donne or John Milton...now we're talkin'. ;)
Yeah!You would think that women would be deeply attracted to men who can dance really well, especially to sexual and intimate dances like bachata, because men who are good dancers are better in bed than men who aren't good dancers.
Metal labels Fabric labelsI like ballroom dances and swing. I'm nowhere near good (or even decent) at any partner dance, but I have fun with it. I would definitely find a guy attractive if he asked me to dance like that. He doesn't need to be a pro or anything, but if he enjoys it and has good fun with it, that's awesome :)
Grind-"dancing"? Helllllll no.
very attractive. I invited my boyfriend to go contra dancing with me when were getting to know each other, and he was a natural. That gave him a confidence boost, so he ended up taking ballroom lessons. Now we get to dance contra, swing, tango, and waltz together. Dancing is about taking chances, control, and being creative, and it's great to share that with a significant other. :)
I learnt belly dancing during uni days and my housemate ive lived with, was a professional salsa dancer, and she used to drag me to all these salsa nights at the club, i wouldn't knw if a bloke who can dance is good in bed or not... haha but it cld prob be true, i dunno cos she used to date this douche who's also a salsa dancer and he'll hit on everyone he meets, i just hated the way he looks.. Ugh! and disrespectful and she wld be all over him..i guess, its just the things, we girls do when we are in love with a guy.... haha thank heavens, she's happily married to someone else! Maybe, its just me but i think guys with all that slick swagger moves could just be players and surely its more than just dance moves, i'll be attracted to
We aren't on some dancing show so it doesn't matter to me if a guy knows how to dance or not. I appreciate a guy who dances anyway even if he may be bad at it and not cares what everyone around him thinks about his dancing. It's just a perk that he actually knows how to dance but not necessary as I'm not some professional dancer myself.
P.S. Kudos for your first post ever not attacking women directly. This is a nice change from your usual writing. I knew it was you by the way you wrote things and titled things with the direct question toward women.
Now a guy who knows how to *sing* and play the guitar at the same time on the other hand...that's a different story. *woowee*
I like a guy who will dance with me. He doesn't have to be good. Just the fact that he's willing to let go of inhibitions and try is more than enough.
Whoa, "just because there's touching involved"? Lol. I would take ballroom type touching over having my butt humped by a random dude in a club any day.
my best friend can dance (he is also a singer and musician!)... We did everything from country clubs to ballroom class (I still remember how to do some of the dances).. definitely attractive!
And yep, my husband can dance too! I don't know what it is but i just love the feeling of being in his arms on the dance floor. Makes it easy to forget about all the other stress in life.
Go to a rave and you will see some of the sickest dancing around. No longer relevant to me now but back when I use to hit the rave scene, I can tell you that those that can dance were definitely getting a lot of attention from the opposite sex (true for both sex).
I love it- I met my boyfriend while swing dancing. =)
I definitely think it's sexy when a guy is able to dance! That being said, in most cases, I find it attractive if a guy is willing to try and dance with me period. Most guys I've met won't even try, and I can always appreciate a guy who makes an effort. :]